I love my girlfriends. I am seriously so blessed that I have the type of friends who I can have super engaging and meaningful conversations with and open to new realms of clarity, wisdom and potential inside our gab-fests. However my life wasn’t always this way. In high school and my early 20’s I was a gossip factory- hard to believe now- but thats the reality of of what my life used to look like.
I used to be a big time bitch. The bitchiest of the bitchy and the one you could always count on to have the lastest dirt on anyone and anything- AND I was miserable. My life lacked depth, connection and most of all love.
In my early twenties after leaving a very toxic relationship I snapped back into reality. I looked at my life that was far from positive and inspiring and I knew I had to make a change. I had to be different if I wanted things to be different. And so my path of personal development and growth began. Dropping gossip was something that intuitively I just knew I had to do. I couldn’t keep talking crap and expecting to have positive relationships or experiences. So I began the process of healing my addiction to gossip.
I learned a long time ago that hopping off the gossip train was a foundational piece in my healing and in my experience of being happy. What I didn’t realize that was shifting this majorly toxic habit would have such incredible benefits on my life.
Top 7 Benefits of Giving Up Gossip and Hopping on the High Vibe Train
1. I feel better.
Not just a little better but A LOT better, about myself, about my body, about my relationships, about my career, about my LIFE. Cutting out the drama and the focusing on the positive aspects of people enabled me to begin to notice the more positive aspects about myself. When I could more easily focus on the positive aspects I was happy. As my happiness grew I found myself healthier, more connected to my passions, in really amazing relationships and living a life on purpose.
2. I stopped worrying everyone had ulterior motives.
My past inauthenticity and two-facedness cause a pretty significant imprint on my unconscious mind. Because I was talking smack about people behind their backs I immediately projected that everyone was doing the same to me. Living in this constant state of worry and anxiety was just plain shitty. When I cut the gossiping out of my life my faith and trust in others began to increase. Because I was being authentic, honest, real and kind I began to unconsciously build the belief that people are innately good, they can be trusted.
3. I learned the impact of being intentional.
Thinking before I said something. Becoming very tuned into my judgements of myself and others. Seeing the positive ripples that certain behaviours caused. All of these were results of becoming more intentional with what I was saying, how I was saying it, to whom I was saying it to. I began to understand that when I consciously chose to speak the best about people I would get more of what I praised. Likewise when I had an “issue” with someone going directly to the source always was the most effective way to resolve the misunderstanding or problem.
4. I realized the power of talking to people instead of about them.
We all have shit, we all know we have shit and the last thing we need to be doing in a world where there is already a tonne of crap flying is to add to it by talking about other people and not to them. When we talk about people we rip them off of the power to contribute their perspectives, reasons and intentions behind what they did/said. By behaving this way we strengthen the vibration of assumptions and begin to create an unreal and totally falsified version of what actually happened. By talking to people we give them the honor and respect to explain their behaviour and create the wonderful world of possibility and resolution. Inside of this course of action we activate the vibrations and consciousness of love.
5. I gained a profound sense of acceptance and love.
Underneath it all we all want to be loved and accepted. Gossiping is a dysfunctional means to having the need for connection fulfilled. It gives us a false sense of power, it provides the illusion of connection and rapport and it creates a massive divide between you and others but also between you and love. People who gossip are looking for the “buy in” of others to agree with them, take their side and in some twisted way create a sense of loyalty through fear. The ironic thing about gossip is it does the opposite. It creates separation and it removes us from authentic connection and the true experience of love. Hopping off the gossip train is the quickest way to actually create a life where you feel loved and accepted because you are being loving and accepting.
6. I remembered a deep and profound truth about humanity.
Only hurt people hurt people. People who gossip do so to cover up or divert attention from the pain they feel. When we are truly connected to love, loving ourselves and practicing kindness we actually can’t hurt other people- it’s energetically not possible. It is only when we are hurting can we hurt another. What we say about anyone else is a projection about something within ourselves that we can’t quite be with and what we give attention to grows. Meaning by pointing out the “flaws” in someone else we are strengthening the same issues inside of ourselves that we can’t be with. It’s the ultimate in deflection. Anytime we avoid looking at ourselves it is often because it is painful and there is some level of fear- which is always a call for more love. Gossip in a big way is a massive call for healing and compassion.
7. It freed up a lot of my energy for other more productive and creative pursuits.
Because gossip is such a low vibrational activity it sucks us dry of any inspiration to create. This has a massive impact if you want to actually make something of yourself in this world. Talking about everyone else’s business is a massive time waster and energy sucker. When you cut it out you have a tonne of free time and your energy is clearer and brighter- which is essential when creating anything. The time and energy that is freed up when dropping the gossip game leads you towards more authentic connections where you can begin to dive into the depth of who you truly are and have a loving and supportive community to nurture that growth.
If we are truly committed to a life of greatness, love and ultimate potential we must release the things that hold us back and hold us down. Gossip is one of those epicly toxic and incredibly heavy weights that holds us back from our potential and holds us far away from love. A foundational key in the world of self love is to be loving towards yourself. When you are loving towards yourself you are just naturally kind and gentle towards the people in your life. A life off the gossip train is a life full of depth, connectivity, authenticity, happiness and most important a life filled with love.
Jump off the gossip train and step into the high vibes that make up an incredible life!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!