Why Challenges And Relationship Squabbles Are Really Just Soul Tests- Day 298: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Challenges are soul tests- if we choose to see them this way.

Last night right before the energies of the lunar eclipse kicked into full swing I was given a soul test. Around 8:45 I over heard a conversation my partner was having about our relationship and his recall of what had transpired.

One little phrase of what he said triggered me, and triggered me deeply.

Knowing that the eclipses are opportunities to plant new seeds of being I knew I was being handed this “gem” from the Universe to see how far I had truly progressed in the past six months. The position of the eclipse was especially significant for me and my astrological chart.

For the past six months I have been working on my relationship stuff and really going deep within to resolve the deep parts of me that I was being called to heal. This specific moon placement would call into action all of those lessons and bring them up for review in the form of a soul test.

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To achieve a result you have never had you must do something you have never done

So in knowing this I did something different. I noticed my reaction and instead of sitting with it and replaying it over and over in my head- completely convoluting the scenario, I went to have a shower. I knew on many levels for me water is very cleansing and standing under the shower head visualizing the heated energy within me washing off and going down the drain is often highly effective for me. In this particular instance it did help me reground and return to the present moment- that was until I saw my partner.

As soon as I saw him the trigger was activated almost immediately and I knew there were more tests just on the horizon. I knew I had to be honest and clear with him what was going on. So I shared. At first it was pretty calm, but as we continued to talk and communication became more misunderstood I exploded.

Yup I had a full on ego-blow out. I couldn’t think straight, I couldn’t formulate sentences, I was overcome with intense feelings of rage and so instead of entering into world war 3 with my partner I let myself be guided to do something different.

I walked away from the conversation and told him I was going to meditate.

I grabbed my crystals (Angelite and candle quartz) and sat myself down. At this point I was trembling with upset and just made an agreement to sit with myself and my experience until it passed however long it took. I’m not exactly sure how long I sat in meditation. I sat there as tears rolled down my face- I thought that I had failed this soul test by having an ego eruption. As I sat with myself and called on my guides it became very clear to me that there was something greater going on beyond what I could currently see. As I made peace with the reality of the situation and accepted it for what it was the feeling of upset dissolved.

When I came out of meditation I picked up a book on soul lessons conveniently sitting beside me and flipped to a “random page” knowing that whatever page I landed on would be the perfect message for me to receive at that moment. I opened it to the soul lesson of: “Embrace Life’s Tests”– ummm how divinely perfect.

I read the lesson finding more and more peace with every word I read. As I completed the chapter I came into the awareness that I had actually passed the soul test. I had done something remarkably different in the face of conflict and upset. I had removed myself from the charged situation and immediately chose to invest myself into an action that would truly lead me out of where I was at.

When I returned to the living room nearly 40 minutes later something major had shifted. I apologized for my outburst, took responsibility for the fact I was triggered and then another miracle occurred. He softened, he told me he understood why it had triggered me and that next time he would be more aware of the words he was choosing to describe what had really happened. I felt understood. Then he acknowledged me for doing something different and handling the situation in a way I never had before. I felt appreciated. I felt loved.

Challenges expand our souls capacity for kindness, compassion and love

So you see friends we all have shit that hits the fan and it’s in these times of challenge/soul testing that we are given the opportunity to do something different to achieve a different result. It takes time. It takes practice. Our ego patterns are intense and deeply engrained in our behavioural patterns and it takes conscious awareness and a commitment on our part to begin to show up for ourselves differently.

Where ever you are, whatever you are facing, know you aren’t alone, know that you are capable of transcending whatever limitations are within you and that every challenge is a sign our souls are eager to grow and expand into our greatest potential. They arise so we can learn each time how to handle ourselves with more compassion, grace, kindness and love.

To you and all your delicious soul expansion ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!


Getting To The Core of Confidence- Day 221: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Untitled 22-1 (dragged) 1Tomorrow night here in Van we’ll be hosting a  workshop for actors, musicians and artists and I am so stoked!!!

I get to pair my two passions- teaching love consciousness AND music/performance. I am really really really looking forward to this one! For all of you artsy types this is one you are not going to want to miss!

Here are all the details:

Date: Jan 29th
Time: 7-9pm
Venue: Shoreline Actor’s Lab (33 East 7th Ave Vancouver)
Tickets: $10
To reserve your tickets contact Brittney Grabill
Phone: 780-221-7508
Email: brittney85@hotmail.com

This Workshop Is For You If:

  • You are a performer/artist who is ready and willing to go to the next level with your career
  • You want to know how increase your amount of call-backs, gigs and showcases for your art.
  • You are open and receptive
  • You have a desire to grow personally as well as professionally
  • Want to get out of your own way
  • You have a desire to understand what holds you back so you can be at your best
  • You want to increase your authenticity within your craft
  • Learn how to not take things personally in the industry
  • Increase your confidence and belief in yourself
  • How to get into the flow of abundance
  • How to be more calm, relaxed and confident in auditions and big meetings
  • You see your art as a means to positively contribute to the world
  • You want to increase your network of supportive and like minded individuals
  • Interested in cultivating a prosperous and abundant life perspective
  • You LOVE what you do

This Workshop Is Not For You If:

  • You have a doom and gloom perspective about the industry
  • You think you know everything you need to know
  • You are closed and combative
  • You believe that people can’t change
  • Belief in lack and limitation
  • You believe you need to get before you can give
  • You are a skeptic
  • Any talk of spirituality, energy or positivity triggers you

What to Expect:

Understanding the Ego and it’s Role in Your Success

– Getting out of your own way

– Authenticity in your craft

– Understanding our different “brains” and getting them to work for you instead of against you.

The Core of Confidence

– Confidence vs Arrogance

– Separation vs Unity

– Taking Your Power Back

– Being HERE now

Authenticity- Audition- Gig

– What makes you YOU?

– Relaxed and Confident Auditions

– Attachment vs Commitment

– Getting to Giving

– Your Message

A New Industry

– Contribution and Collaboration

– A Shift to Consciousness

Your Facilitators

Kelsey Grant-

1016950_10151490528606529_1530599675_nRadical Self Love Coach, Speaker and Musician. After seven years of touring the world internationally with a professional show choir, four years of musical theatre performance and being the front woman of a band for three years, Kelsey left the music industry to pursue her passion for coaching, speaking and teaching.

Her company Radical Self Love teaches people how to cultivate love and approval within so they can really show up as their fullest expression in the world. Her coaching and teaching practice is integrated with her passion for creating and sharing original music. Her music is now a tool for healing and transformation. It is an expression of her heart and a means to positively contribute to her fans and her clients.

“Music has the power to heal and when combined with the practical and intuitive nature of coaching there is HUGE potential for world changing possibility”.

Brittney Grabill-

249469_508683559168282_1720328332_nBrittney is a singer/songwriter born in Edmonton, AB. Her first commercial single, I Like You, launched when she was 16, accompanied by the music video on Youtube directed by Braden Croft. She attributes the abundance of support and mentorship she has received to her success as an artist. She has an undeniable passion and love for writing music, allowing her music to be a positive escape for people. Her mission: “If I could do one thing to serve people, it would be through sharing music and encouraging the fun/emotional aspects of life. I have found success through perseverance and learning from failing! Here’s to music, joy, goals, persistence and serving others!”.

Brittney’s current album “Dreams Are All You Know” is available on iTunes. All the proceeds from ‘Autumn’s Song’ will be donated to the Stollery Childrens Hospital and matched by the World Financial Group Charitable Fund.

Looking forward to seeing you all there!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!