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Holy shitballs I did it!!!
Successfully completed writing one self love blog post every day for an entire YEAR!!!! There are so many things I could write about today and I have given careful and thoughtful consideration for them all.
- I considered writing the highlights of the year.
- I considered writing the top lessons of the year.
- I considered not writing much at all- total honesty and transparency 😉
- I considered writing a simple celebratory post.
- I considered just writing another self love lesson.
- I considered sharing the impact of a year of self love on my relationship.
All of these were great however they didn’t feel quite right. Today is a significant day for me. For the past few years I have been levelling up and giving myself these “challenges” in order to grow and expand the person I know myself to be. This 365 Day RSL blog project was no exception.
To show up and create a blog post every day for an entire year took some serious commitment and dedication. It took bravery, honesty, transparency. It required me to face my shadow and deal with my shit. It called me to step into my role as a leader and a teacher and really own my place in the world. This project supported me in getting clear on who I am and what I am truly meant to be doing in the world. And it brought me face to face with my biggest supporter and my biggest nemesis- and coming to the profound realization that both happened to be me.
Today’s post I am going to share the biggest transformation that has taken place over the past year.
Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love
In one year I’ve done a hell of a lot of healing, forgiving, loving and moving forward.
But there was one thing that has held me back in all areas of my life and in the span of this project I was brought face to face with this disempowering mechanism. This is what I call “the ultimate ego sabotage” and I have had the opportunity to look it in the face with loving and kind eyes and find ways to gently and lovingly put it to rest.
That sabotage was an old familiar story of “not feeling like it”. How many times in my life have I used this line as a way to manipulate, get out of commitments and generally not show up for life? More than I can count.
Giving my word to a project of this magnitude brought me face to face with this disempowering habit every single day. Yes every single day it reared it’s face. Some days more than others but it always did.
My new self love habitual patterns were the only saving grace. If I had allowed my ego’s justifications or behaviours to run the show I would have quit. Something would have stopped me along the way. But because of my solid Radical Self Love foundation I was able to maintain my commitment even in the most challenging of times.
In my past my ego didn’t have to work very hard to get me to stop going down the path of transformation. It would pull the “oh I’m tired” excuse or something very similar and that would be enough of a reason to not show up for life.
As I grew and expanded my awareness my ego took to instigating physical pains in attempts to prevent me from showing up somewhere that would inevitably be a cause for my further transformation. The most memorable occurance of this function showed up a few years ago when I was heading out to be a production supervisor for the Advanced Course through Landmark Education. This role at the time called me to step up and lead a team of peeps and also create the space for all the people in the seminar to feel safe to dive into their own transformation- not an easy role by far. The morning of I was leaving my house and literally tripped over my own feet and fell down the steep stairs of my house. In the past this would have been enough for me to not show up- but I had done enough work to get acquainted with my ego that I knew it was just trying to take me out in any way possible to avoid my own immanent growth. Pretty bold stuff.
This year brought me into a whole new level of understanding my tricky ego. The function remains the same it’s just the measures and characteristics that change. Writing a self love blog every day for a year stretched me. Some days the words flowed, inspiration was at an all time high and some days it was fucking hard. I was emotional, my world was crashing around me and some how I managed to pull it together long enough to get real, get transparent and transform. In this year I have come to learn my ego’s new game is to take things incredibly personal.
I honestly at times couldn’t believe just how ridiculous I was being but somehow I couldn’t manage to stop it- that is until I realized this behaviour was a new form of my old ego friend. Once I became aware of this mechanism I was able to notice it’s take over sooner and become less reactive and more responsive to life.
This self love blog was ultimate training in playing bigger, creating something from nothing and standing for something way greater than myself. I knew my key to healing my heart was rooted in finding something I cared more about than the pain I was feeling. That “something” is this community, that “something” is supporting people in having more deliciously juicy relationships to themselves, to their lives and to the people in their lives. That “something” is self love.
In honour of achieving such a kick ass milestone I want to celebrate with some gifts to you all!
A FREE copy of my first RSL ebook- Sabotaged Love: The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want. This baby is launching into the world on July 17th. Everyone on our email list will receive a free copy of the book as a mega thank you for being here and co-creating such a magical community of love and transformation. You can sign up for our email list HERE
First dibs on attending my free summer webinar: The Self Loving Secrets To Long Lasting Commitment.
For more details drop me an email at email@example.com and I will send ya all the registration details! xo (eta end of July- Official date will be released within the next week).
Gift # 3:
Radical Self Love Coaching. For those of you who have been wanting to work with me to get your self love vibes thriving I’m rocking a summer coaching promo:
My 30 Minute RSL Reset five pack- (normally $444.00) until June 30th: $222.00 from July 1-30th: $333.00
To register for the 5 pack email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with subject line: RSL Celebration 5 Pack
30 Day RSL Intensive- For those of you looking for a more intensive self love coaching package I am offering 2 months of my 30 Day RSL Intensive for the price of one. You will receive two months of 1-1 coaching with me for $1111.00 and together we will design your sessions to fit and harmonize with your summer schedule and your needs. (Offer expires July 30th).
To register for the 30 Day Intensive send me an email at email@example.com with subject line: 30 Day RSL Intensive Celebration Gift
I am so proud of what has been achieved in this past year and I am looking forward to this next year of bliss with all you lovers. A heads up, since the intention of this blog is complete I will be shifting over to my website for my regular blogging. Make sure to sign up to the email list to ensure you stay up to date on all things RSL!
I will likely post a couple more blogs here just to phase out and to share my new blogging schedule after I take a well deserved couple days off 😉
So much love to you all!!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming along for this journey! We’re only going up from here! xo
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
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It’s Fathers Day and I couldn’t be happier to celebrate my amazing poppa bear.
In honour of his amazing influence on my life tonight I will share with you all some of the most precious things my Dad has taught me throughout my life.
The 6 Most Precious Values My Dad Has Taught Me
The value of being happy-
My Dad is one of the most jolly people I know. He is always the first to crack a joke, pull a prank and just laugh at life. This has often reminded me when I get too serious (which in all honesty is pretty regular) to lighten up, laugh and find the humour in life.
The value of being dedicated-
My entire life I watched my Dad infuse all the work he’s ever done with such intention and dedication. He shows up and shows up 100%. I remember when he was my soccer coach in the seven years he coached me and my team he never once missed a practice or a game. He honoured all of our time and effort by being on time, ending on time and showing up every time, even when I’m sure he didn’t feel like it. This dedication has impacted me more than he may ever know. I learned from a very early age to do my best to respect others time and energy and when I say I’m going to do something- do it. A profound life lesson.
The value of doing complete work-
I certainly have acquired my fathers passion for order and meticulous action. I am most at peace when everything matches, is in it’s place and nicely organized. This quality brings a certain peace to my life and truly makes things a whole heck of a lot more workable.
The value of acceptance-
This is a tough lesson for a lot of people, myself included. Having my Dad as a role model enabled me to more easily come to terms with the fact that in life there are things we can’t change and circumstances we can’t control. We can either fight against these conditions, resist them or come into a peaceful acceptance. I truly believe through his example is where I came up with this knowing that “everything that happens is the perfect thing to happen”. This particular motto has helped me immensely when in situations that didn’t go the way I expected or sometimes wanted.
The value of love-
No matter what I’ve done or how I have behaved my Dad has loved me. There has never once been a moment where I questioned his love or believed it wasn’t there. I’ve come to learn we all express and receive love in different capacities and once I figured this out I was even more present to the abundant love and support my father has for me and my brother.
The value of following your heart-
My Dad has been a living breathing example of taking the biggest risk of all- following the path of your dreams. I have learned that this path is often challenging as we face many internal and sometimes external obstacles on the route to fulfilling our hearts desires- but the value of his example resides in not being stopped by this fact. I learned by watching my Dad it was safe to pursue my passions and to follow my heart- knowing that it might not work out but to at least give it a go. No regrets.
I am so deeply blessed to have such an incredible man for a father, someone who has taught me so much and inspired me to go for my dreams and live a life I am truly worthy of. I look forward to all the many years ahead to learn from him and continue to build upon this truly beautiful relationship I have the honour and privilege of sharing with my poppa. Love my Dad so very much!
To all the amazing fathers out there I celebrate you in my heart today. Thank you for all you do. You are loved.
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
As humans we are so privileged to have language to express our life experience.
As a conscious creator and a Radical Self Lover we must use this gift to it’s fullest potential. Which means coming to an awareness that sometimes the shit we tell ourselves is really not the most optimal or beneficial to our growth and expansion.
There are plenty of words I would recommend be removed from you vocabulary but to start off lets get right to the juiciest one:
This word is really damaging to our self confidence, our ability to own our choices and be clear on who we are and what we stand for.
Should is rooted in some belief in obligation.
I should do this because…
I should be there because…
I should invited them because…
Shoulding is also rooted in expectations and usually imposed expectations.
These never feel good.
You should have known…
You should do this…
He/she should just know this about me…
This list could go on forever. When we opt into shoulding we are about to fully embark on the lower vibe train. The point of our human experience is to feel good. Shoulding and feeling good are just incompatible. Shoulding restricts. It reinforces the false perception that where we are isn’t where we are meant to be. It puts us into resistance to what is so- what is reality- what is occurring in the now. To feel good we must learn how to make peace with the now.
We can’t should on ourselves and feel good. Period.
Next time you go to should on yourself or someone else stop yourself. Tune in and reconnect with love. When we do this we can clearly see other alternatives that allow our communication to be received in such a way where everyone involved is left expansive and feeling good. Which is the point 😉
For more feeling good and self love tools check out our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program and get those vibes in alignment with all the glorious goodness this life has to offer. You are worth it all.
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
I’m so jazzed to be a part of the Stillness Project’s launch and share one of my most favourite meditation teachers with you, Tom Cronin. Tom’s intention with the Stillness Project is to bring together one million people to sit in collective stillness and activate their bliss during a live global meditation event!!! Super rad!
I’m a huge fan of meditation and I regularly speak about how vitally important meditation is in maintaining a solid self love practice. However, a lot of peeps in our tribe have mentioned they are first time meditators and don’t have a lot of time to spare.
I totally get that.
When I first started meditating the thought of sitting in silence for an undetermined amount of time freaked me out. Not only was my mind a complete circus, my life was super busy and back then investing 20-30 minutes a day into sitting in stillness seemed absurd and completely unrealistic.
Not having enough time is such a common myth when it comes to meditating that my dear friend Tom Cronin created this awesome video to explain his 72/20 Method. In this free video Tom gets right into the specifics of his technique to support all of you lovers who want to meditate but can’t find the time.
I know I’m always looking for ways to become more effective with my time, be more productive and just feel great during my day and this meditation technique facilitates all those yummy benefits into my life. Even if you think you can’t meditate this video will help you move through any inner blocks of resistence and guide you to the land of inner bliss. Self love is the journey of cultivating more of these blissful moments by removing our blocks to love. Meditation is a beautiful bridge to allow more love and greatness in.
Tom’s free video explains everything click the link below to access the vid:
CLICK HERE to Discover the 72/20 Method now
I wish I had known Tom back in the day when I was struggling to understand and begin my meditation practice, luckily for all you lovers you can take full advantage of his super effective and powerful techniques for meditation beginners and ease into the world of bliss and inner calm.
His technique is so powerful that when practiced it actually creates an abundance of time and space in your day nearly instantly, something I believe we could all benefit from.
If you are interested in joining our global community and participating in a pretty kick ass event, your invitation to join the Stillness Project awaits ya at the end of the video 🙂 I’m so excited about the possibility of one million peeps meditating in stillness at once. One million people connected to their truth, allowing love in and radiating that bliss out into the world has the potential to activate some pretty serious global healing, and that dear friends is a pretty epic thing!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
I’ve always believed the Universe has my back and today I received proof in a big time way.
I believe my intuition is an extension of source energy and my connection to an intelligence far greater than my human brain and body.
How often do we have a gut feeling about someone or something that we ignore?
How often do we follow it?
As we travel through the journey of Radical Self Love we program ourselves to actively trust and honour this internal guidance system. The key with listening to the intuition is we have to be somewhat grounded, feeling good and clear for it to make any sense at all.
When we are scattered, anxious, worried or racked with guilt, shame or fear our intuition is drowned out by the musings of the ego. In this state of energy the messages we receive are mixed and just compound the confusion we are already feeling.
On the flip side when we are feeling good, clear, vibrant and resonating in the energy of love, our intuition is loud and clear. In this clarity we are really confident in following it’s guidance, no questions asked.
The key to getting to the space of clear intuition communication is training ourselves to feel good. The more active we are at seeking out what is working, what is going well and collecting evidence of all the gifts and blessings in our lives- we feel better. When we are feeling good our energy is at an all time high. When our energy is high we are receptive to the good around us and become magnets for more goodness to be attracted in. In this level of vibrational alignment with source energy our intuition’s messages come through loud and clear.
My intuition at an all time high.
Now it is very unusual for me to give energy and attention to these sorts of things but for the purpose of driving this message home I will share this.
This morning there was a shooting in my neighbourhood. Literally 2 blocks from my house. I live in a very safe and affluent neighbourhood and stuff like this just doesn’t happen here- but today it did.
I left my house around 10:40 this morning to head to grab a coffee from my fav coffee shop a few blocks from my house. I left the coffee shop around 10:50 and made my way back home. As I crossed the street towards my usual route home my intuition got super loud and literally pulled me in a different direction.
I took the back way home trusting it was happening for a reason. When I got home the reason became very clear. If I had taken the usual route home I would have been right in the line of fire at the exact time the shooting took place.
If there was ever any doubt in my mind that the Universe has my back and that I am here for a very distinct purpose this mornings events really solidified how protected I am. I’m so clear of the value of keeping my vibes high and my energy consistent. If I was in a lower energetic state or not used to hearing and following the guidance of my higher self/intuition I wouldn’t be here writing this right now and my life might be on a very different path.
Today my intuition saved my life and for that I am so deeply grateful.
Radical Self Love supports us in the cultivation of the behaviours, patterns and actions to keep our vibes in highest alignment as often as possible. Today I couldn’t be more grateful for this gift of Radical Self Love.
If you are ready to hop on your Radical Self Love journey our 30 Day RSL program may just be the perfect fit for you! 30 days of Radical Self Love immersion, where we start with simple but powerful shifts to support you in the long term cultivation of the one thing that might just save your life- your self love connection. If you are ready to embrace your intuition, clear your connection to your divine source and feel freaking goooood more consistently- lets do this! xo
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Today my wonderful and inspiring partner posted a fabulous one minute video on his social media feed.
I personally am a big fan of Jim Carrey as he is a fabulous advocate for the human potential and power to create our experience through our activation of either fear or love.
I really dig it when people in the public eye use their platform to spread messages of inspiration, hope, possibility and love.
In this one minute video Jim anchors in some really solid perspective. “You can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance doing what you love”. I completely agree. We have just as much opportunity to create a live filled with abundance, connection and love as we do creating one filled up with lack a limitation.
The way your life unfolds is up to you. The outcomes you produce in your life are directly linked to the quality of thoughts, feelings and actions you repetitively cultivate. At any given time you are either in the domain of fear or the domain of love.
RSL actionable to shift from fear to love in no time: Ask better, more empowered questions from life. Instead of saying “Why me?” take your power back and replace the lack mindset with a better question:
- “What inside me is trying to emerge through this challenge?”
- “What am I being called to learn, grow or strengthen within me”
- “What can I do to be in alignment with my truth, with my desires and with my dreams”.
Interested in better results? Ask better questions. Let yourself be inspired on the regular. Make your top priority feeling good aka being in alignment. To help out on the feeling good and inspired quest, watch this lovely one minute vid!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
My wifey/co-host of the The Awesomeness Advantage shmabigail returned back to Van today and I couldn’t be more thrilled and excited to spend the next week frolicking and adventuring just like we did back in the day!!!
In honour of this very special occasion I will share with you two really RAD Awesomeness Advantage episodes
First Share: Lessons in having a positive self image
Second Share: Musings on self care and self worth
And if you just want a good giggle check out these gems:
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Today wraps up my time in Victoria.
The past three days have been jammed full of creative expression, full on creation, cleansing and so much love.
I chose to do a gentle juice cleanse while I was recording for a few reasons.
- When I’m juicing I feel so much lighter and brighter. This is optimal when going into a state of creation. To feel bright and clear makes the entire process that much more enjoyable.
- Additionally it fills me up with raw life force energy, which is the pure energy of love. When I’m juicing I find it quite easy to dip into deep states of meditation and I am much jollier. Gratitude radiates out of me and I go with the flow so much more.
- I also have a stable levels of energy which is really required when doing work of this nature because it is so energetically consuming.
In this state of super high vibes I am in very clear alignment with my creativity. Which makes recording music a lot easier and enjoyable.
In all my years of writing and recording music this by far was the most incredible and enjoyable process. I just got to be in my flow and the results speak for themselves. Without the pressures of “perfection” I could relax, get into alignment and allow the musical magic to flow through.
I spent about 5 hours in total recording both songs. I recorded the guitar, main vocals and background vocals for both and to do so in such a short amount of time seriously impressed me. We spent today in post production land mixing and putting the finishing touches on both of the tunes- and I am so pumped with how they turned out.
I headed out to a meeting just as the songs were being finished and when I came back to listen to the final product I was blown away. So freaking pumped and honestly really proud of myself and the amazing job I did. Listening to the guitar I was really impressed with how good it sounds and gave myself some serious credit for how far I’ve come in my playing in the past 6 years.
All in all this trip was exactly what my soul needed. I cleansed out the body, opened up to massive amounts of creative energy and allowed love in in a major way. The time I was so blessed to spend with my family, warmed my heart and spiked my energy even higher.
As I return home today I am tired but feel so damn alive and in alignment. So very excited for the next chapter of this crazy awesome adventure called my life 😉
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!