The Day I Broke Up With My Ego Day 83: 365 Radical Self Love Project

The best breakup I’ve ever had happened this morning…

My partner asked me about my plan for the day and how all the content work was coming along for the website. A pretty standard question and totally reasonable. What was really interesting was what I observed happening inside of myself when he asked me his question. The automatic reaction was a familiar sense of pressure, guilt and defensiveness.

Ahhhhh the ego-ic erruptions 😉

Kelsey Radical Self LoveToday was the day I broke up with my ego and placed more energy on generating a breakthrough and stepping into a new territory. Unlike my familiar pattern which would have been to take it really personally, interpret his words as an attack or judgement that I wasn’t doing enough, I stopped myself. Simple as that. I heard the internal judgement, I felt the grossness of putting pressure on myself and the icky feeling of making myself wrong and I became consciously aware of the trickery of my ego and I let it go.

Awareness was the first step. It was like I was watching myself have these thoughts and observing myself experiencing these feelings all while still being in the drivers seat. I’ve been in this situation enough to know now these thoughts and feelings are warning signs my ego is about to attempt a take over. When I experienced the warning signs today instead of resisting and battling them I took a deep breath and relaxed into the present moment.

The present moment is always beautiful, it is always in a state of divine flow and connection. I allowed my deep breathing to reconnect me to the beauty of the present moment.

I also used all the tools I have to reframe the context of the situation. I reminded myself it was only a question asked from a space of curiosity, happiness and encouragement. This reframe made me feel really good. Feeling really good allowed me to relax even more and begin to enjoy the experience.


Inspirational quote: we become who we believe we are

I was able to see that it was only my internal judgements about myself I was being faced with. For these judgements and harsh self talk I let myself off the hook. I took my power back and actively told myself the truth- that I am calm, kind and loving and anything outside of that experience is there to distract me from achieving my goals and beaming more goodness into the world. In other words- I broke up with my ego.

Within moments the ego-ic erruption was diffused and I could get back to rocking out my day and being in harmony with the world around me. From there I was able to really show up for my coaching session this afternoon and leave a really positive impact.

Just to be clear I know this isn’t the last time my ego will surface, however this experience today has set my personal standards a lot higher. Meaning the calibre of thoughts, feelings and emotions I will allow myself to experience regularly will be of the high vibin constructive variety. I get I may have to break up with my ego every day and if that’s what it takes to be happy, positive and leave this world a better place, then that is what I’m prepared to do!!!

Osho quote

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!



Pride, Mom Visits and the Epic Birthday Adventures Continue Day 44: 365 RSL Project

HAPPY NEW DAY/ HAPPY PRIDE!!!! Today my momma flew into town for a quick little bday visit. It’s pretty cool that my mom flies out to the city I live in on her few days off just to spend some time together and celebrate my birthday.

These occasions are just so incredibly precious. There was a time when I honestly didn’t truly value the importance and amazingness of the relationship with my mom. I can say I am truly lucky to have awoken to the preciousness of a mother daughter relationship and am so incredibly blessed to have done some big time solo healing in order to open and allow our relationship to develop into the incredible friendship we now share.

photo copy 12I feel so lucky to have such a loving and caring mom, who truly does support me in every single way possible. To have a relationship so connected that she flew out to Vancouver (after flying to LA last week to support me in my show) to take Connor and I out to celebrate my birthday.

photo copy 13Before our dinner tonight we quested around this beautiful city, went for breakfast, visited our favourite book store, took a lil gander to a crystal store, picked up some new friends for the crystal collection, got mom her new ipad and then made our way to an incredible dinner.

I am so happy to have the relationship we now do- and it has come formed through our cultivation of these four principals:

1. Honesty

2. Vulnerability

3. Openness

4. Unconditional Love

We each have travelled our unique paths to lead us to this point in time. Both paths have been filled with juicy lessons and opportunities for growth and deeper connection. I am so happy we both stepped up to the plate many years ago and freely chose to co-create a better relationship. The bond we share now is beyond what I ever thought was possible and I can truly say my mom is one of my best friends.

I am so grateful for this mini weekend trip and all the magical blessings it has already ushered in. How does it get any better than this?!

photo copy 10Love you momsie!!!

P.S. Mega gratitude to my moms friend Tony who blessed us with some incredibly pie for birthday dessert! Feeling very loved! ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!


Day 6: 365 RSL Project

Harmonious communication and energy exchanges between myself and others has always been an ongoing learning for me. I have learned my biggest lessons in effective communication through contrasting experiences. In other words I learned what to do from doing things that didn’t work so well.

Here are some musings from my heart to yours:

If you relate to someone in a way that only allows them to engage in lower vibrational actions and conversations, that is exactly what you are going to get. In other words, this type of behavioural pattern, creates, with the expectation of experiencing reactions and confrontation.

Alternatively, if you give someone the opportunity to understand they will. This type of engagement requires courage, understanding, compassion, openness and the awareness to consciously choose operating from a higher vibrational vantage point. People will rise to meet our positive expectations if we allow them to.

Relating to others as their greatness starts with being responsible for creating constructive energy, empowering conversational dynamics and respectful actions with one another.

Only Love ❤