Some Days You Just Gotta Rest- Day 306: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today I woke up not feeling so hot.

radical self love kelsey grantThe past few days I had been a bit under the weather but still had enough energy to go through my days and accomplish tasks that needed to be completed. This morning however I awoke with body acheyness and I new this was a sign from my body to chill out and take a couple steps back.

Upon waking up I made a slow emergence out of bed and hopped right into a delicious 25 minute meditation. One of my greatest access points to healing on all levels is a regular stillness and meditation practice. In my meditations I will often receive guidance for my day and today the guidance was simple, juice and rest.

After making my way out of our room I snuggled up on the couch and fell back asleep. The body always knows what it needs to heal, the challenge sometimes is quieting the mind. I let myself rest.

When I awoke I made a massive immune boosting juice with beets, carrots, oranges, ginger and apple. Paired with some kombucha and water I was set for a few hours.

Today I let myself rest work wise too. I read and did a little bit of writing for the ebook and just maintained stillness as much as possible.

Now into the evening I have a few calls to complete and when they are finished it will be juicing round 2 this time green detox juice and hopping into bed early. I often ponder when life slows me down like this “What am I meant to learn or see that I am currently not seeing?” “How can I nourish my body, mind and spirit to feel better and better?” These two questions often set me right on the path for receiving all the answers required to resetting my vibes and healing my body.

If your body is calling for rest, nourishment or just some loving attention today give in and give yourself exactly what you need to be at your best- wherever that is today!

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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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What Hyper Criticalness Taught Me About Body Image And Radical Self Love Day 57: 365 RSL Project

So last night I had a full on meltdown.

Yup it happened. Within a couple hours of me posting the blog and admitting that when I am on the verge of something big my ego usually pulls out all the stops to keep me operating in the usual familiar ‘safe’ manor, I had an emotional breakdown.

Well it would appear I am on the verge of a breakthrough with my body image cause the ego has been rallying up quite a lil shit storm lately.

I_love_my_bodyAs I mentioned a few weeks ago my relationship to my body has always fluctuated. I have observed a new pattern inside of my body image relationship. I compare. I’ve caught my ego in a mess of comparison lately and behaving this way has completely distorted my perception of myself and my body.

 

The wonderful part of the Radical Self Love journey is that my awareness is attuned to observe these patterns of behaviour and bring them up for transformation.

I logically and rationally know that comparison is the thief of joy and I am pretty good a noting when I am comparing in almost all areas of my life. When I do notice it I generally catch it, reframe it and let it go. The one area that still trips me up, in all honesty, is body image.

Inside of my breakdown last night one thing became very clear. The physical actions I take (exercise and eating healthy) really make minimal difference if my internal dialogue is abrasive and down right mean. Meaning the physical state of my body is a manifestation of the internal state of my mind and thoughts about myself. Everything is a mirror.

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One of my strong suits is my attention to detail and the value I place on high standards and high quality. While this serves me well in most areas there is a flip side to it. When I use attention to detail to place unreasonable expectations on myself and become incredible critical about my appearance.

When my partner and I dove into this conversation last night we were able to get to the root of my body image issue which is that I’m hyper critical of myself. I’m almost constantly comparing my body to my perception of other women and placing completely absurd expectations on how my body is supposed to look all the time. I am really hard on myself for the way I look compared to the way I think I should look and most importantly I do not speak in a kind and loving way towards myself when I get caught in the trap of the ego and comparison.

935850_600609979962295_1137674081_nThe reason I am sharing this with you all today is simple. When things are out in the open I can no longer ‘get away’ with running these patterns of behaviour and self sabotage. I love how my body feels when my thoughts and emotions are in harmony with feeling good, being appreciative and loving towards the way I look. Any time I am able to do that something shifts in the physiology of my body. My eyes are brighter, my skin glows, my body looks and feels more toned. There is an energy I emit when I am in alignment with my true essence and practicing a positive relationship with my body and the image I hold about myself.

Today I got to practice this moment to moment, one step at a time. I gave my word to myself this morning to see the beauty in my body and to do things that were aligned with maintaining the positive self perception. How did my day go? Pretty well.

First to shift my energy in a big time way I focused on something greater than myself, being of service. To do this I rocked a clearing meditation and then invested in a 3 hr Radical Self Love coaching session with a client. Our session took us into a full day adventure of eating clean, hot yoga, green smoothies, green juice and lots and lots of love. I ended the day with an amazing follow up conversation with my partner, who held the space of compassion, understanding and unconditional love.

It’s a start and tomorrow when I wake up I am going to choose to be loving towards my self and my body. I will continue to wake up day after day and make this conscious choice and commitment until the new perception totally sinks in. However long it takes, I’m willing to do it. After all, I am worth it ūüėČ

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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!

Kels

Sunday Funday!! Day 23: 365 RSL Project

Today dear friends is Sunday Funday, a day dedicated to having fun and loving all over my life!

photo copy 2The morning started with an early morning KG date fully equipped with my lap-top, coffee, 1.5L of water, a sunny patio and RSL inspiration to the max.

I spent 3 hours writing blog posts, Radical Self Love articles for two new websites I’m a featured columnist for and writing another chapter of my Radical Self Love relationship ebook!!

Then I did a lil shopping to prepare for my LA performances this week, set up multiple meetings to discuss the sharing of RSL into community programs across Canada, scoped out some new places to live with the BF and now here I am writing to you all!

This afternoon I’m going to hit a seawall run/workout, sing and play my guitar and go read in the delicious sun for a few hours before finishing the day off with the best boyfriend in the world!

I am seriously so in love with my life and I am incredibly grateful to share this journey of Radical Self Love with you all!

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Radical Self Love to the Max ūüėČ

Kels

Releasing Constructively: The Healing Power of Tears-Day 15: 365 RSL Project

The Healing Power of Tears.

Yesterday I wrote about the benefits of clearing our physical spaces to improve our internal states of balance. The physical clearing and cleaning I did yesterday set me up for a beautiful emotional clearing last night. The past few months of my life have been incredibly beautiful and I am in awe of how I am truly aligning the best people, circumstances and opportunities into my experience. This personal shift has come about through some pretty intense contrast and emotional upheaval. In the last few months I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to practice major acceptance, forgiveness and true love.

While I have an incredible support system and many tools to reframe and recalibrate my energy, the ultimate reset for me has always been the release of emotions through crying.

imagesTears serve as the body’s way to release anxiety, sadness, anger, stress, frustration- basically any emotion that does not¬†feel¬†good in the body. Tears help us to purge stored emotions that may be hiding out deep within our bodies, minds and spirits.

I feel things really intensely and one of my coping mechanisms in the past has been to ignore and push any contrasting emotion or feeling, down and ‘away’. The challenge with operating this way is there is no where for those emotions to go. They stay in the body and end up manifesting in¬†dysfunctional¬†ways and as imbalance in my body’s health.

Learning to be vulnerable and raw has been no easy feat. It takes courage to show all of myself, especially the parts I’m not particularly fond of. However, this is what I have learned so far in my journey:

                                                                            What I resist, persists.

Meaning, when I attempt to push away certain feelings and emotions, or just straight up pretend they don’t exist, they store and are held captive in my body, mind and energy field. These ‘negative’ energies gain more and more power the more I try to avoid them. However, when I access the courage and vulnerability to:

1. Acknowledge the truth of where I’m at, what I’m feeling and what I’m dealing with

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2. Express and constructively release those emotions

I am more easily able to truly let go of the things that are holding me down.

It is important for me to share it is my belief that all of the feelings and emotions I experience are completely self generated. I am fully responsible for my experience and I have the power to perceive life’s events in ways which will either¬†challenge¬†me or empower me. I believe I have unconsciously called in all of the contrast in my life in order to learn incredibly valuable lessons, expand my ability to love fully and keep evolving into greater more aligned versions of myself.

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There always comes a time when I max out my ability to hold onto the things weighing me down and set myself up for the freedom of release.

Tears release stress hormones and toxins we have built up in the body. Crying stimulates the secretion of endorphines which are the feel good hormones within the body. This is why, at least in my experience, it feels so damn good to have a full hearted cry every once and a while. My body, mind and spirit feel lighter and in this lightness I am able to positively impact people in a more profound way.

Our truest power resides in our vulnerability and our ability to be brave enough to truly let ourselves be seen not only in our best of times but also in the most challenging times.

Only Love

Kelsey

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