Causing Pain or Causing Happiness: Wisdom From My Yoga Mat- Day 284: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today at the yoga studio we are practicing the spiritual law of Karma, other wise known as cause and effect.

For every action there is an impact, a seed is planted with every thought, feeling and action we take. Those seeds will at some point be the cause of an effect. All situations in our lives can always be traced to the originating thought, feeling and action whether it be positive or negative.

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My dear friend and fabulous instructor said something at the end of class that really struck a chord with me. She heard this from one of her teachers growing up and I felt it had incredible significance for me right now. She said:

“We either make decisions that cause pain or decisions that cause happiness”.

I reflected on this in a few ways.

First I reflected being the cause of an effect in another person. Every interaction I have with someone holds the opportunity to either cause them pain or cause them happiness. Certainly in my past I’ve made crap loads of decisions that absolutely lead to the experience of pain in someone else. I’ve also made a tonne of choices that lead to the experience of happiness in someone else.

With this increased awareness I really have brought this question to the fore front of my mind when it comes to my interactions with another: “Is what I am about to do or say going to cause an experience of pain or happiness- either immediately or in the future?

This simple check in with myself allows me the conscious space to be acting from a place of integrity, honesty and respect.

The second way I reflected on it was more personal. I reflected that every thought, feeling or action I take has the potential to either cause me a future experience of pain or happiness. It has become very clear to me over these past few weeks of deep heart healing and soul work that I have been engaging in a major addiction to negative obsession (more on this in a future posty post). These obsessive thoughts I’ve been “indulging” in have lead to the effect of feeling shit, anxious and fearful- which is not good for anyone, especially me.

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Inside of this super clear ahhh haa! moment today I can see how my insecurities have been rooted in the choices of thoughts, feelings and actions I was taking. This ultimately is the cause of my pain (even though it was an unconscious behaviour, the choice still lead to the pain).

Now the unconscious has been made conscious and I’m already beginning to see a shift. I “outed” myself to a couple girlfriends today and I also told this truth to my partner. Doing so reduces my access to indulge in these patterns. When we share our awakenings and awarenesses of our patterns to our close peeps they generally don’t give us space to keep running them, because they see us as someone who is capable of overcoming this layer of growth.

So here I am tonight “outing” myself to all you beauties. My major shift will be happening inside- in the ways in which I think, feel and act towards myself and my relationship. The self awareness muscle I’ve built when it comes to others and understanding the future impact I am responsible for with them, will serve me greatly in taking on this new area of internal transformation. I will keep you all posted on this internal journey as I have a feeling this one hold a pretty massive treasure inside 🙂

Mega gratitude and love to my soul sisters who held space for me today, for my soul family who always has my back, to my incredible, patient and loving partner who always calls me to be greater and step into my brilliance, and for each and every one of you beautiful souls part of this self love movement- you all make this world such a brighter place through your awareness, willingness to step into love and your ability to move forward fearlessly.

You are all amazing in my eyes and I love you dearly!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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Spirituality and Body Image- DAY 283: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Spiritual Guides To Healing Our Body Image

A fellow RSL member reached out to me the other day to request any books about positive body image.

The first person who came to my mind was the lovely Gabby Bernstein.

I would recommend both Spirit Junkie and May Cause Miracles.

Gabby teaches through her real life experiences with spirituality and body image in both of these books.

Additionally I would recommend Doreen Virtue’s book Constant Craving and her audio program Healing Your Appetite, Healing Your Life- A Spiritual Approach to Life and Weight Management.

And of course the ever amazing lady to started this entire spiritual community Louise Hay. Her book You Can Heal Your Life is a must have.

I also tracked down a really great interview Gabby did a while back which touches on body image from a spiritual perspective. I love all of these authors and speakers and have really resonated with each of these books/programs. I have gone through each one and I can say with full certainty these gems certainly helped along my path of self love, self acceptance and developing a more body positive self image.

Happy Exploring ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Beauty Of A First Kiss- Day 262: 365 Radical Self Love Project

A beautiful friend of mine posted a link to this beautiful video tonight. Here is the original posty post.

The premise is 20 strangers were asked to kiss for the first time and what unfolds is nothing short of beautiful.

To me this video truly showcased the gorgeousness of our humanity and the heart connection that is possible between us all.

Check it out and let me know what you think!!

The yumminess of a first kiss is just a fabulous thing 😉

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpbDHxCV29A

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

When Life Doesn’t Go The Way You Planned Roll With It- Day 260: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan, in fact it often doesn’t.

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The past 48 hrs have been a complete testament to this.

Yesterday morning my partner and I awoke to his car being broken into. The strange thing- absolutely nothing was stolen. Just a smashed window. However this turn of events meant I missed the only class I could fit into my day for the 21 Day challenge.

Today I had to take the car into be fixed early in the morning and to my surprise it took a whopping 4.5 hours to fix it and by the time it was all picked up, paid for and handled I had missed yet another day of classes.

What this experience has taught me

Life is always in a perpetual state of change and flux. We can either resist it and get drawn up into the land of guilt, upset and frustration OR we can go with the flow and experience expansion, freedom and growth.

I chose the path of acceptance.

I stopped making myself wrong, the circumstance wrong or anything or anyone else wrong and just relax into the flow of change.

Even though I have missed two days it was the best thing for me. My body needed rest and it gave me time to myself to write, catch up on tasks from the week I wanted to do and do some solid life reflection which is always fabulous and juicy.

I still have every intention to get in 21 classes in 21 days it just is going to look a little bit different that how I initially planned and there in lies the deeper lesson. Our intentions always get fulfilled, just not always in the ways we first see or in the exact timing we want. But they always happen.

Lesson learned.

Lesson loved.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

RSL Feature Friday- Alex Echols One Life Brand- Day 259: 365 Radical Self Love Project

WAAHOOOO!!! It’s Radical Self Love‘s Feature Friday time love faces!

Radical Self Love Kelsey GrantToday I get the super awesome pleasure of introducing you all to the incredible and beautiful soul Alex Echols.

Alex and I connected first through an event I work each year called Awesomeness Fest– he was one of our delegates last year in Bali and from there our paths crossed. As a fellow Afester I knew we would share a lot of common ground as all peeps in the Afest tribe are up to some pretty inspiring and impactful work in the world- it’s one of the requirements! Since getting to know Alex over this past year he certainly had surpassed my expectations of a human doing incredible heart centred and inspired work for this world.

1lifelogocircleAlex is the creator of One Life Brand Co and the editor atOne Life Momentum. A few months back he so graciously brought me on as a guest contributor for his site. It was my great honour to support him in what he is up to and help spread messages of positivity and inspiration into the hearts of the masses.

This is what Alex does day in day out. His personal philosophy is to make the most of each moment and the most of each day in order to live life to it’s fullest potential.

Why we love Alex:

As a member of RSL Alex deeply understands the importance of self care first and foremost. He gets that in order for him to show up for life, show up for his community and to lead by inspired action, his tank needs to be full first. Self care and self love is first on the list of to-accomplish every day for this man. He stars his day before the sun rises, heads to the gym for a high vibin workout, follows it up with some solo quiet time, meditation and gratitude. Sounds very similar to our RSL am routines!

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To begin every day like this takes something. It takes dedication and it takes being connected to something greater than ourselves. If we are just getting up every day for us the motivation fades, but when we get up every day and invest in ourselves in this manor because we KNOW it is going to increase our ability to positively serve others, bring the energies of positivity and love into the awareness of others and to really make a solid impact on the world- the inspiration of that knowingness calls us to get up and show up. Alex is one of these people who really understands this on a massive level and practices this in real time.

We love that he has made the conscious connection between his ability to be a powerful positive contribution and taking care of himself first and foremost.

Why Alex is our Featured RSL Member today:

We LOVE what he is up to with One Life. He currently has 4 different key parts to his company and all of them beautifully fit our mission of being a positive contribution and doing what we can to make this world a more beautiful, open and love filled place to be.

The first being the work he does with start ups and for-benefit entrepreneurs to create purposeful and effective marketing for their companies AKA helping peeps who have an incredible message get it out in the world.
2. Being the editor or One Life Momentum he has created a space for a community of inspired writers to come together, share insights, wisdom and perspective with peeps all over the world.
3. Rocking the nutrition and fitness coaching and training to support peeps with getting their bodies into a state of harmony, strength and health. LOVE it!
4. Creating One Life Merchandise which allows peeps to align themselves with a powerful and uplifting mission “to live their dreams and inspire others to do the same”.

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All four aspects of Alex’s company are so incredible and a true heart contribution to this world. We love his personal mission to inspire people to be their greatest selves and that their dreams are valid and they have within their reach anything they can dream possible. We love that he is infusing this mission into his company and into the way he lives his day to day life.

A huge element of Alex’s ability to be this support and do what he does is highly correlated with his perspectives of self love. For Alex self love means at the core knowing when to say yes and when to say no. He understands that self love allows him to really enjoy life while at the same time being conscious and mindful of his choices and decisions. Everything we do has an impact and what I really personally jive with is that we both share the perspective that even though some choices may be initially gratifying they may not actually benefit us long term and to make choices and decisions that will bring forth long term sustainable success and happiness.

Alex is a beautiful bright light in this world and we are truly honoured to feature him today and have him be a fabulous contribution to this community!

Radical Self Love Kelsey Grant Alex EcholsCurrently Alex is looking to feature the stories of other inspired peeps up to greatness in the world. To submit a contribution/writing to One Life Momentum you can do so by heading over to his website:www.onelifemomentum.com

And finally it is with extreme giddiness and epic congratulations that we get to support Alex in celebrating his TEDxSydney talk in 2015!!!! It makes my heart so happy to see a thought leader and an inspiration magnet like Alex take the stage and spread the LOVEEE!!

To connect with Alex further you can catch him at:

Website: www.onelifemomentum.com and www.alexechols.com
Facebook: http://facebook.com/aaechols 
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/alexecholstv
Instagram: http://instagram.com/alex_echols/

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
KG
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Celebrating B-School With Some Yummy Yin- Day 259: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well lovers I made the leap.

I registered myself for this years round of Marie Forleo’s B-School!!! I am beyond pumped and I am so excited to be back in the classroom and learn.

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One of the most valuable lessons I have learned throughout my life is the value of investing into myself and my future. The last time I made an investment of this magnitude (I registered for the Landmark Forum and went on to complete the entire curriculum for living) my life forever changed.

I repaired my relationship with my parents.
I got closure on a significant relationship I had just left.

I opened my heart to love.

I got mega clear on what I was looking for and felt inspired and powerful to take action.
I accessed the courage to ask for what I wanted in love.
I moved cities.
I created a soul tribe in my new city. These people are now my closest family mates, friends and business partners.
I started my own business and began living my soul purpose.
I was totally freed up to live my life, by my design.
I began attracting opportunities for growth and expansion and all the tools to get me to this point I’m at meow.

And now it is time to take the leap again, level up, invest into myself, my development and the expansion of this beautiful company and incredible community.

It’s been a pretty big step for me to take and I am certain this investment, this learning platform is the tool I am requiring to blast through to the next level of fabulousness, to be able to serve my purpose and serve this community to my greatest capacity. I am incredibly excited for what the future holds being a part of this incredible new community.

It has finally sunk in today that I am saying a big time YES to me, a big time YES to life and a BIG time YES to my soul purpose.

It is an honour to be here with you all and I am truly looking forward to being able to serve you lovers and support you all in going to your next level whatever that might be.

Our tribe here at RSL is so precious and I am delighted to watch it grow and to see you all THRIVE in your greatness.

To celebrate this massive win and HUGE new chapter I am taking myself to a hot yin class, to stretch out, relax and enjoy some sacred partner time with my man.

Feeling blessed, excited and ready to ROCK it!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Beauty- It’s Something That You Just Have To BE- Day 257: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“Beauty was not a thing I could acquire or consume it was something that I just had to BE” ~ Lupita Nyong’o

This beautiful speech on beauty was shared with us today at RSL. It was so incredibly inspiring I wanted to share it with you all.

At some point on the path of Radical Self Love we are all faced with looking at our perceptions of beauty. It is within the awareness of these perceptions where we can begin to design new ideas and beliefs around beauty that inspire us, uplift us and empower us to embrace our divinity and greatness.

This video is a most incredible reminder that beauty isn’t something that we get it is something that we are- and we are the only ones who can uncover and radiate our unique beauty out into the world.

So. Beautiful.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kelsey

A Common False Belief About Self Love And The Easy Shift To Change It- Day 256: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“No one will love you if you don’t love yourself”

This is a super popular quote in the land of self love and in all honesty I believe it’s sending a message that isn’t quite making the mark.

I don’t actually believe this is true. I think it is very possible for others to love us even when we aren’t quite loving ourselves.

There is a distinction to be made though.

The distinction is this, if we are not loving ourselves we won’t be able to identify and accept the love that is ever present around us.

Radical Self Love Kelsey GrantIf our internal code is one of despair, rejection of the self, anger and any of the other tag-a-longs of the fear camp, we are unable to resonate with the energies of love. It is simply incompatible. This doesn’t mean that other people wont love us though. It means despite their efforts to show love and connect, our internal code will throw up the defences and find ways to push this love away.

 

The shift then becomes one of “How can I love myself MORE so that I can increase my ability to open, accept and receive the love and abundance that is always trying to make it’s way to me?” 

So the next time you hear the phrase “no one will love you unless you love yourself first” gently remind yourself that “when I love myself I am more easily able to accept, receive and identify the abundance of love always present in my life”.

Ahhhh yes. Now that sure feels better 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Early Morning Intention Leads The Way To Awesomeness- Day 255: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Last night I made a promise.

A promise to myself.

I gave my word that I would get up at 5:55am and be at the first hot yoga class of the day at 6:30.

I did it and the inspirational impact was HUGE.

radical self love kelsey grant I was tired this morning because of course I wasn’t tired last night when my ego knew I was wanting to get up early. But even in the midst of being tired, I rolled out of bed and was out the door at 6:04.

My intention throughout my practice was to feel good. I made my choices on the depth of the postures based on what felt good to me in that moment.

When we set an intention often at some point our resistance to the intention will present itself. I am certain this happens for one reason only.

So that we can bring our intention to the ego flair.

Bring acceptance to the resistance.

Bring light into our shadow.

So that we can clear another layer that would otherwise hold us back from truly experiencing that which we have intended.

So this moment came up for me upon returning home. I was thinking thoughts that lead me to feel not so great. I began having thoughts of doubt and upset about the work I do and where I perceived I was at. In this moment I had a choice I could either let this story run or I could access my intention to lead me elsewhere.

I chose my intention.

Just because my intention was to feel good I couldn’t in the moment make that flash change of state. So I asked for help. I reached out to my partner and told him what I was feeling, what I was afraid of and got it out rationally. He offered some fabulous perspective and reframes which helped clear so much of the sticky energy out.

The energy still hadn’t quite cleared itself completely so I asked myself what do I need right now to feel good. My body said rest and my eyes were drawn to a particular crystal. So I listened. I grabbed the crystal put it in my left hand and had a mini nap. When I awoke I was bright, feeling clear and most importantly feeling good.

I went on to have an absolutely incredible day connecting with people all over the world, rocking interviews for Awesomeness Fest. I seriously had the honour of talking with some of the most kind, inspiring and uplifting souls today.

Abundance on every level- feeling goodness on every level- and it all was possible because I kept my word to myself.

I did exactly what I told myself I would.

I embraced the flow of the day and asked for support when I needed it.

I allowed the energy of possibility and goodness to fill me right up.

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Setting this clear intention and honouring my integrity were the two fundamentals in creating a day filled with inspiration, love, connection and abundance. This 21 Day Yoga Challenge is calling me to play at a bigger level and is having a substantial impact and it was only day 3 😉

Excited what the remaining 18 days have in store!!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Gentle Sunday To Seal The Healing- Day 254: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Often when we go through deep transformational shifts of any kind there is a phase of time when our tenderness and rawness requires us to embrace our new opening with some solid tender loving care.

After the deep healing and opening of this past week I knew today was one of those juicy days to relax, enjoy and most importantly be gentle.

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I didn’t set an alarm today and just woke up when my body wanted.

I made a super healthy breakfast for me and my man, drank some baileys and coffee, snuggled up on the couch and just spent time doing the things that made me happy.

  • Perusing Pinterest
  • Getting fully prepped for my full days work tomorrow
  • Devouring an amazing book
  • Having heart to heart chats with the roomie
  • Receiving graciously a gift from my roomie
  • Making yummy raw salad snacks
  • And signing up for a delicious restorative hot yin class to close out the night.

The path to healing is unique to each of us but the process of what we need remains very similar. After we go deep- we need some gentle recoup time.

Just like when we fatigue our muscles in the gym to the max we need a rest day. Same goes for our spiritual and emotional training.

It feels good to be good to me and I am so looking forward to dancing with this space I have set free within me for this next chapter of my experience.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels