WOW! 5 Days left in this blogging project! After my very successful interview this morning with the beautiful Lisa Barnwell with her global conference Bumps and the Boardroom, I wanted to share with you all one of my near and … Continue reading
Today I had the honour of connecting for the first time over Skype with my B-School accountability partner.
In choosing to do this program as it’s designed I decided to step out of my comfort zone in a big time way and reach out to a fellow B-Schooler that I didn’t know to create this dynamic.
Why oh Why Did I Do This?
Well it’s simple, for me when I have a pre-existing relationship with someone there can be a tendency to play safe on both sides. There is more at stake if a accountability partner who is a close friend calls out a way of being or something we said we would do that we haven’t done. It leaves the space for bruised ego’s and for potential friendship upsets if either party shows up in the friend zone instead of the accountability zone. Basically I want to work with someone who isn’t afraid to call me out if I need it and be incredible supportive at the same time.
I also love the vibe of being with someone I don’t yet know and having the opportunity to create myself as someone who plays BIG, follows through and is a rocking support partner. I also love that I get to create her the exact same way. Double win for both of us!
The dynamic with someone new is comparable to the objectivity that occurs in a coaching session. Full transparency, full accountability and a ear who will listen for greatness.
I made the agreement this morning to show up, play big and always relate to my partner as a woman who is fully capable of achieving everything she sets out to do.
The call was incredible and so inspiring. We are definitely similar in some respects and quite different in others. I love this dynamic because it means there is so much potential for us both to learn from one another.
My B-School accountability partner is a powerhouse. She’s high vibin, driven, authentic, creative, transparent, honest, respectful and such a delight to chat with. I’m seriously so pumped for this new chapter, for this new level of greatness and for the new directions I can already see my business taking. If you wanna check out all the awesomeness she is up to you can do so HERE.
B-School is going to be a wild ride and I’m ready baby!!!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Well I did it, completed 55 miles in the gym by Valentines Day! YEAAAAA ME!!
Since I gave my word to rock a week of relationship posts it got me thinking about the relationship between the intentions we set for ourselves and the success of our romantic relationships.
Why Achieving Your Intentions is Great For Your Relationship
1. You feel accomplished.
There is just a whole world of gooooood vibes associated with accomplishing things we have set our minds and hearts to. When we are rockin out on the high vibe train we are more enjoyable to be around. People wanna feel good and when you are vibin high and feeling proud, accomplished and in celebration mode that energy rubs off on others and it inspires and influences their energetic state. If they are feeling lower your pure positive vibes will help turn their frown upside down, if they are feeling good it will amplify the goodness and you both benefit. Either way both people win.
2. You come into greater alignment with yourself.
When you give your word to you and keep it you begin to build a greater sense of trust, integrity and self reliance within yourself. When you trust yourself you more easily trust others. When you are in integrity with yourself you attract people who are also in integrity, when you know you can count on yourself you stop putting the icky vibes of neediness onto others. When it comes to romantic relationships this is HUGE. When you trust yourself you will naturally be more trusting with your partner and that is the biggest foundation all solid relationships have in common- each partner is a trustworthy individual (they are self reliant, stay true to their integrity and trust themselves on a deep level). It is in this energy they create so much space to enjoy each other, create together and focus on things that bring out the best in them and their relationship.
3. When you play BIG you call your partner to step up their game.
This is fabulous when we are in relationships. Relationships fall into one of two categories. The first being relationships defined by two people who constantly default to old patterns and dysfunctional ways of being with zero intention of changing OR the second type of relationships where both people are always stepping up their internal game, constantly on the path of becoming better versions of themselves and who are willing to change patterns, behaviours and habits that do not serve the highest good. When you set an intention and achieve it you call your partner to look into their life and find ways to strive to be better versions of themselves. This also has a massive subconscious impact for your partner. When you demonstrate your ability to follow through you train them to see you and relate to you as a high vibin supportive partner. When you pave the way first you unconsciously demonstrate your ability to support them in “levelling up” and know they are supportive as they keep playing big.
4. It gives you more productive things to talk about.
Following the last point when we are in a relationship where we are being called to be our best versions the things we talk about and focus on change to a higher frequency. We begin to have “real talk” with each other about our fears, our challenges, our vulnerabilities, our wins, our strengths and our visions for the future. You setting a goal and achieving it brings such a positive focus to your relationship’s communication. What we talk about we bring about, so the more positive our communication the more positivity we will create.
Open your heart tonight and tune in to a goal or intention your heart would love to achieve. Then give your word to yourself to accomplish it. Set realistic targets and timelines to set yourself up for success. Start small and work your way up from there! You got this love face!! xo
For all of you lovers who are interesting in taking your relationships to the next level and want to join us for a 9 Week Radical Self Love Relationship Journey send me an email @ firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll hook ya up with the course details and how to register if it all vibes with your heart’s calling ❤
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
Last week I announced my goal to complete 55 miles by Valentines day and I am proud to announce my first week’s accomplishments! In the first week I completed 10.8 miles, rocked one hot yoga class, one hot yin class … Continue reading
I’m not one for setting lots of goals (I prefer setting intentions and allowing the magic of the Universe to do it’s thang) however, I do see the value in setting one solid goal to achieve every couple months. The … Continue reading
Learning is very important to me.
I know it is one of the things which makes me an effective teacher, leader, friend and partner. Being open to learning and receptive to new information increases our vibrational alignment, increases our confidence and ushers in the opportunity to really claim our power and own our inner wisdom.
We are all teachers.
Perhaps not in the conventional sense of being infront of a body of students and lecturing, but in our own ways we are all teachers. We all have wisdom which comes through us and is accessed through our life experiences.
How to be an effective teacher.
First things first, an effective teacher is a top notch student. The best teachers I know are students of life. They are open, receptive and humble enough to know they don’t know everything and they all share a common desire- to be better humans, be more effective teachers and be powerful examples of love in the world. These types of teachers are always learning. They study their craft, they practice and they do the work they require of their students.
The second step to being an effective teacher is learning how to get out of your own way. This comes through self reflection, self learning and self love. The best teachers I know invest an abundant amount of time, energy and resources into self development aka learning to be the best version they can be. They learn how to overcome their challenges by bravely looking at and acknowledging where they require growth. They seek out information and teachers who can take them to the levels they want to get to and they are driven by the insight that when they are their best version they create the environment for their students to succeed in life as well.
My RSL Invitation to Increase Your Happiness
My invitation to you today is simple, invest 30 minutes each day in studying your passion and 30 minutes each day studying self growth or self development.
One hour is a great starting point to establish a positive and inspired habit around learning. So much of my life I felt like I had to learn about things I really didn’t care about or was passionate about. Now I realize I have 24 hours in the day just like everyone else and how I spend those hours is completely up to me. When I began this process of self study about 7 years ago I made a commitment to myself to “give up” an hour of TV in exchange for learning about my passion and practicing. Ultimately that one choice was one of the foundational factors leading me to the life I live now, in a city I love, with a partner I adore with all my heart, living a life I am truly uplifted and fulfilled by.
As we approach the new year it is a great time to reflect and really commit to you and your wellbeing. It is a time to step into creating a life you are worthy of and that lights you up. It is the time to start living on purpose, living your purpose.
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!
With all of the hustle and bustle of the holiday season I totally missed a MASSIVE milestone.
Three days ago marked my half way point of the 365 Radical Self Love blogging project.
I am still kind of in shock in the hugeness of this accomplishment.
For the past six months, I have sat down to write a blog post EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. This is a huge accomplishment for me. At one point in my life I was well known for starting things and rarely seeing them through. I really got that the impact of my behaviour extended not only onto me but also onto those around me. I began to understand my flakiness, lack of commitment and callous dis-regard for my integrity was creating a reputation that I couldn’t be counted on. I began to see the connection between my lack of commitment to my word and my personal happiness.
As I learned to keep my promises to myself I was more easily able to keep them with others. This provided me with a massive sense of motivation, momentum and positive energy.
My confidence grew with every commitment I honoured.
I knew taking on a massive goal of blogging every day for 365 days would stretch me. It would cause me to play bigger and to show up in a massive way for myself and for my community.
My achievements so far:
Already this amazing commitment has created the space for this community to grow and thrive, my relationship to open to new levels of connection, vulnerability and bliss, my company to grow and become internationally recognized, a beautiful new ushering of amazing clients and active participants in our local RSL scene, my first speaker summit booking, multiple interviews, performing at a conference in LA along side some incredible speakers, inspirational leaders and change agents, a beautiful new website, an incredible RSL Team, new friends, a road trip to California, business collaborations and soul connections, my first RSL E-book nearing completion, massive emotional clearing and healings, a 7 Week RSL Forgiveness Course written, facilitated and completed, releasing and healing weights from my past, writing new music, healing a back injury through the power of forgiveness, a 6 month young adult mentorship program, a brand new 30 Day Coaching Intensive Program, a brand new 30 Minute Coaching Reset and our 30 Day Virtual RSL Program.
I’m sure there are many more attractions, wins and accomplishments to take note of and these are the ones that are majorly standing out for me right meow.
When we start something we have no real idea the magic that is possible, through daily commitment and the intention to create something beautiful and love filled, the Universe truly opens up to usher in blessings beyond our wildest dreams.
If you want acknowledgement- acknowledge yourself
Tonight I honour myself for the courage, commitment, strength, vulnerability and integrity I have chosen to beam into the world through this experience. I give myself credit and acknowledgement for the incredible achievement this has been so far and I am incredibly proud of the greatness I have allowed myself to step into through this process and I am proud to be a leader in this world of self love.
It is my greatest honour to be here with you- all of you. Thank you for being part of this incredible journey!! I look forward with great excitement for the next six months to come!! YEAAAA Budday!!
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!