From Fear To Love In One Minute: Inspiration For Your Soul- Day 352: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today my wonderful and inspiring partner posted a fabulous one minute video on his social media feed.

I personally am a big fan of Jim Carrey as he is a fabulous advocate for the human potential and power to create our experience through our activation of either fear or love.

I really dig it when people in the public eye use their platform to spread messages of inspiration, hope, possibility and love.

In this one minute video Jim anchors in some really solid perspective. “You can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance doing what you love”. I completely agree. We have just as much opportunity to create a live filled with abundance, connection and love as we do creating one filled up with lack a limitation.

The way your life unfolds is up to you. The outcomes you produce in your life are directly linked to the quality of thoughts, feelings and actions you repetitively cultivate. At any given time you are either in the domain of fear or the domain of love.

RSL actionable to shift from fear to love in no time: Ask better, more empowered questions from life. Instead of saying “Why me?” take your power back and replace the lack mindset with a better question:

  • “What inside me is trying to emerge through this challenge?”
  • “What am I being called to learn, grow or strengthen within me”
  • “What can I do to be in alignment with my truth, with my desires and with my dreams”.

Interested in better results? Ask better questions. Let yourself be inspired on the regular. Make your top priority feeling good aka being in alignment. To help out on the feeling good and inspired quest, watch this lovely one minute vid!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

It’s Time To Go Bigger and Brighter!!! Day 347: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I am over joyed and deeply moved with the outpouring of love and support from my communities within the last 24hrs.

Since publishing my post last night I’ve been flooded with positive feedback, incredible stories of courage, people relating and taking inspired and brave actions in their own lives. All of this possibility, transformation and love because of one extremely raw and authentic post.

Releasing that blog post was one of the best moves I’ve ever made.

It activated people in a big time way.

It touched hearts.

It opened minds.

It widened the capacity for compassion and forgiveness.

It evoked strong emotional reactions.

It caused the activation and expression of truth.

It gave the beautiful souls in this community the space to tell the truth on themselves.

It was shared- a lot.

This is not a coincidence. This is what happens when love leads the way. The activity and incredible feedback I have received in the past 24 hrs sparked within me a massive jolt of creativity, confidence and increased my capacity and willingness to be real and be seen.

Writing that piece wasn’t easy and releasing it out into the world brought up a lot of resistance- but the benefit I’ve seen in such a short time makes up for any initial uneasiness.

So Im stepping up.

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I’m playing bigger.

I am willingly submitting my work to additional platforms and allowing this to take me where I am meant to go.

I am going full stop into my passion- supporting peeps in repairing the #1 relationship in their lives (the one with themselves) and support these lovers in rocking their romantic relationships through the vehicle of Radical Self Love.

This past year has been literally life changing and I’m stepping into it all. I’ve been cracked wide open and I’m ready and willing to step beyond my limitations and play like I never have.

We’re getting really real and really rad for this next year of RSL.

Love you all so dearly. Thank you for standing for love in the world. Thank you for being you. Thank you for showing up and thank you for your willingness to radiate love consciousness into the world. Even if we’ve never met you have contributed to my life in such a deep and profound way, for this I am eternally grateful and I won’t stop going deeper and expanding higher. I’m open, ready and willing to release the aspects of my ego archetypes that keep me from being fully lit up, self expressed and self loving.

You all have made this journey so fulfilling and I bow in humble gratitude to your brilliance. Lets do this lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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The 1 Simple Step To Take You From Crappy to Happy In A Flash- Day 341: 365 Radical Self Love Project

We all feel crappy sometimes- it’s a normal aspect of the human experience.

Contrast helps us gain more and more clarity into what we truly want and can be consciously used to direct our lives in a more on purpose direction. If these downward spirals of the ego are left unattended for too long, we may find ourselves trapped in what seems like an unchangeable state of upset and despair.

In those times of feeling super low, choosing better thoughts or curbing the negative self talk is often quite challenging. So how can you move from one of these moments of energetic lowness to a higher vibrational state?

The 1 Simple Step To Take You From Crappy To Happy

Perform a random act of kindness for a stranger or someone with whom you do not expect anything from in return.

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When we act out a physical action of unconditional kindness towards another being it immediately reconnects us with our truth. It reminds us, ever so slightly of our interconnectedness with one another and our true nature which is love.

When we perform a selfless act of kindness towards someone else we take the focus off of ourselves. To step up the vibration scale this must happen. Staying trapped in the musings of the ego happens because the focus is all on you and the unfair or painful circumstance  you are experiencing. The ego loves this attention. It feeds off it. When we go into the space of being of service or a positive contribution to anyone other than ourselves we elevate our vibration, because to do so requires us to step out of the dramatic stories of the ego, expand our awareness to another persons needs and recalibrate with love.

To receive love we must first give it away freely.

A simple gesture of opening the door for someone, holding the elevator, smiling at a stranger, giving a nice compliment to someone who momentarily crossed your path- anything that takes the immediate focus off the ego drama and into making a strangers life a little better, will immediately send a surging of positive emotion through your body. When this happens our truth is triggered and we remember if for a second the essence of who we are- love.

The next time you are feeling crappy- embrace the world and do something kind for someone. The more consistent you are in your practice of random acts of kindness the more expansive your heart becomes. Inside this expansiveness we re-establish our connection to each other, to the world and most importantly to ourselves- our true selves that is 😉

Go be kind and watch with a keen eye to witness your circumstances improve.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

What To Do When Tempted To Act Out Old Patterns- Day 336: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is no secret that the path of Radical Self Love calls us to examine ourselves, our beliefs and our patterns.

radical self love kelsey grantFor the majority of us we have a collection of patterns and beliefs drummed up by our ego’s that have been repeated on automatic default settings in our brains for a large majority of our lives.

Often there is a defining moment in our lives when we are awoken from this unconsciousness and begin to question ourselves, our motivations, our patterns of behaviour and ultimately question who we are and why we are here.

As we begin to dive into the world of self reflection and discovery we begin to see how the functions of our ego have lead us into some less than desirable situations. The ego is rooted in fear and fear never leads us to the path of fulfillment and bliss.

If we truly desire to remember who we are and return to our natural state which is bliss we must consciously examine the behaviours and thoughts of an ego or fear based mind. Once examined we must begin to consciously question these behaviours and thoughts to honestly determine if they are truly serving our highest good. The final stage is choosing better high quality love based thoughts and establishing more empowering behaviours.

When tempted to act out old patterns of the ego here are three questions to bring yourself back to the vibe of possibility, potential and love:

1. What would love do right now?

2. Would love do what I’m about to do?

3. Would love say what I’m about to say?

Then the key is to LISTEN honestly to the answer your inner guidance will give you and act in accordance to this guidance.

Often old patterns are triggered anytime we feel vulnerable, open and our hearts are exposed. The work of RSL is designed to crack open the shells around your heart to open you up to the fullness of love and authentic connection. It is inevitable along this path that when we feel open and exposed the ego will do anything it can to shut down this opening and build the familiar fear walls right back up.

The only one who has the power to dissolve the walls around your heart is you. Dissolving these walls is essential to the manifestation of heart to heart connections with other human beings, to the manifestation of your dreams and potential and to the manifestation of your own self awareness which is the biggest gift of all.

The reason people avoid doing the work is because you can’t un-know something. When we learn these aspects about ourselves and our default ego settings, from that point forward each time the egoic patterns surface and we act on them it becomes a conscious choice. Most people don’t want to be honest and own that they are choosing to act out fears plan instead of their highest potential which is always rooted in love. The only way we can shift these patterns, thoughts and behaviours is through our conscious choice to change and choose love.

It is all up to you, are you open, willing and ready to choose love?

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kelsey

If you would like support in learning to choose love and say YES to your great potential join in on our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program!!

Top 7 Benefits of Giving Up Gossip and Hopping on the High Vibe Train-Day 328: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I love my girlfriends. I am seriously so blessed that I have the type of friends who I can have super engaging and meaningful conversations with and open to new realms of clarity, wisdom and potential inside our gab-fests. However my life wasn’t always this way. In high school and my early 20’s I was a gossip factory- hard to believe now- but thats the reality of of what my life used to look like.

I used to be a big time bitch. The bitchiest of the bitchy and the one you could always count on to have the lastest dirt on anyone and anything- AND I was miserable. My life lacked depth, connection and most of all love.
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In my early twenties after leaving a very toxic relationship I snapped back into reality. I looked at my life that was far from positive and inspiring and I knew I had to make a change. I had to be different if I wanted things to be different. And so my path of personal development and growth began. Dropping gossip was something that intuitively I just knew I had to do. I couldn’t keep talking crap and expecting to have positive relationships or experiences. So I began the process of healing my addiction to gossip.

I learned a long time ago that hopping off the gossip train was a foundational piece in my healing and in my experience of being happy. What I didn’t realize that was shifting this majorly toxic habit would have such incredible benefits on my life.

Top 7 Benefits of Giving Up Gossip and Hopping on the High Vibe Train

1. I feel better.

Not just a little better but A LOT better, about myself, about my body, about my relationships, about my career, about my LIFE. Cutting out the drama and the focusing on the positive aspects of people enabled me to begin to notice the more positive aspects about myself. When I could more easily focus on the positive aspects I was happy. As my happiness grew I found myself healthier, more connected to my passions, in really amazing relationships and living a life on purpose.

2. I stopped worrying everyone had ulterior motives.

My past inauthenticity and two-facedness cause a pretty significant imprint on my unconscious mind. Because I was talking smack about people behind their backs I immediately projected that everyone was doing the same to me. Living in this constant state of worry and anxiety was just plain shitty. When I cut the gossiping out of my life my faith and trust in others began to increase. Because I was being authentic, honest, real and kind I began to unconsciously build the belief that people are innately good, they can be trusted.

3. I learned the impact of being intentional.

Thinking before I said something. Becoming very tuned into my judgements of myself and others. Seeing the positive ripples that certain behaviours caused. All of these were results of becoming more intentional with what I was saying, how I was saying it, to whom I was saying it to. I began to understand that when I consciously chose to speak the best about people I would get more of what I praised. Likewise when I had an “issue” with someone going directly to the source always was the most effective way to resolve the misunderstanding or problem.

4. I realized the power of talking to people instead of about them.

We all have shit, we all know we have shit and the last thing we need to be doing in a world where there is already a tonne of crap flying is to add to it by talking about other people and not to them. When we talk about people we rip them off of the power to contribute their perspectives, reasons and intentions behind what they did/said. By behaving this way we strengthen the vibration of assumptions and begin to create an unreal and totally falsified version of what actually happened. By talking to people we give them the honor and respect to explain their behaviour and create the wonderful world of possibility and resolution. Inside of this course of action we activate the vibrations and consciousness of love.

5. I gained a profound sense of acceptance and love.

Underneath it all we all want to be loved and accepted. Gossiping is a dysfunctional means to having the need for connection fulfilled. It gives us a false sense of power, it provides the illusion of connection and rapport and it creates a massive divide between you and others but also between you and love. People who gossip are looking for the “buy in” of others to agree with them, take their side and in some twisted way create a sense of loyalty through fear. The ironic thing about gossip is it does the opposite. It creates separation and it removes us from authentic connection and the true experience of love. Hopping off the gossip train is the quickest way to actually create a life where you feel loved and accepted because you are being loving and accepting.

6. I remembered a deep and profound truth about humanity.

Only hurt people hurt people. People who gossip do so to cover up or divert attention from the pain they feel. When we are truly connected to love, loving ourselves and practicing kindness we actually can’t hurt other people- it’s energetically not possible. It is only when we are hurting can we hurt another. What we say about anyone else is a projection about something within ourselves that we can’t quite be with and what we give attention to grows. Meaning by pointing out the “flaws” in someone else we are strengthening the same issues inside of ourselves that we can’t be with. It’s the ultimate in deflection. Anytime we avoid looking at ourselves it is often because it is painful and there is some level of fear- which is always a call for more love. Gossip in a big way is a massive call for healing and compassion.

7. It freed up a lot of my energy for other more productive and creative pursuits.

Because gossip is such a low vibrational activity it sucks us dry of any inspiration to create. This has a massive impact if you want to actually make something of yourself in this world. Talking about everyone else’s business is a massive time waster and energy sucker. When you cut it out you have a tonne of free time and your energy is clearer and brighter- which is essential when creating anything. The time and energy that is freed up when dropping the gossip game leads you towards more authentic connections where you can begin to dive into the depth of who you truly are and have a loving and supportive community to nurture that growth.

radical self love kelsey grantIf we are truly committed to a life of greatness, love and ultimate potential we must release the things that hold us back and hold us down. Gossip is one of those epicly toxic and incredibly heavy weights that holds us back from our potential and holds us far away from love. A foundational key in the world of self love is to be loving towards yourself. When you are loving towards yourself you are just naturally kind and gentle towards the people in your life. A life off the gossip train is a life full of depth, connectivity, authenticity, happiness and most important a life filled with love.

Jump off the gossip train and step into the high vibes that make up an incredible life!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

A Call To Men- Awakening The Collective Need For Healing: Day 316: 365 Radical Self Love Project

I was absolutely blown away when I watched this incredible TED Talk this morning by Tony Porter.

Tony is the founder of A Call To Men an organization in the states committed to the education and healing of the masculine. Their mission “To create a loving world where all men and boys are loving and respectful and all women and girls are valued and safe”– pretty epic stuff.

In this awesome talk he explains the massive impact living in a world that robs men of their emotional expression and acceptance of their emotional nature, has on the collective consciousness and on our spiritual brothers.

It’s powerful and worth every second.

Enjoy and share. Lets keep this global conversation going.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Happy 5 Year Vanniversary To Me!!! Day 305: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well today lovers marks the official 5 year anniversary of me picking up my life in Calgary and moving myself out to the west coast and beginning a new chapter in the beautiful Vancouver.

In light of this awesome celebration I am calling this my Happy 5 Year Vanniversary!

So much has changed in the 5 years since I moved. It honestly is a bit mind boggling that it has already been 5 years!!! I am certainly not the same person I was when I moved.

Taking the Leap that would forever change my life

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When I made my way out here 5 years ago- I was fresh out of a long term relationship, just came back from my first solo travelling trip to South Africa, Spain, Portugal and the UK and I had just opened up to the entire world of transformation.

Now here I am 5 years later in a relationship with the love of my life and the man I am planning to build a life with- WIN!

I am building a company that is completely heart centred and a compilation of all the trials, tribulations and massively successful wins of my personal and romantic journey- WIN!

I have created an incredible soul family- completely fulfilling on my life long intention of having a super large family- WIN!

I live in one of the most gorgeous cities in the world, have a life I absolutely adore and have the honour of spending each day with people who elevate my soul, awaken my being and call me to greater levels of consciousness and love. EPIC WIN!

My life is absolutely blessed and I am deeply grateful for where this leap of faith has taken me. I had no idea what would happen moving out here, I just knew I had  to. My soul was pulling me here. I had to trust in the unknown and dive in. The reward of my faith and willingness to go forward into the unknown has surpassed my wildest dreams.

If I could go back in time and tell my 26 year old self what would be in store for the next 5 years if I made the move to Van- I would have never believed it.

When we leap into the unknown we absolutely have no idea where we will end up but jumping in and following the call of spirit will always lead us into the most incredible places.

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I am so deeply grateful for the incredible people that truly make my life one worth celebrating and honouring. To each and every one of you who have made my life here in Van such a delight I am so grateful!! Looking foward to what the next 5 will bring 😉

Is there something that your soul is nudging you to do? There always is- we just have to get still and present enough to hear the call.

Get still.
Listen.
Have faith.

And jump.

To you and your incredible life adventures!!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!

Kels

Why We Should Be Hyper Selective In Who We Take Advice From- Day 302: 365 Radical Self Love

I’ve been having some really incredible conversations with clients over the past few days and there have been some incredibly synergy inside of all of our chats.

One thing that keeps coming up is “How do I know whose advice to listen to?”.

So I’m going to address it here on the blog as I imagine many more of you who are on the path of self development and self love are faced with a similar internal conversation.

Here is the think if you are just stepping into your awakening and your transformation people in your community most likely are not going to like it. They might have a lil shit fit, influence you to not go down the path of inner work or be full of reasons why personal development is a waste of time and a totally rip off and fill your head with less than empowering advice.

I have experienced all of this.

So why oh why do the people we think love us behave like this?

Because your transformation, evolution threatens the “safety” of their illusion. If you begin to look at yourself and make positive changes, it will mirror to them where they are NOT and thats not a fun thing to face. If you start creating results, transforming your body, mind and life it will completely debunk their internal ego story that nothing changes, people can’t change, victim,victim victim. To keep from having to deal with their own shit they will often try and deter you any way they can. ***Note this is often completely unconscious behaviour and they are not usually maliciously trying to keep you stuck***

See them through new eyes

When you elevate your perspective and awareness you can begin to see their behaviour as serving a deeper function. At the core they just want you to be happy and stepping into the unknown threatens the possibility of what they perceive happiness to be. So really when your friends try and keep you from going forward, in a strange sense it is their way of demonstrating to you that they care and just don’t want to see you get hurt by going into the unknown.

It is also a MEGA soul test for you- will you allow them to control your behaviour or will you assert yourself and stand in your truth?

radical self love kelsey grantWhen we are out of integrity and living out of alignment our egos will select company who will reinforce the stories we tell ourselves to keep justifying our behaviour. We attract people who will tell us what we want to hear not what we need to hear.

As we level up and awaken to our unlimited potential the people we attract into our lives will change. These new peeps will be straight talkers, they will call us out on our BS and they will not always tell us what we want to hear but what we need to hear for our highest good and the highest good of all involved.

Their advice will be firm but filled with love. They will see you as your greatness and relate to you as someone who is CAPABLE of making the much needed changes to fulfill your soul’s mission.

Anyone who relates to you as capable of being a greater version of yourself, calls you to heal yourself and encourages you to seek the answers within you are the people that will be the most beneficial to listen to. Ultimately these people act as mirrors- they mirror to you the wisdom of your spirit. They reflect to you the beautiful truth that resides deep within you.

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As a teacher, facilitator and coach of all things self love and relationships I can simply say, I only ever reflect back to you that which is lying dormant within you and is ready to become activated and conscious in your awareness. I will never teach you something you don’t already know on a spiritual level. Both parties knowing this is a mega access point to long term sustainable progress and transformation.

In the coming weeks I will be releasing registration for 2 incredible mastermind communities:

1. The Radical Self Love Relationship Mastermind. B This is a free mastermind for all those peeps who are a part of our RSL community and are looking for a community of like minded and like hearted women to explore the depth of possibility all our romantic relationships hold for us. I have 24 spots available for this mastermind and will be interviewing each participant to ensure harmony and compatibility. If you are interested feel free to email me and we can get a head start on setting up that initial call.

2. My first ever group coaching class- From Breakup To Breakthrough. This is a program I will be doing likely once a year. It is a 12 week curriculum designed specifically for women who have experienced a breakup recently and are ready to do the heart work to heal and get into delicious alignment for the relationship they are worthy and deserving of. This classroom is limited to 10 women and will be a combination of live coaching calls, video tutorials, workbooks and real time actions. The specific details will be released soon (dates, cost and curriculum outline) if you want to be first on the list to receive the details and claim a spot email me with the subject line “I Love Myself And I’m Ready To Move Forward”.

It is absolutely possible to be a part of both communities if that is the calling of your heart 🙂

Ultimately the path of Radical Self Love will have us develop our ability to listen to our own higher guidance the majority of the time. But hey we are all human and we will need those amazing, positive and possibility minded peeps to reflect back to us our divine wisdom from time to time.

When you are receiving advice from anyone just remember you aren’t obligated to take anyones advice if it insults your soul in any capacity. Rule of spirituality and personal development 101: Take what works for you and leave all the rest. Weigh any advice you receive against the truth of your heart and you will end up in the most beautiful of places 😉

To your brilliance,

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Dealing With Residual Anger and Upset On Your RSL Journey- Day 301: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Lets face it we all have a shadow and sometimes that shadow comes in the package of anger. When delving into the path of self love and relationships we are bound to come face to face with any residual energies … Continue reading

Healthy Body, Healthy Love: How Our Body Image Shapes Our Relationship Success- Day 245: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well it’s monthly workshop share time!!

This month is a juicy one!

“Healthy Body, Healthy Love: How Our Body Image Shapes Our Relationship Success”

In this month’s Radical Self Love Workshop series we are diving into the world of body image, health and relationships.The image we hold of our bodies is directly correlated with the outcome and harmony of our intimate and romantic relationships. In this month’s workshop we are going to identify the connection between how we see ourselves and the ways in which we show up for love and relationships.

In this workshop you will learn:

* How our health/body image habits directly mirror our patterns and habits in relationships.

* Why we fall back into old habits and new effective tools to embrace this normal experience.

* How to cultivate the harmony of positive self image, body image and relationship image.

*The fundamental importance of learning to embrace our shadow side with the beautiful energy of light and love.

radical self love kelsey grantWomen and men alike all struggle to some degree with body image. Like wise we all struggle to a degree in our ability to connect and thrive in romantic partnerships. The cause of both breakdowns is a block in love.

In this workshop we will be sharing HOW to uncover the blocks to love we all have in body image and drawing the incredible correlation that our body image has on our success in romance.

Only once the darkness within has been identified can it be transformed into something beautiful, something new, something worthy of love’s name.

If you are vibin with us and are ready to come rock out another fabulous Thursday session we will be starting promptly at 7. Please arrive early doors will open at 6:30. We will be in the love flow until 9pm!

Tickets are $15 in advance or $20 at the door. Advance tickets are available in the link below or copy and paste this link into your browser (https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/healthy-body-healthy-love-how-our-body-image-shapes-relationship-success-tickets-10707846457)

***If you are not in the Vancouver area and would like to join us you may purchase the audio of the live workshop for $11. Email me directly at rsl@kelseygrant.com with the subject line “February Virtual Workshop Details” and I will set you up from there! ***

This workshop IS for you if:

  • You have struggled with maintaining a positive self image and body image and feel ready and willing to make a substantial shift in your life.
  • You are interested in tools to increase your positive body image.
  • You are compassionate, self forgiving and embrace your ever growing evolution and expansion.
  • You are open minded and have embraced some level of spiritual connectivity.
  • You are looking for ways to enhance your romantic relationship and become a better partner.
  • You are keen on being surrounded by like minded positive, expansive and love filled community.
  • You are on your own unique journey of self love, self compassion, self awareness- and jump at the opportunity to soak up any resources and information that can contribute to your healing and growth.
  • You understand the importance of contribution and relate to yourself as someone who has a worth while perspective and you honour the contribution you are to your community.
  • You are committed to your personal transformation.
  • You believe in the power of love.

This workshop is not for you if:

  • You are looking for a quick fix
  • You are looking for dieting tips
  • You are closed off and naturally distrusting of new information or “happy people”
  • You don’t see the value in being on time, paying for workshops or being part of a high vibing community.
  • You are all talk and no action in your life.
  • You are more interested in looking at other peoples flaws and shortcomings than investigating your internal terrain.
  • You don’t believe in the power of love.

As always, whether or not this workshop or community is a fit for you, we honour you for stopping by and beam to you infinite blessings for your journey!!!

You can scoop up your ticket and additional event info HERE

 

Only Love,

Kelsey and Kristin