Because Who Is Perfect?- A Heartwarming Illustration of Self Love and Acceptance- Day 273: 365 Radical Self Love Project

A fellow RSL member shared this video with me this week and I absolutely adored it.

All of us are perfect in our imperfections and the more we remember this on a daily basis the more loving and peaceful we become. To see yourself in another is to see love.

No two bodies are ever the same and while certain industries would like to sell you big time on their ideal of perfection it isn’t exactly attainable. As far as I can see and the truth in my heart leads me to know this is all set up in a very intentional way. If people keep thinking they are not enough, if they keep striving for this so called perfection, their vibes will stay at a level that is bound by fear.

People who are fearful make wonderful consumers. When we feel like there is something missing or wrong with us we often head out on the path of consuming in attempt to fill the void. What there is to get is there is no magic pill or “thing” we can buy that will change whats really going on inside. Buying things is a temporary fix. It gives us an initial rush of feel good hormones and then like a sugar high the energy crashes again- and the cycle continues.

I’m not saying that I’m anti-consumerism or anything like that- I love a great new pair of shoes or an outfit that seems like it was made for me. What I’m saying is we must as a collective attune ourselves to the motives and intentions behind why we buy and what we are investing our money and energy into. Bring a little more consciousness to our commerce.

When we bring more consciousness to the land of consuming and commerce the veil of fears illusion begins to part and we really start to see that we are all imperfect beings, we all have “flaws”, we’ve all made mistakes, we all have something we just don’t dig about ourselves- and inside of all of that we are so divinely perfect.

To see this we must begin to change and the change has to come from within. We must embark on our own spiritual journey to uncover our brilliance, our truth and ultimately our unity.

This video is a beautiful illustration of the diversity among us, the illusion of perfection and some seriously yummy self love and acceptance. The more we see ourselves and each other as perfectly imperfect and the more we being to accept and embrace this eclectic diversity among us the more we open to massive love flow.

Awareness, acceptance and compassion all activate the flooding of love- in ourselves and ultimately in the world.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

How Interviewing Your Partner Leads To More Love- Day 272: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Homework is an awesome thing 😉

My assignment today in B-School was to ask my community what my 3 greatest qualities are. I sent out the question to my network and so far have received some pretty wonderful answers.

When my partner arrived home I asked him to share what he thought, his response: “Beautifully open, abundantly authentic and unconditionally loving”. 

Pretty freaking awesome.

Then we decided to go a little deeper and do a mini interview with each other. This was a exercise we both learned in a personal development training program that we hadn’t yet done with each other. Everything happens at the perfect time.

The interview was 5 questions.

The way it is set up is that you ask questions about yourself and the other person answers to give you insight into how you occur to them, or in other words who they see you as.

He went first. Which meant I had to answer questions about him. In all honesty I was a little bit nervous, which I observed but continued on with the interview.

The answers that came out of my mouth really surprised me as they required me to go deeper than a surface conversation and to really give him access to who he is to me.

Then it was my turn. I asked the same series of questions and he got to give me access to who I am to me.

A pretty heart opening conversation to say the least.

Among my strengths:

An ability to see the unseen in people and in their lives and an ability to support people through the process of seeing their unconscious or unseen elements in a safe and loving environment.

Among my weaknesses:

Not fully believing in myself or my abilities.

Among the things I can be counted on for:

To be unconditionally loving and nurturing to those in my life.

Among the things I can never be counted on for:

To miss details of any kind.

Among the things my community collectively knows about me:

I will always see them as their greatness and lend support no matter what.

Pretty f’ing cool. So what started as a homework assignment turned into a pretty incredible conversation and opportunity to deepen our bond and really understand more fully who we really are to eachother in this partnership.

Feeling pretty loved and filled with gratitude.

What this exercise has reminded me of

That the conversations that matter  the most in life wont always be the easiest ones to have. The deeply juicy, life changing, heart opening, vulnerability cracking, authenticity revealing conversations that call us to connect on a way more profound level will take something to start.

They will take courage

They will take bravery

They will take love

They will take vulnerability

They will take feeling your fear and resistance and stepping through it

They will take you showing up for yourself and for your life.

These real, raw and revealing conversations are what remind us of our humanity, of our connection and of our ability to live in love’s example. This goodness is possible if we choose to step up and step into the call of our hearts.

All things are possible with an open heart and the power of love.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Inspired Chats, Yoga and Great Friends = Awesome Night Day 270: 365 Radical Self Love

Today I spent 5 hours at my yoga studio and loved every minute of it.

I kicked off my time with a delicious hot yoga class. I had a new instructor who was absolutely divine. It was my first experience of a mentally relaxing hot class. She was so fabulous.

Then I began my volunteer/karma shift. I show up for 4 hours a week to work in the studio in exchange for yoga. It’s pretty rad.

As the evening unfolded a bunch of friends appeared and I was blessed with having inspired and love filled chats with each of them. I feel so blessed and honestly a little tired from such a energy packed night, but over all deeply blessed that all of my friends are such beauties!

Keeping this post really simple and really short so I can go and rock some self love relaxation time after a super long and rad day!

Today was such a great reminder of how lovely it is to take the time to really connect heart to heart with friends and acknowledge them for who they truly are.

RSL weekly challenge:

For the next 5 days give a heart to heart acknowledgement to someone precious in your life. Let them know who they really are to you- it will make all the difference in their world and the ripple of love and goodness will be cast.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Mega Milestone- 200 Days of Blogging Complete! Day 265: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Wow today marks a pretty significant milestone- I’ve been blogging for 200 days straight!!!

With 100 days left to go in this project I’m going to take tonights blog to reflect on the some top personal highlights of this journey so far.

1. Blogging every day for the past 200 days has taught me that I am far more capable of taking things on and ROCKING them that I ever thought possible.

2. I can overcome adversity- there were parts of this journey so far where I came up against challenges- technology, internet or just my own internal crap- that would get me stuck. The number one solution: Asking for help. By sharing openly the challenges I was facing peeps showed up with genius ideas and solutions to help me out.

3. I have learned on a new level just how committed, dedicated and consistent I actually am when I am driven by a capacity to serve and share a message of positivity, love and inspiration.

4. It’s made me realize what a friggin awesome writer I am and has given me loads and heaps of solid content to pull from going forward.

5. I’ve learned what a difference my journey is making for others. I receive feedback on the regular thanking me for my vulnerability, my openness and my daily presence of inspiration and love. Knowing that when I show up here to write each day other people are going to be positively impacted really makes my heart happy.

6. And best of all- it has helped me get super comfy being uncomfy. Sharing my vulnerabilities, my life and my journey so openly has helped me really get ok and relax into my role as teacher, coach and mentor. Every time I share on this platform I gain more and more confidence, awareness and clarity into who I truly am and how much the world is craving connection, vulnerability and real human rawness.

It has been a friggin delight and honour to have shared these past 200 days with you lovers and I’m looking forward to what the final 100 days have in store for us!!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Conscious, Evolved Men, “ManTalks” And A Pretty Proud Girlfriend!! Day 261: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Yoooooo Vancouver!!!! My very inspiring and incredible partner Mr. Connor Beaton is hosting a pretty rad-tacular event this coming Tuesday.

Before spilling the beans about the event I just gotta say

I am so freaking proud of my man!!!

He has spent the past four months, planning, designing and getting this event ready to rock. It has been such a pleasure watching him step even further into his greatness and begin creating in the direction of his calling. I am honoured to be his partner and when he plays big like this it calls me to step it up too. I love that so much about our relationship and who he is.

I feel like the super gushy, happy, proud, ecstatic girlfriend who is just over the moon about my man. And I totally am that woman. I know this event is just the beginning for him. A start of a brand new chapter filled with all his dreams and ambitions coming true. He is an incredible, evolved, conscious and driven man and I feel so blessed to have him in my life.

Now onto the details:

Its by donation which makes it very accessible for anyone- pay what you can is the motto here.  The proceeds are ALL going to charity and the night is set up with the intention of bringing together a collective of conscious men to begin creating a new type of dialogue hence the event name:

ManTalks.

Event deets: Tuesday March 11th, 7-10 @ ING Direct Cafe (466 Howe St Vancouver).
Reserve your ticket here and choose your donation amount when you register!

Women are welcome to attend as well but the main focus is supporting our masculine pals in having positive, conscious and high vibin men in their lives to learn grow and expand from.

The night will include 4 speakers each of whom have build a fully sustainable and conscious business. All four men highly value community, contribution and have so generously donated their time and expertise to help others who are interested in building a company and a life that truly makes a positive difference in this world.

So if you are one of those high vibin, open minded types I would HIGHLY encourage you to show up and connect with these guys!

As a woman it makes my heart so very happy to see events like this happening. I love knowing there are events and communities like this where guys can go to be real, build positive community networks and mastermind their ideas and learning from other men in such a way where they all continue to grow into their greatest versions. Men who show up this way for their lives leave this world a better place because of who they are being and the true contribution they are.

More conscious men + more conscious women = beauty, harmony and sustainable positive world change.

Be a part of the movement.

See you Tuesday!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

When Life Doesn’t Go The Way You Planned Roll With It- Day 260: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan, in fact it often doesn’t.

The past 48 hrs have been a complete testament to this.

Yesterday morning my partner and I awoke to his car being broken into. The strange thing- absolutely nothing was stolen. Just a smashed window. However this turn of events meant I missed the only class I could fit into my day for the 21 Day challenge.

Today I had to take the car into be fixed early in the morning and to my surprise it took a whopping 4.5 hours to fix it and by the time it was all picked up, paid for and handled I had missed yet another day of classes.

What this experience has taught me

Life is always in a perpetual state of change and flux. We can either resist it and get drawn up into the land of guilt, upset and frustration OR we can go with the flow and experience expansion, freedom and growth.

I chose the path of acceptance.

I stopped making myself wrong, the circumstance wrong or anything or anyone else wrong and just relax into the flow of change.

Even though I have missed two days it was the best thing for me. My body needed rest and it gave me time to myself to write, catch up on tasks from the week I wanted to do and do some solid life reflection which is always fabulous and juicy.

I still have every intention to get in 21 classes in 21 days it just is going to look a little bit different that how I initially planned and there in lies the deeper lesson. Our intentions always get fulfilled, just not always in the ways we first see or in the exact timing we want. But they always happen.

Lesson learned.

Lesson loved.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Celebrating B-School With Some Yummy Yin- Day 259: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well lovers I made the leap.

I registered myself for this years round of Marie Forleo’s B-School!!! I am beyond pumped and I am so excited to be back in the classroom and learn.

One of the most valuable lessons I have learned throughout my life is the value of investing into myself and my future. The last time I made an investment of this magnitude (I registered for the Landmark Forum and went on to complete the entire curriculum for living) my life forever changed.

I repaired my relationship with my parents.

I got closure on a significant relationship I had just left.

I opened my heart to love.

I got mega clear on what I was looking for and felt inspired and powerful to take action.

I accessed the courage to ask for what I wanted in love.

I moved cities.

I created a soul tribe in my new city. These people are now my closest family mates, friends and business partners.

I started my own business and began living my soul purpose.

I was totally freed up to live my life, by my design.

I began attracting opportunities for growth and expansion and all the tools to get me to this point I’m at meow.

And now it is time to take the leap again, level up, invest into myself, my development and the expansion of this beautiful company and incredible community.

It’s been a pretty big step for me to take and I am certain this investment, this learning platform is the tool I am requiring to blast through to the next level of fabulousness, to be able to serve my purpose and serve this community to my greatest capacity. I am incredibly excited for what the future holds being a part of this incredible new community.

It has finally sunk in today that I am saying a big time YES to me, a big time YES to life and a BIG time YES to my soul purpose.

It is an honour to be here with you all and I am truly looking forward to being able to serve you lovers and support you all in going to your next level whatever that might be.

Our tribe here at RSL is so precious and I am delighted to watch it grow and to see you all THRIVE in your greatness.

To celebrate this massive win and HUGE new chapter I am taking myself to a hot yin class, to stretch out, relax and enjoy some sacred partner time with my man.

Feeling blessed, excited and ready to ROCK it!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

A Common False Belief About Self Love And The Easy Shift To Change It- Day 256: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“No one will love you if you don’t love yourself”

This is a super popular quote in the land of self love and in all honesty I believe it’s sending a message that isn’t quite making the mark.

I don’t actually believe this is true. I think it is very possible for others to love us even when we aren’t quite loving ourselves.

There is a distinction to be made though.

The distinction is this, if we are not loving ourselves we won’t be able to identify and accept the love that is ever present around us.

If our internal code is one of despair, rejection of the self, anger and any of the other tag-a-longs of the fear camp, we are unable to resonate with the energies of love. It is simply incompatible. This doesn’t mean that other people wont love us though. It means despite their efforts to show love and connect, our internal code will throw up the defences and find ways to push this love away.

 

The shift then becomes one of “How can I love myself MORE so that I can increase my ability to open, accept and receive the love and abundance that is always trying to make it’s way to me?” 

So the next time you hear the phrase “no one will love you unless you love yourself first” gently remind yourself that “when I love myself I am more easily able to accept, receive and identify the abundance of love always present in my life”.

Ahhhh yes. Now that sure feels better 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Gentle Sunday To Seal The Healing- Day 254: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Often when we go through deep transformational shifts of any kind there is a phase of time when our tenderness and rawness requires us to embrace our new opening with some solid tender loving care.

After the deep healing and opening of this past week I knew today was one of those juicy days to relax, enjoy and most importantly be gentle.

I didn’t set an alarm today and just woke up when my body wanted.

I made a super healthy breakfast for me and my man, drank some baileys and coffee, snuggled up on the couch and just spent time doing the things that made me happy.

• Perusing Pinterest
• Getting fully prepped for my full days work tomorrow
• Devouring an amazing book
• Having heart to heart chats with the roomie
• Receiving graciously a gift from my roomie
• Making yummy raw salad snacks
• And signing up for a delicious restorative hot yin class to close out the night.

The path to healing is unique to each of us but the process of what we need remains very similar. After we go deep- we need some gentle recoup time.

Just like when we fatigue our muscles in the gym to the max we need a rest day. Same goes for our spiritual and emotional training.

It feels good to be good to me and I am so looking forward to dancing with this space I have set free within me for this next chapter of my experience.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Cha-cha-cha Changes Are A Comin’ And It’s A Fabulous Thing! Day 251: 365 Radical Self Love Project

We are about to head on a new epic adventure here at Radical Self Love.

After some amazing soul connections and a RSL workshop tonight I am very clear the direction we are headed is about to shift.

The divine energy that guides this project and this journey has directed me to come into the acceptance that our workshop format is about to changeeeeeee!!!

I used to really be resistant to change- now I embrace it (for the most part) as the access to greater levels of connection and service.

My workshop facilitation partner and I are going to be sitting down in the next week and jam out all the details of this new change. It is time to level up and while it has been absolutely incredible sharing space with local peeps every month we are about to enter into a beautiful phase of growth which will allow us to include more of our global RSL family.

I absolutely LOVE that. I experience so much joy and happiness connecting with our global tribe and this change to the workshop format and frequency will allow us to embrace and connect with more of you love faces!!!

As the details are given to us we will be sharing them with you! Until then lets celebrate the amazingness of this moment, all the brilliant blessings that these monthly workshops have graced us with and seriously acknowledge the incredible souls who I have had the divine honour of connecting with over these past 8 months of local workshoppin!

I love and appreciate every single one of your beautiful souls who have shown up to share energy with us and I am so excited to keep moving, evolving and connecting with you all on a greater and more fabulous level going forward!

Change is always good for the soul- even if it doesn’t occur that way to our minds.

Embracing the winds of change as they are breezing through this chapter of the experience 😉

So much love and appreciation from my heart to yours ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels