Looking for Love? How Keeping the Peace and Being an Example of Love Brings Love Forth- Day 99: 365 Radical Self Love Project

How others treat you is their karma- how you react is yours.

kelsey grant radical self loveIn life we are constantly being tested. Moment to moment we a presented with situations, people and circumstances which will either trigger us into familiar destructive ways of being or call us to be greater versions of who we know ourselves to be.

Even though this may be hard for our ego’s to understand, we actually have ZERO control over anyone else. Each human being is the master of their own domain. The quest of human interaction is to learn how to harmoniously interact and accept each persons individual paradigm of the world while maintaining your personal boundaries and self respect. This is the dance of human interaction. We can always find ways in which to respect others and respect ourselves at the same time.

Kelsey grant radical self loveThe times of heated emotion are our opportunities to do something different and pass the test from the universe. For example, lets say you are wanting to attract an incredible loving partner. Once the declaration of intent is set the Universe conspires with you to bring it forth. To prepare for such a intensely transparent and intimate connection, our ways of being have to be spiffed up (If there was no fine tuning to be had within you your intention would already be manifest since you would be in vibrational alignment with it). The simple fact of not having that which you seek simply says there is some inner work to be done to get into alignment. Part of this inner work is passing multiple seemingly unrelated “tests” from the Universe. These tests fine tune our character, raise our awareness, strengthen our areas of growth and call us to learn how to be better in every way, shape and form. So if we say we want love and amazing relationships but then loose our shit on a total stranger we miss the opportunity to demonstrate we are in alignment with that which we seek. What if I told you the interaction with the stranger has everything to do with attracting the love you want? Consider this quote: “by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future”. Everything is interconnected.

Keep the peace, stay grounded in love and love will come to you

Every time we are reactive, retaliate, seek revenge and are abrasive towards others, it doesn’t matter who these people are, we cast ripples out into the universe and place our order for more experiences of that nature. When we are kind and loving to others we cast ripples for more of those experiences in our future. If we truly want the dreams, love and relationships we desire we have to learn to be love even in the face of no agreement- meaning when people are being jerks you are able to put your ego aside and respond from a place of calmness and love.

Dear drama i'm breaking up with youRemember how people treat you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with how they really feel about themselves, so don’t take their drama personally. Give them the gift and comfort of a loving and kind response. If they choose to shift awesome, if they don’t you have at least put forward the energy of positivity and love which is of great service to our human family. These seemingly small gestures of love, peace and kindness are your key to attracting the love and relationships you want, so the next time you are tempted to react in the same familiar fashion take a step back, take a deep breath and ask yourself: “What would love do”. Then simply act on the guidance you receive.

*****Disclaimer*****

Your ego is not going to like this one bit. It will want to scream, fight, be right, make others wrong, justify, manipulate and judge judge, judge. Be aware it will attempt to sideswipe your progress with it’s trickery. As the saying goes- knowledge is power- now that you know and your awareness has been heightened to the ego’s ways you can consciously choose to behave and respond differently.

Remember to react is to allow the ego to run the show and to respond is activating the heart and letting love lead. Which are you going to choose?

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels