WOW! 5 Days left in this blogging project! After my very successful interview this morning with the beautiful Lisa Barnwell with her global conference Bumps and the Boardroom, I wanted to share with you all one of my near and … Continue reading
Today my wonderful and inspiring partner posted a fabulous one minute video on his social media feed.
I personally am a big fan of Jim Carrey as he is a fabulous advocate for the human potential and power to create our experience through our activation of either fear or love.
I really dig it when people in the public eye use their platform to spread messages of inspiration, hope, possibility and love.
In this one minute video Jim anchors in some really solid perspective. “You can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance doing what you love”. I completely agree. We have just as much opportunity to create a live filled with abundance, connection and love as we do creating one filled up with lack a limitation.
The way your life unfolds is up to you. The outcomes you produce in your life are directly linked to the quality of thoughts, feelings and actions you repetitively cultivate. At any given time you are either in the domain of fear or the domain of love.
RSL actionable to shift from fear to love in no time: Ask better, more empowered questions from life. Instead of saying “Why me?” take your power back and replace the lack mindset with a better question:
- “What inside me is trying to emerge through this challenge?”
- “What am I being called to learn, grow or strengthen within me”
- “What can I do to be in alignment with my truth, with my desires and with my dreams”.
Interested in better results? Ask better questions. Let yourself be inspired on the regular. Make your top priority feeling good aka being in alignment. To help out on the feeling good and inspired quest, watch this lovely one minute vid!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Oooooh It’s Radical Self LoveFeature Friday time loves!
Today I have the honour and pleasure of introducing you all to the amazing and so beautiful (inside and out) Eyoälha Baker the founding Goddess of the Jump for Joy! Photo Project
I was blessed to be featured in her amazing project a little bit ago. My experience shooting my feature was so amazing. It was the first time the two of us had met in person and right from the second we met up we were on a hilarious adventure. It was like meeting up with a soul sista, so natural, hilarious and playful.
I absolutely adore her and I am so excited to share her and her radiance with you all today. Eyoälha is one of those people who just radiates happiness, creativity and youthful energy. Her playful approach to our shoot made it so easy to relax and rock out in the creative flow which I completely appreciate and love about her.
Why we love Eyoälha:
She is a burst of positivity, joy and truly embodies the spirit of her project: Jump for Joy. She is travelling around the globe capturing the joy of the human spirit while in mid air jumps. It’s pretty incredible first off that she is doing this project. Her desire to capture joy in the human spirit, calls joy forth in people. We love that she is the clearing for this type of positive joyful self expression and this is why we have chosen her today.
Eyoälha is our featured RSL member today because she knows first hand that if she wants to see joy in others she must first embody it.
Her natural jovial state is intoxicating in the best possible way. She is so captivating in her natural beauty that people can’t help but smile and enjoy themselves when they are around her.
The world can always use more happiness and joy and she is a beautiful messenger and lightworker who call this beauty and joy forth in people. Eyoälha’s commitment to live a positive life is incredibly inspiring and I am blessed to call her my friend. She is like the big sister I never had- soft, understanding, compassionate, silly, playful and so clear on who she is and the direction of her life.
Eyoälha understands that self love to her is all about connecting inward and honouring her intuition. As a hyper creative individual she really gets the importance of staying true to herself and to put as much love and care into herself as she does into others. This is why she is so fabulous at creating the expression of joy within her work and photography.
Eyoälha wishes to leave a legacy of inspiration and encouragement for people to truly jump in and follow their truth and their dreams. By constantly facing her own fears and living her dreams she gives others the permission to do the same. She is here to help us all remember what it means and feels like to be alive, awake and have incredible amounts of fun in the process of creating our dreams into reality. This dear friends is a beautiful legacy to leave and I can tell you all with full certainty that this woman is living her legacy full out and that makes my heart happy and makes her a most wonderful example of greatness to us all.
She reminds me of the value of exploration, travel and having loads and heaps of fun along the way which is always a fabulous reminder when life can get a little serious or heavy. Her brilliant bright light is a gift to us all and I am so honoured to spotlight her amazingness today!
Her mission to travel the world taking fun photos of creative, passionate people jumping for joy and create a book with 1000 photos of joyful jumpers is pretty epic! She truly wishes to showcase the importance and influence of joy and positive perspective in our lives. She feels the more people nourish joy and make it a priority in their own lives, the more it will inadvertently have an effect on others as well. By making the conscious choice to focus on viewing life in a positive uplifting way the more our lives as whole will be uplifted- we couldn’t agree more
If you want to find out more about her Jump For Joy Project you can do so here: www.jumpforjoyphotoproject.com
To connect with Eyoälha:
In life, sometimes we create great things and other times we create shit.
As an artist I can completely resonate with this- there have been stellar performances I’ve given and there have been dreadful ones. There have been beautiful songs I’ve written and really crappy ones. I’ve explored various creative outlets and been good at some, shit at a few and really great at the rest.
I’ve come to realize through my creative journey that I can’t be great at everything and thats ok.
It’s ok to create something amazing and then inside the next creative session nothing exceptional manifests. It’s all part of the process.
Not being good at everything is actually a fabulous thing.
Because what we aren’t strong at- somebody is. Which means that our weaknesses are another persons strength and when we accept these are not our natural areas of strength and stop fighting against it- we open the space for others who have that strength to step into owning and sharing their talents and gifts.
There is space for us all.
In my coaching session today my coach offered up this video as support for my creative expansion. I had mentioned on our call that part of my healing and release this past week was about getting complete and into a place of full acceptance of the worst case scenario in my relationship.
I came to the awareness that even if the worst case scenario were to happen I would still be able to thrive. I wouldn’t be stopped completely and my capacity for holding that experience of loss would be supported by my personal growth, my community and my connection with the divine universe.
The impact of this acceptance was a complete opening in the flow of our relationship and connection. I could drop worrying about the worst case scenario and actually be present with him. When we are present with each other we are completely in touch with our divine nature and deep pure love flows between us and within us. Inside of this presence we co-create an incredible dynamic, relationship, partnership and epic soul connection. I have created the space in myself for my creative genius to emerge inside of my relationship.
My creative genius is my channel and opening to divine guidance, my inner guide and higher faculties.
In our heart centred acceptance of the worst possible scenario we create the space for the best case scenario to manifest.
The same concept holds true in more artistic circumstances. Before I perform in any capacity I get ok with fucking up on stage, I get ok with forgetting the lyrics or chords or doing something imperfectly. My acceptance of this possible reality releases the grip of fear and allows me the space to go out on stage and allow the performance to be what it’s supposed to be.
Sometimes that means I mess up my own songs and when I do I don’t overstep it. I acknowledge it. It takes people by surprise. It also creates a beautiful human rapport between me and the audience- it helps bring down the walls of separation and it reminds us all of the humour of being human. It’s a pretty magical thing.
So get out there. Give yourself permission to go full out and risk messing up or not doing something “perfectly”. The more comfy we get in stepping into our fear the more freedom we get the chance to experience. You got this love 😉
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
This morning I was reminded of a very valuable life lesson:
Being who I am- just as I am in this moment- IS enough.
I had given my word to attend a presentation/seminar session this morning. When I got really honest with myself I was just not feeling social. Plain and simple.
Even though I had these “feelings” I chose to honour my word and show up. While on route there I became a little more open to the idea of networking with a group of strangers but still was feeling resistant.
Then I gave myself the real talk pep talk
I went to the washroom and just had a few minutes to collect my thoughts and my vibes. I reminded myself that there is ALWAYS something of value to gain out of any experience and my access point to seeing it is shifting my perspective.
The shift in perception looked like this:
Instead of being focused on not wanting to connect and keep to myself I asked my inner guide for support. I said “What would you have me do or say to be of ultimate service right now for the highest good. Gently guide my thoughts and my energy to the perfect people and situations to honour the divinity within us all”.
Then I walked out of the bathroom.
I ended up connecting with some super sweet people and completely enjoyed the entire presentation.
Afterwards someone who had been at a lecture I had recently done (Getting to the Core of Confidence) appeared right in front of me. We celebrated the familiar faces in each other. Then he said something fabulous and forever impactful.
“Honestly this morning I really didn’t feel like being here, I didn’t want to connect, talk to anyone or be social (sounded familiar ;)) but then I saw you when you walked in and immediately your energy just had me feel better, you reminded me to surrender and reconnect within”.
WOW – Just WOW.
Because of a lecture I had led nearly a month ago, in which I surrendered and allowed source to speak through me, the impact of that night had remained in the heart and mind of this lovely man.
Just by literally showing up this morning, the presence of my energy positively impacted someone else, whose day may have gone a very different way if I had listened to my ego this morning when it tried to convince me to cancel because I didn’t feel like being social.
In that divine exchange I was deeply reminded that my spiritual work here takes many forms and one of the most profound expression of my divinity comes just by being myself. By showing up to life- however it looks- however I’m “feeling” I have the opportunity to ripple this positive and divine remembrance towards those who may need it the most.
When I run the selfish story that I am not enough I rip others off from remembering who they truly are by seeing themselves in my love filled reflection. We are all so important and worthy of being here and the more we show up for life the more we help each other remember who we are and why we are here.
Show up for life- shine- let others see you, because it is in that seeing you ultimately lead others towards truly seeing themselves in all their divine glory- through your reflection. YOU have the power to do that- if you show up for life and rock your awesomeness like I know you can!!!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Join our 30 Day Radical Self Love Journey HERE and shine that beautiful light of yours out even brighter!!! ❤ ❤ ❤
I’ve been reflecting a lot about my calling lately and I’ve come into a keen awareness of what it means for me.
My understanding is when something is your calling it is just a natural part of who you are- you can’t not do it, and when it comes down to it your calling has nothing to do with career compensation. It is bigger than that. It’s something you would do regardless of whether you got paid for it or not. It is your spiritual service.
That is a pretty magical thing.
This clarity was deeply present for me this morning. I began my day with a visit to one of my besties,sister, wifey, goddess soul sistas. Within moments of sitting down with each other the conversation took a very direct turn towards relationships.
My calling was calling.
I didn’t think about it, I just began sharing, loving and offering this bountiful wisdom that was pouring out of me. It felt off not to. So we went with it. The calling guided us into deep and beautiful places of the human psyche, the recesses of the heart and the spiritual infiniteness that abides within us all.
It was beautiful.
It was freeing.
It was my calling.
As I completed my time with her and was walking back home I really “got it”. Guiding people through and to their most heart open relationships is my calling. We arrive at this kind of love through our self love, self exploration and commitment to greatness.
I would do this even if it wasn’t my profession. In fact, if I get radically honest, I have been doing this my entire life. I have literally been obsessed with relationships, I find them so fascinating and now looking back I see my deep passion for learning about relationships and understanding the human condition was my “prep” to step into my calling full tilt.
I can’t not help people with their relationships. That is what people are drawn to me for. Any conversation I have always ends up heading in the direction of relationships. I help peeps see what they can’t see for themselves in that moment and lovingly guide them back to their own infinite power and brilliance.
The profoundness of this calling really hit home today and expanded my heart in ways I can’t even describe. I am deeply honoured and privileged to embrace this calling and do my part in creating a world where more people are living in their truth, living in love and loving full heartedly.
When we are in harmony with ourselves we are in harmony with others. Relationships mirror to us the places within that we are not in harmony with ourselves and provide the sacred opportunity to bring light, love and compassionate understanding to those areas. Through relationships of all kinds we get to know ourselves better. What a gift.
For when we know ourselves, we know our divinity and when we know our divinity all we can see is that divinity in all others. It is a movement of love consciousness. It is the healing of our collective hearts, it is a return to love.
I am so freaking stoked to begin our 9 week Radical Self Love Relationship Course!!!! Ahhhhh it is going to be so incredibly fabulous! I have 1 spot left so if you are ready to embrace your brilliance, power and bring more amazingness into your relationships send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
The course is a virtual classroom, we begin Feb 19th (every wednesday for 9 weeks) meet from 7-9pm PST and the course is $333 for the entire 9 weeks! I would be honoured to guide you through this exploration and support this entire community in creating the love you are so deeply worthy of.
Lets dooooo this lovers! xo
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
I love Thursdays
Thursdays are my coaching days. They kick off with my amazing coaching session with my coach and then I rock client sessions throughout the day.
Why I have a coach
What makes me an effective coach, leader and facilitator is my willingness to be coached and teachable. I know enough to know I don’t know everything. I am like anyone else who signs up for coaching. I have a life that sometimes gets lifey. I experience contrast, breakdowns and challenges. I am effective at what I do because I allow myself the space to work through my stuff and clear my shit in respectful and constructive ways.
My coach reminded me of three very valuable lessons today:
2. Conflict can only arise when there is a lack of clarity.
3. When dealing with conflict, breakdown and emotions there is always room for possibility and the opportunity of a breakthrough.
While we may write certain people off in our lives because they are challenging we must keep in mind that those people are brought into our lives for a very important reason. They are always brought into our lives to help us overcome our own limitations and internal conflict. While they may present this opportunity it is important to note it is not required to keep them in our lives. Sometimes we just have to bless people, wish them the best and set them free.
What we see in others means nothing about them and everything about us.
Our model of the world is based on our own personal life experience. No two people experience life the same and there for no two people will share the same perspectives and interpretations of life’s events. What occurs to one person as peaceful occurs to another as an attack and it is all rooted in our perceptions of the world. Some people just have a lens of drama. They unconsciously seek it and perpetuate it.
We either believe we live in a hostile universe where everyone and everything is out to “get” us or we believe we live in a kind and loving Universe where everyone and everything exists to help us grow, understand and come more into alignment with our truth. When we believe the world is out to get us we act in such a way to ensure we are “right” about it. Meaning we leave a lot of grey room in our communication, in our actions and in our behaviour. Lack of clarity is the ideal breeding grounds for conflict. This is why clear agreements and the management of details plays such a vital role in our ability to thrive and experience possibility.
Clarity is the foundation in which possibility is built on.
When we have a solid foundation we minimize the opportunity and space for breakdowns with each other. However when breakdowns do occur, and they do for all of us. What there is to understand is we all have the opportunity to handle them in a respectful and constructive manor. One of the foundational pieces of coming into harmonious resolutions is this: before launching into coaching mode or giving feedback mode create the space for possibility and have their agreement.
This means setting the conversation or context up in such a way where you allow the other person to freely choose what is best for them at this point in time. Most people just spew their breakdown, go on the attack and then wonder why the person on the other end is not receptive.
What we can do to shift this is simply ask permission.
Get their buy in. When you have something you need to share, before you share, ask them if they are open and willing to hear what you have to say right now and have the conversation. This one simple step sets you both up to win.
It ensures you will only have the conversation when both parties are open, willing and receptive to feedback. Until that happens we leave the space for more upset, more conflict and no resolution.
It certainly takes courage and a higher level of self awareness to operate this way- and it is totally worth it. Communication that is clear, honest and constructive is always the way to go. When you respect another by allowing them the space to choose when is the best/most optimal time to have the convo you are already on the path to success.
Harmony in breakdowns comes from a willingness to see things differently. Willingness to forgive. Willingness to learn. Willingness to grow and most importantly willingness to love.
Choose love lovers- it just feels better 😉
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
As I sit writing this I am surrounded by my family, all of us sitting in the living room respectively working on each of our personal projects. It is so incredible to be with incredible people, all on the same vibe.
We have Christmas music playing in the background, our Christmas dinner cooking on the stove, a holiday movie ready to roll tonight and our tree is finally complete.
I’m pretty sure our Christmas Tree Adventure happened as it did for a couple reasons. The first being so that I could truly appreciate the beauty of having it and having it complete and the second being a funny story to tell about my first Christmas Tree.
I’ve lived on my own for the past 13 years and this is the first year I have had to get my own tree. I’ve always lived with roommates who had the tree and I never really had to think about it.
This year we were so graciously gifted a massive tree..7.5 feet. Absolutely HUGE. Our apartment is really nice and open and pretty big for a downtown space, however it is not quite big enough for a 7.5 foot tree 😉 We made a solid attempt. On Friday we unpacked it and unfolded the branches only to find it took up our entire living room, yes the entire room.
Our Friday night decorating adventure didn’t quite happen the way we thought- perhaps a lesson in releasing attachment?! 😉
So Saturday my mom and I set out for what would be an entire day of adventuring to different places attempting to locate a little 3 foot tree. By 7pm, a full nine hours after we had started our Christmas tree adventure, we returned to the very first place we went to. I had surrendered into the acceptance that whatever tree we would end up would be the perfect one and with the clarity it would be a super cute three foot tree. I even made up a little funny song to sing to myself and the Universe with my three foot tree intention. It made me laugh on the inside and that raised my vibes to be in alignment to receive the gift from the Universe.
From there we ended up attracting a hilarious manager who helped us find the perfect tree and gave it to us for 50% off since last week it went on sale for a couple days and he wanted to make our trip really fabulous. We scooped up a couple more ornaments and came home to finally decorate and get that beauty all set up.
I am so happy with our cute little 3 footer and it is the perfect size and addition to our family and our home.
This three day adventure has taught me patience, reinforced the power of clear intention and the value of surrender and detachment. It has also made for a hilarious family adventure and a beautiful outcome…a stunning tree full of love, handpicked ornaments and awesomeness!
Grateful, grateful, grateful!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
This past week has brought a new level of awareness and eventually self acceptance into my experience.
About a week ago I went to go get my hair cut. I’m very particular about my hair and lets just be honest, I’m totally attached to it. It took me five years to grow it out and I have always really loved long hair. So imagine my surprise when my long locks were lying on a pile on the floor below my chair. When something like this happens there really isn’t much to do except eventually get to a place of acceptance via shifting internal perceptions.
What this hair cut taught me:
1. Un-communicated expectations are at the root of many, and most upsets.
I had an expectation of how my hair was going to look, I showed a picture and it turned out very different. Had I communicated how important it was to me to keep the length of my hair, perhaps it would have gone differently, perhaps it wouldn’t. The point though is not my hair, but what my hair brings to my awareness. If I have uncommunicated expecations with a hair cut- I have them all over my life. It is now up to me to discover where these expecations exists and then *GASP* communicate them effectively.
2. Attachment to an outcome is painful.
I was really set on the way it was going to go and when it turned out differently I completely had a meltdown and continued to experience internal conflict-all because I had a very strong attachment to how it should go. Like anything in life what is meant to happen is what does. Everything happens for a reason and when we hold death grips on our expectations we rob ourselves from the opportunity to see what we are being called to learn. There is always a greater and higher reasoning to why things happen the way they do. I can see first hand why having these restrictive attachments is something my higher self was guiding me to release- the more I embrace going with the flow and being clear in my expectations, the more I can actually relax and trust that whatever happens is what is meant to happen for my highest good. This does wonders for the experience of inner peace, happiness, abundance and flow. For True.
3. I am my biggest critic.
This massive change brought up a whole lot of “stuff” about feeling pretty, attractive and sexy. This entire situation has brought to my attention how hard I can be on myself and my physical appearance. What this also really brought to my attention was the fact that until my internal state resonates with the positive feedback I was receiving from others, I will actually reject what is coming at me externally. Meaning every single person I have come into contact with since getting the hair cut has affirmed just how amazing it actually looks- I couldn’t accept their praise as the truth simply because that was not what I believed inside. It wasn’t until today when I fully embranced, accepted and could see the beauty of it that I could really take in the positive feedback externally as truth.
4. The things that trigger an upset are not actually what we are upset about.
WHHHAAAT??!!! Yup it’s true, while I’ve known this for quite some time this entire experience drove the lesson home even more. I was triggered into an upset by my hair cut. Deep down what I was actually upset with was much different. The hair cut was just the surface trigger point to lead me to a deeper understanding of myself and the profound richness of my being. It was really about: my levels of self acceptance, my communication skills and my self perceptions. I have learned through this experience to see myself as beautiful no matter what, to accept myself as a beautiful and attractive woman inside and out, to level up my communication, learn how to communicate my expectations clearly, and how to allow the positive feedback from the outside guide me towards developing a more positive and loving relationship with myself.
So all things considered this was indeed one of the best hair cuts I have ever received, because it was so much more than a change in physical appearance. It inspired the transformation of my self acceptance, my body acceptance, my body love and ultimately my self love. This is a win, a really big one 😉
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Today my man turns 30.
What I loved about entering this phase of my life was that for the first time I really felt grounded in who I was. My twenties were a phase where I was experimenting with life. Trying all sorts of things, exploring what I wanted and what I didn’t want. It was a time of great self discovery, travel, learning, accomplishment, stepping out into my own, taking giant leaps of faith and coming into a greater understanding of myself, my talents, my passions and why I am here.
Upon my 30th birthday I had really settled into my skin. I could confidently say I knew who I was and was completely solid in standing in my truth. My 30th birthday was my first drunk free celebration. I had a couple glasses of wine with my dinner and a celebratory mimosa with my breakfast and then kept to water and high vibes. It became very clear on this birthday that feeling good in the long term was more important than a short term “release”.
It felt good to make such an empowered choice to keep my body and mind clean and clear and for the first time the focus of the celebration was on being present with the incredible people in my life who were presents at my birthday. I was really able to see and feel into the deep gratitude for these beautiful souls who had been a huge guiding force in my spiritual, emotional and mental maturation.
This same awareness has stuck with me since turning 30. I now make choices based on my values and whether or not I truly want to do something. I make better choices about what goes into my body and the energy I surround myself with. I am highly selective with whom I spend time with and make sure to choose a social circle that enhances the positive aspects of my being and family mates who call me to be more.
I am so blessed to have been here with my partner as he enters this amazing phase of his life. Only he knows what this phase will bring because his path is his own, I just know I am here to lovingly support him the way he has supported me during this new cycle. I am over joyed to be celebrating with him today and I am so excited to see the magical manifestations he calls into his life in this year ahead!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!