Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love-Day 365: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Holy shitballs I did it!!!

radical self love projectSuccessfully completed writing one self love blog post every day for an entire YEAR!!!! There are so many things I could write about today and I have given careful and thoughtful consideration for them all.

  • I considered writing the highlights of the year.
  • I considered writing the top lessons of the year.
  • I considered not writing much at all- total honesty and transparency 😉
  • I considered writing a simple celebratory post.
  • I considered just writing another self love lesson.
  • I considered sharing the impact of a year of self love on my relationship.

All of these were great however they didn’t feel quite right. Today is a significant day for me. For the past few years I have been levelling up and giving myself these “challenges” in order to grow and expand the person I know myself to be. This 365 Day RSL blog project was no exception.

To show up and create a blog post every day for an entire year took some serious commitment and dedication. It took bravery, honesty, transparency. It required me to face my shadow and deal with my shit. It called me to step into my role as a leader and a teacher and really own my place in the world. This project supported me in getting clear on who I am and what I am truly meant to be doing in the world. And it brought me face to face with my biggest supporter and my biggest nemesis- and coming to the profound realization that both happened to be me.

Today’s post I am going to share the biggest transformation that has taken place over the past year.

Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love

In one year I’ve done a hell of a lot of healing, forgiving, loving and moving forward.

But there was one thing that has held me back in all areas of my life and in the span of this project I was brought face to face with this disempowering mechanism. This is what I call “the ultimate ego sabotage” and I have had the opportunity to look it in the face with loving and kind eyes and find ways to gently and lovingly put it to rest.

That sabotage was an old familiar story of “not feeling like it”. How many times in my life have I used this line as a way to manipulate, get out of commitments and generally not show up for life? More than I can count.

Giving my word to a project of this magnitude brought me face to face with this disempowering habit every single day. Yes every single day it reared it’s face. Some days more than others but it always did.

radicalselfloveMy new self love habitual patterns were the only saving grace. If I had allowed my ego’s justifications or behaviours to run the show I would have quit. Something would have stopped me along the way. But because of my solid Radical Self Love foundation I was able to maintain my commitment even in the most challenging of times.

In my past my ego didn’t have to work very hard to get me to stop going down the path of transformation. It would pull the “oh I’m tired” excuse or something very similar and that would be enough of a reason to not show up for life.

As I grew and expanded my awareness my ego took to instigating physical pains in attempts to prevent me from showing up somewhere that would inevitably be a cause for my further transformation. The most memorable occurance of this function showed up a few years ago when I was heading out to be a production supervisor for the Advanced Course through Landmark Education. This role at the time called me to step up and lead a team of peeps and also create the space for all the people in the seminar to feel safe to dive into their own transformation- not an easy role by far. The morning of I was leaving my house and literally tripped over my own feet and fell down the steep stairs of my house. In the past this would have been enough for me to not show up- but I had done enough work to get acquainted with my ego that I knew it was just trying to take me out in any way possible to avoid my own immanent growth. Pretty bold stuff.

This year brought me into a whole new level of understanding my tricky ego. The function remains the same it’s just the measures and characteristics that change. Writing a self love blog every day for a year stretched me. Some days the words flowed, inspiration was at an all time high and some days it was fucking hard. I was emotional, my world was crashing around me and some how I managed to pull it together long enough to get real, get transparent and transform. In this year I have come to learn my ego’s new game is to take things incredibly personal.

I honestly at times couldn’t believe just how ridiculous I was being but somehow I couldn’t manage to stop it- that is until I realized this behaviour was a new form of my old ego friend. Once I became aware of this mechanism I was able to notice it’s take over sooner and become less reactive and more responsive to life.

This self love blog was ultimate training in playing bigger, creating something from nothing and standing for something way greater than myself. I knew my key to healing my heart was rooted in finding something I cared more about than the pain I was feeling. That “something” is this community, that “something” is supporting people in having more deliciously juicy relationships to themselves, to their lives and to the people in their lives. That “something” is self love.

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In honour of achieving such a kick ass milestone I want to celebrate with some gifts to you all!

Gift #1:

A FREE copy of my first RSL ebook-  Sabotaged Love: The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want. This baby is launching into the world on July 17th. Everyone on our email list will receive a free copy of the book as a mega thank you for being here and co-creating such a magical community of love and transformation. You can sign up for our email list HERE

Gift #2:

First dibs on attending my free summer webinar: The Self Loving Secrets To Long Lasting Commitment.

For more details drop me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com and I will send ya all the registration details! xo (eta end of July- Official date will be released within the next week).

Gift # 3:

Radical Self Love Coaching. For those of you who have been wanting to work with me to get your self love vibes thriving I’m rocking a summer coaching promo:

My 30 Minute RSL Reset five pack- (normally $444.00) until June 30th: $222.00 from July 1-30th: $333.00

To register for the 5 pack email me at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: RSL Celebration 5 Pack

30 Day RSL Intensive- For those of you looking for a more intensive self love coaching package I am offering 2 months of my 30 Day RSL Intensive for the price of one. You will receive two months of 1-1 coaching with me for $1111.00 and together we will design your sessions to fit and harmonize with your summer schedule and your needs. (Offer expires July 30th).

To register for the 30 Day Intensive send me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: 30 Day RSL Intensive Celebration Gift

I am so proud of what has been achieved in this past year and I am looking forward to this next year of bliss with all you lovers. A heads up, since the intention of this blog is complete I will be shifting over to my website for my regular blogging. Make sure to sign up to the email list to ensure you stay up to date on all things RSL!

I will likely post a couple more blogs here just to phase out and to share my new blogging schedule after I take a well deserved couple days off 😉

So much love to you all!!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming along for this journey! We’re only going up from here! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Changing The World One Smile At A Time- Day 362: 365 Radical Self Love Project

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Meditation and Self Love For the Busy Bodies- Day 356: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Hey lovers!

radical self love kelsey grantI’m so jazzed to be a part of the Stillness Project’s launch and share one of my most favourite meditation teachers with you, Tom Cronin. Tom’s intention with the Stillness Project is to bring together one million people to sit in collective stillness and activate their bliss during a live global meditation event!!! Super rad!

 

I’m a huge fan of meditation and I regularly speak about how vitally important meditation is in maintaining a solid self love practice. However, a lot of peeps in our tribe have mentioned they are first time meditators and don’t have a lot of time to spare.

I totally get that.

When I first started meditating the thought of sitting in silence for an undetermined amount of time freaked me out. Not only was my mind a complete circus, my life was super busy and back then investing 20-30 minutes a day into sitting in stillness seemed absurd and completely unrealistic.

Not having enough time is such a common myth when it comes to meditating that my dear friend Tom Cronin created this awesome video to explain his  72/20 Method.  In this free video Tom gets right into the specifics of his technique to support all of you lovers who want to meditate but can’t find the time.

radical self love kelsey grantI know I’m always looking for ways to become more effective with my time, be more productive and just feel great during my day and this meditation technique facilitates all those yummy benefits into my life. Even if you think you can’t meditate this video will help you move through any inner blocks of resistence and guide you to the land of inner bliss. Self love is the journey of cultivating more of these blissful moments by removing our blocks to love. Meditation is a beautiful bridge to allow more love and greatness in.

Tom’s free video explains everything click the link below to access the vid:
CLICK HERE to Discover the 72/20 Method now

I wish I had known Tom back in the day when I was struggling to understand and begin my meditation practice, luckily for all you lovers you can take full advantage of his super effective and powerful techniques for meditation beginners and ease into the world of bliss and inner calm.

His technique is so powerful that when practiced it actually creates an abundance of time and space in your day nearly instantly, something I believe we could all benefit from.

If you are interested in joining our global community and participating in a pretty kick ass event, your invitation to join the Stillness Project awaits ya at the end of the video 🙂 I’m so excited about the possibility of one million peeps meditating in stillness at once. One million people connected to their truth, allowing love in and radiating that bliss out into the world has the potential to activate some pretty serious global healing, and that dear friends is a pretty epic thing!

Click here to watch this NEW video now

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

From Fear To Love In One Minute: Inspiration For Your Soul- Day 352: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today my wonderful and inspiring partner posted a fabulous one minute video on his social media feed.

I personally am a big fan of Jim Carrey as he is a fabulous advocate for the human potential and power to create our experience through our activation of either fear or love.

I really dig it when people in the public eye use their platform to spread messages of inspiration, hope, possibility and love.

In this one minute video Jim anchors in some really solid perspective. “You can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance doing what you love”. I completely agree. We have just as much opportunity to create a live filled with abundance, connection and love as we do creating one filled up with lack a limitation.

The way your life unfolds is up to you. The outcomes you produce in your life are directly linked to the quality of thoughts, feelings and actions you repetitively cultivate. At any given time you are either in the domain of fear or the domain of love.

RSL actionable to shift from fear to love in no time: Ask better, more empowered questions from life. Instead of saying “Why me?” take your power back and replace the lack mindset with a better question:

  • “What inside me is trying to emerge through this challenge?”
  • “What am I being called to learn, grow or strengthen within me”
  • “What can I do to be in alignment with my truth, with my desires and with my dreams”.

Interested in better results? Ask better questions. Let yourself be inspired on the regular. Make your top priority feeling good aka being in alignment. To help out on the feeling good and inspired quest, watch this lovely one minute vid!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Awesomeness Advantage Reunites- Day 351: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Whoop whoop!!!

photoMy wifey/co-host of the The Awesomeness Advantage shmabigail returned back to Van today and I couldn’t be more thrilled and excited to spend the next week frolicking and adventuring just like we did back in the day!!!

In honour of this very special occasion I will share with you two really RAD Awesomeness Advantage episodes

First Share: Lessons in having a positive self image

Second Share: Musings on self care and self worth

And if you just want a good giggle check out these gems:

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Family Fun Date- Day 349: 365 Radical Self Love Project

After a very successful day 2 of recording we celebrated by doing a family dinner with our Vic crew.

The evening kicked off with a trip to the Sidney Market where we got to soak up all the local goodness.

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We ran into some old friends and opted for some hugs and giggles.
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image 3Then we gathered a bunch of local produce and headed to the LJC Art/Print Studio for some great evening vibes.

The crew made a fabulous dinner. I had the honour of having some soul to soul chats with my brothers, celebrating in each other’s successes, listening to some new musical creations and meeting new friends.

It was so good for my soul to have this much needed family reconnection time, share some big hearty laughs and be reminded of how incredible our family tribe truly is.

Feeling good, feeling full on life, feeling so deeply grateful!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

It’s Time To Go Bigger and Brighter!!! Day 347: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I am over joyed and deeply moved with the outpouring of love and support from my communities within the last 24hrs.

Since publishing my post last night I’ve been flooded with positive feedback, incredible stories of courage, people relating and taking inspired and brave actions in their own lives. All of this possibility, transformation and love because of one extremely raw and authentic post.

Releasing that blog post was one of the best moves I’ve ever made.

It activated people in a big time way.

It touched hearts.

It opened minds.

It widened the capacity for compassion and forgiveness.

It evoked strong emotional reactions.

It caused the activation and expression of truth.

It gave the beautiful souls in this community the space to tell the truth on themselves.

It was shared- a lot.

This is not a coincidence. This is what happens when love leads the way. The activity and incredible feedback I have received in the past 24 hrs sparked within me a massive jolt of creativity, confidence and increased my capacity and willingness to be real and be seen.

Writing that piece wasn’t easy and releasing it out into the world brought up a lot of resistance- but the benefit I’ve seen in such a short time makes up for any initial uneasiness.

So Im stepping up.

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I’m playing bigger.

I am willingly submitting my work to additional platforms and allowing this to take me where I am meant to go.

I am going full stop into my passion- supporting peeps in repairing the #1 relationship in their lives (the one with themselves) and support these lovers in rocking their romantic relationships through the vehicle of Radical Self Love.

This past year has been literally life changing and I’m stepping into it all. I’ve been cracked wide open and I’m ready and willing to step beyond my limitations and play like I never have.

We’re getting really real and really rad for this next year of RSL.

Love you all so dearly. Thank you for standing for love in the world. Thank you for being you. Thank you for showing up and thank you for your willingness to radiate love consciousness into the world. Even if we’ve never met you have contributed to my life in such a deep and profound way, for this I am eternally grateful and I won’t stop going deeper and expanding higher. I’m open, ready and willing to release the aspects of my ego archetypes that keep me from being fully lit up, self expressed and self loving.

You all have made this journey so fulfilling and I bow in humble gratitude to your brilliance. Lets do this lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

If you are ready to release ego archetypes in your relationships and level up in love’s radiance, sign up HERE to our mailing list to receive a FREE copy of my first ebook “Sabotaged Love- The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want” coming in July!!!

The 1 Simple Step To Take You From Crappy to Happy In A Flash- Day 341: 365 Radical Self Love Project

We all feel crappy sometimes- it’s a normal aspect of the human experience.

Contrast helps us gain more and more clarity into what we truly want and can be consciously used to direct our lives in a more on purpose direction. If these downward spirals of the ego are left unattended for too long, we may find ourselves trapped in what seems like an unchangeable state of upset and despair.

In those times of feeling super low, choosing better thoughts or curbing the negative self talk is often quite challenging. So how can you move from one of these moments of energetic lowness to a higher vibrational state?

The 1 Simple Step To Take You From Crappy To Happy

Perform a random act of kindness for a stranger or someone with whom you do not expect anything from in return.

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When we act out a physical action of unconditional kindness towards another being it immediately reconnects us with our truth. It reminds us, ever so slightly of our interconnectedness with one another and our true nature which is love.

When we perform a selfless act of kindness towards someone else we take the focus off of ourselves. To step up the vibration scale this must happen. Staying trapped in the musings of the ego happens because the focus is all on you and the unfair or painful circumstance  you are experiencing. The ego loves this attention. It feeds off it. When we go into the space of being of service or a positive contribution to anyone other than ourselves we elevate our vibration, because to do so requires us to step out of the dramatic stories of the ego, expand our awareness to another persons needs and recalibrate with love.

To receive love we must first give it away freely.

A simple gesture of opening the door for someone, holding the elevator, smiling at a stranger, giving a nice compliment to someone who momentarily crossed your path- anything that takes the immediate focus off the ego drama and into making a strangers life a little better, will immediately send a surging of positive emotion through your body. When this happens our truth is triggered and we remember if for a second the essence of who we are- love.

The next time you are feeling crappy- embrace the world and do something kind for someone. The more consistent you are in your practice of random acts of kindness the more expansive your heart becomes. Inside this expansiveness we re-establish our connection to each other, to the world and most importantly to ourselves- our true selves that is 😉

Go be kind and watch with a keen eye to witness your circumstances improve.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Experiments In Gratitude- Day 337: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Gratitude is one of the major foundational elements of any Radical Self Love practice and it is such a pivotal component of our healing, growth and positive evolution. 

This video was recommended to me by one of my dear friends and fellow RSL member. During our high vibing chat about meditation and the power of gratitude and she shared that this video really left a positive impression and impact on her heart.

Sometimes in this world we need a little extra encouragement or evidence to nudge us in the direction of implementing change. This video is a amazing illustration of the basic science behind the practice of gratitude.

This little experiment warmed my heart to watch and reminded me just how powerful gratitude is and how the expression and sharing of our gratitude has the potential to ripple out massive inspiration and activate love in the hearts of the people we share with.

Share your love, express your gratitude- it will make you happier, science says so after all 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

What To Do When Tempted To Act Out Old Patterns- Day 336: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is no secret that the path of Radical Self Love calls us to examine ourselves, our beliefs and our patterns.

radical self love kelsey grantFor the majority of us we have a collection of patterns and beliefs drummed up by our ego’s that have been repeated on automatic default settings in our brains for a large majority of our lives.

Often there is a defining moment in our lives when we are awoken from this unconsciousness and begin to question ourselves, our motivations, our patterns of behaviour and ultimately question who we are and why we are here.

As we begin to dive into the world of self reflection and discovery we begin to see how the functions of our ego have lead us into some less than desirable situations. The ego is rooted in fear and fear never leads us to the path of fulfillment and bliss.

If we truly desire to remember who we are and return to our natural state which is bliss we must consciously examine the behaviours and thoughts of an ego or fear based mind. Once examined we must begin to consciously question these behaviours and thoughts to honestly determine if they are truly serving our highest good. The final stage is choosing better high quality love based thoughts and establishing more empowering behaviours.

When tempted to act out old patterns of the ego here are three questions to bring yourself back to the vibe of possibility, potential and love:

1. What would love do right now?

2. Would love do what I’m about to do?

3. Would love say what I’m about to say?

Then the key is to LISTEN honestly to the answer your inner guidance will give you and act in accordance to this guidance.

Often old patterns are triggered anytime we feel vulnerable, open and our hearts are exposed. The work of RSL is designed to crack open the shells around your heart to open you up to the fullness of love and authentic connection. It is inevitable along this path that when we feel open and exposed the ego will do anything it can to shut down this opening and build the familiar fear walls right back up.

The only one who has the power to dissolve the walls around your heart is you. Dissolving these walls is essential to the manifestation of heart to heart connections with other human beings, to the manifestation of your dreams and potential and to the manifestation of your own self awareness which is the biggest gift of all.

The reason people avoid doing the work is because you can’t un-know something. When we learn these aspects about ourselves and our default ego settings, from that point forward each time the egoic patterns surface and we act on them it becomes a conscious choice. Most people don’t want to be honest and own that they are choosing to act out fears plan instead of their highest potential which is always rooted in love. The only way we can shift these patterns, thoughts and behaviours is through our conscious choice to change and choose love.

It is all up to you, are you open, willing and ready to choose love?

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kelsey

If you would like support in learning to choose love and say YES to your great potential join in on our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program!!