Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love-Day 365: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Holy shitballs I did it!!!

radical self love projectSuccessfully completed writing one self love blog post every day for an entire YEAR!!!! There are so many things I could write about today and I have given careful and thoughtful consideration for them all.

  • I considered writing the highlights of the year.
  • I considered writing the top lessons of the year.
  • I considered not writing much at all- total honesty and transparency 😉
  • I considered writing a simple celebratory post.
  • I considered just writing another self love lesson.
  • I considered sharing the impact of a year of self love on my relationship.

All of these were great however they didn’t feel quite right. Today is a significant day for me. For the past few years I have been levelling up and giving myself these “challenges” in order to grow and expand the person I know myself to be. This 365 Day RSL blog project was no exception.

To show up and create a blog post every day for an entire year took some serious commitment and dedication. It took bravery, honesty, transparency. It required me to face my shadow and deal with my shit. It called me to step into my role as a leader and a teacher and really own my place in the world. This project supported me in getting clear on who I am and what I am truly meant to be doing in the world. And it brought me face to face with my biggest supporter and my biggest nemesis- and coming to the profound realization that both happened to be me.

Today’s post I am going to share the biggest transformation that has taken place over the past year.

Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love

In one year I’ve done a hell of a lot of healing, forgiving, loving and moving forward.

But there was one thing that has held me back in all areas of my life and in the span of this project I was brought face to face with this disempowering mechanism. This is what I call “the ultimate ego sabotage” and I have had the opportunity to look it in the face with loving and kind eyes and find ways to gently and lovingly put it to rest.

That sabotage was an old familiar story of “not feeling like it”. How many times in my life have I used this line as a way to manipulate, get out of commitments and generally not show up for life? More than I can count.

Giving my word to a project of this magnitude brought me face to face with this disempowering habit every single day. Yes every single day it reared it’s face. Some days more than others but it always did.

radicalselfloveMy new self love habitual patterns were the only saving grace. If I had allowed my ego’s justifications or behaviours to run the show I would have quit. Something would have stopped me along the way. But because of my solid Radical Self Love foundation I was able to maintain my commitment even in the most challenging of times.

In my past my ego didn’t have to work very hard to get me to stop going down the path of transformation. It would pull the “oh I’m tired” excuse or something very similar and that would be enough of a reason to not show up for life.

As I grew and expanded my awareness my ego took to instigating physical pains in attempts to prevent me from showing up somewhere that would inevitably be a cause for my further transformation. The most memorable occurance of this function showed up a few years ago when I was heading out to be a production supervisor for the Advanced Course through Landmark Education. This role at the time called me to step up and lead a team of peeps and also create the space for all the people in the seminar to feel safe to dive into their own transformation- not an easy role by far. The morning of I was leaving my house and literally tripped over my own feet and fell down the steep stairs of my house. In the past this would have been enough for me to not show up- but I had done enough work to get acquainted with my ego that I knew it was just trying to take me out in any way possible to avoid my own immanent growth. Pretty bold stuff.

This year brought me into a whole new level of understanding my tricky ego. The function remains the same it’s just the measures and characteristics that change. Writing a self love blog every day for a year stretched me. Some days the words flowed, inspiration was at an all time high and some days it was fucking hard. I was emotional, my world was crashing around me and some how I managed to pull it together long enough to get real, get transparent and transform. In this year I have come to learn my ego’s new game is to take things incredibly personal.

I honestly at times couldn’t believe just how ridiculous I was being but somehow I couldn’t manage to stop it- that is until I realized this behaviour was a new form of my old ego friend. Once I became aware of this mechanism I was able to notice it’s take over sooner and become less reactive and more responsive to life.

This self love blog was ultimate training in playing bigger, creating something from nothing and standing for something way greater than myself. I knew my key to healing my heart was rooted in finding something I cared more about than the pain I was feeling. That “something” is this community, that “something” is supporting people in having more deliciously juicy relationships to themselves, to their lives and to the people in their lives. That “something” is self love.

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In honour of achieving such a kick ass milestone I want to celebrate with some gifts to you all!

Gift #1:

A FREE copy of my first RSL ebook-  Sabotaged Love: The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want. This baby is launching into the world on July 17th. Everyone on our email list will receive a free copy of the book as a mega thank you for being here and co-creating such a magical community of love and transformation. You can sign up for our email list HERE

Gift #2:

First dibs on attending my free summer webinar: The Self Loving Secrets To Long Lasting Commitment.

For more details drop me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com and I will send ya all the registration details! xo (eta end of July- Official date will be released within the next week).

Gift # 3:

Radical Self Love Coaching. For those of you who have been wanting to work with me to get your self love vibes thriving I’m rocking a summer coaching promo:

My 30 Minute RSL Reset five pack- (normally $444.00) until June 30th: $222.00 from July 1-30th: $333.00

To register for the 5 pack email me at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: RSL Celebration 5 Pack

30 Day RSL Intensive- For those of you looking for a more intensive self love coaching package I am offering 2 months of my 30 Day RSL Intensive for the price of one. You will receive two months of 1-1 coaching with me for $1111.00 and together we will design your sessions to fit and harmonize with your summer schedule and your needs. (Offer expires July 30th).

To register for the 30 Day Intensive send me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: 30 Day RSL Intensive Celebration Gift

I am so proud of what has been achieved in this past year and I am looking forward to this next year of bliss with all you lovers. A heads up, since the intention of this blog is complete I will be shifting over to my website for my regular blogging. Make sure to sign up to the email list to ensure you stay up to date on all things RSL!

I will likely post a couple more blogs here just to phase out and to share my new blogging schedule after I take a well deserved couple days off 😉

So much love to you all!!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming along for this journey! We’re only going up from here! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Meditation and Self Love For the Busy Bodies- Day 356: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Hey lovers!

radical self love kelsey grantI’m so jazzed to be a part of the Stillness Project’s launch and share one of my most favourite meditation teachers with you, Tom Cronin. Tom’s intention with the Stillness Project is to bring together one million people to sit in collective stillness and activate their bliss during a live global meditation event!!! Super rad!

 

I’m a huge fan of meditation and I regularly speak about how vitally important meditation is in maintaining a solid self love practice. However, a lot of peeps in our tribe have mentioned they are first time meditators and don’t have a lot of time to spare.

I totally get that.

When I first started meditating the thought of sitting in silence for an undetermined amount of time freaked me out. Not only was my mind a complete circus, my life was super busy and back then investing 20-30 minutes a day into sitting in stillness seemed absurd and completely unrealistic.

Not having enough time is such a common myth when it comes to meditating that my dear friend Tom Cronin created this awesome video to explain his  72/20 Method.  In this free video Tom gets right into the specifics of his technique to support all of you lovers who want to meditate but can’t find the time.

radical self love kelsey grantI know I’m always looking for ways to become more effective with my time, be more productive and just feel great during my day and this meditation technique facilitates all those yummy benefits into my life. Even if you think you can’t meditate this video will help you move through any inner blocks of resistence and guide you to the land of inner bliss. Self love is the journey of cultivating more of these blissful moments by removing our blocks to love. Meditation is a beautiful bridge to allow more love and greatness in.

Tom’s free video explains everything click the link below to access the vid:
CLICK HERE to Discover the 72/20 Method now

I wish I had known Tom back in the day when I was struggling to understand and begin my meditation practice, luckily for all you lovers you can take full advantage of his super effective and powerful techniques for meditation beginners and ease into the world of bliss and inner calm.

His technique is so powerful that when practiced it actually creates an abundance of time and space in your day nearly instantly, something I believe we could all benefit from.

If you are interested in joining our global community and participating in a pretty kick ass event, your invitation to join the Stillness Project awaits ya at the end of the video 🙂 I’m so excited about the possibility of one million peeps meditating in stillness at once. One million people connected to their truth, allowing love in and radiating that bliss out into the world has the potential to activate some pretty serious global healing, and that dear friends is a pretty epic thing!

Click here to watch this NEW video now

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

It’s Time To Go Bigger and Brighter!!! Day 347: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I am over joyed and deeply moved with the outpouring of love and support from my communities within the last 24hrs.

Since publishing my post last night I’ve been flooded with positive feedback, incredible stories of courage, people relating and taking inspired and brave actions in their own lives. All of this possibility, transformation and love because of one extremely raw and authentic post.

Releasing that blog post was one of the best moves I’ve ever made.

It activated people in a big time way.

It touched hearts.

It opened minds.

It widened the capacity for compassion and forgiveness.

It evoked strong emotional reactions.

It caused the activation and expression of truth.

It gave the beautiful souls in this community the space to tell the truth on themselves.

It was shared- a lot.

This is not a coincidence. This is what happens when love leads the way. The activity and incredible feedback I have received in the past 24 hrs sparked within me a massive jolt of creativity, confidence and increased my capacity and willingness to be real and be seen.

Writing that piece wasn’t easy and releasing it out into the world brought up a lot of resistance- but the benefit I’ve seen in such a short time makes up for any initial uneasiness.

So Im stepping up.

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I’m playing bigger.

I am willingly submitting my work to additional platforms and allowing this to take me where I am meant to go.

I am going full stop into my passion- supporting peeps in repairing the #1 relationship in their lives (the one with themselves) and support these lovers in rocking their romantic relationships through the vehicle of Radical Self Love.

This past year has been literally life changing and I’m stepping into it all. I’ve been cracked wide open and I’m ready and willing to step beyond my limitations and play like I never have.

We’re getting really real and really rad for this next year of RSL.

Love you all so dearly. Thank you for standing for love in the world. Thank you for being you. Thank you for showing up and thank you for your willingness to radiate love consciousness into the world. Even if we’ve never met you have contributed to my life in such a deep and profound way, for this I am eternally grateful and I won’t stop going deeper and expanding higher. I’m open, ready and willing to release the aspects of my ego archetypes that keep me from being fully lit up, self expressed and self loving.

You all have made this journey so fulfilling and I bow in humble gratitude to your brilliance. Lets do this lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

If you are ready to release ego archetypes in your relationships and level up in love’s radiance, sign up HERE to our mailing list to receive a FREE copy of my first ebook “Sabotaged Love- The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want” coming in July!!!

A Call To Men- Awakening The Collective Need For Healing: Day 316: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I was absolutely blown away when I watched this incredible TED Talk this morning by Tony Porter.

Tony is the founder of A Call To Men an organization in the states committed to the education and healing of the masculine. Their mission “To create a loving world where all men and boys are loving and respectful and all women and girls are valued and safe”– pretty epic stuff.

In this awesome talk he explains the massive impact living in a world that robs men of their emotional expression and acceptance of their emotional nature, has on the collective consciousness and on our spiritual brothers.

It’s powerful and worth every second.

Enjoy and share. Lets keep this global conversation going.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Sunshine, Smooches And A Whole Lot Of Love- Day 295: 365 Radical Self Love Project

What an absolutely perfect first day back together today!

We had a nice leisurely start to the morning, enjoyed the sunshine filling up our bedroom this morning, laughed snuggled and just enjoyed staying in bed longer than usual.

After a breakfast of fresh raw juice and gluten free blueberry and banana pancakes we set out on our day adventure.

We walked to a coffee shop we had never been to together did some reading and enjoyed delicious coffee. Then our long walk began.

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In total we rocked a 10km walk and adventured to new places and soaked up the sun, fresh air and the gloriousness of each others company.

After some smooches and selfies we made our way home to relax, make dinner and have a super chill night just lovin all over each other!

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I am so grateful to have him back and this time apart truly strengthened our bond and we are clear more than ever just how “in” this relationship we both are and how deeply committed we both are to the success of our partnership- such a massive win!

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With a very happy heart I wish you all the most beautiful evening! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

1 More Sleep Until My Man Comes Home!!! 293: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Only 1 more sleep until my man gets back and I am so freaking stoked!!

After 2 weeks of being apart he will be coming home tomorrow night and my heart couldn’t be happier. Today as a beautiful way to wrap this entire adventure up we hopped on a call and just reflected on all the positive aspects of our time apart has had on our relationship.

Some of the highlights:

1. We learned how to more effectively communicate our needs to each other.

2. We had the opportunity to have really deep, authentic and new level conversations about our relationship, where we are headed and share our excitement in co-creating in this new direction.

3. We got a chance to really miss each other.

4. We explored new creative territory with one another and infused this new creativity into our daily communication.

radical self love kelsey grant5. We got a chance to really build a foundation of trust and honesty.

 

While I am grateful for all of these beautiful gifts we have acquired over our time away from each other I am most certainly ready for him to come back.

So tonight I am going to celebrate this massive accomplishment (being apart and being ok) with my favourite dinner and a lil vino and enjoy a super chill vibe in the house flying solo for one more evening. I feel so blessed to have the relationship that I do and it most certainly has required work, positive intention, commitment to both our healing and a desire to co-create the relationship of our dreams.

After todays reflection I’d say so far we are doing pretty freaking amazing 😉

Wishing you all the love in the world and the most happiness this evening can provide!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Very Romantic Gesture To Heal The Heart- Day 292: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Following up yesterday’s post of asking for what you need I was gifted again this morning with a second love letter from my partner.

Immediately upon reading it I was giddy with happiness and it completely activated my awareness of love’s presence within my being. I took this vibration throughout my entire day and allowed the blissful energy of love to permeate everything I did, created and experienced.

I was just leaving a coffee shop this afternoon after finishing up my notes for my Relationship Course tonight and I was gifted another surprise from my partner.

To me I absolutely love it when he speaks to me through music. I find it incredibly romantic and it blasts my heart open even more. Words of affirmation are one of my main love languages (receiving love that is) and when I receive music I really tune into the message that is being shared lyrically. It stirs something in me.

The romantic gesture and gift I received was this song posted below. Immediately upon listening it sounded exactly like our relationship and I could hear the truth inside of each lyric. My tears welled and spilled over and my heart began to swell with gratitude, appreciation and in all honesty a lil raw vulnerability. He was able to activate a very delicate place in me that is deeply tender and so open through the sharing of this song.

When I spoke with him a few minutes later he had mentioned he had heard this song and immediately thought of me and our relationship together. He let me know that every part of the song was real and honest for him and in those moments another layer within me healed. We levelled up to a new place of connectivity, joy and harmony.

So here is the song for all of you to enjoy and I hope it activates your hearts in a beautiful and loving way as well! So freaking magical! ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Causing Pain or Causing Happiness: Wisdom From My Yoga Mat- Day 284: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today at the yoga studio we are practicing the spiritual law of Karma, other wise known as cause and effect.

For every action there is an impact, a seed is planted with every thought, feeling and action we take. Those seeds will at some point be the cause of an effect. All situations in our lives can always be traced to the originating thought, feeling and action whether it be positive or negative.

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My dear friend and fabulous instructor said something at the end of class that really struck a chord with me. She heard this from one of her teachers growing up and I felt it had incredible significance for me right now. She said:

“We either make decisions that cause pain or decisions that cause happiness”.

I reflected on this in a few ways.

First I reflected being the cause of an effect in another person. Every interaction I have with someone holds the opportunity to either cause them pain or cause them happiness. Certainly in my past I’ve made crap loads of decisions that absolutely lead to the experience of pain in someone else. I’ve also made a tonne of choices that lead to the experience of happiness in someone else.

With this increased awareness I really have brought this question to the fore front of my mind when it comes to my interactions with another: “Is what I am about to do or say going to cause an experience of pain or happiness- either immediately or in the future?

This simple check in with myself allows me the conscious space to be acting from a place of integrity, honesty and respect.

The second way I reflected on it was more personal. I reflected that every thought, feeling or action I take has the potential to either cause me a future experience of pain or happiness. It has become very clear to me over these past few weeks of deep heart healing and soul work that I have been engaging in a major addiction to negative obsession (more on this in a future posty post). These obsessive thoughts I’ve been “indulging” in have lead to the effect of feeling shit, anxious and fearful- which is not good for anyone, especially me.

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Inside of this super clear ahhh haa! moment today I can see how my insecurities have been rooted in the choices of thoughts, feelings and actions I was taking. This ultimately is the cause of my pain (even though it was an unconscious behaviour, the choice still lead to the pain).

Now the unconscious has been made conscious and I’m already beginning to see a shift. I “outed” myself to a couple girlfriends today and I also told this truth to my partner. Doing so reduces my access to indulge in these patterns. When we share our awakenings and awarenesses of our patterns to our close peeps they generally don’t give us space to keep running them, because they see us as someone who is capable of overcoming this layer of growth.

So here I am tonight “outing” myself to all you beauties. My major shift will be happening inside- in the ways in which I think, feel and act towards myself and my relationship. The self awareness muscle I’ve built when it comes to others and understanding the future impact I am responsible for with them, will serve me greatly in taking on this new area of internal transformation. I will keep you all posted on this internal journey as I have a feeling this one hold a pretty massive treasure inside 🙂

Mega gratitude and love to my soul sisters who held space for me today, for my soul family who always has my back, to my incredible, patient and loving partner who always calls me to be greater and step into my brilliance, and for each and every one of you beautiful souls part of this self love movement- you all make this world such a brighter place through your awareness, willingness to step into love and your ability to move forward fearlessly.

You are all amazing in my eyes and I love you dearly!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

5 Reasons Why I Am SO Jazzed About This Year Ahead!!!- Day 198: 365 Radical Self Love Project

As I put the finishing touches on the new website today I took some time to reflect on all the awesomeness that is up and coming this month. As I reflected I started to get super excited and wanted to … Continue reading

2013 In Review: Some Awesome Reflections of An Epic Year- Day 193: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Wow 2013 you were a doozy.

I am thrilled to enter into this new year ahead and first a little reflection on the epic road 2013 paved.

Starting the year with a bang!!

My 2013 began with a unexpected breakup and just as unexpected breakdown. Inside of this massive shift was an even bigger opportunity- to finally figure out what I was truly made of.

Relationships up until this point had been a source of validation for me. In the break of my relationship I got to see the depth of my being-all the dark nasty energies that were lurking in the background. It was these energies, memories and stories I had been holding for years which were indeed holding me back. I needed to breakup to actually see all of them.

When I finally began to uncover these elements of myself I courageously made a choice to let them go. Not know how to actually do that, or what it would look like I took off on a journey of wild faith, complete surrender and soul healing.

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The first win

Out of my deepest suffering I birthed something great. I created a 30 Day Radical Self Love Program for myself. I put all of my knowledge, wisdom and guidance I was receiving from my spiritual practice and made a program to get myself through this intensely painful time. I was aware enough to know that I was only given that which I was capable of handling, even if at the time it seemed otherwise. This 30 days of self love began my reset and rebooting phase.

I began to stand up for myself, I began to take really good care of my body, my mind and my spirit, I began repairing relationships, completing relationships, setting clear and firm boundaries and diving deeply in to the world of self discovery, self development and self expansion.

In my 30 days I was gifted with many incredible ideas from the Universe.

The first was a Healing Gratitude Practice to heal the heart through a breakup and to provide clarity, support, healing and nourishment to BOTH parties. To me this was a very sacred gift, one to be used with great responsibility and care. It was this practice that began to set the stage for what would be an epic romantic re-uniting.

The second was a book. A step by step guideline to consciously process and gracefully accept the lessons of a relationship breakup. This book will be ready upon the new year and I believe it is one of the main reasons why I was able to hold the energy of love, embrace forgiveness, invite the soul searching and accept the deep healing that was required on my part to re-enter a relationship or be ready again for love.

The biggest win of the year

Following a completion of the 30 day program, I kept going and designed a 60 day program and a 90 day program. Midway through the 90 day program I experienced one of the most profound miracles of my life.

My former partner and I found our way back together.

radical self loveIn the time apart we had both experienced what we needed to to finally be clear. To be clear of what we wanted and be clear to act in alignment with what we wanted and to know full heartedly that what we wanted was each other. This was no easy ride. It has been months of intense emotional processing, deeper levels of forgiveness, practising raw honesty, learning how to be deeply vulnerable and most importantly learning how to let go to move forward. In this reuinion my heart had found it’s home. I was full and complete as I was, and when I finally came to the realization of this through all the deep inner work I had done, the relationship appeared. When I was actually ready, mind, body soul ready- it showed up.

Following this reunion Radical Self Love was launched.

I knew I had been given this experience not only for my soul growth but for the soul growth of the millions of others who are dealing with a self love deficiency and thus experiencing challenges in love as a result. My journey this year lead me to realize my life isn’t just for me, its for the betterment of all. My journey is an avenue for others to learn, progress, expand and transform. It is in this energy of self acceptance that we finally set ourselves free. It is in the practice of radical self love that we set the foundation for true happiness, prosperity and love.

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Knowing this we lauched RSL and since then have mindfully allowed it to grow, expand and direct us to our next spiritual assignment. Inside of the launching of this community I was asked to come share the stage and share my music at an incredible conference in LA this past July. To take the stage with Kyle Cease and all of his guest speakers was a true honour.

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Hitting the stage

Returing home in the fall we launched into the monthly RSL workshops to begin building a local community of women and men who are commited to love, committed to loving themselves first and open and receptive to learning effective ways to do so. I am so proud to share how incredibly fulfilling and successful these events have been. It warms my heart to see the community in person coming together in the spirit of greatness, transformation and love.

Wrapping Up Beautifully

To wrap up the year we lauched our first RSL Course: The Seven Levels of Forgiveness. Every time I think of this course, the content, the participants and results which were caused in our 7 week journey together my heart flutters with pure joy. I am so thrilled to bring this course back to our international community in 2014!!

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The final accomplishements and wins of 2013 were amazing seeds we planted for the start of 2014: A radio interview (Jan 30th), the official launch of our new website, the release of the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program (the one I wrote about at the start of the blog), my first speaker summit in Feb, a guest facilitator for Warp Academy’s Creative Mastery Course, a brand new coaching program, our first RSL E-book…and that is just the first two months of the year!!!

I am truly so grateful and feeling the epic blessings of this past year. Although it was honestly one of the hardest, most emotionally demanding, soul purging, hard working years- it was the best year of my life.

If I were to sum it all up this year brought to me my life’s work and my life soul partner. Two pretty incredible accomplishments 😉

My invitation to you tonight is simple. Take time tonight or tomorrow and truly reflect on your accomplishments, lessons and wins from this past year. To know where you have been gives you solid clarity and power into knowing where you want to go in this year head! Let’s let love lead this year and make 2014 the best year yet!!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels