3 Self Loving Steps To Gracefully Navigate Emotional Storms- Day 361: 365 Radical Self Love Project

There is a general vibe floating through the air these days in the RSL community.

Stories of breakups, heartache and intense emotional upheaval seem to be subtly crossing my path lately. I sure have been through my fare share of all of these this past year and a half I wanted to shed some inspired light on navigating this tender territory from a place of self love.

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3 Self Loving Steps To Gracefully Navigate Emotional Storms

1. Give yourself permission to be feeling what you are feeling.

It’s actually ok to be experiencing whatever you are. Happy, sad, upset, angry- whatever has made it’s presence known in your experience, is there for a reason. If we avoid, deny or try to stuff down this “stuff” it just builds more momentum and comes bursting out uncontrollably at a later date. Giving ourselves permission to be is one of the most freeing things we can ever do for our healing, growth and spiritual evolution.

A wonderful RSL mantra: “I give myself permission to be human and experience all emotions knowing each serves a divine and perfect purpose.”

2. Come into full acceptance of your emotions when they arise.

A really magical thing happens when we come into acceptance- diffusion. When we give ourselves permission (step 1) then accept the emotional experience we are having as its happening- the duration of the upset is significantly reduced. Now all emotional upheavals and storms will be unique and some may last longer than others and that’s totally ok. The point is to remind yourself it is perfectly ok to be experiencing what you are.

A really great RSL mantra I use when emotions arise is this: “At this present moment I am having an experience of (I then identify the experience as best I can- anger, jealousy, sadness, loneliness- whatever it is give it a name), it is ok that I am having this experience as having it means I am growing and expanding who I am, I accept this experience and trust I will receive the value of what it is here to teach me.” Then…

3. Allow, allow, allow.

Your emotions need an avenue to clear themselves, period. It is at this stage where you also encounter the divine assignment of practicing personal responsibility. Just because you’re having an emotional storm doesn’t mean everyone around you needs to be pulled into the emotional hurricane too. Find responsible and respectful (to yourself and others) outlets to allow the emotion to pass. Like all storms it will and the more you resist it the longer and more intense it will get.

If I am in a situation where the clearing will negatively impact another I make a promise and pact with myself to allow the emotion passage to happen at a specific time and place in the very near future- then keep my word to myself. If I am in a space where no one will be negatively impacted I just allow the clearing to happen in the moment. To consciously make this distinction will require self awareness and self loving discipline, which in all honesty just takes a bit of practice to polish.

Some of the things I do to allow the clearing:
  • Crying (I’m a Cancer and this is the most effective method for me)
  • High intensity exercise
  • Screaming into a pillow
  • Punching a pillow or punching bag
  • Lions breath
  • Real talk journalling
  • Verbal clearing (done only in a professional context with a coach)
  • And my ultimate fav, because it inevitably cracks me up is: stomping around and over dramatizing- think 2 year old temper tantrum 😉

All of these prove to be quite effective and in my allowing of the emotion to pass through, without additional internal judgement (“Oh I shouldn’t do this, I shouldn’t be feeling this”) I am able to return to a state of clarity and calmness relatively quickly- in the grand scheme of things.

Part of the Radical Self Love journey is learning how to be ok with all  aspects of your human experience. Learning how to bless these types of “negative” experiences and extract the gold always lying deep within, has certainly been one of the most fulfilling aspects of my Radical Self Love journey to date.

Give yourself permission, own the experience, allow the storm to fill you up and then allow it to pass on through. What you will begin to notice, with regular practice is, the duration and intensity of each emotional upheaval lightens as you become stronger in your application of these three graceful steps.

When we spend less time, energy and emotion in the stormy storms we free ourselves up to play and radiate in the blissful moments and experiences our lives are meant to bring.

Where ever you are is perfect, what ever you’re feeling is perfect, you are perfect just as you are. Remember that.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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A Call To Men- Awakening The Collective Need For Healing: Day 316: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I was absolutely blown away when I watched this incredible TED Talk this morning by Tony Porter.

Tony is the founder of A Call To Men an organization in the states committed to the education and healing of the masculine. Their mission “To create a loving world where all men and boys are loving and respectful and all women and girls are valued and safe”– pretty epic stuff.

In this awesome talk he explains the massive impact living in a world that robs men of their emotional expression and acceptance of their emotional nature, has on the collective consciousness and on our spiritual brothers.

It’s powerful and worth every second.

Enjoy and share. Lets keep this global conversation going.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Very Romantic Gesture To Heal The Heart- Day 292: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Following up yesterday’s post of asking for what you need I was gifted again this morning with a second love letter from my partner.

Immediately upon reading it I was giddy with happiness and it completely activated my awareness of love’s presence within my being. I took this vibration throughout my entire day and allowed the blissful energy of love to permeate everything I did, created and experienced.

I was just leaving a coffee shop this afternoon after finishing up my notes for my Relationship Course tonight and I was gifted another surprise from my partner.

To me I absolutely love it when he speaks to me through music. I find it incredibly romantic and it blasts my heart open even more. Words of affirmation are one of my main love languages (receiving love that is) and when I receive music I really tune into the message that is being shared lyrically. It stirs something in me.

The romantic gesture and gift I received was this song posted below. Immediately upon listening it sounded exactly like our relationship and I could hear the truth inside of each lyric. My tears welled and spilled over and my heart began to swell with gratitude, appreciation and in all honesty a lil raw vulnerability. He was able to activate a very delicate place in me that is deeply tender and so open through the sharing of this song.

When I spoke with him a few minutes later he had mentioned he had heard this song and immediately thought of me and our relationship together. He let me know that every part of the song was real and honest for him and in those moments another layer within me healed. We levelled up to a new place of connectivity, joy and harmony.

So here is the song for all of you to enjoy and I hope it activates your hearts in a beautiful and loving way as well! So freaking magical! ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Gentle Sunday To Seal The Healing- Day 254: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Often when we go through deep transformational shifts of any kind there is a phase of time when our tenderness and rawness requires us to embrace our new opening with some solid tender loving care.

After the deep healing and opening of this past week I knew today was one of those juicy days to relax, enjoy and most importantly be gentle.

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I didn’t set an alarm today and just woke up when my body wanted.

I made a super healthy breakfast for me and my man, drank some baileys and coffee, snuggled up on the couch and just spent time doing the things that made me happy.

  • Perusing Pinterest
  • Getting fully prepped for my full days work tomorrow
  • Devouring an amazing book
  • Having heart to heart chats with the roomie
  • Receiving graciously a gift from my roomie
  • Making yummy raw salad snacks
  • And signing up for a delicious restorative hot yin class to close out the night.

The path to healing is unique to each of us but the process of what we need remains very similar. After we go deep- we need some gentle recoup time.

Just like when we fatigue our muscles in the gym to the max we need a rest day. Same goes for our spiritual and emotional training.

It feels good to be good to me and I am so looking forward to dancing with this space I have set free within me for this next chapter of my experience.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Perfect Day to Frolick Day 42: 365 RSL Project

Frolicking in enchantedness is one of my absolutely favourite things to do. For true.

564196_152719781590416_637528186_nToday after writing a chapter of the RSL ebook and practicing some guitar I met up with my bestie and went on a little adventure to the local market.

To us Granville Market is a truly magical place. There is actually a store filled will all things enchanted, a crystal store, flowers everywhere and just a vibrancy which is incomparable to any other market in the city.

We did a little shopping and picked up some pretty gifts for her wedding next week as girls do 😉

A frolicking adventure filled with plenty of laugher and reminiscing lead us to bring these gems home with us:

A birthday peridot ring from my dad for my birthday gift! So pretty!!

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Some beautiful fluers for the living room- Gerber-daisies in my favourite colors yellow and orange.

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And finally some tools for healing- A wonderful book on LOVEEEEEE, a piece of pink flourite for emotional healing and some druzy quartz for quieting the mind for creativity!

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All in all it was a magical afternoon spent with a beautiful friend whom I love and appreciate dearly! I love my life ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels