How The “Other Woman” Helped Me Find Freedom and Happiness- Day 346: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Finding Freedom in the shadows

radical self love kelsey grantWe all have that side of ourselves we would rather keep hidden. Some call it a shadow, some call it an ego, some call it our darkness.

Whatever the name, we all have it. The elements of our personality with less than positive intentions. It is when we are living through our shadow we have a higher tendency to get triggered. Triggered by another person, circumstances in life and scenarios we are faced with.

Your shadow is one of the greatest access points to your highest potential if you allow this unfolding to take place. Embracing the lessons the shadow leads us towards, encourages the harnessing of energy and activation of our awareness for the highest good and potential for all involved.

What you can’t be with about another, leads you towards a deeper awareness of yourself.

Everything we can’t be with, everything we reject, resist or flat out dislike about someone or something outside of ourselves will always lead us to a greater understanding to what is going on inside ourselves on a deep deep level.

We can only identify that which exists already inside us and we are only activated or triggered by anything outside of ourselves, when an aspect of our own experience we have rejected and can’t be with- is still lying dormant in our unconscious.

How the “other woman” was key for my self awareness and deep deep healing.

There are a lot of things I could say about the woman with whom my partner broke our relationship agreement with and the only thing worth sharing is the truth.

It was really easy for me to hate her. It was really easy for me to be angry at her. It was really easy for me to make her wrong for everything. It was really easy for me to find fault in everything she did and everything she continues to do.

What wasn’t easy was coming to terms with one of my greatest spiritual lessons: Everything I despised about her, were actually elements of myself I had left unhealed and unattended. What a massive wake up call.

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My healing massively expanded when I started to use her reflection or more accurately my perception of her, for my own self discovery. Everything I couldn’t stand about her I took very close notice of- because it was actually mirroring what I couldn’t be with about myself.

I had to come to terms with the fact I had done the very same things I perceived she did- earlier in my life. I had repeated these disempowered behaviours multiple times during my life and I was still harbouring resentment and regret about it. I was withholding forgiveness towards myself.

Forgiving My Past

In my early 20’s I pursued men who were unavailable, men who were dating other people and I made it my game to manipulate them out of their relationships. In some shadowy twisted way when I “won” them away from their partners I made it mean I was enough, I was obviously a real catch and my bruised self worth was validated.

I would maintain friendships with men in relationships that were a little too close to respect the terms of their relationship agreements. I played the really good friend who was always there to listen to the relationship problems then eagerly offered my “advice”- advice to benefit me and my ego’s desires. I gave very little if any consideration to the woman in the relationship with the person I was scoping. She didn’t matter to me. I turned my back on my sisters.

I manipulated.
I meddled.
I flirted.
I seduced.
I made my ‘needs’ more important than the other hearts involved.
I broke trust.
I was dishonest.
My only intention was to get what I wanted at whatever cost.

Then I woke up.

Something in me shifted and I wanted more from myself and for my life. I wanted to learn what it meant to live in integrity. I wanted to learn what it meant to live on purpose. I knew enough back then that I would have to stop behaving this way to have the relationship and life I was deeply desiring. What I didn’t have access to was the essential healing ingredients- compassion and forgiveness.

Moving to Vancouver began a 5 year journey of understanding and developing my capacity for compassion and forgiveness. I practiced living on purpose and creating relationships in alignment and in integrity. When my partner and the other woman did what they did, it activated all of the unhealed wounds of my past. The shadow of my past behaviour was still unforgiven and reeking havoc on my present capacity for happiness. I was still living with the heavy heavy  impact of my past unconscious life.

Usher in the compassion

radical self love kelsey grantIt was through her, I was given an opportunity to identify all the suppressed junk I had been holding onto. The mirror of her behaviour also enabled me to wrap my past actions in compassion and love and set myself free- something I had not yet been capable of doing.

During this year long process of healing I’ve had to remind myself time and time again nothing I perceive about someone else is ever about them- it’s about me.

 

Through her, my awareness was directed to all the shadow wounds deeply buried within my unconscious mind. This situation happened at the exact point in time that I was capable of handling it. All of my “stuff” came up for review when it did was because I was in a place in my development and soul journey where I had the awareness and tools to move forward effectively.

This year I proved to myself how capable and willing I am at embracing my wounds, healing my perceptions and setting myself free.

We all fuck up. We all make mistakes. We all have done things we wish we could have done differently. If we hold onto them and make ourselves wrong until we leave this planet, we rob ourselves of the genuine happiness and possibility our lives hold.

When we learn from our behaviour and make conscious changes to become more respectful, more aware, more compassionate, more kind, more on purpose, more aligned with integrity and more loving- we have learned what that experience was meant to teach us. Then we can set it free. We keep the wisdom of the lesson and release the pain.

Making yourself wrong and others wrong until the end of time does no one any good. In fact it robs the world of your brilliance. This brilliance explodes into the world in the vehicle called your vibrance. Your vibrance is enhanced when you are happy, when you have released the weight of your “mistakes” and forgiven people who made their own mistakes. When you are living on purpose your brilliance inspires the world.

radical self love kelsey grantIt hasn’t been easy doing this work and forgiving all that has happened but it sure as heck has been worth it. Without her and all that happened I wouldn’t have developed Radical Self Love, I wouldn’t have this beautiful community to share with, I wouldn’t have uncovered and activated my purpose and potential. Without her I wouldn’t have done the inner work required to be in alignment with the relationship I desired so deeply and without her I wouldn’t have the relationship I do.

After I released myself from my past what I can see is I have a lot to thank her for. My life is beautiful, amazing, aligned and abundant because of her and all that happened. To be here in this head and heart space, a year later is a pretty incredible feat. It is through this experience I now have the honour to work with women in healing their blocks to love and finding their authentic relationship alignment and that my friends freaking lights me up!!!

You and only you have the capacity to set yourself free. You deserve happiness. You are worthy of success. You are so deserving of love, freedom and happiness. Be brave and do the most challenging and rewarding work of all: looking within.

Look, see, understand and love it all.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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The Coffee Shop Cry: Lessons In Personal Freedom – Day 339: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today I got triggered in a big time way.

As the magical universe would have it I was spiritually tested this afternoon to express and dig even deeper to expand my capacity for forgiveness.
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Inside of this triggering breakdown I had the chance to reach out and ask for support from my partner.

As soon as the trigger was activated, instead of letting it fester, I asked for support and if I could clear something with him that was activating an experience of upset and stress within me. Of course he said yes- he is incredible that way.

We dialogued for about 20 minutes while I cleared what I needed and gave him the stage to contribute his perspective and coaching my way. I let it in and found some peace around my challenge.

Then we headed out to adventure and find a new coffee shop to work in.

When we arrived at the coffee shop we continued our conversation and explored the deeper lessons and reasons why I was so triggered and upset. Inside of this very vulnerable exploration I was overwhelmed with emotion and I teared up.

I cried in the coffee shop

And it was incredibly freeing.

It was a testament to how far I’ve come along my journey. In a big time way I was able to be completely present to what was going on with me and not give a shit about where I was or the fact being gently emotional in public might make me “look bad” to anyone watching.

It didn’t matter because for one of the first times in my life, the exploration and expression of my wellbeing no longer dependant on the level of comfort people around me. My healing and gentle release was top priority. I allowed myself to completely be in my experience without stuffing it down or pretending I wasn’t hurting. I gave myself the freedom to just BE.

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Years ago I wouldn’t have been caught ever showing emotion in public never mind being vulnerable enough to allow someone into the most intimately sacred parts of myself and courageously outing my insecurities. I would have shut it down immediately and saved it for a more “acceptable” time and place- which in all honesty meant I just wouldn’t deal with it.

This RSL journey has supported me in accessing deep and profound levels of self acceptance through my ever growing understanding and application of self love. My free self expression allowed me to constructively clear what needed to be let go of and created the space for deeper intimacy and connection between my partner and I.

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I acknowledge my partner for the strength to hold space for me today and within that space anchor in more acceptance, compassion and connection.

I acknowledge myself for the courage it took to be boldly honest and deal with something immediately so that I could find a deeper sense of freedom, forgiveness and self expression.

Passing a spiritual test with grace and compassion = levelling up to the next stage of greatness

Crying and the most raw and authentic self expression in the moment = freedom. Beautiful, pure freedom.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

“It Is An Act Of LOVE For Me To Say No”- How To Powerfully and Respectfully Stand In Your Truth- Day 218: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is an act of love for me to say no.

radical self loveThis is one of my all time favourite Radical Self Love mantras I have.

We have grown up in a culture which has conditioned us on many levels to fear saying and claiming what we want.

Part of being clear about what we want and desire also includes being clear what we don’t want. There comes a time in all of our lives when we are faced with saying no and staying true to ourselves.

How to deal with the guilt that comes up when we speak our truth.

Phase One

img-thingIf you are feeling like you have to explain why you are saying no, it is an indication that you have been saying no to yourself for a long time and saying yes to the world at the expense of your own true happiness. The impact of compromising in this way breaks our personal integrity. When we do things we don’t want to do we compromise our souls. We give up a piece of who we are. Doing this enough times leads to an experience of energetic fragmentation.

Energetic fragmentation is simply the scattering of our soul energy. When we give up ourselves for others energetically we give up a piece of who we are and unconsciously give the other person control over our soul energy.

Inevitably there comes a time when we become so sick of ourselves acting outside of our heart’s guidance that we WAKE UP. In this phase of awakening we become acutely aware of all the ways in which we have given ourselves up.

Phase Two

Once we are aware of the places in which we have given up ourselves we can begin the reclaiming process. We must command our spirit back. This means doing the exploration to identify the places, people and circumstances in which we have given away our power. Then we do a lil self lovin forgiveness work.

Self Loving Forgiveness

The commanding of our spirit back will require you to get radically real about where you gave yourself up and approach it from a space of empowerment. Meaning don’t fall into the ego’s trap of making yourself wrong for doing it. You did the best you could with the consciousness you had. When you know better you do better. Next one by one you are going to pull the circumstance, person or place in which we gave up our power and bless it with love.

” I am aware I unconsciously gave up my power to you. I forgive myself love myself. I forgive you and I love you. Thank you for teaching me this precious lesson. I now release you from playing this role for me and willingly command my spirit back.”

Your-past-mistakes-are-meant-to-guide-youOnce you repeat the forgiveness mantra sit in stillness. In this stillness you will begin to feel the experience of your soul piece returning. Some pieces come back quicker than others.

This is a fabulous practice to include into your daily RSL Routine.

We are all human and we all give up pieces of who we are along the way so we can learn to reclaim our power and become incredibly present to our divinity.

When we feel like we have to constantly justify ourselves what’s up with that?

It is a sign you have ignored your intuition for too long and your confidence has suffered a bit of a blow. Your perception of their lack of acceptance reflects your own inner insecurity with yourself and your choice. This is totally natural lovers especially for those of us, who for a very long time, didn’t speak up or share our truth.

You are building a new muscle and for the first little while you are going to feel uncomfortable. The length of time you feel uncomfortable is total under your control.

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Minimizing the Discomfort

Every time you feel like you have to justify or explain your choices, remind yourself your need to speak your truth will not always include everyone’s acceptance of your truth. Some people just won’t get it. Especially if it means you are now standing up for yourself inside a relationship where you previously allowed yourself to be walked over.

Ego’s don’t like transformation and they certainly do not like self love actions.

1743729_10152232664608707_2009396956_nWhen you are feeling like you are being challenged by someone on your belief system, remind yourself that your discomfort is a function of your ego not wanting to let go of a past, disempowering way of being. Any time we go into defence mode or justification mode we have activated our own ego’s.

Not everyone is going to like what you have to say when you start speaking your truth and darlings that is totally ok. One of two magical things will happen the more consistent and confident you become at speaking your truth:

1. People will really not be ok with your new confident and self lovin ways and it will become incredibly obvious through they’re behaviour that they are no longer be in vibrational harmony with you. Meaning you will start to attract people who are more on your wavelength who understand and respect where you are coming from.

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2. The more self assured you become the more your community will naturally acclimatize to your authenticity. They may need a little time to get used to it, but they will indeed get used to it and then come to know you as someone who now unapologetically speaks their truth – which is a pretty rad thing.

Basically the process of you sticking with it, even when it’s tough in the beginning, will reveal to you your honest and true friends, family and soul tribe.

How to increase the confidence when it comes to speaking your truth

Feeling confident about ourselves goes hand in hand with speaking our truth. So to enhance our success and our feeling of acceptance both internally and externally we must also develop our confidence and give ourselves mega acknowledgment.

The 30 Day Radical Self Love Program is designed for this exact transformation and inner development work. And if you haven’t scooped up your program yet try these on in the mean time:

1. Do more of what you are naturally good at.

When we put ourselves into situations where we will naturally shine our confidence gets a massive boosting. We all have a couple things we know we are just rockstars at, give yourself permission to do more of those things and make it a regular daily occurrence.

2. Walk through life with an engaged core.

Yup I’m talking about flexing those tummy muscles. When we activate our core we hold ourselves higher AND on an energetic level we activate our solar plexus which is our storage unit for confidence, self assuredness and self love. Practice tightening your core any time you are walking or sitting. If you really wanna take it up a couple notches add a plank exercise into your daily routine. Holding plank pose is a fabulous way to develop those muscles, activate the core, tone everything up and activate the yummy self confidence waiting to be set free in your solar plexus.

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3. Give yourself some credit.

We are often so focused on where we are lacking that we deplete our self confidence and self love tank without even noticing what we are doing. Giving gratitude and acknowledgement to yourself for all the greatness you are up to helps strengthen our confidence in a massive way. When we are thriving in positivity land we can HEAR the voice of our intuition clearly. When we can hear our intuition it is much easier to act on it’s guidance. To act on the intuition’s guidance is to act in our own integrity.

4. Remember this is a process.

We can be so hard on ourselves when we don’t see immediate results when it comes to shifts in our personal development. Remember this is much like training at the gym. You won’t see results right away after a workout, but with consistency and repetition you will one day look in the mirror and be blown away with the epic results you have achieved. The same goes for our self love and inner journeys. It will take time. Be patient and loving and enjoy flowing with the journey of your own awakening.

The more you begin to get comfortable with saying no to things that are really a no and yes to things that are really a yes your quality of life quickly begins to skyrocket. You have every right to thrive, be happy and live a life that honours your internal knowing.

No two people will have the same life experience so it is up to you to claim what works for you and what doesn’t coming from a place of respect, kindness, love and peace.

People will do what they do and say what they say and in the end none of it has anything to do with you. 

Keep rockin your truth lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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A Radically Loving Approach To Handling Drama Queens and Haters- Day 213: 365 Radical Self Love Project

What someone says about you says more about them than it does about you.

It’s inevitable when working in the public eye there are bound to be people who just gotta hate and drum up drama no matter what.

I first will preface this with a mad acknowledgement that in 213 days of spreading the love today was the first and only experience of our team at RSL receiving a non-supportive and hate filled message. This means that 212 Days of running this community have been filled with generous support, kindness, possibility and juicy amazing love and that dear lovers is absolutely incredible.

I know all to well the spirit of transformation and evolution. With it comes the shadow side of jelousy, anger, envy and hate. These are all a function of a fear based consciousness. No need on our part to judge in fact it is a call for us all to love more.

I can’t think of a more perfect day for this to happen. A day of celebration of the great MLK Jr where we are reminded of the power of love.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only LOVE can do that”.

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The only way to truly eradicate fear is to starve it of energy.

What we give our attention to grows. So if we get caught up in someone’s drama, their ego-ic illusion and their hate filled heart- we activate those energies with us. When we activate them we open the space to activate this consciousness in others.

The only answer is to choose love

Dealing with the Drama

beautifuAs children we learned if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all.

This is the absolute best course of action when dealing with someone who is completely off the charts and more interested in spewing their unhappiness onto others and more committed to their misery than anything else.

Here is the thing we can only support those who are willing to be supported. Not everyone is ready to have the fullness of love, happiness and bliss enter into their experience. We have to release our agendas of what we want for them, even if it is an agenda of peace, blessings and love, and let them go through what they need to.

1350Keep in mind when dealing with haters or drama queens of any kind they most likely have not learned any other way to get attention or get their needs met. Again, this is not for you to fix. They have to come into this awareness on their own, in their own time and transform it for themselves.

 

imagesFinally when dealing with drama, if you are going to hold anything, hold the space of love. Pray for them. Send love to them- and mean it. I’ve come to learn that only hurt people hurt people. I know someones fear based actions are actually nothing personal. When people are seeking conflict externally they are doing so to match the internal conflict they are experiencing. In other words they are already deeply suffering. As messengers of love we need not add and compound their experience of conflict and suffering. Knowing this we can see them through the lens of compassion and hold the best possible outcome in our hearts for them.

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Healing the Haters One Heart Mist At A Time

One of my favourite methods for this (and this works with anyone whom you experience a challenge with) is a visualization and forgiveness exercise.

I get into a comfy seated position, grab some high vibin crystals, close my eyes and take a couple deep cycles of breath.

I then visualize the person who is in need of love.

I imagine a pink love mist (I call this heart misting) emanate from my chest and surround  their entire body.

From there I look at them face to face, look into their eyes, say their name and repeat this:

My wish for you is peace

My wish for you is love

My wish for you is freedom from all suffering

There is only love between us.

I release you from the role you have played for me. You are free to go in peace. May you always be blessed with the abundance of the Universe and the presence of love. I forgive you and I release you.

Then I call on my Angels (Arch Angel Michael) to cut the energetic chords between us and seal them with love.

I close it by repeating their name again and saying you are peace, you are forgiven, you are love, you are blessed.

It’s really that simple.

You are far too precious as a messenger of love and light to invest your energies in these directions. Stay true to you and always remember it is an act of love for you to say no.

Just because you believe in love, self love and compassion does not mean to have to tolerate and “take” someone’s drama. It means the opposite. It often means closing the door, saying goodbye and wishing them well from afar.

Keep those vibes high, sparkly and full of heart misty goodness.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

6 Months of Daily Blogging Complete- Time For Some Self Acknowledgement Day 185: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Holy smokes!

With all of the hustle and bustle of the holiday season I totally missed a MASSIVE milestone.

Three days ago marked my half way point of the 365 Radical Self Love blogging project.

I am still kind of in shock in the hugeness of this accomplishment.

radical self love kelsey grantFor the past six months, I have sat down to write a blog post EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. This is a huge accomplishment for me. At one point in my life I was well known for starting things and rarely seeing them through. I really got that the impact of my behaviour extended not only onto me but also onto those around me. I began to understand my flakiness, lack of commitment and callous dis-regard for my integrity was creating a reputation that I couldn’t be counted on. I began to see the connection between my lack of commitment to my word and my personal happiness.

As I learned to keep my promises to myself I was more easily able to keep them with others. This provided me with a massive sense of motivation, momentum and positive energy.

My confidence grew with every commitment I honoured.

I knew taking on a massive goal of blogging every day for 365 days would stretch me. It would cause me to play bigger and to show up in a massive way for myself and for my community.

My achievements so far:

Already this amazing commitment has created the space for this community to grow and thrive, my relationship to open to new levels of connection, vulnerability and bliss, my company to grow and become internationally recognized, a beautiful new ushering of amazing clients and active participants in our local RSL scene, my first speaker summit booking, multiple interviews, performing at a conference in LA along side some incredible speakers, inspirational leaders and change agents, a beautiful new website, an incredible RSL Team, new friends, a road trip to California, business collaborations and soul connections, my first RSL E-book nearing completion, massive emotional clearing and healings, a 7 Week RSL Forgiveness Course written, facilitated and completed, releasing and healing weights from my past, writing new music, healing a back injury through the power of forgiveness, a 6 month young adult mentorship program, a brand new 30 Day Coaching Intensive Program, a brand new 30 Minute Coaching Reset and our 30 Day Virtual RSL Program.

I’m sure there are many more attractions, wins and accomplishments to take note of and these are the ones that are majorly standing out for me right meow.

When we start something we have no real idea the magic that is possible, through daily commitment and the intention to create something beautiful and love filled, the Universe truly opens up to usher in blessings beyond our wildest dreams.

If you want acknowledgement- acknowledge yourself

radical self love kelsey grantTonight I honour myself for the courage, commitment, strength, vulnerability and integrity I have chosen to beam into the world through this experience. I give myself credit and acknowledgement for the incredible achievement this has been so far and I am incredibly proud of the greatness I have allowed myself to step into through this process and I am proud to be a leader in this world of self love.

It is my greatest honour to be here with you- all of you. Thank you for being part of this incredible journey!! I look forward with great excitement for the next six months to come!! YEAAAA Budday!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Sacred Warrior’s Gift: Unconditional Love and Acceptance- Day 181: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Over the past few days I have been working through some pretty intense emotional stuff. Stuff from my past which is now coming up for review. While it’s challenging, emotional and intense I am grateful it is now coming to the surface to be cleared.

divineFeminineloverThere is so much weight we carry when we hold onto the past. My perspectives are we deal with things when we are equipped to do so. Meaning where I am in my journey now, I have way more tools than I did 13 years ago and I am able to effectively feel into the the things I’ve suppressed and finally let them go.

I know there will be a time, once I have moved through a majority of it that I will share openly about what it is I am allowing to be let go of, in service to others dealing with similar experiences. And for now I will honour my healing and my process.

Self Forgiveness

I am in no way a victim, I am however very clear that I made the best choices with what I had, and some of those choices I made deeply hurt me. I allowed certain types of relationships to go on far longer than in my heart I knew I should and allowed behaviour which I now know is totally unacceptable. For this and all that happened I am learning to forgive myself- forgive myself for not knowing better, for not knowing what I know now.

Ultimately I understand that all things happen as they are meant to, and all things I experience I am supposed to for my higher good, even if it doesn’t appear that way right away.

Part of my journey now is the nitty gritty stuff, coming to clear terms with my anger and pain I have long suppressed and finally giving myself permission to let it out (as constructively as I can) and let it go.

I am totally aware that all of this is coming up at this point in my life so I can free myself from the burden and weight of carrying around memories of pain. Moment by moment I am choosing to trade my pain for peace and my anger for love.
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I am beyond grateful for my incredibly supportive partner, he was the opening for all of this to emerge. He is the angel who has come to me to help me heal, he is a beautiful example of strength and love. It is such an trippy feeling to have the intensity of my past juxtaposed with the intense beauty of feeling totally acceptance and unconditional love from a partner. At times it’s overwhelming in the most incredible way.

He is my sacred warrior

217792_1677507777454_6882559_nThe man who is teaching me to crack open the shell around my heart, to go deeper, to love more fully. To love fully means to embrace the density of our being. To acknowledge and accept the shadow and the light and learn to love it all. To accept the fullness of our humanity and shine the light of compassion where there once was none. He is leading me into this exploration in such a safe and gentle way. It is truly beautiful.

He sees me, all of me and through his reflection I see myself, all of myself and I am learning moment by moment to love it all.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Wisdom of Kids: 20 Things We Should Say More Often- Day 176- 365 Radical Self Love Project

Man kids are so incredibly wise.

kid-presidentWe could all use a little kid wisdom from time to time. They remind us of the important things in life, they remind us to play, they remind us to enjoy each moment and they remind us to love-unconditionally.

I absolutely LOVE Kid President. After watching this video post super long day out and about with my momsie I knew this was the perfect dose of positivity and inspiration to take you lovers into the evening. This list is the perfect reminder for us all to be a little more kind, a little more awesome and a little more loving with each other so naturally I super love it!

Here it is 20 Things We Should Say More Often by Kid President.

One of my fav’s on his list:

“Tell people they’re awesome- and mean it”- ya lovers lets do this!

Share with us in the comments below which one was your favourite or if you have another great addition you would add to the list!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Feature Friday: Soul Sister Style-Day 168: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It’s Feature Friday!!!

radical self love kelsey grantToday I’m taking this spotlight time to shine some much deserved attention and energy to my incredible girlfriends!!!

This week has been an amazing time of re-connection, new connections and soul connections. I am so incredibly grateful for the calibre of women I have now created in my life. I am so blessed to have an abundance of smart, funny, beautiful, powerful, gentle, feminine Goddesses in my circle of influence.

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Each of the women I have close to me embody a beautiful quality and equally beautiful contribution to this world. I feel so blessed to share my life and my loves with these fabulous goddess angel women.

radical self love kelsey grantIt wasn’t always this way. For a long time I didn’t trust women. As a young girl I learned girls are fickle, they will turn on you in an instant and ultimately cast you out when you think you belong. Little did I know in my younger years this contrast was leading me to the precious lesson of SELF ACCEPTANCE.

The more I began to accept myself and own all the beautiful qualities about me my circle of friends began to shift. I was no longer attracting surface level friendships which were more based on outer appearances and looking good- and was now attracting deep, fulfilling soul connections, where there was space for everyone’s brilliance and each and every one of the women in my life represented something gorgeous about the divine feminine.

radical self love kelsey grantNow as I have really grown into my own skin, learned to love me, and am constantly levelling up to greater domains of self acceptance my girlfriends are a true reflection of the inner transformation which has taken place.

This week I have been so blessed to unite my energy with new friends who are clearly soul sistas, and with my ever incredible circle of Goddesses who are absolutely brilliant and beautiful in every way, shape and form.

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radical self love kelsey grantToday I honour you ladies. Thank you for showing up, thank you for all you do to beam greatness into this world and thank you for being the space for my brilliance to shine. You are so incredibly valued and I am honestly over the moon with how amazing each and every one of you are.

radical self love kelsey grantThis week has been such an example to me of the power women have when we unite in love. We are such gentle and loving beings and we all deserve to have friends who reflect this to us. The key is showing up that way for ourselves first. The more loving I became within, the more love I experienced outside of myself aka in my friendships.

Ladies I am truly honoured to be on this journey with you, my heart is happy because you are all in it.

With deep love and gratitude for the Goddess-Soul-Sistahs in my world! 

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

KG
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The Impact of An Angel- Day 167: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today on Earth we lost an Angel.

News of Nelson Mandela’s death completely took me by surprise as I finished up my day and was heading home. It got me to thinking of what incredible achievements this man accomplished in his life time and that if we were all to step up to our deepest, truest potential we could indeed be present to see a new earth created.

A new earth where the common essence is love, freedom, compassion, grace, forgiveness, happiness and acceptance. We all have it within us to create beauty through our aliveness. The thing is, most people are operating on a default fear program. This fear based action creates an inner world of hostility which then is reflected in the outer world of pain and anguish. To shift this current state of the world- we must shift. We must cultivate a desire to co-create a better world. We do this through our energy, our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions, our actions and ultimately through our unique contribution to this world aka your gifts.

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We all have within us the capability to achieve Nelson Mandela’s level of greatness. We are all born with the same capacity to love and be love. It is this deep understanding of love consciousness that leads leaders like NM to impact the world on such a positive global scale. We all have it in us to leave this place better because of our existence here.

The key is really owning how magnificent we truly are.

The key is knowing how much power we truly have.

The key is love.

nelson-mandela-quotesTo create long lasting change and transformation it must be rooted in only one thing. That thing is love. We can’t create outside of ourselves that which we do not experience within. This is the journey of Radical Self Love. It is the process of learning to love from the inside out. We must start with ourselves. When we come into acceptance of ourselves we come into acceptance of others. When we come into peace with ourselves we come into peace with each other. When we come into love with ourselves we come into love with each other. It really is that simple.

As I always say simple does not equal easy. To do this requires strength, discipline, awareness, courage and a willingness to forgive.

We must be willingness to release all that no longer serves, thus trading our suffering for peace, trading our pain for happiness, trading our fear for love.

As we send off a beautiful earth Angel back home, we do so from a space of great possibility for what can come from this incredible man’s life example. His life is a powerful reminder that our greatness passionately lies within and has a deep desire to be expressed in all of it’s glory- and we are the only ones who hold the keys to our greatness, the keys to our freedom.

nelson-mandela-love-3Be at rest beautiful Angel, we’ll take it from here,

It’s time to shine lovers ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Say What You Need to Say- A Lesson in Love- Day 164: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Say what you need to say has absolutely been the theme of the day.

radical self love kelsey grantDuring my time away this weekend I had pockets of time carved out for learning and personal development, as doing so ensures my happiness and fulfillment.

The theme of what kept coming to me this weekend in all my course material, in my books and in my meditation/reflections was this:

“You have to say what has been given to you to say. The words you are gifted with are rooted in love and when you speak your truth the world opens up”.

Powerful stuff.

This afternoon I got an opportunity to put it into action inside of a lengthy conversation. This conversation was a gift to both parties. By saying what was there to be said it allowed a massive flow of possibility and expansion to flood in to both of us. It got the creative vibrations rocking allowing us individually to fuel our respective endeavours AND clearing the weight of a false belief that was so obviously (to me on the outside) in the way.

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It also brought my awareness to my effective abilities as a coach and healer. If we see things that others can’t in the moment and don’t say anything we rip them off from experiencing a miracle and we rip ourselves off from the healing the miracle generates for both people. I became very present to the fact I now longer am riddled by the paralyzing belief of wanting people to like me and gaining their approval. I am more concerned with the transformation of consciousness and serving a higher purpose. To be a messenger of love means saying things that others won’t AND saying what others won’t from a place of loving detachment.

radical self love kelsey grantSpeaking with love is the key here. A lot of people speak their minds without being connected to their hearts. This more often than not invokes more of an ego battle in both people and in a space of agitation and aggravation healing and miracles can’t exist. To speak through the heart means it needs to be open, it needs to be active and it needs to be committed to the higher good for ALL. It means bringing awareness to the blind-spot without attacking but with acceptance, without demeaning but with compassion, without aggression but with peace. This is the gift I have been given on my earthly journey, to say the things that very much need to be said for any hope of positive shifting internally and externally, and to say them with compassion, openness, acceptance and love.

My invitation to you all tonight is simple- willingly choose to speak your truth and speak it through the heart. Speak your truth through love. If you are unsure what that would sound like you are in the perfect place. It is not you who will be doing the speaking, you will not need to think of what to say, your higher self is the energy that will be speaking through your vessel. This happens when we bring our awareness to the present moment and surrender our will to the will of a higher nature, the will of love. Go ahead and ask your higher self for help, that’s what it’s there for. Ask your higher self to speak through you and that all words, intentions and vibrations come only from love. Then be present, allow and watch the miracle unfold.

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There is so much power in saying the things that will be uncomfortable in the moment but will ultimately lead you both towards your highest potentials. Quite a beautiful gift to each other and the world don’t ya think? 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels