Returning To My Mat- Reconnecting To My Body- Day 319: 365 Radical Self Love Project

After a 3 week hiatus of healing the body I finally got to return to my yoga mat today!!!

It felt so incredible to be back in the yoga studio, soaking up all the amazing feel good vibes and really getting present with my body.

These three weeks of pretty intense self reflection and stillness have had a profound impact on my practice. I found it so much easier today to tune into my body and really feel into my muscles and be clear where I was holding tension. I also found it much easier today to relax into the posture and begin surrendering into the posture and releasing the tension in my muscles.

Not surprising my shoulders, hips and side body were the tightest and after an hour long practice I felt completely intune and aligned in my body. I am grateful for this time away from my mat as it has really made me appreciate how much my body is responsive to my yoga practice.

I’m so happy to be back in the studio and so so so happy to be tuned in and back in full swing with my yummy yoga practice.

Feeling pretty blessed and very grateful ❤

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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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Causing Pain or Causing Happiness: Wisdom From My Yoga Mat- Day 284: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today at the yoga studio we are practicing the spiritual law of Karma, other wise known as cause and effect.

For every action there is an impact, a seed is planted with every thought, feeling and action we take. Those seeds will at some point be the cause of an effect. All situations in our lives can always be traced to the originating thought, feeling and action whether it be positive or negative.

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My dear friend and fabulous instructor said something at the end of class that really struck a chord with me. She heard this from one of her teachers growing up and I felt it had incredible significance for me right now. She said:

“We either make decisions that cause pain or decisions that cause happiness”.

I reflected on this in a few ways.

First I reflected being the cause of an effect in another person. Every interaction I have with someone holds the opportunity to either cause them pain or cause them happiness. Certainly in my past I’ve made crap loads of decisions that absolutely lead to the experience of pain in someone else. I’ve also made a tonne of choices that lead to the experience of happiness in someone else.

With this increased awareness I really have brought this question to the fore front of my mind when it comes to my interactions with another: “Is what I am about to do or say going to cause an experience of pain or happiness- either immediately or in the future?

This simple check in with myself allows me the conscious space to be acting from a place of integrity, honesty and respect.

The second way I reflected on it was more personal. I reflected that every thought, feeling or action I take has the potential to either cause me a future experience of pain or happiness. It has become very clear to me over these past few weeks of deep heart healing and soul work that I have been engaging in a major addiction to negative obsession (more on this in a future posty post). These obsessive thoughts I’ve been “indulging” in have lead to the effect of feeling shit, anxious and fearful- which is not good for anyone, especially me.

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Inside of this super clear ahhh haa! moment today I can see how my insecurities have been rooted in the choices of thoughts, feelings and actions I was taking. This ultimately is the cause of my pain (even though it was an unconscious behaviour, the choice still lead to the pain).

Now the unconscious has been made conscious and I’m already beginning to see a shift. I “outed” myself to a couple girlfriends today and I also told this truth to my partner. Doing so reduces my access to indulge in these patterns. When we share our awakenings and awarenesses of our patterns to our close peeps they generally don’t give us space to keep running them, because they see us as someone who is capable of overcoming this layer of growth.

So here I am tonight “outing” myself to all you beauties. My major shift will be happening inside- in the ways in which I think, feel and act towards myself and my relationship. The self awareness muscle I’ve built when it comes to others and understanding the future impact I am responsible for with them, will serve me greatly in taking on this new area of internal transformation. I will keep you all posted on this internal journey as I have a feeling this one hold a pretty massive treasure inside 🙂

Mega gratitude and love to my soul sisters who held space for me today, for my soul family who always has my back, to my incredible, patient and loving partner who always calls me to be greater and step into my brilliance, and for each and every one of you beautiful souls part of this self love movement- you all make this world such a brighter place through your awareness, willingness to step into love and your ability to move forward fearlessly.

You are all amazing in my eyes and I love you dearly!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Lessons of a 21 Day Yoga Challenge- Day 274: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Yesterday marked the completion of the 21 day yoga challenge.

I did not complete it as designed and I am totally ok with it.

Here is why:

During this challenge I was brought face to face with something within myself- my ego’s desire to look good. It became very clear to me that my major intention for doing this challenge was to prove to myself I could do it because doing it would make me look good to others in my life.

gentleWell thats all fine and dandy if I had made the choice while taking into consideration of all my other life commitments I had going on at the same time too- AND taking into consideration if the classes offered at the studio would actually harmoniously fit into my jammed schedule. Turns out they didn’t.

For the first week I really stressed myself out to get to yoga- completely anti-yoga- I know, I know 😉

The second week I loosened the reigns on myself and my egos super tight “looking good” grip.

I tuned into what my body actually needed.

I gave myself permission to be flexible, creative and honour my needs

6 Days straight of hot yoga, 1 hot yin class and 1 meditation a week just weren’t working for my body. It was too intense. My schedule didn’t really jive with the studio schedule and the hot classes were pretty much all I could make happen.

When I tuned into what my body wanted everything changed.
  • One day my body was craving a run- so instead of stressing to get to the studio I put on my runners and ran the seawall and enjoyed every second of it.
  • Other days my body craved meditation sessions- so I would load myself up with crystals and zen out in my living room.
  • And other days I made it to my mat in the studio.

I lost track of the amount of classes I took and there were days when I showed up for class and actually forgot about putting a star on the wall chart.

What I “got” about that was it was no longer about the recognition or putting a sticker on the wall (aka listening to the intensity of my ego) it was now about listening to my intuition, my body and my heart. I let my heart guide me day to day to the exact situation that would be best for me in the moment.

I’m so happy I did the challenge because it gave me even deeper perspective, a clearer understanding of my ego and the opportunity to surrender into my path and make the incredible call of what honestly works best for me.

Next time there is a yoga challenge I’ll be sure to put more thought and intention into whether I can honestly make it work or not. Until then I have a wonderful new practice of getting to practice 4-5 times a week. Perhaps that was part of the learning and lesson too 😉

Back to the mat and back to my heart ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Making Time For Love and Dates- Day 268: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today has been all about Love and Dates.

Self love dates, friendship dates and relationship dates.

I woke up nice and early this morning to hit up a hot yoga class with 2 of my friends. It was such a wonderful way to start the day and a fabulous way to get some friend love and friendship dates in the mix.

Following yoga it was time for a self love date. I hopped into my fav coffee shop, grabbed a coffee and a chocolate croissant and set up shop. I had my book and some paper to journal. I spent time mapping out the next evolution of the business, wrote a 2 hour workshop on relationships and read.

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After 2.5 solid hours of me time and heart centred creation I met up with my partner.

We had a mini business meeting about his projects, did some creative masterminding and then headed out for our afternoon date.

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We adventured to a different part of the city, grabbed a coffee, went for a beautiful walk along the beach, had incredible chats about our relationship, how we can strengthen our bond, how we want to grow together, the next chapter of RSL and building this company and the next chapter of our love story. It was amazing.

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Then we went for late afternoon ice cream at this amazing independent shop that just opened recently. Seriously so yummy.

After all of that we made our way home to make an awesome pizza dinner and complete the night with a lil more work/study time then snuggles and movie!

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Pure purrrrfection.

We have so much time every day to make the most of our lives and fit in all the things that truly matter. The key is clearing the space. When we fill up our lives with shit we don’t really want to do or agree to things that drain our energy more than they contribute or we say yes to hanging with peeps when all we really want is some solo time- we find ourselves on the edge of burnout and breakdown.

You are the only one in the drivers seat of your life. You choose what you say yes to and what you say no to. While it may not always be possible to design each and every day this way- we all have responsibilities and such- it is possible to begin to create more time for ourselves doing what we love.

Start with one afternoon a week. A 2 hour window each week that is purely dedicated to YOU and doing exactly what you want. Then expand it from there! You are completely worth it!!!

If you really want to amp it up and learn how to effectively rock the self love train join us in the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program! It’s designed in such a way where we start to build the muscle of imputing time for ourselves little by little each day so we can really thrive in love and life. Sign up HERE

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

When Life Doesn’t Go The Way You Planned Roll With It- Day 260: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan, in fact it often doesn’t.

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The past 48 hrs have been a complete testament to this.

Yesterday morning my partner and I awoke to his car being broken into. The strange thing- absolutely nothing was stolen. Just a smashed window. However this turn of events meant I missed the only class I could fit into my day for the 21 Day challenge.

Today I had to take the car into be fixed early in the morning and to my surprise it took a whopping 4.5 hours to fix it and by the time it was all picked up, paid for and handled I had missed yet another day of classes.

What this experience has taught me

Life is always in a perpetual state of change and flux. We can either resist it and get drawn up into the land of guilt, upset and frustration OR we can go with the flow and experience expansion, freedom and growth.

I chose the path of acceptance.

I stopped making myself wrong, the circumstance wrong or anything or anyone else wrong and just relax into the flow of change.

Even though I have missed two days it was the best thing for me. My body needed rest and it gave me time to myself to write, catch up on tasks from the week I wanted to do and do some solid life reflection which is always fabulous and juicy.

I still have every intention to get in 21 classes in 21 days it just is going to look a little bit different that how I initially planned and there in lies the deeper lesson. Our intentions always get fulfilled, just not always in the ways we first see or in the exact timing we want. But they always happen.

Lesson learned.

Lesson loved.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Early Morning Intention Leads The Way To Awesomeness- Day 255: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Last night I made a promise.

A promise to myself.

I gave my word that I would get up at 5:55am and be at the first hot yoga class of the day at 6:30.

I did it and the inspirational impact was HUGE.

radical self love kelsey grant I was tired this morning because of course I wasn’t tired last night when my ego knew I was wanting to get up early. But even in the midst of being tired, I rolled out of bed and was out the door at 6:04.

My intention throughout my practice was to feel good. I made my choices on the depth of the postures based on what felt good to me in that moment.

When we set an intention often at some point our resistance to the intention will present itself. I am certain this happens for one reason only.

So that we can bring our intention to the ego flair.

Bring acceptance to the resistance.

Bring light into our shadow.

So that we can clear another layer that would otherwise hold us back from truly experiencing that which we have intended.

So this moment came up for me upon returning home. I was thinking thoughts that lead me to feel not so great. I began having thoughts of doubt and upset about the work I do and where I perceived I was at. In this moment I had a choice I could either let this story run or I could access my intention to lead me elsewhere.

I chose my intention.

Just because my intention was to feel good I couldn’t in the moment make that flash change of state. So I asked for help. I reached out to my partner and told him what I was feeling, what I was afraid of and got it out rationally. He offered some fabulous perspective and reframes which helped clear so much of the sticky energy out.

The energy still hadn’t quite cleared itself completely so I asked myself what do I need right now to feel good. My body said rest and my eyes were drawn to a particular crystal. So I listened. I grabbed the crystal put it in my left hand and had a mini nap. When I awoke I was bright, feeling clear and most importantly feeling good.

I went on to have an absolutely incredible day connecting with people all over the world, rocking interviews for Awesomeness Fest. I seriously had the honour of talking with some of the most kind, inspiring and uplifting souls today.

Abundance on every level- feeling goodness on every level- and it all was possible because I kept my word to myself.

I did exactly what I told myself I would.

I embraced the flow of the day and asked for support when I needed it.

I allowed the energy of possibility and goodness to fill me right up.

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Setting this clear intention and honouring my integrity were the two fundamentals in creating a day filled with inspiration, love, connection and abundance. This 21 Day Yoga Challenge is calling me to play at a bigger level and is having a substantial impact and it was only day 3 😉

Excited what the remaining 18 days have in store!!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Healing My Inner Rage With Love and Starting New Chapters- Day 253: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today was Day 1 of my 21 day yoga challenge.

My intention for the next 20 days is to expand into greater levels of inner freedom and self expression. Yoga every day will certainly be a part of that. It will become my daily discipline.

I’ve never done a yoga challenge like this before and I’m excited and a little bit confronted to tell the truth. Showing up to my mat/the studio every day will require a levelling up in my day planning and my week planning. I know I can do it and make it all flow beautifully and I am looking forward to getting to know myself as the person who can accomplish a milestone this significant.

Additional to my daily discipline of yoga I am choosing to actively engage in activities and exercises to expand my sense of inner freedom and happiness.

Today that meant getting in touch with some deep layers of myself I had never given myself permission to explore.
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I got related to my rage, to my inner anger.

All my life I have supressed, stuffed and avoided really exploring my anger. By doing so it is this dark side of me that at times takes over and reaks havoc on beautiful areas of my life. I knew I had to take a look at it. The time had come.

This year has been a wild journey of healing, forgiveness and expanding into love.

But lately I’ve been feeling stopped and I knew it was because of this little rage monster inside that I had never allowed any type of conscious expression or release.

A few nights ago my partner held space for me to begin this process. I do an exercise with all of my clients in which I hold space for them to “clear out all the shit inside they are thinking and feeling”. He gave me the gift I have given to so many.

The experience was harsh, brutal, confronting.
I was mean, vicious, ruthless.
I felt anger, sadness, rage and pain.

And then it was out. The storm passed. The light returned and I for the first time could breathe into those dark spaces that had been holding so much space and energy, and fill them with love.

twin flame, twin soul, twin flame love, twin flame stages, twin flame signs, twin flame, twin flame difficulties, twin flame recognition, twin flame reunion stages, twin flame separation, twin flames separateI will be forever grateful to my partner for the courage it took for him to hold this space, to hear what I was saying about him, our relationship and all the shit that had gone down between us last year. I know it wasn’t easy. But in that moment I saw him more clearly than I ever have. The another layer of the armour around my heart had dissolved and I received the gift of a deeper soul love connection.

He then guided me to a secondary part of the clearing- writing the letter to the other woman. All the things I wish I could have said or had the chance to day. All the judgements, rage, hatred and anger I had been storing in myself this last year- I was to write it all to the best of my abilities- and set myself free.

So I did just that.

Healing the Rage Within

I lit a gratitude candle, so that the light in my heart could remain active as I plunged to the depths of my shadow, I grabbed a lot of paper, sat down and wrote, and wrote and wrote. I kept writing until I was exsausted, until there was nothing left to say. I set the darkness within free. I gave it a stage and a space to be acknowledged and expressed. Then I burnt every page I wrote. One by one and watched the crisp wind of the evening carry the release away. Then I came back inside, lit some cleansing insense and sat down with my crystals and meditated.

I called in the light. I called in love to fill those spaces that were once filled with fear, hartred and rage. I did a forgiveness meditation and sent blessings her way and then I allowed my creative connection to be re-established. I sent my partner one of the most raw and real expressions of love and gratitude post meditation and I felt the new chapter open.

The beginnings of a beautiful new chapter

I am excited about these next 20 days- whatever they hold. I know I will be called to do more release and after the safety of these two clearings I have every faith that whatever I am called to clear I am capable and responsible to address it, feel it and release it in a way that will bring me into greater alignment where I can soar in the freedom of my truth.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

55 Miles By V-Day: It’s Goal Time RSL Style- Day 195: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I’m not one for setting lots of goals (I prefer setting intentions and allowing the magic of the Universe to do it’s thang) however, I do see the value in setting one solid goal to achieve every couple months. The … Continue reading

Setting The Tone for Success Weekend Style- Day 182: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I used to have a ritual a few years ago of going to hot yoga every Friday night. It was my way of unwinding from the week, getting a great workout in and balancing out my energies.

I also observed it held another major function to my development of self love. Doing an activity that was high vibing, healthy and spiritually connected, set the tone for my weekend.

The way it used to be

self-care-habitI totally used to be the party girl, who was out dancing and drinking every single weekend. Lets clear up right away there is absolutely nothing wrong with this, however, it didn’t really create the foundation or environment for my creativity to thrive or my energies to evolve and expand. It did the opposite.

So without even making that connection one Friday I finished work and headed to the yoga studio and rocked a hot class. The interesting thing about doing something that high intensity is afterwards I only wanted to put high vibing energies into my body, which meant a super healthy dinner and relaxing with people I loved.

The impact of conscious change

I also noticed it had a huge impact on the way I spent my weekends. Entering the weekend in a space of clarity, high vibes and healthy made me want to keep it up. So gradually as I practiced this new Friday night ritual my weekends became more constructive, I found I was more creative, more inspired and had way more energy to spend really connecting with the people I love.

Setting the tone for success

As part of my new commitment to health I noticed today that my Friday night ritual has returned without me giving conscious thought to it. As I was in my early evening hot yoga class I realized just the impact of setting up my weekend in this way, and ultimately setting myself up for success buy investing my energies into a healthy and soul nurturing activity.

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Tonight I acknowledge myself for my commitment to my health and for coming back to this incredible ritual which feeds my soul. It feels so good to be in this space of filling up my tank and soulfully investing into myself.

With loads of love and high vibes I wish all of you an incredible weekend ahead full of beautiful blessings and happiness!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Double Yoga Bliss: My New Commitment to Health- Day 172: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Last night I made a new commitment to myself.

I made a commitment to make my health and fitness one of my top priorities again.

In all honesty it totally has been slacking and I haven’t been doing what I know I need to to keep my body in top optimal functional levels.

Every new journey begins with a single step and I’m taking it day by day. I have found this is a structure that truly sets me up for success. When I get too far ahead of myself I freak myself out and become overwhelmed, and when I become overwhelmed I stop taking action in attempt to somehow gain control.

bikini-countdown-s3-photo-of-woman-working-outKnowing this about myself I can come at it from a space of flexibility and self respect. I know what works for me and that is taking it one day at a time. The commitment is to do some form of physical activity to strengthen my heart, my lungs, my muscles and detox the body. This could mean one day I’m at the gym, the next I’m at yoga or anything else that gets my heart rate up and my endorphins flowing.

Today it looked like a double yoga class. I headed to a hot hatha class and followed it up with a warm yin class a few hours later. This was exactly what my body needed. A nice workout then a deep stretching session.

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So there it is love puffs- I’m sharing with you all my new commitment and if there is a commitment of some kind you wish to share with the community let us know and we can all support each other in becoming our best versions!