The 3 Magical Gifts A Year Of Blogging Blessed Me With- Day 355: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Holy hot damn I have 10 days left on this blogging project!

I can’t believe it has been nearly a year since I started this incredible blogging journey. There has been so many incredible blessings and lessons I have embraced this year and today I am going to share with you

The three top gifts this year long project has blessed me with:

1. A mega appreciation and deeper knowing of what being committed really means.

This year has taken something to complete. There have been days when I honestly just didn’t feel like showing up, I didn’t want to write and I didn’t want to share. But I have. I’ve shown up every day. To do so required me to play at a higher level than I ever had before. I know this new relationship to commitment will bring incredible value and wisdom into my coaching practice. I know have the honour  of supporting others in this community to remain committed to themselves even when they don’t feel like it. This is self love on a whole new level baby.

2. An awareness and acknowledgement of my talents, passions and interests.

Over the past year I have come to terms with the fact I am a really incredible writer. My talent and love for writing has truly blossomed over this past year and I am honestly so proud of who I have become and how powerful my writing actually is. My heart is inspired to keep writing- just in new and expanded capacities.

3. The ultimate truth: I am capable beyond measure.

This year has taught me I am so freaking capable of acheviving everything I invest my heart into. I knew this on some level before I began and this project has given me the space to become so clear that as long as my heart is leading the way there isn’t anything I am actually incapable of achieving.

radical self love kelsey grantAfter nearly one year I have a profound new understanding of what living on purpose and creating on purpose truly means. I have shed many layers, grown in a multitude of ways and anchored in an incredible foundation to build the rest of my life upon. This next year ahead is going to be magical, abundant, love filled and so very blessed- because I say so 😉

I’m still in a bit of shock and amazement that here I am 10 days left and so filled with love, excitement and hope. I know by living the example of Radical Self Love I hold the potential to inspire a global community of amazing people who are ready to let love in, create a kick ass relationship with themselves and in turn create relationships that play in conscious partnership playground.

WOW- this is what my life has become and damn is it beautiful ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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Searching For Security and The Quest For Freedom: The Dance Of Relationship Polarities (PART 2)- Day 315: 365 Radical Self Love Project

The Quest for Freedom.

radical self love kelsey grantWe are all freedom seeking beings however the sacred masculines deep desire is to come into complete understanding of what freedom means. Freedom, flexibility, movement, change- these are all aspects of the divine feminine.

While the masculine energetically represents structure, stability and groundedness the feminine represents the free flowing energies that dance between the boundaries of structure.

Why we need each other.

Without the free flowing nature of the feminine the masculine would become hard, ridged and incapable of change. Without the grounded and structured nature of the masculine the free flowing energies of the feminine turn chaotic.

When we start to understand that we have so much to learn and contribute to each other we can begin to put down our emotional armour and get on with our expansion and evolution.

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Gents listen up:

radical self love kelsey grantThe masculines life long quest is the pursuit of freedom. A common misconception exists that when it comes to relationships freedom and commitment are two incompatible energies.

There is a distinction to be made here. Freedom and commitment are two different entities that very much can co-exist harmoniously with one another. As far as my human life has proved so far there is a wide spread belief that it’s an either or conversation. We can either have freedom- which is equated to being single and doing whatever the heck we want or we can have commitment- and have our freedom contained.

When looking from this vantage point neither option looks all that enticing and it’s no wonder men and women are stuck when it comes to diving into the magical world of relatedness. What the masculine is here to learn is what freedom actually means. To come into this understanding and elevation of perspective, vibrational energy must be increased and a devotion to a life long quest of personal growth and discovery must be claimed.

To stand in our own awareness takes courage and strength- two qualities that are present in each and every human being.

To begin this evolution the masculine is called to look to the feminine to shed light on the true meaning of freedom. Freedom is an inside job, freedom is a state of mind. It is not something we acquire “out there”, it is not something we get. It is something that we are.

Freedom is our ability to change our minds- to assign positive associations to what we interpret the world to be around us. Freedom gives us access to challenging our deeply engrained beliefs and transforming elements of ourselves we thought were unchangeable. Freedom allows us to be in acceptance of life as it is and at the same time hold the awareness that our perceptions are ours and ours alone. Perceptions do not represent reality. They represent our internal reality and they give us major access to the ideas, beliefs and reality we are playing out deep in our subconscious. If we truly want to be conscious creators of our experience, which I know ever sacred warrior does, a true understanding of freedom must be attained.

What the divine feminine is here to teach the sacred masculine

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The divine feminine is flow, in a constant state of change, evolution and movement. She understands the importance of constant change and movement. The divine feminine knows without movement life gets stagnant and energy is stopped. She also understands the harmony between commitment and freedom.

The relationship between commitment and freedom

The divine feminine is the profound understanding that when we give our commitment we free ourselves. Inside of making commitments we hold ourselves to a higher level of operation. We can’t get away with the low level shit anymore when we truly give our heart felt word. In our commitment to something bigger than ourselves, whether it’s a way of being, a project or a relationship- we break free from the shackles of low level behaviours. We set ourselves free from the weight of fear and we return back to love. Commitment does that.

This is why I believe most women unconsciously push for physical commitment in relationships and why generally speaking the masculine resists it- it is his lesson after all. Physical commitment is fabulous, I personally am a big fan of monogamy however I also know, first hand, it isn’t the only form of relationship commitment. Commitment in a relationship is a co-created agreement. It is the conscious design of the relationship context and agreements based on all peoples, needs, wants and hearts desires. The more we let go of our rigid ideas of what commitment means (monogamy and forever promises) the more we can actually dive into the sacred world of conscious partnership.

The sacred warriors first access to freedom is committing to himself, committing to his greatness committing to his souls destiny. Without his ability to commit to himself, give his word and keep it- relationship commitment is going to be one hell of a rocky ride.

The masculine, along his warriors journey is going to learn this one way or another. The more resistant to commitment and change the warrior becomes the harder life occurs to be.

radical self love kelsey grantThe warrior who elevates and spiritually surrenders begins to see the blessing of change, the honour of commitment, the power within free flow and the ever evolving movement of our human nature. The sacred masculine who looks to the divine feminine is well on his way to his truest alignment. It does not make a man weak to look to a woman for support- in fact it’s required. We must learn to release the stigma and shitty belief systems that keep us from opening our hearts to each other.

A woman dancing in her divine feminine will madly respect the sacred warrior who shows up at her heart with a humbleness and willingness to grow and step into the man he is destined to become. I have yet to see a woman who when faced with a man’s honest vulnerability goes on a destructive rampage with his precious heart. A warriors ability to soften will always soften the heart of a woman. This is the power of vulnerability. And guess where our freedom resides? You guessed it in our ability to be real, to be vulnerable, to be free to be ourselves just as we are.

Free to be who we are without the masks, without the armour, without the judgements, without the anger, without the resentment, without the entitlement, without the deception of the ego.

The divine feminine will lead the sacred masculine to the path of his truth. She will lead him home to his heart where all of his wisdom, power and answers reside.
Both the masculine and the feminine have pretty big missions to help each other fulfill. The missions are balanced in their energetic requirements however differ in the nature and application of the healing.

What we do together

The masculine will bring the structure and energetic boundaries for the free flowing creative juiciness of the feminine to dance between. On an individual level this means we must come into balance with these aspects of ourselves.

We must have equal amounts of structure to equal amounts of flexibility.
We must have equal amounts of decisiveness to equal amounts of creative free flow.
We must have equal amounts of groundedness to equal amounts of dreaming and visioning
We must have equal amounts of work to equal amounts of play
We must have equal amounts of security to equal amounts of freedom.

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Why relationships are the perfect territory to learn

In a romantic relationship our hearts are open and to some degree we have an understanding that the unification of our polarities is necessary for our greatest evolution. Relationships give us access to the bliss and deliciousness of love’s embrace. They also quickly bring to the surface of our awareness everything that is unlike love. This happens so that we may activate the courage and strength it takes to clear all of our blocks to love.

radical self love kelsey grantOur resistance to learning from each other is one of the biggest blocks we collectively must overcome. We will have loads and heaps of generations to forgive and ultimately this forgiveness will set us free. Forgiveness is a shift in perception from fear to love. It removes a block within you, to your awareness of loves presence. It is the ultimate healing tool and the one most avoided by all people.

A conscious partnership will actively embrace the wisdom of forgiveness and allow the space for both people to expand into their greatest potential. To prepare ourselves for this new level of conscious relationship we must do the work within first to establish the foundation. This foundation will hold and withstand the intensity of the divine feminine colliding with the sacred masculine will ultimately unleash.

This level of relationship will pierce through your illusions, break down your walls and nurture and call out the brightest light that has always dwelled within. It starts with the relationship you have with you.

For those of you who are ready for the quest of conscious relationships, a Radical Self Love practice has to be in full swing. We must first have a healthy and vibrant relationship towards ourselves in order that we are in vibrational alignment with this level of partnership. If you are ready to begin your sacred partnership journey join us in the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program to begin building that solid love foundation for your divine love to thrive inside of.

The greatest gift we can ever give another is the gift of our own self development.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Sunshine, Smooches And A Whole Lot Of Love- Day 295: 365 Radical Self Love Project

What an absolutely perfect first day back together today!

We had a nice leisurely start to the morning, enjoyed the sunshine filling up our bedroom this morning, laughed snuggled and just enjoyed staying in bed longer than usual.

After a breakfast of fresh raw juice and gluten free blueberry and banana pancakes we set out on our day adventure.

We walked to a coffee shop we had never been to together did some reading and enjoyed delicious coffee. Then our long walk began.

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In total we rocked a 10km walk and adventured to new places and soaked up the sun, fresh air and the gloriousness of each others company.

After some smooches and selfies we made our way home to relax, make dinner and have a super chill night just lovin all over each other!

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I am so grateful to have him back and this time apart truly strengthened our bond and we are clear more than ever just how “in” this relationship we both are and how deeply committed we both are to the success of our partnership- such a massive win!

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With a very happy heart I wish you all the most beautiful evening! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

How Interviewing Your Partner Leads To More Love- Day 272: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Homework is an awesome thing 😉

My assignment today in B-School was to ask my community what my 3 greatest qualities are. I sent out the question to my network and so far have received some pretty wonderful answers.

When my partner arrived home I asked him to share what he thought, his response: “Beautifully open, abundantly authentic and unconditionally loving”. 

Pretty freaking awesome.

Then we decided to go a little deeper and do a mini interview with each other. This was a exercise we both learned in a personal development training program that we hadn’t yet done with each other. Everything happens at the perfect time.

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The interview was 5 questions.

The way it is set up is that you ask questions about yourself and the other person answers to give you insight into how you occur to them, or in other words who they see you as.

He went first. Which meant I had to answer questions about him. In all honesty I was a little bit nervous, which I observed but continued on with the interview.

The answers that came out of my mouth really surprised me as they required me to go deeper than a surface conversation and to really give him access to who he is to me.

Then it was my turn. I asked the same series of questions and he got to give me access to who I am to me.

A pretty heart opening conversation to say the least.

Among my strengths:

An ability to see the unseen in people and in their lives and an ability to support people through the process of seeing their unconscious or unseen elements in a safe and loving environment.

Among my weaknesses:

Not fully believing in myself or my abilities.

Among the things I can be counted on for:

To be unconditionally loving and nurturing to those in my life.

Among the things I can never be counted on for:

To miss details of any kind.

Among the things my community collectively knows about me:

I will always see them as their greatness and lend support no matter what.

Pretty f’ing cool. So what started as a homework assignment turned into a pretty incredible conversation and opportunity to deepen our bond and really understand more fully who we really are to eachother in this partnership.

Feeling pretty loved and filled with gratitude.

What this exercise has reminded me of

That the conversations that matter  the most in life wont always be the easiest ones to have. The deeply juicy, life changing, heart opening, vulnerability cracking, authenticity revealing conversations that call us to connect on a way more profound level will take something to start.

They will take courage

They will take bravery

They will take love

They will take vulnerability

They will take feeling your fear and resistance and stepping through it

They will take you showing up for yourself and for your life.

These real, raw and revealing conversations are what remind us of our humanity, of our connection and of our ability to live in love’s example. This goodness is possible if we choose to step up and step into the call of our hearts.

All things are possible with an open heart and the power of love.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Why Relationships Bring Out Our Shadow- Day 269: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“Demons”- Imagine Dragons

I’ve had this jam on all weekend.

When I find something I like I consume it big time especially when it comes to music.

What I particularily like about this rendition of “Demons” originally by Imagine Dragons but performed here by Kina Grannis and Tyler Ward, is the beautiful blending and harmony of two incredible voices, the originality of the musical arrangement and the deep feeling both of them are emoting through their performance.

Embracing the shadow in love

As I’ve been embracing elements of my shadow this week in relation to my relationship this song really resonates. We all have “demons” and they are all hidden within the corners of our mind, body and soul. When we find ourselves in relationships there is often a time when when our shit starts to surface.

At the start of a relationship we are pretty open, we are in the bliss of love and our hearts are blasted right open. Then something happens. We start to change. Things become more challenging- our shadows begin to emerge.

The beautiful spiritual purpose of intimate relationships is to evolve, transform and open to our truth. How do we get there? We gotta go through the shit. All the crap we have accumulated over a lifetime of believing in fear or at least making agreement with it. We gotta undo all of it. The more we undo the higher we fly- the freer we become.

The purpose of intimate love is to set us free- free from the illusions of our ego and into the bliss of our hearts the bliss of love.

To experience love in its purest forms and in all its glory we must become aware of all the blocks we have to love and then consciously do the work to dissolve them. We have to heal ourselves. We have to let love in.

Romantic relationships are the greatest access point to our healing.

They will open us, crack us open and then shine the spotlight into those deep dark corners of our being. Our shadow will be called out. At first if we are unaware it will seem like the relationship is falling apart and beliefs like “love shouldn’t be this hard” or “love is supposed to be easy” are what keep us trapped in the illusion.

What we are being called towards every single time shit hits the fan in love is to go within. Look at what part of our shadow is wanting to be made seen. What “demon” is ready to be let go of.

Why this happens in relationships

Because it is only in the energy of love that we can truly heal these elements of our being. When our hearts are deeply connected to another there is an opening to the divine. There is an exchange of love’s bliss. It is in this highest vibration that all darkness can be transmuted. In the divinity of intimate relationship we have the chance to dive in, swim to the depths of our being and come out alive. The energy of love is safe. On a soul level we all understand this and so we are drawn into relationships with the exact people who will help us heal the most.

This is why we may have many partners in a lifetime. Each relationship will take us into different layers and levels of who we are. All of it is a beautiful exploration if we let ourselves perceive it that way. Relationships bring out our shadows so we can learn to become greater versions of ourselves, understand fully and lovingly embrace the totality of being.

When we can make friends with our shadow we have passed the soul lesson. We have many shadows and many lessons. So when we bring curiosity, awareness and love into our relationship mix we access infinate potential for massive soul expansion and deep human connection.

Who knew our shadows could bring to us something so beautiful and deeply fulfilling 😉

For more relationship goodness hit me up at rsl@kelseygrant.com as I’m currently working on a new relationship program coming this spring!  If you are interested in going deeper and stepping up your love game lets connect and get the conversation started!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Making Time For Love and Dates- Day 268: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today has been all about Love and Dates.

Self love dates, friendship dates and relationship dates.

I woke up nice and early this morning to hit up a hot yoga class with 2 of my friends. It was such a wonderful way to start the day and a fabulous way to get some friend love and friendship dates in the mix.

Following yoga it was time for a self love date. I hopped into my fav coffee shop, grabbed a coffee and a chocolate croissant and set up shop. I had my book and some paper to journal. I spent time mapping out the next evolution of the business, wrote a 2 hour workshop on relationships and read.

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After 2.5 solid hours of me time and heart centred creation I met up with my partner.

We had a mini business meeting about his projects, did some creative masterminding and then headed out for our afternoon date.

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We adventured to a different part of the city, grabbed a coffee, went for a beautiful walk along the beach, had incredible chats about our relationship, how we can strengthen our bond, how we want to grow together, the next chapter of RSL and building this company and the next chapter of our love story. It was amazing.

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Then we went for late afternoon ice cream at this amazing independent shop that just opened recently. Seriously so yummy.

After all of that we made our way home to make an awesome pizza dinner and complete the night with a lil more work/study time then snuggles and movie!

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Pure purrrrfection.

We have so much time every day to make the most of our lives and fit in all the things that truly matter. The key is clearing the space. When we fill up our lives with shit we don’t really want to do or agree to things that drain our energy more than they contribute or we say yes to hanging with peeps when all we really want is some solo time- we find ourselves on the edge of burnout and breakdown.

You are the only one in the drivers seat of your life. You choose what you say yes to and what you say no to. While it may not always be possible to design each and every day this way- we all have responsibilities and such- it is possible to begin to create more time for ourselves doing what we love.

Start with one afternoon a week. A 2 hour window each week that is purely dedicated to YOU and doing exactly what you want. Then expand it from there! You are completely worth it!!!

If you really want to amp it up and learn how to effectively rock the self love train join us in the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program! It’s designed in such a way where we start to build the muscle of imputing time for ourselves little by little each day so we can really thrive in love and life. Sign up HERE

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Love VS Fear Day 227: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today we kicked off our Dream Bigger Extravaganza! I am so freaking blessed to be a part of this incredible community of teachers and thought leaders. I found out this morning that my interview will close out this incredible 12 day event, and even more exciting my interview is going live on Valentines Day!

etsy-candy-heart-photoWhat a wonderful way to bring conscious attention to what love truly is. I’m not opposed to Valentines day as in it’s essence, is a day dedicated to the celebration of love, is a pretty wonderful thing. I think over the years it has become highly over commercialized and has lost touch with the true meaning- which is to re-presence us to the beauty of love that always exists within us and between us.

 

Given this was on my mind it was no coincidence that my lovely friend Danielle Dowling posted this Cherokee teaching about the difference between love and fear.

The Cherokee Legend on LOVE vs. FEAR:

two-wolvesAn old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued,

“The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”

I absolutely love this legend. It is so profound and incredibly sobering. Our experience and perception of a love filled world remains in our capacity to cultivate the goodness within us. When it comes to this time of year when LOVE is on most people’s radar and certainly on all the media’s radar it is a HUGE opportunity to remind ourselves what love is and what it isn’t. Once we become present to what love is, we can begin to cultivate more love within us, which then leads to the generation of more love outside of us.

We have to become aware of the two wolves within us and CHOOSE to feed the one who brings us into harmony with ourselves and each other. We must learn to choose love over and over and over.

For the next 11 days we’ll be choosing love over fear at our Dream Bigger Extravaganza! If you feel like joining us and soaking up the goodness scoop up your free spot here: http://bitly.com/1ePjfST

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

From Breakup to Breakthrough- How One Year of Self Love Changed Everything- Day 206: 365 Radical Self Love Program

Well we did it!!!!! The 30 Day Radical Self Love Program is complete and out in the world! Right now I am feeling pretty darn excited, proud and in all honesty a little overwhelmed, in the best possible way. This program came … Continue reading