What To Do When Tempted To Act Out Old Patterns- Day 336: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is no secret that the path of Radical Self Love calls us to examine ourselves, our beliefs and our patterns.

radical self love kelsey grantFor the majority of us we have a collection of patterns and beliefs drummed up by our ego’s that have been repeated on automatic default settings in our brains for a large majority of our lives.

Often there is a defining moment in our lives when we are awoken from this unconsciousness and begin to question ourselves, our motivations, our patterns of behaviour and ultimately question who we are and why we are here.

As we begin to dive into the world of self reflection and discovery we begin to see how the functions of our ego have lead us into some less than desirable situations. The ego is rooted in fear and fear never leads us to the path of fulfillment and bliss.

If we truly desire to remember who we are and return to our natural state which is bliss we must consciously examine the behaviours and thoughts of an ego or fear based mind. Once examined we must begin to consciously question these behaviours and thoughts to honestly determine if they are truly serving our highest good. The final stage is choosing better high quality love based thoughts and establishing more empowering behaviours.

When tempted to act out old patterns of the ego here are three questions to bring yourself back to the vibe of possibility, potential and love:

1. What would love do right now?

2. Would love do what I’m about to do?

3. Would love say what I’m about to say?

Then the key is to LISTEN honestly to the answer your inner guidance will give you and act in accordance to this guidance.

Often old patterns are triggered anytime we feel vulnerable, open and our hearts are exposed. The work of RSL is designed to crack open the shells around your heart to open you up to the fullness of love and authentic connection. It is inevitable along this path that when we feel open and exposed the ego will do anything it can to shut down this opening and build the familiar fear walls right back up.

The only one who has the power to dissolve the walls around your heart is you. Dissolving these walls is essential to the manifestation of heart to heart connections with other human beings, to the manifestation of your dreams and potential and to the manifestation of your own self awareness which is the biggest gift of all.

The reason people avoid doing the work is because you can’t un-know something. When we learn these aspects about ourselves and our default ego settings, from that point forward each time the egoic patterns surface and we act on them it becomes a conscious choice. Most people don’t want to be honest and own that they are choosing to act out fears plan instead of their highest potential which is always rooted in love. The only way we can shift these patterns, thoughts and behaviours is through our conscious choice to change and choose love.

It is all up to you, are you open, willing and ready to choose love?

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kelsey

If you would like support in learning to choose love and say YES to your great potential join in on our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program!!

Encouragement From The Universe: Reading The Signs- Day 322: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Some days we need a little encouragement.

I have found on the days when I’ve been questioning myself, my abilities and all the things I am up to the Universe beautifully responds with nudges of encouragement.

A piece of feedback from a client.

A kind word from a friend.

Being told directly the positive impact I’ve had on someone else’s life.

I’ve begun to notice more and more of these gentle nudges the more I embrace the path of self love. I am chalking it up to one thing- my willingness to be open and receive.

Before my self love journey began I was way off balance. I was well versed in the giving to others department and the “don’t worry I got this/I can do everything on my own”– game.

We live in a progressive and friendly Universe

These ways of being literally and energetically blocked my ability to receive. When our ability to receive is blocked we are unable to see and really embrace all the goodness that is constantly trying to make its way into our lives. When I understood that my success and ability to thrive was deeply rooted in my willingness to receive the way I looked at the world around me shifted.

I began seeing things differently.

I began hearing things differently.

I began responding to life differently.

And I opened my arms and gave a big warm and welcoming YES to life.

As I began saying yes to life and trusting I was truly supported every step of my path these gentle reminders began making regular appearances in my life. Now- like clockwork- if I ever begin to doubt myself in any way shape or form, the Universe has my back and sends to me confirmation that I am enough, I am worthy, I am deserving and  that I am exactly where I need to be. All I have to do is watch and listen.

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The Universe has all of our backs. We just need to ask ourselves if we are truly open and willing to receive the beautiful guidance and reinforcement that is constantly there for us?

To really see it we have to start seeing ourselves.

Seeing ourselves through the lens of positivity, empowerment, excitement, grace, compassion and of course love.

What is one thing you can do this weekend to beam some more love into your experience of being alive?

Where in your life can you open to receive the goodness of life a little bit more?

The Universe wants you to win- you just have to step up onto the team.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Common False Belief About Self Love And The Easy Shift To Change It- Day 256: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“No one will love you if you don’t love yourself”

This is a super popular quote in the land of self love and in all honesty I believe it’s sending a message that isn’t quite making the mark.

I don’t actually believe this is true. I think it is very possible for others to love us even when we aren’t quite loving ourselves.

There is a distinction to be made though.

The distinction is this, if we are not loving ourselves we won’t be able to identify and accept the love that is ever present around us.

Radical Self Love Kelsey GrantIf our internal code is one of despair, rejection of the self, anger and any of the other tag-a-longs of the fear camp, we are unable to resonate with the energies of love. It is simply incompatible. This doesn’t mean that other people wont love us though. It means despite their efforts to show love and connect, our internal code will throw up the defences and find ways to push this love away.

 

The shift then becomes one of “How can I love myself MORE so that I can increase my ability to open, accept and receive the love and abundance that is always trying to make it’s way to me?” 

So the next time you hear the phrase “no one will love you unless you love yourself first” gently remind yourself that “when I love myself I am more easily able to accept, receive and identify the abundance of love always present in my life”.

Ahhhh yes. Now that sure feels better 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Healthy Body, Healthy Love: How Our Body Image Shapes Our Relationship Success- Day 245: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well it’s monthly workshop share time!!

This month is a juicy one!

“Healthy Body, Healthy Love: How Our Body Image Shapes Our Relationship Success”

In this month’s Radical Self Love Workshop series we are diving into the world of body image, health and relationships.The image we hold of our bodies is directly correlated with the outcome and harmony of our intimate and romantic relationships. In this month’s workshop we are going to identify the connection between how we see ourselves and the ways in which we show up for love and relationships.

In this workshop you will learn:

* How our health/body image habits directly mirror our patterns and habits in relationships.

* Why we fall back into old habits and new effective tools to embrace this normal experience.

* How to cultivate the harmony of positive self image, body image and relationship image.

*The fundamental importance of learning to embrace our shadow side with the beautiful energy of light and love.

radical self love kelsey grantWomen and men alike all struggle to some degree with body image. Like wise we all struggle to a degree in our ability to connect and thrive in romantic partnerships. The cause of both breakdowns is a block in love.

In this workshop we will be sharing HOW to uncover the blocks to love we all have in body image and drawing the incredible correlation that our body image has on our success in romance.

Only once the darkness within has been identified can it be transformed into something beautiful, something new, something worthy of love’s name.

If you are vibin with us and are ready to come rock out another fabulous Thursday session we will be starting promptly at 7. Please arrive early doors will open at 6:30. We will be in the love flow until 9pm!

Tickets are $15 in advance or $20 at the door. Advance tickets are available in the link below or copy and paste this link into your browser (https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/healthy-body-healthy-love-how-our-body-image-shapes-relationship-success-tickets-10707846457)

***If you are not in the Vancouver area and would like to join us you may purchase the audio of the live workshop for $11. Email me directly at rsl@kelseygrant.com with the subject line “February Virtual Workshop Details” and I will set you up from there! ***

This workshop IS for you if:

  • You have struggled with maintaining a positive self image and body image and feel ready and willing to make a substantial shift in your life.
  • You are interested in tools to increase your positive body image.
  • You are compassionate, self forgiving and embrace your ever growing evolution and expansion.
  • You are open minded and have embraced some level of spiritual connectivity.
  • You are looking for ways to enhance your romantic relationship and become a better partner.
  • You are keen on being surrounded by like minded positive, expansive and love filled community.
  • You are on your own unique journey of self love, self compassion, self awareness- and jump at the opportunity to soak up any resources and information that can contribute to your healing and growth.
  • You understand the importance of contribution and relate to yourself as someone who has a worth while perspective and you honour the contribution you are to your community.
  • You are committed to your personal transformation.
  • You believe in the power of love.

This workshop is not for you if:

  • You are looking for a quick fix
  • You are looking for dieting tips
  • You are closed off and naturally distrusting of new information or “happy people”
  • You don’t see the value in being on time, paying for workshops or being part of a high vibing community.
  • You are all talk and no action in your life.
  • You are more interested in looking at other peoples flaws and shortcomings than investigating your internal terrain.
  • You don’t believe in the power of love.

As always, whether or not this workshop or community is a fit for you, we honour you for stopping by and beam to you infinite blessings for your journey!!!

You can scoop up your ticket and additional event info HERE

 

Only Love,

Kelsey and Kristin

Love VS Fear Day 227: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today we kicked off our Dream Bigger Extravaganza! I am so freaking blessed to be a part of this incredible community of teachers and thought leaders. I found out this morning that my interview will close out this incredible 12 day event, and even more exciting my interview is going live on Valentines Day!

etsy-candy-heart-photoWhat a wonderful way to bring conscious attention to what love truly is. I’m not opposed to Valentines day as in it’s essence, is a day dedicated to the celebration of love, is a pretty wonderful thing. I think over the years it has become highly over commercialized and has lost touch with the true meaning- which is to re-presence us to the beauty of love that always exists within us and between us.

 

Given this was on my mind it was no coincidence that my lovely friend Danielle Dowling posted this Cherokee teaching about the difference between love and fear.

The Cherokee Legend on LOVE vs. FEAR:

two-wolvesAn old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued,

“The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”

I absolutely love this legend. It is so profound and incredibly sobering. Our experience and perception of a love filled world remains in our capacity to cultivate the goodness within us. When it comes to this time of year when LOVE is on most people’s radar and certainly on all the media’s radar it is a HUGE opportunity to remind ourselves what love is and what it isn’t. Once we become present to what love is, we can begin to cultivate more love within us, which then leads to the generation of more love outside of us.

We have to become aware of the two wolves within us and CHOOSE to feed the one who brings us into harmony with ourselves and each other. We must learn to choose love over and over and over.

For the next 11 days we’ll be choosing love over fear at our Dream Bigger Extravaganza! If you feel like joining us and soaking up the goodness scoop up your free spot here: http://bitly.com/1ePjfST

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Getting To The Core of Confidence- Day 221: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Untitled 22-1 (dragged) 1Tomorrow night here in Van we’ll be hosting a  workshop for actors, musicians and artists and I am so stoked!!!

I get to pair my two passions- teaching love consciousness AND music/performance. I am really really really looking forward to this one! For all of you artsy types this is one you are not going to want to miss!

Here are all the details:

Date: Jan 29th
Time: 7-9pm
Venue: Shoreline Actor’s Lab (33 East 7th Ave Vancouver)
Tickets: $10
To reserve your tickets contact Brittney Grabill
Phone: 780-221-7508
Email: brittney85@hotmail.com

This Workshop Is For You If:

  • You are a performer/artist who is ready and willing to go to the next level with your career
  • You want to know how increase your amount of call-backs, gigs and showcases for your art.
  • You are open and receptive
  • You have a desire to grow personally as well as professionally
  • Want to get out of your own way
  • You have a desire to understand what holds you back so you can be at your best
  • You want to increase your authenticity within your craft
  • Learn how to not take things personally in the industry
  • Increase your confidence and belief in yourself
  • How to get into the flow of abundance
  • How to be more calm, relaxed and confident in auditions and big meetings
  • You see your art as a means to positively contribute to the world
  • You want to increase your network of supportive and like minded individuals
  • Interested in cultivating a prosperous and abundant life perspective
  • You LOVE what you do

This Workshop Is Not For You If:

  • You have a doom and gloom perspective about the industry
  • You think you know everything you need to know
  • You are closed and combative
  • You believe that people can’t change
  • Belief in lack and limitation
  • You believe you need to get before you can give
  • You are a skeptic
  • Any talk of spirituality, energy or positivity triggers you

What to Expect:

Understanding the Ego and it’s Role in Your Success

– Getting out of your own way

– Authenticity in your craft

– Understanding our different “brains” and getting them to work for you instead of against you.

The Core of Confidence

– Confidence vs Arrogance

– Separation vs Unity

– Taking Your Power Back

– Being HERE now

Authenticity- Audition- Gig

– What makes you YOU?

– Relaxed and Confident Auditions

– Attachment vs Commitment

– Getting to Giving

– Your Message

A New Industry

– Contribution and Collaboration

– A Shift to Consciousness

Your Facilitators

Kelsey Grant-

1016950_10151490528606529_1530599675_nRadical Self Love Coach, Speaker and Musician. After seven years of touring the world internationally with a professional show choir, four years of musical theatre performance and being the front woman of a band for three years, Kelsey left the music industry to pursue her passion for coaching, speaking and teaching.

Her company Radical Self Love teaches people how to cultivate love and approval within so they can really show up as their fullest expression in the world. Her coaching and teaching practice is integrated with her passion for creating and sharing original music. Her music is now a tool for healing and transformation. It is an expression of her heart and a means to positively contribute to her fans and her clients.

“Music has the power to heal and when combined with the practical and intuitive nature of coaching there is HUGE potential for world changing possibility”.

Brittney Grabill-

249469_508683559168282_1720328332_nBrittney is a singer/songwriter born in Edmonton, AB. Her first commercial single, I Like You, launched when she was 16, accompanied by the music video on Youtube directed by Braden Croft. She attributes the abundance of support and mentorship she has received to her success as an artist. She has an undeniable passion and love for writing music, allowing her music to be a positive escape for people. Her mission: “If I could do one thing to serve people, it would be through sharing music and encouraging the fun/emotional aspects of life. I have found success through perseverance and learning from failing! Here’s to music, joy, goals, persistence and serving others!”.

Brittney’s current album “Dreams Are All You Know” is available on iTunes. All the proceeds from ‘Autumn’s Song’ will be donated to the Stollery Childrens Hospital and matched by the World Financial Group Charitable Fund.

Looking forward to seeing you all there!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

“It Is An Act Of LOVE For Me To Say No”- How To Powerfully and Respectfully Stand In Your Truth- Day 218: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is an act of love for me to say no.

radical self loveThis is one of my all time favourite Radical Self Love mantras I have.

We have grown up in a culture which has conditioned us on many levels to fear saying and claiming what we want.

Part of being clear about what we want and desire also includes being clear what we don’t want. There comes a time in all of our lives when we are faced with saying no and staying true to ourselves.

How to deal with the guilt that comes up when we speak our truth.

Phase One

img-thingIf you are feeling like you have to explain why you are saying no, it is an indication that you have been saying no to yourself for a long time and saying yes to the world at the expense of your own true happiness. The impact of compromising in this way breaks our personal integrity. When we do things we don’t want to do we compromise our souls. We give up a piece of who we are. Doing this enough times leads to an experience of energetic fragmentation.

Energetic fragmentation is simply the scattering of our soul energy. When we give up ourselves for others energetically we give up a piece of who we are and unconsciously give the other person control over our soul energy.

Inevitably there comes a time when we become so sick of ourselves acting outside of our heart’s guidance that we WAKE UP. In this phase of awakening we become acutely aware of all the ways in which we have given ourselves up.

Phase Two

Once we are aware of the places in which we have given up ourselves we can begin the reclaiming process. We must command our spirit back. This means doing the exploration to identify the places, people and circumstances in which we have given away our power. Then we do a lil self lovin forgiveness work.

Self Loving Forgiveness

The commanding of our spirit back will require you to get radically real about where you gave yourself up and approach it from a space of empowerment. Meaning don’t fall into the ego’s trap of making yourself wrong for doing it. You did the best you could with the consciousness you had. When you know better you do better. Next one by one you are going to pull the circumstance, person or place in which we gave up our power and bless it with love.

” I am aware I unconsciously gave up my power to you. I forgive myself love myself. I forgive you and I love you. Thank you for teaching me this precious lesson. I now release you from playing this role for me and willingly command my spirit back.”

Your-past-mistakes-are-meant-to-guide-youOnce you repeat the forgiveness mantra sit in stillness. In this stillness you will begin to feel the experience of your soul piece returning. Some pieces come back quicker than others.

This is a fabulous practice to include into your daily RSL Routine.

We are all human and we all give up pieces of who we are along the way so we can learn to reclaim our power and become incredibly present to our divinity.

When we feel like we have to constantly justify ourselves what’s up with that?

It is a sign you have ignored your intuition for too long and your confidence has suffered a bit of a blow. Your perception of their lack of acceptance reflects your own inner insecurity with yourself and your choice. This is totally natural lovers especially for those of us, who for a very long time, didn’t speak up or share our truth.

You are building a new muscle and for the first little while you are going to feel uncomfortable. The length of time you feel uncomfortable is total under your control.

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Minimizing the Discomfort

Every time you feel like you have to justify or explain your choices, remind yourself your need to speak your truth will not always include everyone’s acceptance of your truth. Some people just won’t get it. Especially if it means you are now standing up for yourself inside a relationship where you previously allowed yourself to be walked over.

Ego’s don’t like transformation and they certainly do not like self love actions.

1743729_10152232664608707_2009396956_nWhen you are feeling like you are being challenged by someone on your belief system, remind yourself that your discomfort is a function of your ego not wanting to let go of a past, disempowering way of being. Any time we go into defence mode or justification mode we have activated our own ego’s.

Not everyone is going to like what you have to say when you start speaking your truth and darlings that is totally ok. One of two magical things will happen the more consistent and confident you become at speaking your truth:

1. People will really not be ok with your new confident and self lovin ways and it will become incredibly obvious through they’re behaviour that they are no longer be in vibrational harmony with you. Meaning you will start to attract people who are more on your wavelength who understand and respect where you are coming from.

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2. The more self assured you become the more your community will naturally acclimatize to your authenticity. They may need a little time to get used to it, but they will indeed get used to it and then come to know you as someone who now unapologetically speaks their truth – which is a pretty rad thing.

Basically the process of you sticking with it, even when it’s tough in the beginning, will reveal to you your honest and true friends, family and soul tribe.

How to increase the confidence when it comes to speaking your truth

Feeling confident about ourselves goes hand in hand with speaking our truth. So to enhance our success and our feeling of acceptance both internally and externally we must also develop our confidence and give ourselves mega acknowledgment.

The 30 Day Radical Self Love Program is designed for this exact transformation and inner development work. And if you haven’t scooped up your program yet try these on in the mean time:

1. Do more of what you are naturally good at.

When we put ourselves into situations where we will naturally shine our confidence gets a massive boosting. We all have a couple things we know we are just rockstars at, give yourself permission to do more of those things and make it a regular daily occurrence.

2. Walk through life with an engaged core.

Yup I’m talking about flexing those tummy muscles. When we activate our core we hold ourselves higher AND on an energetic level we activate our solar plexus which is our storage unit for confidence, self assuredness and self love. Practice tightening your core any time you are walking or sitting. If you really wanna take it up a couple notches add a plank exercise into your daily routine. Holding plank pose is a fabulous way to develop those muscles, activate the core, tone everything up and activate the yummy self confidence waiting to be set free in your solar plexus.

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3. Give yourself some credit.

We are often so focused on where we are lacking that we deplete our self confidence and self love tank without even noticing what we are doing. Giving gratitude and acknowledgement to yourself for all the greatness you are up to helps strengthen our confidence in a massive way. When we are thriving in positivity land we can HEAR the voice of our intuition clearly. When we can hear our intuition it is much easier to act on it’s guidance. To act on the intuition’s guidance is to act in our own integrity.

4. Remember this is a process.

We can be so hard on ourselves when we don’t see immediate results when it comes to shifts in our personal development. Remember this is much like training at the gym. You won’t see results right away after a workout, but with consistency and repetition you will one day look in the mirror and be blown away with the epic results you have achieved. The same goes for our self love and inner journeys. It will take time. Be patient and loving and enjoy flowing with the journey of your own awakening.

The more you begin to get comfortable with saying no to things that are really a no and yes to things that are really a yes your quality of life quickly begins to skyrocket. You have every right to thrive, be happy and live a life that honours your internal knowing.

No two people will have the same life experience so it is up to you to claim what works for you and what doesn’t coming from a place of respect, kindness, love and peace.

People will do what they do and say what they say and in the end none of it has anything to do with you. 

Keep rockin your truth lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

For all those ready to ROCK your 30 Day Radical Self Love Journey sign up here to get started: www.kelseygrant.com/30dayprogram

The Power of Soul Inspiration- Day 180: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I am completely blown away with the response to yesterdays blog post.

(If you missed it click here)

This was a true example of the power of writing from the heart and following the direction of my higher self and my intuition. Yesterday I had the experience of being completely moved and inspired on a soul level and I allowed that energy to flow through me to create a beautiful piece of writing.

What this brought into my awareness is when I surrender my will or what I believe will be the best topic and allow inspiration to actually direct where the creation is to go- it’s incredibly powerful.

tumblr_mnxgu8RzYm1sp30b1o1_500It has also given me massive insight into the deep longing for women to experience more men of this calibre and the deep desire of men to transform into their best versions.

It also has caused me to be really present to the topics and ideas that stir my soul and how when I am in those vibrations of soul stirring delicious inspiration the impact is profound.

The more we allow this moments of soul inspiration to fill us up the more soulful inspiration we beam out into the minds and hearts of those around us. This is a gift we allow for ourselves and that we give to each other.

I am so excited to take this beautiful nugget of awareness into my work and into my life and allow more of these soulful inspirations to fill up my experience and infuse more love and blessings into the content I have the honour of producing.

The-Research-on-GratitudeI have so much love and gratitude for each and everyone of you who make my experience as a writer so fulfilling. Thank you lovers!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Sexiest Thing a Man Can Ever Do. Day 179: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I am constantly blown away by the calibre of men in my life now. I’ll be honest with you it wasn’t always this way.

radical self loveI’ve made my journey through the most contrasting of relationships and dynamics with men. Men who are doing the best they can to express their understanding of what being masculine truly means. What I’ve learned from those men is what sexiness isn’t. To me sexiness isn’t the best dressed or machismo displays of dominance, “power” or strength. To me it isn’t the man who can outsmart and belittle others or the one who no matter what show he always has it together. It’s not the man who coolly supresses his emotions and plays it cool with women. It’s not the man with the best hair cut or the super cut body. It’s not any of those things.

A return to the true masculine- the sacred masculine.

I completely understand those types of sexiness and those types of masculine displays need to exist. To me they showcase a very valuable piece to our evolution. They show us the massive impact of a world where a lot of men are brutally cut off from the freedom to be. The freedom to be just how and who they are and be loved and accepted. It illuminates, through contrast, the immense possibility and potential we hold as a human collective to make things better. It shows us the pain, anger and destruction that comes from cutting off the emotions, the intuition and the feminine.

We all have masculine and feminine aspects within us. We have both sets of hormones just in different levels. Men obviously have more testosterone and women more estrogen. Here is the thing men have estrogen and women have testosterone. What this tells us on a spiritual level is that both genders are meant to learn, embrace and allow the lessons and power of the non-dominant energy within them. To do so causes the experience of balance, inner calm and inner peace. When women learn to balance their emotional and intuitive strengths with the energies of logic, rational and strength we see a emergence of women who are powerful beyond belief and who are humble, who are kind, who are compassionate and who can stand their ground when they need to.

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Likewise when men learn to balance their dominant energies of strength, forward motion, decisiveness and power with the more subtle feminine energies of receptivity, intuition and compassion we see an emergence of men who are powerful leaders, who instinctively understand the diverse nature of the human experience who then can use their powers of guidance to lead people toward their own empowerment. We see an emergence of men who not only know how to listen but also know the incredible power which resides within truly listening, they understand the value of being in touch and very aware of their emotions and find constructive ways to channel them. A man who is balanced in these energies is clear. Energetically he is strong, psychologically people know he can be relied on and is trustworthy. Men in their power understand the gift of vulnerability. 

The sexiest thing a man can ever do is to allow himself to express his vulnerability with power and clarity.

radical self loveThere is nothing else like it in the entire world. A man who is so connected and clear about who he is, doesn’t give a shit what other people will think or say if he speaks his truth. When he shares honestly what is up for him, what he’s been through and where he has fucked up he opens the space of possibility, rapport and leadership. He knows by doing so he will give other men and women the external permission they are seeking to do the same. He not only can be honest about his shortcomings but will also learn from them, and he will use this learning for his greatest good and the greatest good for all those who have the privilege and honour of meeting him.

He has learned spiritual surrender and knows inside of this surrender is where his true power resides. He knows by taking down his walls his power can radiate into the world and when his authentic power radiates into the world his mission and purpose can be wildly fulfilled. 

The sexiest thing a man can ever do is be real.

Real with himself and real with others. He is courageous enough to be real in such a way where communities are inspired to step into their greatness and bravely live their truth. This level of integrity, strength, honesty and raw vulnerability is the sexiest thing a man can do in my eyes.

radical self love kelsey grantI am so blessed I have a man of this calibre as my partner. Every day he continues to expand into his greatness and be a stand for what he knows in his heart to be true. He is a fearless leader, a loving and supportive partner and a courageous example of the journey of the sacred masculine. He is a powerful source of inspiration and guidance to many, myself included. A man who is willing to receive guidance, a man who shows me all of him, a man who is connected spiritually, emotionally and physically in this lifetime. A man who bears his soul so that others may find their own power and strength again. A man who reminds the world to love, to be a contribution and that we all have something of incredible value to share with this world.

Our experiences are given to us for many reasons one of which is to bravely and constructively share them with the minds an hearts of the masses. A truly powerful man understands this and leads by incredible example.

I am honoured to have a partner who has chosen to be all of this for the world and who continually shows up to do the sexiest thing a man can ever do- be real, be raw and be vulnerable. I know just by his and his circle of influence’s impact we will see a beautiful transformation in the minds and hearts of men and women for lifetimes to come.

With deep and loving gratitude to all the men who show up this way for the world, you are honoured, you are valued and you are so very loved!

Thank you for all you do to make this world a better, gentler and loving place to be.

Radical Self Love to the Max

Kels

The Impact of An Angel- Day 167: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today on Earth we lost an Angel.

News of Nelson Mandela’s death completely took me by surprise as I finished up my day and was heading home. It got me to thinking of what incredible achievements this man accomplished in his life time and that if we were all to step up to our deepest, truest potential we could indeed be present to see a new earth created.

A new earth where the common essence is love, freedom, compassion, grace, forgiveness, happiness and acceptance. We all have it within us to create beauty through our aliveness. The thing is, most people are operating on a default fear program. This fear based action creates an inner world of hostility which then is reflected in the outer world of pain and anguish. To shift this current state of the world- we must shift. We must cultivate a desire to co-create a better world. We do this through our energy, our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions, our actions and ultimately through our unique contribution to this world aka your gifts.

radical self love

We all have within us the capability to achieve Nelson Mandela’s level of greatness. We are all born with the same capacity to love and be love. It is this deep understanding of love consciousness that leads leaders like NM to impact the world on such a positive global scale. We all have it in us to leave this place better because of our existence here.

The key is really owning how magnificent we truly are.

The key is knowing how much power we truly have.

The key is love.

nelson-mandela-quotesTo create long lasting change and transformation it must be rooted in only one thing. That thing is love. We can’t create outside of ourselves that which we do not experience within. This is the journey of Radical Self Love. It is the process of learning to love from the inside out. We must start with ourselves. When we come into acceptance of ourselves we come into acceptance of others. When we come into peace with ourselves we come into peace with each other. When we come into love with ourselves we come into love with each other. It really is that simple.

As I always say simple does not equal easy. To do this requires strength, discipline, awareness, courage and a willingness to forgive.

We must be willingness to release all that no longer serves, thus trading our suffering for peace, trading our pain for happiness, trading our fear for love.

As we send off a beautiful earth Angel back home, we do so from a space of great possibility for what can come from this incredible man’s life example. His life is a powerful reminder that our greatness passionately lies within and has a deep desire to be expressed in all of it’s glory- and we are the only ones who hold the keys to our greatness, the keys to our freedom.

nelson-mandela-love-3Be at rest beautiful Angel, we’ll take it from here,

It’s time to shine lovers ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels