5 Simple Ways To Start Loving Where You Are- Day 363: 365 Radical Self Love Project

radical self love kelsey grantIf there is one thing I have noticed in all my years as a coach and facilitator is that a large portion of peeps have challenge being ok with they are in the present moment- never mind actually loving where they are. The path of Radical Self Love supports us in learning what our own experience of peace of mind is and in the process we end up realizing we actually really love who we are and the life we lead- wherever we might be.

5 Self Loving Steps to Loving Where You Are

1. Drop the lack and limitation.

Nothing much changes when we’re in an incompatible vibe to that which we seek. Meaning we must be in a state of harmony and peace before the manifestation ball really gets going. If we are fully consumed with labouring and convincing ourselves and the people around us how much lack we are experiencing the Universe responds to your state of repeated focus by sending you more of what you are so dominantly focused on. When you make a conscious effort to drop the lack talk and instead focus on all you do have you bring yourself immediately into a place of love and appreciation for the present.

2. Make joy a priority.

Each day choose one positive simple actionable. The sole focus of this action is to usher in massive joy. There are a lot of things you do or have done in your life that just make you freaking happy. These are often the simplest things- going for a walk in the woods, cracking jokes with friends, snuggling a animal, playing with crystals or oracle cards (one of my personal fav’s)- it will be different for everyone and there is a high probability the actionable will be different for you every day depending what’s up and how you are feeling. Doing things you love and that bring out the happiness within, support you immediately in feeling lit up about the now.

3. Take inventory on your accomplishments.

Humans have developed this habit of diminishing their accomplishments and not giving themselves credit for the awesomeness they have achieved. Of course we feel like shit and resist where we are at when we do this- it never feels good to feel like we are under performing or failing. When you are clear of how much you have actually achieved over your lifetime and even the course of a few short months your heart will settle into a place of great elation and calm down an over active mind. If it’s challenging at first to find evidence I would highly recommend you take this practice, make it a regular part of your self love routine and write those wins down as they happen.

When I was in a really rough place a few years ago I kept an evidence and accomplishment journal. Every day before bed I would write down all the actions I took that contributed to the expansion of my business and my dreams. I also recorded ALL the manifestations, attractions, accomplishments and wins of that day alone. It became very clear very quickly I achieve a lot more than I give myself credit for and I experience so many wins that my ego tries with all it’s might to diminish and bury. If this is where you are at- start here and watch those vibes soar.

4. Get still.

Seriously, start meditating. When the mind is an untamed circus you will inevitably feel out of control, overwhelmed and unhappy in the now. When we take our power back, get still and confront what is actually going on in our minds we can consciously direct a different result. Facing and embracing the monkey mind is the first step to causing a new and expanded result. A regular practice of stillness helps us to more easily distinguish between the racket of the ego and the truth of our hearts. If you have never meditated before sitting silent alone with your thoughts is likely uncomfortable and deters you. So set yourself up for success, find an avenue that works for now and work towards sitting in silence one day. Start with short guided meditations. Start small and create a vibration of success by achieving an abundance of little milestones. Find ways that work for you and forget the rest.

5. Celebrate someone else.

When the ego has gone into mega overdrive (aka when we think we should be anywhere other than where we are) we’ve gone into full self absorption and separation land. When you celebrate another person, praise their wins or just find something you are grateful for about them, you fast track your way out of the pit of self absorption despair and enter the beautiful vibe of being a positive contribution to someone else. When we are kind and extend acts of kindness towards others our hearts crack wide open. An open heart is a present heart. A present heart is a content and happy heart. A happy heart isn’t trying to “get” somewhere other than where it is. It understands there is an ever present and ever evolving progression to our experience and it is inevitable in a Universe that is friendly and for you, that more goodness is on it’s way and that goodness will arrive in perfect divine timing.

If you are ready to take your self love practice to the next level check out our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program. This beauty has been intentionally designed to set you up for success, dial in the self love practices that really work for YOU and give you a solid foundation to take your life and relationships to a place of harmony, bliss, abundance and beautiful juicy magnificent love.

You deserve to be happy right now.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

How The “Other Woman” Helped Me Find Freedom and Happiness- Day 346: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Finding Freedom in the shadows

radical self love kelsey grantWe all have that side of ourselves we would rather keep hidden. Some call it a shadow, some call it an ego, some call it our darkness.

Whatever the name, we all have it. The elements of our personality with less than positive intentions. It is when we are living through our shadow we have a higher tendency to get triggered. Triggered by another person, circumstances in life and scenarios we are faced with.

Your shadow is one of the greatest access points to your highest potential if you allow this unfolding to take place. Embracing the lessons the shadow leads us towards, encourages the harnessing of energy and activation of our awareness for the highest good and potential for all involved.

What you can’t be with about another, leads you towards a deeper awareness of yourself.

Everything we can’t be with, everything we reject, resist or flat out dislike about someone or something outside of ourselves will always lead us to a greater understanding to what is going on inside ourselves on a deep deep level.

We can only identify that which exists already inside us and we are only activated or triggered by anything outside of ourselves, when an aspect of our own experience we have rejected and can’t be with- is still lying dormant in our unconscious.

How the “other woman” was key for my self awareness and deep deep healing.

There are a lot of things I could say about the woman with whom my partner broke our relationship agreement with and the only thing worth sharing is the truth.

It was really easy for me to hate her. It was really easy for me to be angry at her. It was really easy for me to make her wrong for everything. It was really easy for me to find fault in everything she did and everything she continues to do.

What wasn’t easy was coming to terms with one of my greatest spiritual lessons: Everything I despised about her, were actually elements of myself I had left unhealed and unattended. What a massive wake up call.

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My healing massively expanded when I started to use her reflection or more accurately my perception of her, for my own self discovery. Everything I couldn’t stand about her I took very close notice of- because it was actually mirroring what I couldn’t be with about myself.

I had to come to terms with the fact I had done the very same things I perceived she did- earlier in my life. I had repeated these disempowered behaviours multiple times during my life and I was still harbouring resentment and regret about it. I was withholding forgiveness towards myself.

Forgiving My Past

In my early 20’s I pursued men who were unavailable, men who were dating other people and I made it my game to manipulate them out of their relationships. In some shadowy twisted way when I “won” them away from their partners I made it mean I was enough, I was obviously a real catch and my bruised self worth was validated.

I would maintain friendships with men in relationships that were a little too close to respect the terms of their relationship agreements. I played the really good friend who was always there to listen to the relationship problems then eagerly offered my “advice”- advice to benefit me and my ego’s desires. I gave very little if any consideration to the woman in the relationship with the person I was scoping. She didn’t matter to me. I turned my back on my sisters.

I manipulated.
I meddled.
I flirted.
I seduced.
I made my ‘needs’ more important than the other hearts involved.
I broke trust.
I was dishonest.
My only intention was to get what I wanted at whatever cost.

Then I woke up.

Something in me shifted and I wanted more from myself and for my life. I wanted to learn what it meant to live in integrity. I wanted to learn what it meant to live on purpose. I knew enough back then that I would have to stop behaving this way to have the relationship and life I was deeply desiring. What I didn’t have access to was the essential healing ingredients- compassion and forgiveness.

Moving to Vancouver began a 5 year journey of understanding and developing my capacity for compassion and forgiveness. I practiced living on purpose and creating relationships in alignment and in integrity. When my partner and the other woman did what they did, it activated all of the unhealed wounds of my past. The shadow of my past behaviour was still unforgiven and reeking havoc on my present capacity for happiness. I was still living with the heavy heavy  impact of my past unconscious life.

Usher in the compassion

radical self love kelsey grantIt was through her, I was given an opportunity to identify all the suppressed junk I had been holding onto. The mirror of her behaviour also enabled me to wrap my past actions in compassion and love and set myself free- something I had not yet been capable of doing.

During this year long process of healing I’ve had to remind myself time and time again nothing I perceive about someone else is ever about them- it’s about me.

 

Through her, my awareness was directed to all the shadow wounds deeply buried within my unconscious mind. This situation happened at the exact point in time that I was capable of handling it. All of my “stuff” came up for review when it did was because I was in a place in my development and soul journey where I had the awareness and tools to move forward effectively.

This year I proved to myself how capable and willing I am at embracing my wounds, healing my perceptions and setting myself free.

We all fuck up. We all make mistakes. We all have done things we wish we could have done differently. If we hold onto them and make ourselves wrong until we leave this planet, we rob ourselves of the genuine happiness and possibility our lives hold.

When we learn from our behaviour and make conscious changes to become more respectful, more aware, more compassionate, more kind, more on purpose, more aligned with integrity and more loving- we have learned what that experience was meant to teach us. Then we can set it free. We keep the wisdom of the lesson and release the pain.

Making yourself wrong and others wrong until the end of time does no one any good. In fact it robs the world of your brilliance. This brilliance explodes into the world in the vehicle called your vibrance. Your vibrance is enhanced when you are happy, when you have released the weight of your “mistakes” and forgiven people who made their own mistakes. When you are living on purpose your brilliance inspires the world.

radical self love kelsey grantIt hasn’t been easy doing this work and forgiving all that has happened but it sure as heck has been worth it. Without her and all that happened I wouldn’t have developed Radical Self Love, I wouldn’t have this beautiful community to share with, I wouldn’t have uncovered and activated my purpose and potential. Without her I wouldn’t have done the inner work required to be in alignment with the relationship I desired so deeply and without her I wouldn’t have the relationship I do.

After I released myself from my past what I can see is I have a lot to thank her for. My life is beautiful, amazing, aligned and abundant because of her and all that happened. To be here in this head and heart space, a year later is a pretty incredible feat. It is through this experience I now have the honour to work with women in healing their blocks to love and finding their authentic relationship alignment and that my friends freaking lights me up!!!

You and only you have the capacity to set yourself free. You deserve happiness. You are worthy of success. You are so deserving of love, freedom and happiness. Be brave and do the most challenging and rewarding work of all: looking within.

Look, see, understand and love it all.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

If you are ready to learn to love you check out our RSL 30 Day Program to get started on building the best relationship of your life- the one with YOU!

The Benefits of Being Real In Relationships-Day 338: 365 Radical Self Love Project

As my RSL journey has unfolded I’ve become more tuned into my passion and love for relationships.

Inside of this passion I’ve been noticing some behaviours in the dating and relationship world that deeply repel love in really sneaky ways.

This is one of the main reasons why I was called to write the first RSL ebook “Sabotaged Love- The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want”. 

One of the archetypes I explore in the book is The Chase and Dodger. This archetype thrives on the thrill of the chase. It knows what to say, how to say it, when to say it to keep their “interest” interested. The thrill of chasing and pursuit is strong in this archetype and once they get what they say they want almost instantaneously loose interest.

While I won’t dive into why this archetype shows up I will offer you some very solid coaching on how to lovingly approach and handle these types of dynamics.

The best and only way to approach people with this archetype is to be straight up. Be real. Be honest- like all out on the table honest- right from the beginning.

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This archetype only wants to pursue someone who is OK with ambivalence, ok with the grey zone and ok with a lack of clarity and grown up communication. The hint of any real talk spooks this archetype and they fast track themselves into the second aspect of their behaviour which is to dodge- dodge talking, dodge clarity, dodge commitment anything deemed as restricting their idea of freedom will send them running for the hills.

You might be wondering why clear communication is a good thing with these archetypes if they spook easily. To know where you stand with yourself means you are in your power, you are in alignment with your heart. When you are in this alignment you attract people who are playing at the same level. People with honest and true intentions, who have dealt with their shit, and are willing to be real and vulnerable can only be attracted into your life when you are being this way. People harbouring this archetype are, at the present time, unable to reciprocate this honesty and transparency, which leads you to know with deep certainty they are not the perfect partner for your precious heart.

Have the courage to pull out the real card, get honest and tell the truth about how you feel will filter out the chase and dodge types nearly immediately. This way your time isn’t wasted playing cat and mouse dating games and you support the vibration of love in the world by not buying in and feeding their ego archetype.
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Being real with a new potential partner is either going to freak out and run away or they will be excited and relieved because you are both on the same page. Either way you are taken care of. If they run away- it is a massive blessing from the Universe protecting you from a potential painful future heartache. The people who run away are NOT your perfect partner. No matter how we reason, justify or try and manipulate it, the fact is the perfect partner for you is the one who meets everything you are looking for and is willing to invest themselves into the relationship 100%. This means the perfect partner for you is someone who is available in every sense, mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually.

If someone freaks out because you love yourself enough to respect what you want and have the courage to boldly communicate your desires- they are not the perfect person for you. Let them run, eventually they will face themselves and once they do they too will be able to find themselves in the arms of their perfect match.

radical self love kelsey grantYou are so deeply worthy of a love that fills you up and a partner who is truly available to you and your heart. Honour yourself, be radically real and raise those standards baby! By declaring how you feel and what you are looking for right away you confirm your relationship order with the Universe. You have to act in alignment with your desires in order to bring them to fruition.

I knew my ideal partner would have to be someone who was capable of hearing my truth but also open and conscious enough to speak his truth and what his heart was calling for. Ever since I uncovered this nugget of wisdom years ago my dating life has become this beautiful, exciting and respectful place to dwell.

There is an ease present when both people know what the parameters of the union are and are in full agreement with the co-creation.

My relationship now is a testament to my clarity and willingness to speak my truth over and over and over. My heart is happy and my relationship is thriving. Being honest may not bring you the immediate result (person) you were hoping for but it will always deliver you exactly what you ask for (the perfect person for YOU) if you open your mind and heart to receive it.

If you would like to receive a copy of the first RSL ebook before we release it to the world hop onto our mailing list to join the community who will receive first dibs on reading this juicy book! You can join our list over at our website www.kelseygrant.com

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!

Kels

30 Days Of Blogging Left And A Gift For You All!!!- Day 335: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Holy smokes today is the final 30 day mark lovers!

radical self love kelsey grantIn 30 days from now I will have successfully completed one full year of one blog post per day! 365 blog posts!!! WHOOP WHOOP!!

In these final 30 days I intend to optimize this time together and write about the things YOU really want me to cover. This is my first of many gifts to you all! In the coming months after this blogging project wraps up I will be transitioning to a video blog format as well as weekly blogs over on my website and I would love to get into the habit of writing content based on our communities questions and interests.

So I have an ask of you.

If there is a specific topic you would like me to cover in these next 30 days let me know. Anything related to radical self love, self care, relationships, breakups, makeups, forgiveness, boundaries, trusting, healing infidelity, signs from the Universe, ego, love, fear, patience, anything about our 30 Day Program, RSL courses or RSL coaching we offer- ask away!

Send me a quick email at rsl@kelseygrant.com and give me a short heads up on your RSL or Relationship related questions and the first 30 people to write me I will be answering their questions directly on the blog for the final month. Every submission question will be kept anonymous to respect privacy of each of you love faces.

Everyone who submits a question will receive a direct response from me confirming we received the question and approximately the date your question will be addressed on the blog. If we end up with more than 30 questions we will find alternative creative ways to answer the questions to benefit you and the community- if you are one of those submissions I will let you know what to expect from us!

radical self love kelsey grantWhat I love about this style of sharing is, if one of you is having a challenge with anything self love, self care or relationship based, guaranteed there are many others dealing with a similar challenge. When you speak your truth and ask for what you need you give others permission to do the same and you also contribute in a massive way to the community as a whole.

I receive a lot of questions 1-1 and it makes sense to me to frame the inquiries in such a way where all of us can benefit from the insights, wisdom and coaching. Really excited to step it up a notch for the final stretch! I am so very grateful for each and every one of you lovers who have joined me in co-creating this community. This past year of blogging and radical self love adventures has been pretty wild and deeply transformative and this gift one of the best ways I can illustrate my gratitude and give a massive THANK YOU for all of the support and love!

Send me your questions loves and lets rock these final 30 Days together in a HUGE way! xo (rsl@kelseygrant.com)

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Starting The Day By Nourishing The Soul- The Importance Of A Daily Self Love Routine-Day 334: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“How things go depends on how they start”- these are lyrics from one of my original songs and one of my mottos in life.

(If you want to listen you can do that HERE)

I have found this rings true in relationships- the relationships starting off on the grounds of truth, honesty and love always go in that same direction, like wise the relationships I’ve had that started off as secrets, with lots of lies or lack of integrity ended up going further in those directions.

I have also found in my day to day this motto is also true. When I invest into myself and my wellbeing first thing in the morning it sets the tone for the remainder of the day. Days when I rock my soul-nourishing morning routine I am happier, I am more effective with my time, I am way more productive and I am way easier to get along with.

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As I keep stepping into my power and truth it becomes more and more clear that the foundation of my success is deeply rooted in my willingness to nourish my soul, take actions which bring me into vibrational alignment and setting intentions around the direction of my day.

When I first stepped into the world of spirituality and personal development I learned exactly what those specific actionables were that would have me be at my best. After years of testing, trial and assessment I lasered in on the top “actions” that would lead me feeling nourished and in the highest vibrational alignment.

Why is this nourishment and alignment so important?

In the words of Abraham Hicks: “That which is like unto itself is drawn” meaning energies which are in alignment are magnetized and pulled towards each other.

When I take the time every morning to get my vibes as high as possible (my best/highest vibrational alignment varies from day to day) I ensure that I put myself on the best possible path for the day. Meaning when my vibes are optimal I attract amazing people, circumstances and opportunities. I also get to experience the blissful power of flow- where I can trust the Universe has my back and relax into allowing things to unfold naturally.

Soul-Nourishment

When I don’t do my soul nourishment in the morning I am higher strung, way more stressed out, combative, irritable, impatient and I attract people, situations and circumstances that I don’t want to be experiencing.

The only reason I experiencing anything I do, is because I am a vibrational match.

The only way to change what I am attracting or experiencing is to change my vibes. How do I change my vibes? I take actions that are in alignment with nourishing my heart, my soul, my body and my mind.

This is what my soul nourishing/Radical Self Love routine looks like:

  •  Leisurely awake
  •  Spend 5-15 minutes doing some positive self reflection and positive life reflection (just thinking of positive aspects)
  • Gratitude journal minimum one page
  • 6 Minutes of Ego Harmonizing (breath work/meditation)
  • RSL Mantra Meditation/ Inner Guide chit chat
  • Drink 500ml-1litre water
  • I usually add in exercise but some days I do my exercise later in the day and I do take a day or two off a week to rest my body.

These are the things I know I must do each morning to keep myself in tip top shape mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. All of these actionables are vibe aligners which always bring me to the most exciting, fulfilling and incredible places, spaces and circumstances life has to offer.

In our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program we meticulously designed a 30 Day Journey that is accessible and attainable for even the busiest of busy people. In my opinion when we glorify being busy it is often a way to avoid doing the things we need to do most but maybe don’t want to do because they are uncomfortable, take energy and time. Investing into yourself in these ways will make you way more productive and happy in the long run and really thats what we are up to here at RSL- setting people up for success in life and love. It all starts within and it all starts with you ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Returning To My Mat- Reconnecting To My Body- Day 319: 365 Radical Self Love Project

After a 3 week hiatus of healing the body I finally got to return to my yoga mat today!!!

It felt so incredible to be back in the yoga studio, soaking up all the amazing feel good vibes and really getting present with my body.

These three weeks of pretty intense self reflection and stillness have had a profound impact on my practice. I found it so much easier today to tune into my body and really feel into my muscles and be clear where I was holding tension. I also found it much easier today to relax into the posture and begin surrendering into the posture and releasing the tension in my muscles.

Not surprising my shoulders, hips and side body were the tightest and after an hour long practice I felt completely intune and aligned in my body. I am grateful for this time away from my mat as it has really made me appreciate how much my body is responsive to my yoga practice.

I’m so happy to be back in the studio and so so so happy to be tuned in and back in full swing with my yummy yoga practice.

Feeling pretty blessed and very grateful ❤

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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Searching For Security and The Quest For Freedom: The Dance Of Relationship Polarities (PART 2)- Day 315: 365 Radical Self Love Project

The Quest for Freedom.

radical self love kelsey grantWe are all freedom seeking beings however the sacred masculines deep desire is to come into complete understanding of what freedom means. Freedom, flexibility, movement, change- these are all aspects of the divine feminine.

While the masculine energetically represents structure, stability and groundedness the feminine represents the free flowing energies that dance between the boundaries of structure.

Why we need each other.

Without the free flowing nature of the feminine the masculine would become hard, ridged and incapable of change. Without the grounded and structured nature of the masculine the free flowing energies of the feminine turn chaotic.

When we start to understand that we have so much to learn and contribute to each other we can begin to put down our emotional armour and get on with our expansion and evolution.

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Gents listen up:

radical self love kelsey grantThe masculines life long quest is the pursuit of freedom. A common misconception exists that when it comes to relationships freedom and commitment are two incompatible energies.

There is a distinction to be made here. Freedom and commitment are two different entities that very much can co-exist harmoniously with one another. As far as my human life has proved so far there is a wide spread belief that it’s an either or conversation. We can either have freedom- which is equated to being single and doing whatever the heck we want or we can have commitment- and have our freedom contained.

When looking from this vantage point neither option looks all that enticing and it’s no wonder men and women are stuck when it comes to diving into the magical world of relatedness. What the masculine is here to learn is what freedom actually means. To come into this understanding and elevation of perspective, vibrational energy must be increased and a devotion to a life long quest of personal growth and discovery must be claimed.

To stand in our own awareness takes courage and strength- two qualities that are present in each and every human being.

To begin this evolution the masculine is called to look to the feminine to shed light on the true meaning of freedom. Freedom is an inside job, freedom is a state of mind. It is not something we acquire “out there”, it is not something we get. It is something that we are.

Freedom is our ability to change our minds- to assign positive associations to what we interpret the world to be around us. Freedom gives us access to challenging our deeply engrained beliefs and transforming elements of ourselves we thought were unchangeable. Freedom allows us to be in acceptance of life as it is and at the same time hold the awareness that our perceptions are ours and ours alone. Perceptions do not represent reality. They represent our internal reality and they give us major access to the ideas, beliefs and reality we are playing out deep in our subconscious. If we truly want to be conscious creators of our experience, which I know ever sacred warrior does, a true understanding of freedom must be attained.

What the divine feminine is here to teach the sacred masculine

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The divine feminine is flow, in a constant state of change, evolution and movement. She understands the importance of constant change and movement. The divine feminine knows without movement life gets stagnant and energy is stopped. She also understands the harmony between commitment and freedom.

The relationship between commitment and freedom

The divine feminine is the profound understanding that when we give our commitment we free ourselves. Inside of making commitments we hold ourselves to a higher level of operation. We can’t get away with the low level shit anymore when we truly give our heart felt word. In our commitment to something bigger than ourselves, whether it’s a way of being, a project or a relationship- we break free from the shackles of low level behaviours. We set ourselves free from the weight of fear and we return back to love. Commitment does that.

This is why I believe most women unconsciously push for physical commitment in relationships and why generally speaking the masculine resists it- it is his lesson after all. Physical commitment is fabulous, I personally am a big fan of monogamy however I also know, first hand, it isn’t the only form of relationship commitment. Commitment in a relationship is a co-created agreement. It is the conscious design of the relationship context and agreements based on all peoples, needs, wants and hearts desires. The more we let go of our rigid ideas of what commitment means (monogamy and forever promises) the more we can actually dive into the sacred world of conscious partnership.

The sacred warriors first access to freedom is committing to himself, committing to his greatness committing to his souls destiny. Without his ability to commit to himself, give his word and keep it- relationship commitment is going to be one hell of a rocky ride.

The masculine, along his warriors journey is going to learn this one way or another. The more resistant to commitment and change the warrior becomes the harder life occurs to be.

radical self love kelsey grantThe warrior who elevates and spiritually surrenders begins to see the blessing of change, the honour of commitment, the power within free flow and the ever evolving movement of our human nature. The sacred masculine who looks to the divine feminine is well on his way to his truest alignment. It does not make a man weak to look to a woman for support- in fact it’s required. We must learn to release the stigma and shitty belief systems that keep us from opening our hearts to each other.

A woman dancing in her divine feminine will madly respect the sacred warrior who shows up at her heart with a humbleness and willingness to grow and step into the man he is destined to become. I have yet to see a woman who when faced with a man’s honest vulnerability goes on a destructive rampage with his precious heart. A warriors ability to soften will always soften the heart of a woman. This is the power of vulnerability. And guess where our freedom resides? You guessed it in our ability to be real, to be vulnerable, to be free to be ourselves just as we are.

Free to be who we are without the masks, without the armour, without the judgements, without the anger, without the resentment, without the entitlement, without the deception of the ego.

The divine feminine will lead the sacred masculine to the path of his truth. She will lead him home to his heart where all of his wisdom, power and answers reside.
Both the masculine and the feminine have pretty big missions to help each other fulfill. The missions are balanced in their energetic requirements however differ in the nature and application of the healing.

What we do together

The masculine will bring the structure and energetic boundaries for the free flowing creative juiciness of the feminine to dance between. On an individual level this means we must come into balance with these aspects of ourselves.

We must have equal amounts of structure to equal amounts of flexibility.
We must have equal amounts of decisiveness to equal amounts of creative free flow.
We must have equal amounts of groundedness to equal amounts of dreaming and visioning
We must have equal amounts of work to equal amounts of play
We must have equal amounts of security to equal amounts of freedom.

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Why relationships are the perfect territory to learn

In a romantic relationship our hearts are open and to some degree we have an understanding that the unification of our polarities is necessary for our greatest evolution. Relationships give us access to the bliss and deliciousness of love’s embrace. They also quickly bring to the surface of our awareness everything that is unlike love. This happens so that we may activate the courage and strength it takes to clear all of our blocks to love.

radical self love kelsey grantOur resistance to learning from each other is one of the biggest blocks we collectively must overcome. We will have loads and heaps of generations to forgive and ultimately this forgiveness will set us free. Forgiveness is a shift in perception from fear to love. It removes a block within you, to your awareness of loves presence. It is the ultimate healing tool and the one most avoided by all people.

A conscious partnership will actively embrace the wisdom of forgiveness and allow the space for both people to expand into their greatest potential. To prepare ourselves for this new level of conscious relationship we must do the work within first to establish the foundation. This foundation will hold and withstand the intensity of the divine feminine colliding with the sacred masculine will ultimately unleash.

This level of relationship will pierce through your illusions, break down your walls and nurture and call out the brightest light that has always dwelled within. It starts with the relationship you have with you.

For those of you who are ready for the quest of conscious relationships, a Radical Self Love practice has to be in full swing. We must first have a healthy and vibrant relationship towards ourselves in order that we are in vibrational alignment with this level of partnership. If you are ready to begin your sacred partnership journey join us in the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program to begin building that solid love foundation for your divine love to thrive inside of.

The greatest gift we can ever give another is the gift of our own self development.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Space That Stillness Creates- Day 310: 365 Radical Self Love Project

When we get still we create the conditions for that which is aligned with our souls path to align.
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This week I’ve been rocking the stillness train. Lots of rest, reflection and self exploration. What this has made available: the space for dreams to manifest and opportunities to pop up.

Today I had a wonderful meeting about a speaking engagement I’ve been asked to do here in Vancouver. We’ll be releasing all the official deets in the next few days but what I can tell you is that I’ve been asked to do a “Ted-like” presentation, short and sweet (15-20mins) on Radical Self Love, Body Image and Honouring the Ultimate Relationship- The One You Have With YOURSELF!!!! I’m beyond pumped!

Additionally this week I’ve been asked to have my original music used in a documentary film!!! Also incredibly exciting- and for those of you who have been long awaiting some legit recordings of my tunes we’ll have at least a couple tracks to release after the documentary awesomeness wraps up!

radical self love kelsey grantAnd best of all- I’ve found my creative sweet spot again. The beautiful space I love to dwell that is a mix of sass, humour, compassion and heart centred-for your highest good- creation zone. My writing for the past few months behind the scenes has taken a more serious tone. While I’m sure this was necessary I felt it was a little off for me. Returning to my playful, sassy- no nonsense style of writing has made me come alive again in these past few days. I’ve written more in the past 48 hrs (towards my books) than I have in the past month.

When life throws us an unforeseen “obstacle” or “delay” we are actually being primed more than we know to be able to hold the incredible nature of our hearts desires. The tricky part is actually opening up to this awareness and allowing the “delay” to unfold all of it’s magic into your conscious awareness.

In this week I had loads of time to connect within which is where ultimately all the guidance comes from. It also gave me a chance to reconnect with people whom I had not connected with in a while who awakened the silly, sassy, humorous parts of me that had temporarily gone into hibernation.

It is with this “new” refreshed and more authentically connected perspective that I get to step into a brand new week with. I’m delighted and excited for what is in store next and with all the energy that I’ve restored this week I’m ready to go baby!!!
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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Beauty of Trust- Day 308: 365 Radical Self Love Project

First of all big ups and  thanks to my friend Matt Corker for posting this on his blog yesterday. If you wanna see his original post you can do so HERE. Matt is an incredible human and I would highly suggest checking out what he is up to 🙂

Now onto the post for today. This video below is all about TRUST and why it is worth it.

As someone who has experienced breaks in trust in vary capacities throughout life I have sometimes struggled with opening to trust again. When a betrayal takes place the automatic response for most, myself included is to shut down. Doing so in the mind of the ego reduces the chances of being hurt or betrayed again. However our shutdown hearts are what often causes the experience to manifest again and again.

A shutdown or closed heart does not vibrate very high on the energetic frequency scale. As per law of attraction we attract what we are, we attract what we are vibrating. Our emotions will often give us very clear insight into where we are rockin on the vibes scale. A closed heart goes along with all the not so great feelings of anger, frustration, anxiety, upset and more reasons to withhold trust. When we activate these vibrations repeatedly within our bodies and minds our energy fields begin to pull in people and experiences which are a compatible match for the vibes we are putting out.

If we want to change the result we must change ourselves.

To keep the positive vibes flowing we must learn to embrace a breech of trust from a new elevated perspective. When trust is broken we are being granted one of the most precious opportunities our spiritual paths will offer us- the opportunity to forgive and move forward more open and more brilliant than ever before. I like to think of it as a spiritual crossroads, when trust is broken I can either shut down my heart and take on the idea that people are shit and no one in the world can be trusted OR I can adopt the perspective that everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have access to, that the Universe is friendly and its for me, and that anything I judge as wrong or bad about another is leading me to a greater understanding of what still requires healing within me.

If we want to go even deeper we can begin to look where in our own lives have we betrayed ourselves, broken our own trust in ourselves? I have found that anytime something manifests in my outward life it is a direct mirror to something within me that is ready to be looked at and healed through the lens of love. In my most recent experience of betrayal and broken trust- I chose to look within to find where I first betrayed myself and then I got to work on healing that area. That area was my self love. I had been giving up so much of myself I had become completely confused at who I was and where I stood in life. The outward betrayal in my relationship was the mirror for me to go within. My ability to trust again resided in my ability to trust myself first.

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Broken trust is never an easy thing but it is the ultimate soul test- will you allow it to shut down your heart which ultimately means shutting down the beautiful gift that is you, or will you allow it to crack you open and shine your brilliance even brighter?

The key to moving through a break in trust is to allow yourself the space and permission to process for as long as you need, when you are ready, forgive (a shift in perception from fear to love), then quest to identify the blessing and in your time and in your own way release it.

Keep sharing, keep opening and keep trusting. The world is a beautiful place and people deep down just want to be good- sometimes tho they need a powerful example to follow.

Enjoy this video on the beauty of trust and why it is totally worth it!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Why We Should Be Hyper Selective In Who We Take Advice From- Day 302: 365 Radical Self Love

I’ve been having some really incredible conversations with clients over the past few days and there have been some incredibly synergy inside of all of our chats.

One thing that keeps coming up is “How do I know whose advice to listen to?”.

So I’m going to address it here on the blog as I imagine many more of you who are on the path of self development and self love are faced with a similar internal conversation.

Here is the think if you are just stepping into your awakening and your transformation people in your community most likely are not going to like it. They might have a lil shit fit, influence you to not go down the path of inner work or be full of reasons why personal development is a waste of time and a totally rip off and fill your head with less than empowering advice.

I have experienced all of this.

So why oh why do the people we think love us behave like this?

Because your transformation, evolution threatens the “safety” of their illusion. If you begin to look at yourself and make positive changes, it will mirror to them where they are NOT and thats not a fun thing to face. If you start creating results, transforming your body, mind and life it will completely debunk their internal ego story that nothing changes, people can’t change, victim,victim victim. To keep from having to deal with their own shit they will often try and deter you any way they can. ***Note this is often completely unconscious behaviour and they are not usually maliciously trying to keep you stuck***

See them through new eyes

When you elevate your perspective and awareness you can begin to see their behaviour as serving a deeper function. At the core they just want you to be happy and stepping into the unknown threatens the possibility of what they perceive happiness to be. So really when your friends try and keep you from going forward, in a strange sense it is their way of demonstrating to you that they care and just don’t want to see you get hurt by going into the unknown.

It is also a MEGA soul test for you- will you allow them to control your behaviour or will you assert yourself and stand in your truth?

radical self love kelsey grantWhen we are out of integrity and living out of alignment our egos will select company who will reinforce the stories we tell ourselves to keep justifying our behaviour. We attract people who will tell us what we want to hear not what we need to hear.

As we level up and awaken to our unlimited potential the people we attract into our lives will change. These new peeps will be straight talkers, they will call us out on our BS and they will not always tell us what we want to hear but what we need to hear for our highest good and the highest good of all involved.

Their advice will be firm but filled with love. They will see you as your greatness and relate to you as someone who is CAPABLE of making the much needed changes to fulfill your soul’s mission.

Anyone who relates to you as capable of being a greater version of yourself, calls you to heal yourself and encourages you to seek the answers within you are the people that will be the most beneficial to listen to. Ultimately these people act as mirrors- they mirror to you the wisdom of your spirit. They reflect to you the beautiful truth that resides deep within you.

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As a teacher, facilitator and coach of all things self love and relationships I can simply say, I only ever reflect back to you that which is lying dormant within you and is ready to become activated and conscious in your awareness. I will never teach you something you don’t already know on a spiritual level. Both parties knowing this is a mega access point to long term sustainable progress and transformation.

In the coming weeks I will be releasing registration for 2 incredible mastermind communities:

1. The Radical Self Love Relationship Mastermind. B This is a free mastermind for all those peeps who are a part of our RSL community and are looking for a community of like minded and like hearted women to explore the depth of possibility all our romantic relationships hold for us. I have 24 spots available for this mastermind and will be interviewing each participant to ensure harmony and compatibility. If you are interested feel free to email me and we can get a head start on setting up that initial call.

2. My first ever group coaching class- From Breakup To Breakthrough. This is a program I will be doing likely once a year. It is a 12 week curriculum designed specifically for women who have experienced a breakup recently and are ready to do the heart work to heal and get into delicious alignment for the relationship they are worthy and deserving of. This classroom is limited to 10 women and will be a combination of live coaching calls, video tutorials, workbooks and real time actions. The specific details will be released soon (dates, cost and curriculum outline) if you want to be first on the list to receive the details and claim a spot email me with the subject line “I Love Myself And I’m Ready To Move Forward”.

It is absolutely possible to be a part of both communities if that is the calling of your heart 🙂

Ultimately the path of Radical Self Love will have us develop our ability to listen to our own higher guidance the majority of the time. But hey we are all human and we will need those amazing, positive and possibility minded peeps to reflect back to us our divine wisdom from time to time.

When you are receiving advice from anyone just remember you aren’t obligated to take anyones advice if it insults your soul in any capacity. Rule of spirituality and personal development 101: Take what works for you and leave all the rest. Weigh any advice you receive against the truth of your heart and you will end up in the most beautiful of places 😉

To your brilliance,

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels