The Beauty of Trust- Day 308: 365 Radical Self Love Project

First of all big ups and  thanks to my friend Matt Corker for posting this on his blog yesterday. If you wanna see his original post you can do so HERE. Matt is an incredible human and I would highly suggest checking out what he is up to 🙂

Now onto the post for today. This video below is all about TRUST and why it is worth it.

As someone who has experienced breaks in trust in vary capacities throughout life I have sometimes struggled with opening to trust again. When a betrayal takes place the automatic response for most, myself included is to shut down. Doing so in the mind of the ego reduces the chances of being hurt or betrayed again. However our shutdown hearts are what often causes the experience to manifest again and again.

A shutdown or closed heart does not vibrate very high on the energetic frequency scale. As per law of attraction we attract what we are, we attract what we are vibrating. Our emotions will often give us very clear insight into where we are rockin on the vibes scale. A closed heart goes along with all the not so great feelings of anger, frustration, anxiety, upset and more reasons to withhold trust. When we activate these vibrations repeatedly within our bodies and minds our energy fields begin to pull in people and experiences which are a compatible match for the vibes we are putting out.

If we want to change the result we must change ourselves.

To keep the positive vibes flowing we must learn to embrace a breech of trust from a new elevated perspective. When trust is broken we are being granted one of the most precious opportunities our spiritual paths will offer us- the opportunity to forgive and move forward more open and more brilliant than ever before. I like to think of it as a spiritual crossroads, when trust is broken I can either shut down my heart and take on the idea that people are shit and no one in the world can be trusted OR I can adopt the perspective that everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have access to, that the Universe is friendly and its for me, and that anything I judge as wrong or bad about another is leading me to a greater understanding of what still requires healing within me.

If we want to go even deeper we can begin to look where in our own lives have we betrayed ourselves, broken our own trust in ourselves? I have found that anytime something manifests in my outward life it is a direct mirror to something within me that is ready to be looked at and healed through the lens of love. In my most recent experience of betrayal and broken trust- I chose to look within to find where I first betrayed myself and then I got to work on healing that area. That area was my self love. I had been giving up so much of myself I had become completely confused at who I was and where I stood in life. The outward betrayal in my relationship was the mirror for me to go within. My ability to trust again resided in my ability to trust myself first.

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Broken trust is never an easy thing but it is the ultimate soul test- will you allow it to shut down your heart which ultimately means shutting down the beautiful gift that is you, or will you allow it to crack you open and shine your brilliance even brighter?

The key to moving through a break in trust is to allow yourself the space and permission to process for as long as you need, when you are ready, forgive (a shift in perception from fear to love), then quest to identify the blessing and in your time and in your own way release it.

Keep sharing, keep opening and keep trusting. The world is a beautiful place and people deep down just want to be good- sometimes tho they need a powerful example to follow.

Enjoy this video on the beauty of trust and why it is totally worth it!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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1 More Sleep Until My Man Comes Home!!! 293: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Only 1 more sleep until my man gets back and I am so freaking stoked!!

After 2 weeks of being apart he will be coming home tomorrow night and my heart couldn’t be happier. Today as a beautiful way to wrap this entire adventure up we hopped on a call and just reflected on all the positive aspects of our time apart has had on our relationship.

Some of the highlights:

1. We learned how to more effectively communicate our needs to each other.

2. We had the opportunity to have really deep, authentic and new level conversations about our relationship, where we are headed and share our excitement in co-creating in this new direction.

3. We got a chance to really miss each other.

4. We explored new creative territory with one another and infused this new creativity into our daily communication.

radical self love kelsey grant5. We got a chance to really build a foundation of trust and honesty.

 

While I am grateful for all of these beautiful gifts we have acquired over our time away from each other I am most certainly ready for him to come back.

So tonight I am going to celebrate this massive accomplishment (being apart and being ok) with my favourite dinner and a lil vino and enjoy a super chill vibe in the house flying solo for one more evening. I feel so blessed to have the relationship that I do and it most certainly has required work, positive intention, commitment to both our healing and a desire to co-create the relationship of our dreams.

After todays reflection I’d say so far we are doing pretty freaking amazing 😉

Wishing you all the love in the world and the most happiness this evening can provide!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Saying Goodbye, Getting Real and Taking Relationship Connection To A New Level Of Greatness- Day 281: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Tomorrow my man takes off for 2 weeks of work training.

With that being said today’s post will be shorter than most as we make the most of our last day together for a couple weeks.

This is a huge step forward for us and a massive opportunity to heal and really move into the next chapter of our conscious love story. So to make the most of it we declared the entire day to our relationship and having fun with each other.

radical self love kelsey grantWe got up early and went to a hot yoga class together.

Came home made breakfast I did a couple things around the house and gave myself a 20 min max for responding to important messages and being on social media.

Then we headed out to Granville market to grab stuff for dinner, do a little shopping and enjoy one of my favourite places to go for date day.

We followed the market up with a trip to one of our fav coffee shops and did some creation and brainstorming for his project.

Then our ego’s flared

Upon detached reflection I think this was our ego’s (or at least mine) attempt of avoiding addressing feeling sad and emotional for this time apart- and it lead a little mini breakdown in communication.

The breakdown in communication ultimately lead to the uncovering of my vulnerability and sadness of him leaving. While logically I know everything is going to be ok and I have worked through the anxiety of this massive step (for us) there was still a sadness around him leaving.

We got to explore the feelings and get out what needed to get out. I allowed myself to be true to myself and honour my feelings and show him that I truly was going to miss him. That realness and vulnerability is what truly brought us closer today. Sure all the fun stuff we did today was fabulous for the memory bank however the true heart merging occurred when I was ok enough with not being ok to show him exactly where I was at and what I was feeling underneath the strong exterior.

From this release, opening and connection we solidified our communication plan, made sure all of our modes of technology were working and set out to have a great night together, make some home made pizza and embrace this new chapter with as much positivity, realness and possibility we are capable of.

So off I go to have an incredible night with my man and say goodbye in the most honest, real and loving way I can 🙂

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Set It and Forget It- A Key to Effective Manifestation Day 104: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Looking for instant manifestation? Simple be a better human.

This is not a moral conversation. Being a better human in this context is simply referring to being your best version, living with integrity, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, lack of internal and external judgement, self love, high self esteem, taking aligned action, taking care of your vessel physically, emotionally, mentally, sexually and spiritually.

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There is a tonne of info out there about how to manifest instantly. This post is not one of them. There are many interwoven keys to instant manifestation and simply put they are all correlated to how aligned we are internally to our truth, our hearts and love.

Radical Self Love Kelsey GrantThe more self discovery you do and the more you implement the awareness you learn, the more effective you will be at manifesting. Also keep in mind you will only ever draw in experiences that are of highest potency for your spiritual growth. Meaning just because your ego wants that new spiffy car or those hawt new shoes you may not manifest these things simply because they are not on purpose for you at this point in time.

Our ego’s will want to consume and focus on manifesting things that will bring us instant gratification, increase our perceived status and ultimately make us “better” than other people. For the Radical Self Lover you are likely to be present of your ability and life purpose to make a positive difference in this world. So back to manifestation.

Take a tip from Ron Popeil- Set it and forget it.

Set your intention. What is it that you want to call into your experience? Feel into it, be clear about why you want what you want, beam it with gratitude and appreciation, let yourself daydream/visualize it, then….

Forget it. Let it go. Release it to the universe. Drop your expectations.

Kelsey Grant Radical Self LoveThe Universe is awesome and magical. It does not need to be reminded every 5 seconds of how much you want your intention (doing so will work in the opposite way you want it to). So go about your business as usual. Get on with your life. Understand your life is perfect, whole and complete already, as it is, because YOU are perfect, whole and complete as you are right meow. Be grateful for all you do have. Be great with people. Instead of focusing on the lack of what you are seeking fill yourself up with the presence of all the greatness in your life as of right now in this exact moment. Cultivate feelings and thoughts of belief. Learn how to strengthen your confidence and self worth. Practice building up your muscles of faith and trust in your day to day life. Spread love. Be love.

In those moments where desperation takes over immerse yourself in the service of others. This again will take your monkey mind off of dwelling and focusing on the lack of what you have intended and put ya back in the vibe of love where all possibility dwells!

Radical Self Love Kelsey GrantHappy Manifesting Lovers!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Day 4: 365 RSL Project

A beauty of a song I wrote during the peak of my Radical Self Love journey. Enjoy!

“Home”

Lying in your arms

Loving in your eyes

How quickly things can change

And we must say goodbye

As we both walk away

There is a choice we both must make

Choose the love that lies within

Or be who we’ve always been, it’s time

What’s meant to be will always find it’s way

All I know is tonight

I’ve gotta give it time, give it space to align

Let the pieces fall, dive in deep or you’ll never know

Face the shadow, loving all that you find

What you need to know will all reveal itself in time

The soul light guides you, trust every things ok

Surrender completely and love will find its way.

Fear is what we learn

Love is what we know

In the darkness of the night

In the time we’ve spent alone

We’ve had the space to find

The inner truth that guides us to

The breaking of the dawn

When I remember who you are, my love

I can learn to live without by my side

If that’s what you need to fly

I’ll hold you in my heart till I can hold you in my arms

I’ll trust that you’ll find your way

I’ve gotta give it time, give it space to align

Let the pieces fall, dive in deep or you’ll never know

Face the shadow, loving all that you find

What you need to know will all reveal itself in time

The soul light guides you, trust every things ok

Surrender completely and love will find its way.

Love will find its way, love will find a way

Cause every time you come back my heart finds its home

I can’t sleep now knowing what I know

When I feel into you I can breathe again

Love will find a way

Love will find it’s home

© Kelsey Grant 2013