5 Simple Ways To Start Loving Where You Are- Day 363: 365 Radical Self Love Project

radical self love kelsey grantIf there is one thing I have noticed in all my years as a coach and facilitator is that a large portion of peeps have challenge being ok with they are in the present moment- never mind actually loving where they are. The path of Radical Self Love supports us in learning what our own experience of peace of mind is and in the process we end up realizing we actually really love who we are and the life we lead- wherever we might be.

5 Self Loving Steps to Loving Where You Are

1. Drop the lack and limitation.

Nothing much changes when we’re in an incompatible vibe to that which we seek. Meaning we must be in a state of harmony and peace before the manifestation ball really gets going. If we are fully consumed with labouring and convincing ourselves and the people around us how much lack we are experiencing the Universe responds to your state of repeated focus by sending you more of what you are so dominantly focused on. When you make a conscious effort to drop the lack talk and instead focus on all you do have you bring yourself immediately into a place of love and appreciation for the present.

2. Make joy a priority.

Each day choose one positive simple actionable. The sole focus of this action is to usher in massive joy. There are a lot of things you do or have done in your life that just make you freaking happy. These are often the simplest things- going for a walk in the woods, cracking jokes with friends, snuggling a animal, playing with crystals or oracle cards (one of my personal fav’s)- it will be different for everyone and there is a high probability the actionable will be different for you every day depending what’s up and how you are feeling. Doing things you love and that bring out the happiness within, support you immediately in feeling lit up about the now.

3. Take inventory on your accomplishments.

Humans have developed this habit of diminishing their accomplishments and not giving themselves credit for the awesomeness they have achieved. Of course we feel like shit and resist where we are at when we do this- it never feels good to feel like we are under performing or failing. When you are clear of how much you have actually achieved over your lifetime and even the course of a few short months your heart will settle into a place of great elation and calm down an over active mind. If it’s challenging at first to find evidence I would highly recommend you take this practice, make it a regular part of your self love routine and write those wins down as they happen.

When I was in a really rough place a few years ago I kept an evidence and accomplishment journal. Every day before bed I would write down all the actions I took that contributed to the expansion of my business and my dreams. I also recorded ALL the manifestations, attractions, accomplishments and wins of that day alone. It became very clear very quickly I achieve a lot more than I give myself credit for and I experience so many wins that my ego tries with all it’s might to diminish and bury. If this is where you are at- start here and watch those vibes soar.

4. Get still.

Seriously, start meditating. When the mind is an untamed circus you will inevitably feel out of control, overwhelmed and unhappy in the now. When we take our power back, get still and confront what is actually going on in our minds we can consciously direct a different result. Facing and embracing the monkey mind is the first step to causing a new and expanded result. A regular practice of stillness helps us to more easily distinguish between the racket of the ego and the truth of our hearts. If you have never meditated before sitting silent alone with your thoughts is likely uncomfortable and deters you. So set yourself up for success, find an avenue that works for now and work towards sitting in silence one day. Start with short guided meditations. Start small and create a vibration of success by achieving an abundance of little milestones. Find ways that work for you and forget the rest.

5. Celebrate someone else.

When the ego has gone into mega overdrive (aka when we think we should be anywhere other than where we are) we’ve gone into full self absorption and separation land. When you celebrate another person, praise their wins or just find something you are grateful for about them, you fast track your way out of the pit of self absorption despair and enter the beautiful vibe of being a positive contribution to someone else. When we are kind and extend acts of kindness towards others our hearts crack wide open. An open heart is a present heart. A present heart is a content and happy heart. A happy heart isn’t trying to “get” somewhere other than where it is. It understands there is an ever present and ever evolving progression to our experience and it is inevitable in a Universe that is friendly and for you, that more goodness is on it’s way and that goodness will arrive in perfect divine timing.

If you are ready to take your self love practice to the next level check out our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program. This beauty has been intentionally designed to set you up for success, dial in the self love practices that really work for YOU and give you a solid foundation to take your life and relationships to a place of harmony, bliss, abundance and beautiful juicy magnificent love.

You deserve to be happy right now.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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Our New Home Is All Official!!! Day 343: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today we signed all the papers for our new home and we are freaking STOKED!!!!

There are some pretty magical manifestation vibes which have embodied this entire experience. I knew based on my past 5 years of playing with manifestation and the law of attraction consciously, that this experience would be as easy or as challenging as I decided it would be.

This move is a really big deal for me as it means leaving the home where I have established my new direction as an entreprenur, coach and business owner. I have learned so many challenging and uplifting lessons in this space and saying goodbye is pretty significant. This move to me symbolizes leaving the cucoon and fully flying into the world.

It is no coincidence that upon the completion of this year long blogging project we will be moving and shortly after moving homes we launch our very first RSL ebook which is a game changer. We are levelling up and shits getting really radically real in the best possible way!!

So with all that emotional and energetic stuff going on I wanted the process of finding, attracting and solidifying a new place to be easy, fully in flow and a fun exciting experience.

Five days after looking at the space we received word we had been approved and if we wanted the place it was ours. We received all the official documents last night 2 days after we heard of our approval. Everything so far has been such an easy transition, our landlord is happy and really easy to get along with. Her friendly demenour along with her high level of integrity (she has followed through impeccibly on every promise and by when that she has given us) has made this process easy and delightful for both of us.

Now that all the papers are signed and delivered we are pumped to officially announce it to the world! We are both so excited for this new chapter and to move into our beautiful new home in one months time! It’s pretty rad to have everything complete and sorted one month in advance.

Here is a sneak peek into our beautiful new space! I am so in love with this kitchen and view!!!!

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We are conscious creators of our experience and it takes just as much energy to intend a positive, fulfilling and ease filled intention/manifestation- just sayin 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

It’s Official- We’re Moving!! Day 325: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It was official yesterday afternoon.

We made the choice to move out and completely let go of the space I’ve been living in for the last 4.5 years. This signifies a pretty big change in my life as these past 4.5 years have completely shaped my life in a new direction and this apartment has been in incubator for my growth, development, healing and massive soul alignment.

It is with a slightly heavy heart I will say goodbye to this place but the beauty of a new chapter and new beginning is strong within too.

This is a wonderful new chapter for my partner and I. We’ve been living together for the past 10 months and this will mark a pretty significant change for the both of us. Our own place, just the two of us. Which is pretty pretty awesome! I’m pretty sure this means a kitten and a puppy are in our near future 😉

cute_kitten_with_bow_tieYAY for new beginnings and probably bringing this awesome new addition into our little family fully equipped with his own rainbow collection of bow ties ❤

Embracing change, letting go and levelling up!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Embracing Change- 5 Secrets To Making Change Stick: Day 312: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today on Marie TV is a special interview.

Marie interviews Todd Herman on the secrets to change and making it stick. With all the convo’s I’ve heard lately with feeling stuck or experiencing resistance along the path of Radical Self Love I figured this would be an amazing resource to share with all of you lovers!

Enjoy!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

When Life Doesn’t Go The Way You Planned Roll With It- Day 260: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan, in fact it often doesn’t.

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The past 48 hrs have been a complete testament to this.

Yesterday morning my partner and I awoke to his car being broken into. The strange thing- absolutely nothing was stolen. Just a smashed window. However this turn of events meant I missed the only class I could fit into my day for the 21 Day challenge.

Today I had to take the car into be fixed early in the morning and to my surprise it took a whopping 4.5 hours to fix it and by the time it was all picked up, paid for and handled I had missed yet another day of classes.

What this experience has taught me

Life is always in a perpetual state of change and flux. We can either resist it and get drawn up into the land of guilt, upset and frustration OR we can go with the flow and experience expansion, freedom and growth.

I chose the path of acceptance.

I stopped making myself wrong, the circumstance wrong or anything or anyone else wrong and just relax into the flow of change.

Even though I have missed two days it was the best thing for me. My body needed rest and it gave me time to myself to write, catch up on tasks from the week I wanted to do and do some solid life reflection which is always fabulous and juicy.

I still have every intention to get in 21 classes in 21 days it just is going to look a little bit different that how I initially planned and there in lies the deeper lesson. Our intentions always get fulfilled, just not always in the ways we first see or in the exact timing we want. But they always happen.

Lesson learned.

Lesson loved.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Dealing With Your Complaints In Love- Relationship Real Talk Time- Day 235: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Persistent complaints in relationships.

The judgements we have about others are a fascinating thing. The biggest illusion we all get caught in is thinking our complaints are the truth. They may occur that way, in fact they often do. The thicker the illusion the more our complaints seem real.

Here is the Kicker

Your complaints about your partner are not about your partner- they are about you.

This is one of the main reasons why most relationship issues are rarely resolved. We think the problem is someone else. They need to change. They need to fix something about themselves. Judgement after judgement.

All this judging cuts us off from our life force and the love within.

Inner-PeaceFor those of you who are ready to drop the exhausting loop of illusion and fear, keep reading because this will forever change the way in which YOU show up for your relationships and will forever change YOUR experience of success and flow in love.

Every complaint you have about your partner (or anyone in your life) is something within YOU that you haven’t dealt with, claimed and forgiven. These are shadows lying dormant within you. This will flare most egos to the point where they refuse to see the truth within.

What we see in someone is the greatest divine gift we could give ourselves. To set ourselves free from the burden of illusion is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and for the people in our lives.

It frees us up to live.
It frees us up to love.

Use your relationship to come into a better understanding of yourself and take yourself to a new level of greatness. Remember, the truth will always set you free. 

  1. Examine the complaints you have about your partner or the people in your life. What are they? Write them down.
  2. Next reflect on where in your life this is actually true about you. Rewrite all the statements from a place of owning it. “When I say this about my partner what it means about me is…”
  3. Once you have reflected on the ways in which your complaints of others is a reflection of your own shadow do the deep and brave work of reflecting on how do you treat your partner when you have these thoughts about them? How does it feel in you when you treat them this way?
  4. Next ask yourself are these complaints about your partner actually true? Truth in the sense that these thoughts are expressions of love. Go through every single complaint until you see it clearly.
  5. Now ponder, who would you be without this story you have about your complaints?
  6. Finally what do you need to do for you to repair these illusions within you? What do you need to say to you? What gift has this person brought into your life?

We set ourselves free when we are able to get really honest with ourselves and come clean about the lies we have been harbouring. Most people don’t actually want to know the truth which is why they don’t ever ask these tough questions. We all have these illusions running rampant within. The beautiful reality is that if you have read this far you are one of those people who are willing, ready and able to really own your place in this world and own your greatness when it comes to love and relationships.

When we come to understand that people will do what they do until they don’t, we see obstacles, challenges and breakdowns from a new powerful place.

Love-coupleWhen your partner doesn’t do the things that trigger you anymore is a pure reflection of the resolution you have found within. At this stage, your partner may actually continue the behaviour we previously found a trigger in, however we have changed our perception and idea about it within ourselves, found peace within and are no longer controlled by the illusion. It is from this place we don’t even recognize the behaviour any more and all we see is love.

 

 

The love we see outside of ourselves reflects the love we have within us. For more juiciness like this come join us for a 9 week Journey into the land of Radical Self Love and Relationships. Our online course begins Feb 19th and we have a couple spots left for the people who are ready and willing to take their relationships to the next level of greatness! Email me at rsl@kelseygrant.com for more details and to register!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

My Most Vulnerable Share Of All Time- Day 219: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well lovers I have something really big to share with you today.

sacral-chakra-swadhisthana-dirk-czarnotaMy intimate journey of Radical Self Love has been a long process. Filled with many ups and just as many downs. It is these times of great challenge when we are called to change.

In this piece I share one of the greatest life changing moments. A moment when I was faced with the choice to live a life filled with fear and pain or choose the path of love, healing and transformation.

I never really knew, until this point, what it meant when people said it’s only when you get sick that life quickly gets put into perspective and change is no longer a choice but a necessary path to ensure survival. 

So here it is for you loves, my guest contribution article for My Tiny Secrets.

**Disclaimer**

This article is an incredibly intimate account of sexuality, dis-ease and healing.

I am honoured to share this with you all in the hopes that my share may set others free from the prison of fear and open just a few more hearts and minds to the path of love.

Check out the article HERE

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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Reading the Signs From the Universe. Day 190: 365 Radical Self Love Project

The Universe is always communicating with us.

signFor those who are open, willing and receptive we can learn to read the signs and the communication from the Universe to keep us on path and keep us living on purpose.

One of the main ways the Universe speaks to me is through numbers. There are three sets of numbers I kept seeing on repeat today and for the past few days.

555- The Vibration of Change.

This is a message of big time change and shifting. It is the energy of making choices, life changes and being open to going with the flow of life. It reminds us to be open and receptive to adventure, new opportunities, activities. The changes you are being called to make are for your highest good, brings forward long awaited circumstance and results and a full alignment with your divine life purpose and soul mission. The key to this alignment is staying centred in meditation and positive affirmation and healthy habits. This is a time to let go of the old to make way for the new.

888- The Omen of Abundance.

This is a message that financial and material abundance is on it’s way to you and it possibly suggests the receiving of unexpected rewards from past good work. Possibly times when you have worked for free (in alignment with your soul purpose) or given of yourself in the early phases of developing your craft or your life path work. It is a sign that your life’s work and mission is completely supported by the Universe and reminds you that the Universe is abundant and generous and the wish is to share the prosperity with you. This is a very auspicious sign that money is flowing to you.

999- The Energy of Completion.

This is a message that a very important phase of your life path is coming to a completion. This completion is required for your soul mission and is the clearing to fully pursue your life’s purpose and life work. The main themes of this energy are harmonious communication, inner resolve and strength, leadership, humanitarianism, leading by example, intuition, insight, being in service to others and the greater good and becoming an example of the Universal Laws in action. In this omen there is a reminder that a abundance of guidance is available to you from your guides, angels and Universal energies all you must do is ask for assistance in fulfilling what is required of your life’s mission. This cycle of completion is required to bring to you a new lifestyle reflective of your positive and love filled life-path work. To see this message is a important reminder to take action on your life’s purpose and soul work immediately. Once the step is taken the next one will be given to you.

I am so clear right now that 2014 is going to be a fabulous year for us here at Radical Self Love. The messages are clear from the Universe that the more we do to keep the mission of self love alive and support others in their self love journeys, the more we all benefit. This is such a fabulous sign of support and encouragement from the Universe.

I am incredibly stoked for this new year ahead and for all of us to blossom and thrive together!!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Releasing Attachment and Embracing Acceptance: What One Hair Cut Taught Me- Day 173: 365 Radical Self Love Project

This past week has brought a new level of awareness and eventually self acceptance into my experience.

About a week ago I went to go get my hair cut. I’m very particular about my hair and lets just be honest, I’m totally attached to it. It took me five years to grow it out and I have always really loved long hair. So imagine my surprise when my long locks were lying on a pile on the floor below my chair. When something like this happens there really isn’t much to do except eventually get to a place of acceptance via shifting internal perceptions.

What this hair cut taught me:

1. Un-communicated expectations are at the root of many, and most upsets.

I had an expectation of how my hair was going to look, I showed a picture and it turned out very different. Had I communicated how important it was to me to keep the length of my hair, perhaps it would have gone differently, perhaps it wouldn’t. The point though is not my hair, but what my hair brings to my awareness. If I have uncommunicated expecations with a hair cut- I have them all over my life. It is now up to me to discover where these expecations exists and then *GASP* communicate them effectively.

2. Attachment to an outcome is painful.

I was really set on the way it was going to go and when it turned out differently I completely had a meltdown and continued to experience internal conflict-all because I had a very strong attachment to how it should go. Like anything in life what is meant to happen is what does. Everything happens for a reason and when we hold death grips on our expectations we rob ourselves from the opportunity to see what we are being called to learn. There is always a greater and higher reasoning to why things happen the way they do. I can see first hand why having these restrictive attachments is something my higher self was guiding me to release- the more I embrace going with the flow and being clear in my expectations, the more I can actually relax and trust that whatever happens is what is meant to happen for my highest good. This does wonders for the experience of inner peace, happiness, abundance and flow. For True.

3. I am my biggest critic.

This massive change brought up a whole lot of “stuff” about feeling pretty, attractive and sexy. This entire situation has brought to my attention how hard I can be on myself and my physical appearance. What this also really brought to my attention was the fact that until my internal state resonates with the positive feedback I was receiving from others, I will actually reject what is coming at me externally. Meaning every single person I have come into contact with since getting the hair cut has affirmed just how amazing it actually looks- I couldn’t accept their praise as the truth simply because that was not what I believed inside. It wasn’t until today when I fully embranced, accepted and could see the beauty of it that I could really take in the positive feedback externally as truth.

4. The things that trigger an upset are not actually what we are upset about.

WHHHAAAT??!!! Yup it’s true, while I’ve known this for quite some time this entire experience drove the lesson home even more. I was triggered into an upset by my hair cut. Deep down what I was actually upset with was much different. The hair cut was just the surface trigger point to lead me to a deeper understanding of myself and the profound richness of my being. It was really about: my levels of self acceptance, my communication skills and my self perceptions. I have learned through this experience to see myself as beautiful no matter what, to accept myself as a beautiful and attractive woman inside and out, to level up my communication, learn how to communicate my expectations clearly, and how to allow the positive feedback from the outside guide me towards developing a more positive and loving relationship with myself.

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So all things considered this was indeed one of the best hair cuts I have ever received, because it was so much more than a change in physical appearance. It inspired the transformation of my self acceptance, my body acceptance, my body love and ultimately my self love. This is a win, a really big one 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Choice of Love is a Choice of Peace- Day 123: 365 Radical Self Love Project

When things aren’t going right go left.

radical self love kelsey grantSometimes in life we hit roadblocks. It’s just part of the process. The entire journey of Radical Self Love has taught me loads and heaps on how to deal with these roadblocks more effectively.

This afternoon I hit one. I was doing some adminy stuff for the website/company and it just wasn’t working. My past behaviour would have been to get super frustrated and keep going at it until it “fixed” itself. Instead today after the second attempt of resolving the issue failed, I stopped. I took a deep breath and I moved on.

The Tool of walking away, cooling off, giving some space and returning to love

Where else in our lives could we use such a powerful tool? A good time might be in the heat of an argument with a partner. Inside of relationship fights we are often so set on being right and making sure the other person is wrong that we will keep at it and hammering away at the same points, in the same fashion until one party gives up and the other one “wins”.

In my experience this isn’t winning at all. It’s enhancement of the ego and the ripple of fear, anger and upset into the world. I certainly have done this, many times. Every time I do I get the same result- more pain, more upset and more separation.

A choice of Love is a choice of peace

radical self love kelsey grantWhat I am ever learning to do is to stop the dysfunctional behaviour right away. Often times this means a cooling off period. This can be applied to anything. Blocked creativity, relationship blowouts, business problems- it really is the same solution. Stop “trying” to find the inspiration or the answer, instead get up, move around, get outside, go interact with people, focus on being of service, do anything that takes your mind off the issue and brings you back to the bliss of this present moment.

Through the process of diverting the attention off the lack or that which is not working, we free ourselves up for divine flow, creativity and inspiration to enter into our conscious awareness. This is when the miraculous solutions appear. We have to open to them. The only way we are open to, what I like to call Divine Intervention, is when our hearts are open. Our hearts are open when we are vibin in love and in the present moment.

I trust the solution will appear for the website and the admin stuff. For now I have chosen to let it go, focus on creating a wonderful forgiveness session for tomorrows classroom, planning my man’s bday present and showing up for my life in just a different way than I had originally planned today.

I know when I free up the space around the “issue” it will resolve itself very quickly and in a manor I could not yet see. So until that moment I will enjoy this one. I will savour the sweetness of this day. I refuse to allow a tiny setback today spiral my energy and day out of positivity land. I choose faith, I choose happiness, I choose surrender, I choose peace and most of all I choose love.

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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels