The 5 Step Guide To Get You Back To Feeling Good- Day 248: 365 Radical Self Love Project

There has been a common theme among all the client sessions I’ve had today-

“How do I get back to feeling good when I feel so crappy?”

I figure if this showed up for all these peeps chances are a lot of you are wondering the same thing, so I am going to share with you some key practices to getting back into the good vibe!

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The 5 Step Guide To Get You Back to Feeling Good

1. Stop resisting where you are right now.

What we resist persists and what we fight we strengthen. The first and most important step to getting back to goodness is accepting the present as it is right now. Own what you are feeling even if it’s shitty. The moment you come into acceptance of what is so in the moment you allow yourself the energetic, mental and emotional space to create something new. It all starts with being honest with yourself.

2. Find your outlet to get all your excess energy out.

When we allow the not so good vibes to fester we run the very high possibility of snowballing into the world of downward spiralling. To approach this common pattern with love you will have to establish a way that works for you to get your excess energy out. When you are feeling frusterated, angry, upset what is your physical outlet to blow off that steam? Daily exercise is a great way to get these icky vibes out when they present themselves and it’s a long term solution to having them show up less frequently and certainly less intensely. Dancing, running, yoga anything that gets your body active and your heart rate up and your sweat on is ideal.

3. Stop hanging around with jerks.

Make a radical self love declaration to only keep around people in your life that bring out the best in you and you in them. Positivity, authenticity and compassion are key when making the social circle YES list.

4. Stop giving yourself permission to avoid doing things that will make you feel good, keep you in alignment and keep your vibes high.

The more we listen to our excuses the less results we see. Simple truth. If you want to be happier it is actually all up to YOU. If you keep doing things that make you feel crappy, or avoid doing the things you know will bring massive positive change  your way then the actual truth is you don’t really want to be happy. You most likely like the idea of being happy but are more committed to staying stuck that taking the actions that will get you there. Instead, if you are really committed to being happy, every time you come up with an excuse of why you shouldn’t do something you know will make you feel better, acknowledge it, and make the choice to do it anyway. Thank your excuse for sharing and remind yourself that happiness is a result of the actions, thoughts and feelings you call forth within yourself.

5. Make a go-to short list of things that raise your vibes.

Often when we are in the pit of self dispair we have short term memory loss and conviently forget what we could do that would raise our vibes and get us back into alignment (sneaky sneaky ego tricks). Make a list when you are clear and feeling good of the things you know to do to raise your energy and your vibes. For example my list consists of: listening to Keith Urban, looking a pictures of kittens or puppies, going for a walk and petting dogs on the street, snuggling an animal, watching the pure joy and laughter of a little human, meditation, watching episodes of The Awesomeness Advantage and the list goes on. The point is when we have this list we don’t give ourselves any room to default to our excuses which is a beautiful thing.

It’s ok to feel it all- just let yourself come back up for air.

radical self love kelsey grantIt is important to note that feeling, sad, low, and angry are all legit experiences of the human condition and we are meant to feel them to some degree in our lives. The purpose of this article and these suggestions is to support you in coming out of those phases quicker, to bring more awareness to why you are experiencing those feelings and how you can constructively learn from them- aka coming back up for air. There is also a distinction to be made here about experiencing a healthy dose of contrast and wallowing in our darkness.

Healthy Dose of Contrast VS Wallowing in Self Pity.

I personally believe the challenging times are the times when our greatest gifts are delivered to us- in the disguise of a challenge, hurt, upset, betrayal ect. Grief is a very important human expression and we must give ourselves permission to feel it all. We must also give ourselves permission to not be consumed by the temptation to wallow or spiral out of control with negative emotion.

radical self love kelsey grantI imagine since you are here reading this you are one of the beautiful humans who has incarnated this time around to beam more love and blessings into the world. This will mean you certainly will have your ups and downs throughout your lifetime and what makes your path a one of love is choosing to bring higher consciousness, deeper awareness and more freaking happiness into your experience!!! 😉

It is your divine birthright to be happy- let yourself go there and let yourself feel it all- especially the good stuff. You are worth it after all!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Kels

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“It Is An Act Of LOVE For Me To Say No”- How To Powerfully and Respectfully Stand In Your Truth- Day 218: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is an act of love for me to say no.

radical self loveThis is one of my all time favourite Radical Self Love mantras I have.

We have grown up in a culture which has conditioned us on many levels to fear saying and claiming what we want.

Part of being clear about what we want and desire also includes being clear what we don’t want. There comes a time in all of our lives when we are faced with saying no and staying true to ourselves.

How to deal with the guilt that comes up when we speak our truth.

Phase One

img-thingIf you are feeling like you have to explain why you are saying no, it is an indication that you have been saying no to yourself for a long time and saying yes to the world at the expense of your own true happiness. The impact of compromising in this way breaks our personal integrity. When we do things we don’t want to do we compromise our souls. We give up a piece of who we are. Doing this enough times leads to an experience of energetic fragmentation.

Energetic fragmentation is simply the scattering of our soul energy. When we give up ourselves for others energetically we give up a piece of who we are and unconsciously give the other person control over our soul energy.

Inevitably there comes a time when we become so sick of ourselves acting outside of our heart’s guidance that we WAKE UP. In this phase of awakening we become acutely aware of all the ways in which we have given ourselves up.

Phase Two

Once we are aware of the places in which we have given up ourselves we can begin the reclaiming process. We must command our spirit back. This means doing the exploration to identify the places, people and circumstances in which we have given away our power. Then we do a lil self lovin forgiveness work.

Self Loving Forgiveness

The commanding of our spirit back will require you to get radically real about where you gave yourself up and approach it from a space of empowerment. Meaning don’t fall into the ego’s trap of making yourself wrong for doing it. You did the best you could with the consciousness you had. When you know better you do better. Next one by one you are going to pull the circumstance, person or place in which we gave up our power and bless it with love.

” I am aware I unconsciously gave up my power to you. I forgive myself love myself. I forgive you and I love you. Thank you for teaching me this precious lesson. I now release you from playing this role for me and willingly command my spirit back.”

Your-past-mistakes-are-meant-to-guide-youOnce you repeat the forgiveness mantra sit in stillness. In this stillness you will begin to feel the experience of your soul piece returning. Some pieces come back quicker than others.

This is a fabulous practice to include into your daily RSL Routine.

We are all human and we all give up pieces of who we are along the way so we can learn to reclaim our power and become incredibly present to our divinity.

When we feel like we have to constantly justify ourselves what’s up with that?

It is a sign you have ignored your intuition for too long and your confidence has suffered a bit of a blow. Your perception of their lack of acceptance reflects your own inner insecurity with yourself and your choice. This is totally natural lovers especially for those of us, who for a very long time, didn’t speak up or share our truth.

You are building a new muscle and for the first little while you are going to feel uncomfortable. The length of time you feel uncomfortable is total under your control.

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Minimizing the Discomfort

Every time you feel like you have to justify or explain your choices, remind yourself your need to speak your truth will not always include everyone’s acceptance of your truth. Some people just won’t get it. Especially if it means you are now standing up for yourself inside a relationship where you previously allowed yourself to be walked over.

Ego’s don’t like transformation and they certainly do not like self love actions.

1743729_10152232664608707_2009396956_nWhen you are feeling like you are being challenged by someone on your belief system, remind yourself that your discomfort is a function of your ego not wanting to let go of a past, disempowering way of being. Any time we go into defence mode or justification mode we have activated our own ego’s.

Not everyone is going to like what you have to say when you start speaking your truth and darlings that is totally ok. One of two magical things will happen the more consistent and confident you become at speaking your truth:

1. People will really not be ok with your new confident and self lovin ways and it will become incredibly obvious through they’re behaviour that they are no longer be in vibrational harmony with you. Meaning you will start to attract people who are more on your wavelength who understand and respect where you are coming from.

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2. The more self assured you become the more your community will naturally acclimatize to your authenticity. They may need a little time to get used to it, but they will indeed get used to it and then come to know you as someone who now unapologetically speaks their truth – which is a pretty rad thing.

Basically the process of you sticking with it, even when it’s tough in the beginning, will reveal to you your honest and true friends, family and soul tribe.

How to increase the confidence when it comes to speaking your truth

Feeling confident about ourselves goes hand in hand with speaking our truth. So to enhance our success and our feeling of acceptance both internally and externally we must also develop our confidence and give ourselves mega acknowledgment.

The 30 Day Radical Self Love Program is designed for this exact transformation and inner development work. And if you haven’t scooped up your program yet try these on in the mean time:

1. Do more of what you are naturally good at.

When we put ourselves into situations where we will naturally shine our confidence gets a massive boosting. We all have a couple things we know we are just rockstars at, give yourself permission to do more of those things and make it a regular daily occurrence.

2. Walk through life with an engaged core.

Yup I’m talking about flexing those tummy muscles. When we activate our core we hold ourselves higher AND on an energetic level we activate our solar plexus which is our storage unit for confidence, self assuredness and self love. Practice tightening your core any time you are walking or sitting. If you really wanna take it up a couple notches add a plank exercise into your daily routine. Holding plank pose is a fabulous way to develop those muscles, activate the core, tone everything up and activate the yummy self confidence waiting to be set free in your solar plexus.

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3. Give yourself some credit.

We are often so focused on where we are lacking that we deplete our self confidence and self love tank without even noticing what we are doing. Giving gratitude and acknowledgement to yourself for all the greatness you are up to helps strengthen our confidence in a massive way. When we are thriving in positivity land we can HEAR the voice of our intuition clearly. When we can hear our intuition it is much easier to act on it’s guidance. To act on the intuition’s guidance is to act in our own integrity.

4. Remember this is a process.

We can be so hard on ourselves when we don’t see immediate results when it comes to shifts in our personal development. Remember this is much like training at the gym. You won’t see results right away after a workout, but with consistency and repetition you will one day look in the mirror and be blown away with the epic results you have achieved. The same goes for our self love and inner journeys. It will take time. Be patient and loving and enjoy flowing with the journey of your own awakening.

The more you begin to get comfortable with saying no to things that are really a no and yes to things that are really a yes your quality of life quickly begins to skyrocket. You have every right to thrive, be happy and live a life that honours your internal knowing.

No two people will have the same life experience so it is up to you to claim what works for you and what doesn’t coming from a place of respect, kindness, love and peace.

People will do what they do and say what they say and in the end none of it has anything to do with you. 

Keep rockin your truth lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

For all those ready to ROCK your 30 Day Radical Self Love Journey sign up here to get started: www.kelseygrant.com/30dayprogram

Three Valuable Lessons My Coach Taught Me Today- Day 209: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I love Thursdays

Thursdays are my coaching days. They kick off with my amazing coaching session with my coach and then I rock client sessions throughout the day.

Why I have a coach

What makes me an effective coach, leader and facilitator is my willingness to be coached and teachable. I know enough to know I don’t know everything. I am like anyone else who signs up for coaching. I have a life that sometimes gets lifey. I experience contrast, breakdowns and challenges. I am effective at what I do because I allow myself the space to work through my stuff and clear my shit in respectful and constructive ways.

My coach reminded me of three very valuable lessons today:

radical self love1. There are some people who by nature seek drama and it is not a life requirement to get pulled into their shit-storm.

2. Conflict can only arise when there is a lack of clarity.

3. When dealing with conflict, breakdown and emotions there is always room for possibility and the opportunity of a breakthrough.

While we may write certain people off in our lives because they are challenging we must keep in mind that those people are brought into our lives for a very important reason. They are always brought into our lives to help us overcome our own limitations and internal conflict. While they may present this opportunity it is important to note it is not required to keep them in our lives. Sometimes we just have to bless people, wish them the best and set them free.

What we see in others means nothing about them and everything about us.

We-do-not-see-things-as-they-are-we-see-things-as-we-areOur model of the world is based on our own personal life experience. No two people experience life the same and there for no two people will share the same perspectives and interpretations of life’s events. What occurs to one person as peaceful occurs to another as an attack and it is all rooted in our perceptions of the world. Some people just have a lens of drama. They unconsciously seek it and perpetuate it.

We either believe we live in a hostile universe where everyone and everything is out to “get” us or we believe we live in a kind and loving Universe where everyone and everything exists to help us grow, understand and come more into alignment with our truth. When we believe the world is out to get us we act in such a way to ensure we are “right” about it. Meaning we leave a lot of grey room in our communication, in our actions and in our behaviour. Lack of clarity is the ideal breeding grounds for conflict. This is why clear agreements and the management of details plays such a vital role in our ability to thrive and experience possibility.

Clarity is the foundation in which possibility is built on.

When we have a solid foundation we minimize the opportunity and space for breakdowns with each other. However when breakdowns do occur, and they do for all of us. What there is to understand is we all have the opportunity to handle them in a respectful and  constructive manor.  One of the foundational pieces of coming into harmonious resolutions is this: before launching into coaching mode or giving feedback mode create the space for possibility and have their agreement.

This means setting the conversation or context up in such a way where you allow the other person to freely choose what is best for them at this point in time. Most people just spew their breakdown, go on the attack and then wonder why the person on the other end is not receptive.

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What we can do to shift this is simply ask permission.

WayneDyerQuote1Get their buy in. When you have something you need to share, before you share, ask them if they are open and willing to hear what you have to say right now and have the conversation. This one simple step sets you both up to win.

It ensures you will only have the conversation when both parties are open, willing and receptive to feedback. Until that happens we leave the space for more upset, more conflict and no resolution.

It certainly takes courage and a higher level of self awareness to operate this way- and it is totally worth it. Communication that is clear, honest and constructive is always the way to go. When you respect another by allowing them the space to choose when is the best/most optimal time to have the convo you are already on the path to success.

Harmony in breakdowns comes from a willingness to see things differently. Willingness to forgive. Willingness to learn. Willingness to grow and most importantly willingness to love. 

Choose love lovers- it just feels better 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

From Breakup to Breakthrough- How One Year of Self Love Changed Everything- Day 206: 365 Radical Self Love Program

Well we did it!!!!! The 30 Day Radical Self Love Program is complete and out in the world! Right now I am feeling pretty darn excited, proud and in all honesty a little overwhelmed, in the best possible way. This program came … Continue reading

RSL Feature Friday: Katie Phillips- Daring and Mighty Day 203: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It’s Radical Self Love Feature Friday time love faces!!!

radical self loveThis week I have the incredible pleasure of introducing you all to RSL Member Katie Phillips! Katie is the founder of Daring & Mighty a fellow self love company dedicated to supporting women in finding their flow, living a life they love all on the foundation self love.

Why we love Katie:

Katie is brilliant, kind and beautiful burst of positive, inspiring and heart opening energy. Her vibe is gentle, welcoming and encouraging. Her mission to help women develop a deep sense of self, self-worth and self-love – all fundamental to living a Daring & Mighty life, makes her a fabulous contribution to this community and to this world.

Why Katie is our choice for RSL’s Feature Friday:

radical self loveKatie, like us all has an incredibly powerful story about her path to self love. Like most of us we learn through the most challenging and painful times. If we use these experiences to their fullest capacity we can breakthrough the limitations we have created and set ourselves free. To do this brave work takes massive amounts of courage and self love. Katie’s story is one of those. Katie’s mother was one of her greatest teachers. When her mum took her own life after a long battle with depression, Katie had two choices, she could either self destruct and allow that experience to shut her down and close off OR she could see the divine calling her mother’s path was pulling her towards. This was the path of awakening, this was the path of forgiveness, this was the path of self love.

What I love and adore about Katie is her willingness to share her vulnerability and her story, knowing that there are so many others out there who are dealing with great sadness and her example gives them a source of positive inspiration that their lives can be different when they make the conscious choice to love themselves first.

radical self loveI also absolutely LOVE that Katie is a mum herself. As we go along the journey of life it is so encouraging, and inspiring to have women to lead the way. Katie is certainly well equipped to support all the mommas out there who are wanting to develop a self love practice and still maintain their divine calling as mommas. She completely knows what it takes to establish a self love foundation all the while caring and supporting her son.

I personally love this about her. I can only support those who are dealing with things I have personally experienced. I am not quite at the motherhood phase and I am so very grateful to have incredible women like Katie in my life who lead the way through their positive example. She speaks through her experience and to me that experience is so valuable and appreciated.

I honour her courage, her authenticity, her transparency and her desire to see a world filled up with love.

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Katie has a mission to remove the stigma that is often associated with “self love” and shine some light and truth into the perceptions of people around the world. To her self love is imperetive to creating a world of love and peace- I couldn’t agree more!!

radical self loveKatie’s life work is to support women in establishing their own “self love affair” as the foundational piece to living a life they love and are fulfilled and inspired by. As an additional means to support women in getting their self love on she is a creative artist and she has designed various affirmation art pieces. So RAD!

Katie’s energy just welcomes collaboration, positivity and harmony. We love that she leads by example and is a Rockstar leader in the self love movement! We honour her and the brilliant life work she contributes to this world.

Katie is about to kick off her 2014 Self Love Affair Mightymind a three month program for women who know in their heart they are here for a divine purpose and are looking for the access to getting there. This program is a mix of Skype calls and private FB coaching to help each woman on her journey of becoming Daring and Mighty. More details here: http://bit.ly/1gqoZU4

We are so blessed to feature another fabulous woman rockin the self love work in the world. We honour her and encourage you to head on over and give her some love!!!

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More women like Katie in the world = a massive win for the betterment of this world 

Connect with Katie:
Website: www.daringandmighty.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/daremightythings
Twitter: @DareMightyThing
Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/daringandmighty
Youtube: www.youtube.com/user/DaringAndMightyTV

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

KG

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The Juciness of Our Three Day Christmas Tree Adventure- Day 177: 365 Radical Self Love Project

As I sit writing this I am surrounded by my family, all of us sitting in the living room respectively working on each of our personal projects. It is so incredible to be with incredible people, all on the same vibe.

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We have Christmas music playing in the background, our Christmas dinner cooking on the stove, a holiday movie ready to roll tonight and our tree is finally complete.

I’m pretty sure our Christmas Tree Adventure happened as it did for a couple reasons. The first being so that I could truly appreciate the beauty of having it and having it complete and the second being a funny story to tell about my first Christmas Tree.

I’ve lived on my own for the past 13 years and this is the first year I have had to get my own tree. I’ve always lived with roommates who had the tree and I never really had to think about it.

Day 1

This year we were so graciously gifted a massive tree..7.5 feet. Absolutely HUGE. Our apartment is really nice and open and pretty big for a downtown space, however it is not quite big enough for a 7.5 foot tree 😉 We made a solid attempt. On Friday we unpacked it and unfolded the branches only to find it took up our entire living room, yes the entire room.

Our Friday night decorating adventure didn’t quite happen the way we thought- perhaps a lesson in releasing attachment?! 😉

Day 2

So Saturday my mom and I set out for what would be an entire day of adventuring to different places attempting to locate a little 3 foot tree. By 7pm, a full nine hours after we had started our Christmas tree adventure, we returned to the very first place we went to. I had surrendered into the acceptance that whatever tree we would end up would be the perfect one and with the clarity it would be a super cute three foot tree. I even made up a little funny song to sing to myself and the Universe with my three foot tree intention. It made me laugh on the inside and that raised my vibes to be in alignment to receive the gift from the Universe.

From there we ended up attracting a hilarious manager who helped us find the perfect tree and gave it to us for 50% off since last week it went on sale for a couple days and he wanted to make our trip really fabulous. We scooped up a couple more ornaments and came home to finally decorate and get that beauty all set up.

Day 3

Radical Self Love Kelsey GrantOur tree while fully equipped with lights required batteries to turn them on- so our final step today was to pick up our batteries and come home and turn our beautiful tree on.

I am so happy with our cute little 3 footer and it is the perfect size and addition to our family and our home.

This three day adventure has taught me patience, reinforced the power of clear intention and the value of surrender and detachment. It has also made for a hilarious family adventure and a beautiful outcome…a stunning tree full of love, handpicked ornaments and awesomeness!

Grateful, grateful, grateful!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Releasing Attachment and Embracing Acceptance: What One Hair Cut Taught Me- Day 173: 365 Radical Self Love Project

This past week has brought a new level of awareness and eventually self acceptance into my experience.

About a week ago I went to go get my hair cut. I’m very particular about my hair and lets just be honest, I’m totally attached to it. It took me five years to grow it out and I have always really loved long hair. So imagine my surprise when my long locks were lying on a pile on the floor below my chair. When something like this happens there really isn’t much to do except eventually get to a place of acceptance via shifting internal perceptions.

What this hair cut taught me:

1. Un-communicated expectations are at the root of many, and most upsets.

I had an expectation of how my hair was going to look, I showed a picture and it turned out very different. Had I communicated how important it was to me to keep the length of my hair, perhaps it would have gone differently, perhaps it wouldn’t. The point though is not my hair, but what my hair brings to my awareness. If I have uncommunicated expecations with a hair cut- I have them all over my life. It is now up to me to discover where these expecations exists and then *GASP* communicate them effectively.

2. Attachment to an outcome is painful.

I was really set on the way it was going to go and when it turned out differently I completely had a meltdown and continued to experience internal conflict-all because I had a very strong attachment to how it should go. Like anything in life what is meant to happen is what does. Everything happens for a reason and when we hold death grips on our expectations we rob ourselves from the opportunity to see what we are being called to learn. There is always a greater and higher reasoning to why things happen the way they do. I can see first hand why having these restrictive attachments is something my higher self was guiding me to release- the more I embrace going with the flow and being clear in my expectations, the more I can actually relax and trust that whatever happens is what is meant to happen for my highest good. This does wonders for the experience of inner peace, happiness, abundance and flow. For True.

3. I am my biggest critic.

This massive change brought up a whole lot of “stuff” about feeling pretty, attractive and sexy. This entire situation has brought to my attention how hard I can be on myself and my physical appearance. What this also really brought to my attention was the fact that until my internal state resonates with the positive feedback I was receiving from others, I will actually reject what is coming at me externally. Meaning every single person I have come into contact with since getting the hair cut has affirmed just how amazing it actually looks- I couldn’t accept their praise as the truth simply because that was not what I believed inside. It wasn’t until today when I fully embranced, accepted and could see the beauty of it that I could really take in the positive feedback externally as truth.

4. The things that trigger an upset are not actually what we are upset about.

WHHHAAAT??!!! Yup it’s true, while I’ve known this for quite some time this entire experience drove the lesson home even more. I was triggered into an upset by my hair cut. Deep down what I was actually upset with was much different. The hair cut was just the surface trigger point to lead me to a deeper understanding of myself and the profound richness of my being. It was really about: my levels of self acceptance, my communication skills and my self perceptions. I have learned through this experience to see myself as beautiful no matter what, to accept myself as a beautiful and attractive woman inside and out, to level up my communication, learn how to communicate my expectations clearly, and how to allow the positive feedback from the outside guide me towards developing a more positive and loving relationship with myself.

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So all things considered this was indeed one of the best hair cuts I have ever received, because it was so much more than a change in physical appearance. It inspired the transformation of my self acceptance, my body acceptance, my body love and ultimately my self love. This is a win, a really big one 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

It’s My Man’s 30th Birthday Time to Celebrate!!! Day 150: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today my man turns 30.

1234064_10200597021314658_240328618_nWhat a beautiful life milestone. I absolutely loved turning 30 last year and I am so blissed out he has now joined me in the land of 30.

What I loved about entering this phase of my life was that for the first time I really felt grounded in who I was. My twenties were a phase where I was experimenting with life. Trying all sorts of things, exploring what I wanted and what I didn’t want. It was a time of great self discovery, travel, learning, accomplishment, stepping out into my own, taking giant leaps of faith and coming into a greater understanding of myself, my talents, my passions and why I am here.

Upon my 30th birthday I had really settled into my skin. I could confidently say I knew who I was and was completely solid in standing in my truth. My 30th birthday was my first drunk free celebration. I had a couple glasses of wine with my dinner and a celebratory mimosa with my breakfast and then kept to water and high vibes. It became very clear on this birthday that feeling good in the long term was more important than a short term “release”.

It felt good to make such an empowered choice to keep my body and mind clean and clear and for the first time the focus of the celebration was on being present with the incredible people in my life who were presents at my birthday. I was really able to see and feel into the deep gratitude for these beautiful souls who had been a huge guiding force in my spiritual, emotional and mental maturation.

This same awareness has stuck with me since turning 30. I now make choices based on my values and whether or not I truly want to do something. I make better choices about what goes into my body and the energy I surround myself with. I am highly selective with whom I spend time with and make sure to choose a social circle that enhances the positive aspects of my being and family mates who call me to be more.

I am so blessed to have been here with my partner as he enters this amazing phase of his life. Only he knows what this phase will bring because his path is his own, I just know I am here to lovingly support him the way he has supported me during this new cycle. I am over joyed to be celebrating with him today and I am so excited to see the magical manifestations he calls into his life in this year ahead!

cbbdayMega love and blessings to the beautiful love of my life ❤
CB you are incredibly special and so deeply loved!
xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

KG

“Free To Live Again”- Original Soul Music to Heal the Heart- Day 107: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Radical Self Love Kelsey GrantI know part of the reason I am here is to spread the message of Radical Self Love through the healing energy of music.

This is a tune I wrote about a year ago. It’s about embracing our challenges, facing the truth of the totality of our being, accepting and loving every single aspect of who we are, what we’ve done and how all of it has  the power to set us free to learn to live again in a deeper and more profound fulfilling way.

**The audio is a lil off sync with the video so feel free to close your eyes and just let the love and healing vibes fill you up**

Lyrics in case you wanna sing along 😉

Free To Live Again

© Kelsey Grant 2012

We trip and fumble as we make our way

Nothings more perfect than where you are today

Let yourself fall down and trust you’ll get back up back up

Every single challenge every single pain

Is an opportunity to begin again

Gather all that you have learned and everything that you now know

Go forward acting let love show forward acting let love grow

What will you have to give up to feel love, love?

And what will you have to own to feel free?

Cause the battles you fight are only in your mind

And first we must see outside before we see behind

Every single moment is a story that we create

So face yourself to be free to live again

The stories that we run to fill up the time

Can set us free from the illusions of our minds

What we think we create

So keep in love keep in love

Moving forward with courage in your heart

Speak your truth and life opens up

Speak with an open heart love with an open mind

You are the source of a life by design

❤ ❤ ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The How To For Loving You: 11 Steps to Get You Started- Day 96: 365 Radical Self Love Project

How do I love myself?

Kelsey Grant radical self loveI get asked this question a lot and I love it every time.

As we all some how know, the first step in transforming or changing anything is realizing there is a need for the change. This question illustrates a desire to be better, a desire for a more rich and fulfilling human experience. We all deserve to have a beautiful and fulfilling life and we are the only ones who can actually make that happen.

Kelsey Grant Radical Self Love

Here are the 11 fundamental basics when hoping onto the self love train!

The How to for Loving You

1. Make a declaration. This is the ultimate first step. Nothing will change unless you put your foot down and declare that it will. Doing so is an incredibly empowering and powerful act. When you make a declaration of this kind the Universe begins to conspire with you immediately to bring to your awareness evidence of that which you seek, the circumstances most impactful for your growth and evolution and support in so many ways you can’t even imagine!

2. Stop playing the victim. You must, must, must, begin to step out of the blame game. Life isn’t happening to you it is responding to what you are putting out and who you are being moment to moment. You will have to step up and claim 100% responsibility for yourself and your life. If you have experienced hardship (we all have) have compassion with yourself and release yourself from the trap of giving up your power (blaming/playing the victim) and the trap of making yourself wrong for the experiences and circumstances of your life until now. Embracing this wisdom “we are always doing the best we can with the tools we have” helps to diffuse the ego and surrender into the expansiveness of the human experience.

images-33. Build up your muscles of seeking good. We all can get better at this. Even the top leaders in the world can seek out the worst in things- however, they make a conscious choice not too. They instead know their energy is better invested into seeking the good, finding the underlying lesson inside of contrast and viewing the world through the lens of possibility and love.

4. Quiet your mind. An over active untrained mind will always default to worrying, anxiety and fear. You do have the power to shift that pattern. Sit with yourself once a day and be still, be quiet, experience solitude. If there is a lot of healing to do being with yourself sans distractions will most likely be uncomfortable at first. So create an environment of success and start small. Almost everyone can sit in silence with themselves for 2 minutes a day. Start there. When you feel a calmness and sense of peace enter your stillness increase your time. Doing so will support you in building a successful meditation practice.

5. Take care of your body. This is your vessel for experiencing the world. Treat it with love and respect. Be mindful of what you put into your body and create the time to physically move your body each day. This might mean giving up late night TV in exchange for being able to get up earlier in the day or rock a workout after your day is done. Move your body, stretch, relax and nurture your body. Feed yourself with high vibrational food as often as possible. No one else is going to do this for you. Step it up.

6. Learn how to think. Begin the process of cultivating stronger more positive thought patterns. Mental activity and idle thought does not count as thinking. Thinking is consciously directing your thought and energy patterns to be in alignment with the life you desire and your intended outcome. If you are desiring financial abundance and the only thing you constantly focus on in your thoughts is your perceived lack, your thoughts are out of alignment with what you want. You must train yourself to do this. Begin by bringing your awareness to your thoughts. Take notice of the general theme. From there you can dive into the world of programming positive and building constructive thought patterns.

7. Give up self defeating and diminishing talk. The way you speak to yourself is the invitation you send out into the world for how you want to be treated. Stop being so hard on yourself- speak kindly within and without. If you said the things out loud to others that you say to yourself you would most likely not have many friends left. So why oh why would you speak to yourself like that? You are a beautiful being and deserve love and kindness. Being hard on you only tanks your energy and diminishes your ability to love yourself and others.

Kelsey Grant Radical Self Love8. Be of service. Taking the focus of the ego’s drama via service of others is the quickest way to open your heart more and connect you with the innate goodness within everyone and everything. Whether it is opening the door for a stranger, volunteering your time and energy, creating art, making a friend dinner, smiling at a stranger on the street- being of service activates the heart in the most extraordinary ways.

9. Build up a daily discipline. Self love is a practice and a daily discipline. It takes showing up each and every day as your best version. This muscle is built through building constructive daily disciplines. Commit to yourself and design a routine that empowers you. My daily discipline is simple- invest minimum 30 minutes into learning/personal development (#6), drinking minimum one litre of water a day and either writing, reflecting or speaking my gratitude. These daily disciplines keep my vibes high, my energy in alignment and inspire me to take empowered actions throughout the day.

10. Acknowledge others. What you do unto others you have already done to yourself. Sometimes it is easier to notice the goodness others are up to so do it. It feels good to share your acknowledgement and it ensures the other person feels seen, appreciated and valued. In turn you unknowingly cultivate those same feelings about yourself when you give another person your appreciation. These moments can change a life and sometimes save one. Do more, share more and leave a lasting imprint of love everywhere you go.

11. Acknowledge yourself. This will have multiple positive impacts. It will help you break away from the addiction we all have of seeking validation and approval of others. It will also ensure you are always acknowledged for the greatness you are beaming out into the world each day. Lastly it will boost your confidence and your knowingness that you are a capable, competent, brilliant and incredible human- which is where the growth of self love will stem from.

Kelsey Grant radical self love

There is much to this path of Radical Self Love-which is why we have build a community and a company to support you lovers in the development of this incredible aspect of life. In our continued commitment to supporting and loving the crap out of you all, this is what we have brewing at RSL in the coming months:

  • A weekly free video series exploring the how to’s of self love and successful relationships
  • A new website YUMMMMY!!
  • The Free 7 Day Radical Self Love Challenge
  • Our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program
  • Our RSL 1-1 coaching packages
  • The Conscious Breakup: 15 Self Love Lessons To Open To Love Again- E-Book
  • More lovetastic music
  • Free radical self love meditations
  • An interactive 6 week Radical Self Love for Relationships course
  • And more monthly RSL workshops!!!

Stay tuned as we beam these beauties out to you all!! If there is something you would really like to see us cover or teach at RSL leave us a comment below. We are here for you lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Kelsey Grant Radical Self Love