Beauty Is A State Of Mind: A Touching Reminder- Day 296: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Beauty is in the mind of the beholder.

This morning a wonderfully amazing RSL member shared this video with us. It is so chalked full of Radical Self Lovin goodness that I just had to share with you all tonight.

Below is a video documenting a very powerful experiment in beauty.

Watch, reflect and be inspired!

It is what we think about who we are that matters the most. There is never a quick fix that will make us more beautiful than we have declared in our minds that we are. To be beautiful we must begin with thinking beautiful thoughts about ourselves- and then the transformation begins.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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Spirituality and Body Image- DAY 283: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Spiritual Guides To Healing Our Body Image

A fellow RSL member reached out to me the other day to request any books about positive body image.

The first person who came to my mind was the lovely Gabby Bernstein.

I would recommend both Spirit Junkie and May Cause Miracles.

Gabby teaches through her real life experiences with spirituality and body image in both of these books.

Additionally I would recommend Doreen Virtue’s book Constant Craving and her audio program Healing Your Appetite, Healing Your Life- A Spiritual Approach to Life and Weight Management.

And of course the ever amazing lady to started this entire spiritual community Louise Hay. Her book You Can Heal Your Life is a must have.

I also tracked down a really great interview Gabby did a while back which touches on body image from a spiritual perspective. I love all of these authors and speakers and have really resonated with each of these books/programs. I have gone through each one and I can say with full certainty these gems certainly helped along my path of self love, self acceptance and developing a more body positive self image.

Happy Exploring ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Healthy Body, Healthy Love: How Our Body Image Shapes Our Relationship Success- Day 245: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well it’s monthly workshop share time!!

This month is a juicy one!

“Healthy Body, Healthy Love: How Our Body Image Shapes Our Relationship Success”

In this month’s Radical Self Love Workshop series we are diving into the world of body image, health and relationships.The image we hold of our bodies is directly correlated with the outcome and harmony of our intimate and romantic relationships. In this month’s workshop we are going to identify the connection between how we see ourselves and the ways in which we show up for love and relationships.

In this workshop you will learn:

* How our health/body image habits directly mirror our patterns and habits in relationships.

* Why we fall back into old habits and new effective tools to embrace this normal experience.

* How to cultivate the harmony of positive self image, body image and relationship image.

*The fundamental importance of learning to embrace our shadow side with the beautiful energy of light and love.

radical self love kelsey grantWomen and men alike all struggle to some degree with body image. Like wise we all struggle to a degree in our ability to connect and thrive in romantic partnerships. The cause of both breakdowns is a block in love.

In this workshop we will be sharing HOW to uncover the blocks to love we all have in body image and drawing the incredible correlation that our body image has on our success in romance.

Only once the darkness within has been identified can it be transformed into something beautiful, something new, something worthy of love’s name.

If you are vibin with us and are ready to come rock out another fabulous Thursday session we will be starting promptly at 7. Please arrive early doors will open at 6:30. We will be in the love flow until 9pm!

Tickets are $15 in advance or $20 at the door. Advance tickets are available in the link below or copy and paste this link into your browser (https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/healthy-body-healthy-love-how-our-body-image-shapes-relationship-success-tickets-10707846457)

***If you are not in the Vancouver area and would like to join us you may purchase the audio of the live workshop for $11. Email me directly at rsl@kelseygrant.com with the subject line “February Virtual Workshop Details” and I will set you up from there! ***

This workshop IS for you if:

  • You have struggled with maintaining a positive self image and body image and feel ready and willing to make a substantial shift in your life.
  • You are interested in tools to increase your positive body image.
  • You are compassionate, self forgiving and embrace your ever growing evolution and expansion.
  • You are open minded and have embraced some level of spiritual connectivity.
  • You are looking for ways to enhance your romantic relationship and become a better partner.
  • You are keen on being surrounded by like minded positive, expansive and love filled community.
  • You are on your own unique journey of self love, self compassion, self awareness- and jump at the opportunity to soak up any resources and information that can contribute to your healing and growth.
  • You understand the importance of contribution and relate to yourself as someone who has a worth while perspective and you honour the contribution you are to your community.
  • You are committed to your personal transformation.
  • You believe in the power of love.

This workshop is not for you if:

  • You are looking for a quick fix
  • You are looking for dieting tips
  • You are closed off and naturally distrusting of new information or “happy people”
  • You don’t see the value in being on time, paying for workshops or being part of a high vibing community.
  • You are all talk and no action in your life.
  • You are more interested in looking at other peoples flaws and shortcomings than investigating your internal terrain.
  • You don’t believe in the power of love.

As always, whether or not this workshop or community is a fit for you, we honour you for stopping by and beam to you infinite blessings for your journey!!!

You can scoop up your ticket and additional event info HERE

 

Only Love,

Kelsey and Kristin

Burlesque, Body Love and 4 Steps For Full On Self Acceptance- Day 156: 365 Radical Self Love Project

As some of you may know I am a former burlesque performer.

About one month after moving cities nearly 5 years ago I had decided I wanted to learn burlesque and get back into the world of stage performing.

Kelsey Grant Radical Self LoveMy sexuality and personal acceptance of my body were the main themes I was working through at the time and burlesque was my outlet. I chose the route of broadway burlesque which is more or less cabaret style performing. It’s sensual, technical and requires confidence and full on body love.

I trained for a couple months until I felt comfortable getting out into the performing world again and rocking out in my incredible red sequin bra and deliciously yummy costumes. Performing in this manor helped me get back in touch with a part of me I had long been suppressing- my sexual self.

After being in a 3.5 year relationship where all things sexual were kept behind closed doors and appearances were everything, I was feeling less than connected to myself and such a huge part of my being- my sexuality, my feminine energy and the divine sensuality that flows through us all if we allow it.

Even though the style of burlesque I was rockin didn’t require the taking off of clothes, it still required getting on stage, in an incredibly sexy costume, dancing in high heals and exuding confidence and full acceptance of myself, my body and my talents. I’m an incredibly skilled performer, singing and dancing have always come naturally to me. So infusing an area of life I wanted to expand and empower myself in (sexuality) with my natural areas of talent (singing and dancing) made this exploration much easier and fulfilling.

Consistency and repetition = keys to success

radical self love kelsey grantThe more I practiced the better dancer I became. The more I got used to seeing my beautiful body move in the reflection of the mirror in class- to the sensual rhythms of the music the more in touch I got with my inner goddess, my sexual self and the awareness of how important it is for me to have a balanced and positive relationship to my body, my sexuality and my areas of talent.

It took all the courage I had to get on stage some nights but I did it. I felt the fear and I stepped right into it. From this bold action I ended up creating and leading my own burlesque troupe for over a year- who performed original cabaret style numbers, choreographed by me and one of the lead dancers- all for charity. We only performed for charitable events in Vancouver which gave us all a sense of purpose, contribution and self expression.

This morning I saw a video that brought all of this back into my awareness.

When I saw the following video this morning it reminded me of

  • How far I have come on my self love and self acceptance journey
  • How many women, and men, deal often in silence and alone with the pressures to accept their bodies

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I absolutely love the bold, fierce and courageous message within this video and within this beautiful woman. At some point we have to take our power back and begin reclaiming our self worth. It can be a challenge when surrounded by a bazillion messages every day attempting to program what is beautiful, what a perfect body looks like and how far away most people are from this unrealistic idea.

 

Love yourself just as you are. You are beautiful no matter what your size.

We are all so quick to judge each other and even quicker to judge ourselves. If we ever wish to live in a world where we don’t criticize, judge and attack each other we first have to learn how to positively acknowledge, accept and uplift ourselves. This begins with our internal dialogue. We must learn how to become more kind and loving in the things we say to ourselves.

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Four Focus’s to Increase Body Love and Self Acceptance RSL Style

  1. When we look in the mirror we must train ourselves to focus on the things we love about our bodies.
  2. We must learn to seek out our strengths and enhance those qualities and allow them to be expressed more openly.
  3. When we create our lives we must train ourselves to invest time and energy into keeping ourselves healthy and high vibin- this includes making time for exercise, healthy food prep and a spiritual practice of meditation and gratitude cultivation.
  4. We have to train ourselves to seek beauty, joy and love- in everything we do, in every one we meet and in every circumstance we find ourselves in.

It is when we begin to define ourselves by who we are, what we stand for and the contribution we bring to this world- we will begin to witness a world characterized by love.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

What Hyper Criticalness Taught Me About Body Image And Radical Self Love Day 57: 365 RSL Project

So last night I had a full on meltdown.

Yup it happened. Within a couple hours of me posting the blog and admitting that when I am on the verge of something big my ego usually pulls out all the stops to keep me operating in the usual familiar ‘safe’ manor, I had an emotional breakdown.

Well it would appear I am on the verge of a breakthrough with my body image cause the ego has been rallying up quite a lil shit storm lately.

I_love_my_bodyAs I mentioned a few weeks ago my relationship to my body has always fluctuated. I have observed a new pattern inside of my body image relationship. I compare. I’ve caught my ego in a mess of comparison lately and behaving this way has completely distorted my perception of myself and my body.

 

The wonderful part of the Radical Self Love journey is that my awareness is attuned to observe these patterns of behaviour and bring them up for transformation.

I logically and rationally know that comparison is the thief of joy and I am pretty good a noting when I am comparing in almost all areas of my life. When I do notice it I generally catch it, reframe it and let it go. The one area that still trips me up, in all honesty, is body image.

Inside of my breakdown last night one thing became very clear. The physical actions I take (exercise and eating healthy) really make minimal difference if my internal dialogue is abrasive and down right mean. Meaning the physical state of my body is a manifestation of the internal state of my mind and thoughts about myself. Everything is a mirror.

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One of my strong suits is my attention to detail and the value I place on high standards and high quality. While this serves me well in most areas there is a flip side to it. When I use attention to detail to place unreasonable expectations on myself and become incredible critical about my appearance.

When my partner and I dove into this conversation last night we were able to get to the root of my body image issue which is that I’m hyper critical of myself. I’m almost constantly comparing my body to my perception of other women and placing completely absurd expectations on how my body is supposed to look all the time. I am really hard on myself for the way I look compared to the way I think I should look and most importantly I do not speak in a kind and loving way towards myself when I get caught in the trap of the ego and comparison.

935850_600609979962295_1137674081_nThe reason I am sharing this with you all today is simple. When things are out in the open I can no longer ‘get away’ with running these patterns of behaviour and self sabotage. I love how my body feels when my thoughts and emotions are in harmony with feeling good, being appreciative and loving towards the way I look. Any time I am able to do that something shifts in the physiology of my body. My eyes are brighter, my skin glows, my body looks and feels more toned. There is an energy I emit when I am in alignment with my true essence and practicing a positive relationship with my body and the image I hold about myself.

Today I got to practice this moment to moment, one step at a time. I gave my word to myself this morning to see the beauty in my body and to do things that were aligned with maintaining the positive self perception. How did my day go? Pretty well.

First to shift my energy in a big time way I focused on something greater than myself, being of service. To do this I rocked a clearing meditation and then invested in a 3 hr Radical Self Love coaching session with a client. Our session took us into a full day adventure of eating clean, hot yoga, green smoothies, green juice and lots and lots of love. I ended the day with an amazing follow up conversation with my partner, who held the space of compassion, understanding and unconditional love.

It’s a start and tomorrow when I wake up I am going to choose to be loving towards my self and my body. I will continue to wake up day after day and make this conscious choice and commitment until the new perception totally sinks in. However long it takes, I’m willing to do it. After all, I am worth it 😉

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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!

Kels