Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love-Day 365: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Holy shitballs I did it!!!

radical self love projectSuccessfully completed writing one self love blog post every day for an entire YEAR!!!! There are so many things I could write about today and I have given careful and thoughtful consideration for them all.

  • I considered writing the highlights of the year.
  • I considered writing the top lessons of the year.
  • I considered not writing much at all- total honesty and transparency 😉
  • I considered writing a simple celebratory post.
  • I considered just writing another self love lesson.
  • I considered sharing the impact of a year of self love on my relationship.

All of these were great however they didn’t feel quite right. Today is a significant day for me. For the past few years I have been levelling up and giving myself these “challenges” in order to grow and expand the person I know myself to be. This 365 Day RSL blog project was no exception.

To show up and create a blog post every day for an entire year took some serious commitment and dedication. It took bravery, honesty, transparency. It required me to face my shadow and deal with my shit. It called me to step into my role as a leader and a teacher and really own my place in the world. This project supported me in getting clear on who I am and what I am truly meant to be doing in the world. And it brought me face to face with my biggest supporter and my biggest nemesis- and coming to the profound realization that both happened to be me.

Today’s post I am going to share the biggest transformation that has taken place over the past year.

Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love

In one year I’ve done a hell of a lot of healing, forgiving, loving and moving forward.

But there was one thing that has held me back in all areas of my life and in the span of this project I was brought face to face with this disempowering mechanism. This is what I call “the ultimate ego sabotage” and I have had the opportunity to look it in the face with loving and kind eyes and find ways to gently and lovingly put it to rest.

That sabotage was an old familiar story of “not feeling like it”. How many times in my life have I used this line as a way to manipulate, get out of commitments and generally not show up for life? More than I can count.

Giving my word to a project of this magnitude brought me face to face with this disempowering habit every single day. Yes every single day it reared it’s face. Some days more than others but it always did.

radicalselfloveMy new self love habitual patterns were the only saving grace. If I had allowed my ego’s justifications or behaviours to run the show I would have quit. Something would have stopped me along the way. But because of my solid Radical Self Love foundation I was able to maintain my commitment even in the most challenging of times.

In my past my ego didn’t have to work very hard to get me to stop going down the path of transformation. It would pull the “oh I’m tired” excuse or something very similar and that would be enough of a reason to not show up for life.

As I grew and expanded my awareness my ego took to instigating physical pains in attempts to prevent me from showing up somewhere that would inevitably be a cause for my further transformation. The most memorable occurance of this function showed up a few years ago when I was heading out to be a production supervisor for the Advanced Course through Landmark Education. This role at the time called me to step up and lead a team of peeps and also create the space for all the people in the seminar to feel safe to dive into their own transformation- not an easy role by far. The morning of I was leaving my house and literally tripped over my own feet and fell down the steep stairs of my house. In the past this would have been enough for me to not show up- but I had done enough work to get acquainted with my ego that I knew it was just trying to take me out in any way possible to avoid my own immanent growth. Pretty bold stuff.

This year brought me into a whole new level of understanding my tricky ego. The function remains the same it’s just the measures and characteristics that change. Writing a self love blog every day for a year stretched me. Some days the words flowed, inspiration was at an all time high and some days it was fucking hard. I was emotional, my world was crashing around me and some how I managed to pull it together long enough to get real, get transparent and transform. In this year I have come to learn my ego’s new game is to take things incredibly personal.

I honestly at times couldn’t believe just how ridiculous I was being but somehow I couldn’t manage to stop it- that is until I realized this behaviour was a new form of my old ego friend. Once I became aware of this mechanism I was able to notice it’s take over sooner and become less reactive and more responsive to life.

This self love blog was ultimate training in playing bigger, creating something from nothing and standing for something way greater than myself. I knew my key to healing my heart was rooted in finding something I cared more about than the pain I was feeling. That “something” is this community, that “something” is supporting people in having more deliciously juicy relationships to themselves, to their lives and to the people in their lives. That “something” is self love.

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In honour of achieving such a kick ass milestone I want to celebrate with some gifts to you all!

Gift #1:

A FREE copy of my first RSL ebook-  Sabotaged Love: The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want. This baby is launching into the world on July 17th. Everyone on our email list will receive a free copy of the book as a mega thank you for being here and co-creating such a magical community of love and transformation. You can sign up for our email list HERE

Gift #2:

First dibs on attending my free summer webinar: The Self Loving Secrets To Long Lasting Commitment.

For more details drop me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com and I will send ya all the registration details! xo (eta end of July- Official date will be released within the next week).

Gift # 3:

Radical Self Love Coaching. For those of you who have been wanting to work with me to get your self love vibes thriving I’m rocking a summer coaching promo:

My 30 Minute RSL Reset five pack- (normally $444.00) until June 30th: $222.00 from July 1-30th: $333.00

To register for the 5 pack email me at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: RSL Celebration 5 Pack

30 Day RSL Intensive- For those of you looking for a more intensive self love coaching package I am offering 2 months of my 30 Day RSL Intensive for the price of one. You will receive two months of 1-1 coaching with me for $1111.00 and together we will design your sessions to fit and harmonize with your summer schedule and your needs. (Offer expires July 30th).

To register for the 30 Day Intensive send me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: 30 Day RSL Intensive Celebration Gift

I am so proud of what has been achieved in this past year and I am looking forward to this next year of bliss with all you lovers. A heads up, since the intention of this blog is complete I will be shifting over to my website for my regular blogging. Make sure to sign up to the email list to ensure you stay up to date on all things RSL!

I will likely post a couple more blogs here just to phase out and to share my new blogging schedule after I take a well deserved couple days off 😉

So much love to you all!!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming along for this journey! We’re only going up from here! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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What To Do When Tempted To Act Out Old Patterns- Day 336: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is no secret that the path of Radical Self Love calls us to examine ourselves, our beliefs and our patterns.

radical self love kelsey grantFor the majority of us we have a collection of patterns and beliefs drummed up by our ego’s that have been repeated on automatic default settings in our brains for a large majority of our lives.

Often there is a defining moment in our lives when we are awoken from this unconsciousness and begin to question ourselves, our motivations, our patterns of behaviour and ultimately question who we are and why we are here.

As we begin to dive into the world of self reflection and discovery we begin to see how the functions of our ego have lead us into some less than desirable situations. The ego is rooted in fear and fear never leads us to the path of fulfillment and bliss.

If we truly desire to remember who we are and return to our natural state which is bliss we must consciously examine the behaviours and thoughts of an ego or fear based mind. Once examined we must begin to consciously question these behaviours and thoughts to honestly determine if they are truly serving our highest good. The final stage is choosing better high quality love based thoughts and establishing more empowering behaviours.

When tempted to act out old patterns of the ego here are three questions to bring yourself back to the vibe of possibility, potential and love:

1. What would love do right now?

2. Would love do what I’m about to do?

3. Would love say what I’m about to say?

Then the key is to LISTEN honestly to the answer your inner guidance will give you and act in accordance to this guidance.

Often old patterns are triggered anytime we feel vulnerable, open and our hearts are exposed. The work of RSL is designed to crack open the shells around your heart to open you up to the fullness of love and authentic connection. It is inevitable along this path that when we feel open and exposed the ego will do anything it can to shut down this opening and build the familiar fear walls right back up.

The only one who has the power to dissolve the walls around your heart is you. Dissolving these walls is essential to the manifestation of heart to heart connections with other human beings, to the manifestation of your dreams and potential and to the manifestation of your own self awareness which is the biggest gift of all.

The reason people avoid doing the work is because you can’t un-know something. When we learn these aspects about ourselves and our default ego settings, from that point forward each time the egoic patterns surface and we act on them it becomes a conscious choice. Most people don’t want to be honest and own that they are choosing to act out fears plan instead of their highest potential which is always rooted in love. The only way we can shift these patterns, thoughts and behaviours is through our conscious choice to change and choose love.

It is all up to you, are you open, willing and ready to choose love?

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kelsey

If you would like support in learning to choose love and say YES to your great potential join in on our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program!!

Why We Should Be Hyper Selective In Who We Take Advice From- Day 302: 365 Radical Self Love

I’ve been having some really incredible conversations with clients over the past few days and there have been some incredibly synergy inside of all of our chats.

One thing that keeps coming up is “How do I know whose advice to listen to?”.

So I’m going to address it here on the blog as I imagine many more of you who are on the path of self development and self love are faced with a similar internal conversation.

Here is the think if you are just stepping into your awakening and your transformation people in your community most likely are not going to like it. They might have a lil shit fit, influence you to not go down the path of inner work or be full of reasons why personal development is a waste of time and a totally rip off and fill your head with less than empowering advice.

I have experienced all of this.

So why oh why do the people we think love us behave like this?

Because your transformation, evolution threatens the “safety” of their illusion. If you begin to look at yourself and make positive changes, it will mirror to them where they are NOT and thats not a fun thing to face. If you start creating results, transforming your body, mind and life it will completely debunk their internal ego story that nothing changes, people can’t change, victim,victim victim. To keep from having to deal with their own shit they will often try and deter you any way they can. ***Note this is often completely unconscious behaviour and they are not usually maliciously trying to keep you stuck***

See them through new eyes

When you elevate your perspective and awareness you can begin to see their behaviour as serving a deeper function. At the core they just want you to be happy and stepping into the unknown threatens the possibility of what they perceive happiness to be. So really when your friends try and keep you from going forward, in a strange sense it is their way of demonstrating to you that they care and just don’t want to see you get hurt by going into the unknown.

It is also a MEGA soul test for you- will you allow them to control your behaviour or will you assert yourself and stand in your truth?

radical self love kelsey grantWhen we are out of integrity and living out of alignment our egos will select company who will reinforce the stories we tell ourselves to keep justifying our behaviour. We attract people who will tell us what we want to hear not what we need to hear.

As we level up and awaken to our unlimited potential the people we attract into our lives will change. These new peeps will be straight talkers, they will call us out on our BS and they will not always tell us what we want to hear but what we need to hear for our highest good and the highest good of all involved.

Their advice will be firm but filled with love. They will see you as your greatness and relate to you as someone who is CAPABLE of making the much needed changes to fulfill your soul’s mission.

Anyone who relates to you as capable of being a greater version of yourself, calls you to heal yourself and encourages you to seek the answers within you are the people that will be the most beneficial to listen to. Ultimately these people act as mirrors- they mirror to you the wisdom of your spirit. They reflect to you the beautiful truth that resides deep within you.

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As a teacher, facilitator and coach of all things self love and relationships I can simply say, I only ever reflect back to you that which is lying dormant within you and is ready to become activated and conscious in your awareness. I will never teach you something you don’t already know on a spiritual level. Both parties knowing this is a mega access point to long term sustainable progress and transformation.

In the coming weeks I will be releasing registration for 2 incredible mastermind communities:

1. The Radical Self Love Relationship Mastermind. B This is a free mastermind for all those peeps who are a part of our RSL community and are looking for a community of like minded and like hearted women to explore the depth of possibility all our romantic relationships hold for us. I have 24 spots available for this mastermind and will be interviewing each participant to ensure harmony and compatibility. If you are interested feel free to email me and we can get a head start on setting up that initial call.

2. My first ever group coaching class- From Breakup To Breakthrough. This is a program I will be doing likely once a year. It is a 12 week curriculum designed specifically for women who have experienced a breakup recently and are ready to do the heart work to heal and get into delicious alignment for the relationship they are worthy and deserving of. This classroom is limited to 10 women and will be a combination of live coaching calls, video tutorials, workbooks and real time actions. The specific details will be released soon (dates, cost and curriculum outline) if you want to be first on the list to receive the details and claim a spot email me with the subject line “I Love Myself And I’m Ready To Move Forward”.

It is absolutely possible to be a part of both communities if that is the calling of your heart 🙂

Ultimately the path of Radical Self Love will have us develop our ability to listen to our own higher guidance the majority of the time. But hey we are all human and we will need those amazing, positive and possibility minded peeps to reflect back to us our divine wisdom from time to time.

When you are receiving advice from anyone just remember you aren’t obligated to take anyones advice if it insults your soul in any capacity. Rule of spirituality and personal development 101: Take what works for you and leave all the rest. Weigh any advice you receive against the truth of your heart and you will end up in the most beautiful of places 😉

To your brilliance,

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Dealing With Residual Anger and Upset On Your RSL Journey- Day 301: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Lets face it we all have a shadow and sometimes that shadow comes in the package of anger. When delving into the path of self love and relationships we are bound to come face to face with any residual energies … Continue reading

Why Relationships Bring Out Our Shadow- Day 269: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“Demons”- Imagine Dragons

I’ve had this jam on all weekend.

When I find something I like I consume it big time especially when it comes to music.

What I particularily like about this rendition of “Demons” originally by Imagine Dragons but performed here by Kina Grannis and Tyler Ward, is the beautiful blending and harmony of two incredible voices, the originality of the musical arrangement and the deep feeling both of them are emoting through their performance.

Embracing the shadow in love

As I’ve been embracing elements of my shadow this week in relation to my relationship this song really resonates. We all have “demons” and they are all hidden within the corners of our mind, body and soul. When we find ourselves in relationships there is often a time when when our shit starts to surface.

At the start of a relationship we are pretty open, we are in the bliss of love and our hearts are blasted right open. Then something happens. We start to change. Things become more challenging- our shadows begin to emerge.

The beautiful spiritual purpose of intimate relationships is to evolve, transform and open to our truth. How do we get there? We gotta go through the shit. All the crap we have accumulated over a lifetime of believing in fear or at least making agreement with it. We gotta undo all of it. The more we undo the higher we fly- the freer we become.

The purpose of intimate love is to set us free- free from the illusions of our ego and into the bliss of our hearts the bliss of love.

To experience love in its purest forms and in all its glory we must become aware of all the blocks we have to love and then consciously do the work to dissolve them. We have to heal ourselves. We have to let love in.

Romantic relationships are the greatest access point to our healing.

They will open us, crack us open and then shine the spotlight into those deep dark corners of our being. Our shadow will be called out. At first if we are unaware it will seem like the relationship is falling apart and beliefs like “love shouldn’t be this hard” or “love is supposed to be easy” are what keep us trapped in the illusion.

What we are being called towards every single time shit hits the fan in love is to go within. Look at what part of our shadow is wanting to be made seen. What “demon” is ready to be let go of.

Why this happens in relationships

Because it is only in the energy of love that we can truly heal these elements of our being. When our hearts are deeply connected to another there is an opening to the divine. There is an exchange of love’s bliss. It is in this highest vibration that all darkness can be transmuted. In the divinity of intimate relationship we have the chance to dive in, swim to the depths of our being and come out alive. The energy of love is safe. On a soul level we all understand this and so we are drawn into relationships with the exact people who will help us heal the most.

This is why we may have many partners in a lifetime. Each relationship will take us into different layers and levels of who we are. All of it is a beautiful exploration if we let ourselves perceive it that way. Relationships bring out our shadows so we can learn to become greater versions of ourselves, understand fully and lovingly embrace the totality of being.

When we can make friends with our shadow we have passed the soul lesson. We have many shadows and many lessons. So when we bring curiosity, awareness and love into our relationship mix we access infinate potential for massive soul expansion and deep human connection.

Who knew our shadows could bring to us something so beautiful and deeply fulfilling 😉

For more relationship goodness hit me up at rsl@kelseygrant.com as I’m currently working on a new relationship program coming this spring!  If you are interested in going deeper and stepping up your love game lets connect and get the conversation started!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The 5 Step Guide To Get You Back To Feeling Good- Day 248: 365 Radical Self Love Project

There has been a common theme among all the client sessions I’ve had today-

“How do I get back to feeling good when I feel so crappy?”

I figure if this showed up for all these peeps chances are a lot of you are wondering the same thing, so I am going to share with you some key practices to getting back into the good vibe!

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The 5 Step Guide To Get You Back to Feeling Good

1. Stop resisting where you are right now.

What we resist persists and what we fight we strengthen. The first and most important step to getting back to goodness is accepting the present as it is right now. Own what you are feeling even if it’s shitty. The moment you come into acceptance of what is so in the moment you allow yourself the energetic, mental and emotional space to create something new. It all starts with being honest with yourself.

2. Find your outlet to get all your excess energy out.

When we allow the not so good vibes to fester we run the very high possibility of snowballing into the world of downward spiralling. To approach this common pattern with love you will have to establish a way that works for you to get your excess energy out. When you are feeling frusterated, angry, upset what is your physical outlet to blow off that steam? Daily exercise is a great way to get these icky vibes out when they present themselves and it’s a long term solution to having them show up less frequently and certainly less intensely. Dancing, running, yoga anything that gets your body active and your heart rate up and your sweat on is ideal.

3. Stop hanging around with jerks.

Make a radical self love declaration to only keep around people in your life that bring out the best in you and you in them. Positivity, authenticity and compassion are key when making the social circle YES list.

4. Stop giving yourself permission to avoid doing things that will make you feel good, keep you in alignment and keep your vibes high.

The more we listen to our excuses the less results we see. Simple truth. If you want to be happier it is actually all up to YOU. If you keep doing things that make you feel crappy, or avoid doing the things you know will bring massive positive change  your way then the actual truth is you don’t really want to be happy. You most likely like the idea of being happy but are more committed to staying stuck that taking the actions that will get you there. Instead, if you are really committed to being happy, every time you come up with an excuse of why you shouldn’t do something you know will make you feel better, acknowledge it, and make the choice to do it anyway. Thank your excuse for sharing and remind yourself that happiness is a result of the actions, thoughts and feelings you call forth within yourself.

5. Make a go-to short list of things that raise your vibes.

Often when we are in the pit of self dispair we have short term memory loss and conviently forget what we could do that would raise our vibes and get us back into alignment (sneaky sneaky ego tricks). Make a list when you are clear and feeling good of the things you know to do to raise your energy and your vibes. For example my list consists of: listening to Keith Urban, looking a pictures of kittens or puppies, going for a walk and petting dogs on the street, snuggling an animal, watching the pure joy and laughter of a little human, meditation, watching episodes of The Awesomeness Advantage and the list goes on. The point is when we have this list we don’t give ourselves any room to default to our excuses which is a beautiful thing.

It’s ok to feel it all- just let yourself come back up for air.

radical self love kelsey grantIt is important to note that feeling, sad, low, and angry are all legit experiences of the human condition and we are meant to feel them to some degree in our lives. The purpose of this article and these suggestions is to support you in coming out of those phases quicker, to bring more awareness to why you are experiencing those feelings and how you can constructively learn from them- aka coming back up for air. There is also a distinction to be made here about experiencing a healthy dose of contrast and wallowing in our darkness.

Healthy Dose of Contrast VS Wallowing in Self Pity.

I personally believe the challenging times are the times when our greatest gifts are delivered to us- in the disguise of a challenge, hurt, upset, betrayal ect. Grief is a very important human expression and we must give ourselves permission to feel it all. We must also give ourselves permission to not be consumed by the temptation to wallow or spiral out of control with negative emotion.

radical self love kelsey grantI imagine since you are here reading this you are one of the beautiful humans who has incarnated this time around to beam more love and blessings into the world. This will mean you certainly will have your ups and downs throughout your lifetime and what makes your path a one of love is choosing to bring higher consciousness, deeper awareness and more freaking happiness into your experience!!! 😉

It is your divine birthright to be happy- let yourself go there and let yourself feel it all- especially the good stuff. You are worth it after all!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Kels

A Beautiful Day Spent With Beautiful People- Day 244: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today I am so very present to the abundant beauty in my life.

This morning kicked off with an incredibly powerful and soul inspiring coaching sessions. Showing up for life in this flow of service is incredibly fulfilling and as I witness the moment of breakthrough there is a very obvious shift in energy. People become softer, their eyes begin to twinkle, their bodies relax into the perfection of the now and their hearts open.

I witnessed this exact transformation this morning on my first client session of the day. What a fabulous way to kick off the day.

Then it was off for some family funtime!

Shopping, laughing, sushi, coffee, photos and completed the day extravaganza with a family workout! So rad!!

Then onto one last work call for the day and we are wrapping up this beauty of a day with a delicious homemade dinner, some vino and relaxation.

Life is good and I am so blessed.

radical self love kelsey grantMy invitation to you tonight is, where ever you are, however your day went close it out or start it- depending where you are in the world, is to stop what you are doing and connect to 7 things you are deeply grateful for and can appreciate right now.

When we dwell in gratitude we make this entire world a more kind, friendly and beautiful place to be. Thank you all for stepping up, showing up to life and beaming out the beautiful energy of love. I honour, appreciate and deeply respect each and every one of you love faces!!!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Three Valuable Lessons My Coach Taught Me Today- Day 209: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I love Thursdays

Thursdays are my coaching days. They kick off with my amazing coaching session with my coach and then I rock client sessions throughout the day.

Why I have a coach

What makes me an effective coach, leader and facilitator is my willingness to be coached and teachable. I know enough to know I don’t know everything. I am like anyone else who signs up for coaching. I have a life that sometimes gets lifey. I experience contrast, breakdowns and challenges. I am effective at what I do because I allow myself the space to work through my stuff and clear my shit in respectful and constructive ways.

My coach reminded me of three very valuable lessons today:

radical self love1. There are some people who by nature seek drama and it is not a life requirement to get pulled into their shit-storm.

2. Conflict can only arise when there is a lack of clarity.

3. When dealing with conflict, breakdown and emotions there is always room for possibility and the opportunity of a breakthrough.

While we may write certain people off in our lives because they are challenging we must keep in mind that those people are brought into our lives for a very important reason. They are always brought into our lives to help us overcome our own limitations and internal conflict. While they may present this opportunity it is important to note it is not required to keep them in our lives. Sometimes we just have to bless people, wish them the best and set them free.

What we see in others means nothing about them and everything about us.

We-do-not-see-things-as-they-are-we-see-things-as-we-areOur model of the world is based on our own personal life experience. No two people experience life the same and there for no two people will share the same perspectives and interpretations of life’s events. What occurs to one person as peaceful occurs to another as an attack and it is all rooted in our perceptions of the world. Some people just have a lens of drama. They unconsciously seek it and perpetuate it.

We either believe we live in a hostile universe where everyone and everything is out to “get” us or we believe we live in a kind and loving Universe where everyone and everything exists to help us grow, understand and come more into alignment with our truth. When we believe the world is out to get us we act in such a way to ensure we are “right” about it. Meaning we leave a lot of grey room in our communication, in our actions and in our behaviour. Lack of clarity is the ideal breeding grounds for conflict. This is why clear agreements and the management of details plays such a vital role in our ability to thrive and experience possibility.

Clarity is the foundation in which possibility is built on.

When we have a solid foundation we minimize the opportunity and space for breakdowns with each other. However when breakdowns do occur, and they do for all of us. What there is to understand is we all have the opportunity to handle them in a respectful and  constructive manor.  One of the foundational pieces of coming into harmonious resolutions is this: before launching into coaching mode or giving feedback mode create the space for possibility and have their agreement.

This means setting the conversation or context up in such a way where you allow the other person to freely choose what is best for them at this point in time. Most people just spew their breakdown, go on the attack and then wonder why the person on the other end is not receptive.

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What we can do to shift this is simply ask permission.

WayneDyerQuote1Get their buy in. When you have something you need to share, before you share, ask them if they are open and willing to hear what you have to say right now and have the conversation. This one simple step sets you both up to win.

It ensures you will only have the conversation when both parties are open, willing and receptive to feedback. Until that happens we leave the space for more upset, more conflict and no resolution.

It certainly takes courage and a higher level of self awareness to operate this way- and it is totally worth it. Communication that is clear, honest and constructive is always the way to go. When you respect another by allowing them the space to choose when is the best/most optimal time to have the convo you are already on the path to success.

Harmony in breakdowns comes from a willingness to see things differently. Willingness to forgive. Willingness to learn. Willingness to grow and most importantly willingness to love. 

Choose love lovers- it just feels better 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Once In a Lifetime Kinda Love- Day 208: 365 Radical Self Love

Tonight I fell in love

I went to the Keith Urban concert with my dear sister/wife/bestie and had an absolute blast. Anyone who knows me knows KU is my all time fav and I love him to bits.

Tonight I didn’t fall in love with him though it was someone else.

Tonight during his concert I fell deeper in love with my man. Over the past few days with the launch of the website, the new program and the one year mark of our epic journey- a lot of emotions have been flying through our relationship.

I have been a whirlwind of emotions, going from super happy one moment to fully breaking down in tears the next. I completely understand this is all part of the growth and shifts I am meant to be experiencing but it has been intense to say the least.

Today I was moved by two really incredibly kind gestures from my partner. As I left for the concert my heart was already warm open and willing to be receptive to love’s presence.

A lifetime kinda love

About halfway through the concert Keith stopped playing and began recounting a precious moment between him and his wife when they first got together. She was scared and not too sure if they would pan out. He consoled her and knew that with her it was a once in a lifetime kind of love and they were going all the way.

Being in my hyper emotional state my eyes filled up with tears as I became incredibly present to my relationship and that is the kind of love we have the privilege and honour of sharing with each other.

We’re going all the way- a lifetime love

radical self loveIt has taken a lot of work inside and out to get here, and it was all worth it. I wouldn’t give any of the pain up, any of the lessons away because that would mean I wouldn’t be here now, with him, with the absolute love of my life.

He makes my heart flip every day and I feel like the most special woman in the world. When he looks at me he sees me-all of me-right to my soul. That type of intimacy I had always been searching for but too scared to let in- I now have that with Connor and every single day I am so grateful.

Grateful for him and all he brings to my life and grateful for all the work I did to love myself, heal and get into alignment with my dream relationship. Because I did the work it showed up.

Keith Urban reminded me of that tonight through the reflection of his experience and his relationship. Man how divinely perfect is that?

And if you are looking for that soul filling, heart expanding, juicy and incredible love I have a couple open coaching spaces for February. I’ll be sharing with a select few exactly how I got the love I so deeply desired, how to get into alignment with the perfect relationship and all the self lovin goodness that comes along with it. If you are ready to be in a relationship you are truly worthy of me lets connect. Send me an email (rsl@kelseygrant.com) or hop to the website HERE

My wish is for everyone who is ready to have an incredible rockin, soulful and truly fulfilling passionate relationship to have access to creating it. I can help with that and it’s what I’m here to do- so lets dive in lovers.

A once in a lifetime love is possible and it’s closer than you think 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

In honour of this beautiful opening here is the song for all you lovers to enjoy!

Guidance from the Fairies Day 43: 365 RSL Project

I love oracle cards.

For those who may not know, I have an abundance of oracle decks I use on a daily basis and they are one of my favourite tools for accessing messages from the Universe for ongoing guidance and support.

I find it very easy to interpret the messages of the cards when they are in combination with each other and in the context of a reading for either myself or a client. With my background in numerology, colour therapy, energy healing and my ever increasing intuitive abilities reading/interpreting the messages within the cards is an incredibly fun adventure.

This afternoon I was feeling like I needed a little bit of guidance regarding this new path I have set myself on. To do Radical Self Love 100% is sometimes really confronting. Everyday I get the opportunity to heal fears and push through self imposed limits I’ve put on myself throughout my human journey and since committing to the path of Radical Self Love my shit is coming up big time.

Running my own business again is wonderfully rewarding in so many ways. Knowing I help peeps learn to love themselves more and in doing so, they have more incredible relationships and fulfilment in life, is pretty flipping epic. I believe the work I do in the world is much needed and I feel it is a true honour to be following this path of service.

That all being said sometimes my humanness gets the best of me and I worry. I get scared. I get sad. I get in my head. I freak out. It happens and to deny these elements of my experience would be completely inauthentic. Luckily throughout this journey I have been blessed to have discovered tools which are truly effective for me in re-presencing me to the magical abundance and experience of being alive.

Inside of my mini internal freakout this morning I knew doing a reading would give me the guidance and reassurance my mind needed in that moment. So I grabbed my new deck of Fairy Oracle cards and let the law of attraction and Universe do its thang.

Here is the very clear message I received 😉

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photo copy 8Card #1 = Current Situation

New Career– Well this is pretty self explanatory, lol. It would appear the Universe and the Fairies all agree my change of careers to teach Radical Self Love is exactly the move I was meant to make for my highest good and the highest good of all involved

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Card #2 = My Expectations

Easy Does It– When I get super in my head I go into this pattern of trying to control everything. This card is a reminder that in order for all the greatness to come to fruition I have to ease up a bit and stop trying to force things to happen in the way I think they should. This card reminds me the beauty, ease and freedom which is available in letting go and allowing things to unfold naturally and to trust I will be guided every step of the way.

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Card #3 = Hidden Influences

Everything’s Okay– What is going on behind the scenes of my conscious awareness is far greater than anything I can imagine. The path of RSL is exactly where I am meant to be and it is safe and highly advisable to continue to create and share the message of Radical Self Love in the ways I am guided each day. All is well.

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Express Your Individuality– I am here to deliver this message in only the way I can. Be authentic in the creation, delivery and facilitation of all the work I do. Honour my boundaries and awareness about who I am and what makes me come alive. The ‘right’ people will find their way to the work and through owning my individuality I unconsciously give permission for others to share who they truly are.

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Business Venture– Again this is such a clear message from the Universe that I am exactly where I need to be and this is the work I am being called to share in the world. This card is a message that as I continue along the path each day more and more opportunities are coming into my experience to share and collaborate (This is actually completely true right meow). It is safe and advisable to trust the new opportunities which are now and about to manifest as they are the doors I am meant to walk through to live my purpose and be most of service in the world.

The abundance of purple and green inside this reading is a further message to keep my heart open and become ever more receptive to the divine guidance which clearly wants to flow into my experience. This I can and will do 😉

Thanks Universe and all the magical fairies for your guidance, support and encouragement today!

Radical Self Love to the Max!!!

Kels