Bench These 3 Naughty Holiday Relationship Habits For An Amazing Season

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Say What You Need to Say- A Lesson in Love- Day 164: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Say what you need to say has absolutely been the theme of the day.

radical self love kelsey grantDuring my time away this weekend I had pockets of time carved out for learning and personal development, as doing so ensures my happiness and fulfillment.

The theme of what kept coming to me this weekend in all my course material, in my books and in my meditation/reflections was this:

“You have to say what has been given to you to say. The words you are gifted with are rooted in love and when you speak your truth the world opens up”.

Powerful stuff.

This afternoon I got an opportunity to put it into action inside of a lengthy conversation. This conversation was a gift to both parties. By saying what was there to be said it allowed a massive flow of possibility and expansion to flood in to both of us. It got the creative vibrations rocking allowing us individually to fuel our respective endeavours AND clearing the weight of a false belief that was so obviously (to me on the outside) in the way.

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It also brought my awareness to my effective abilities as a coach and healer. If we see things that others can’t in the moment and don’t say anything we rip them off from experiencing a miracle and we rip ourselves off from the healing the miracle generates for both people. I became very present to the fact I now longer am riddled by the paralyzing belief of wanting people to like me and gaining their approval. I am more concerned with the transformation of consciousness and serving a higher purpose. To be a messenger of love means saying things that others won’t AND saying what others won’t from a place of loving detachment.

radical self love kelsey grantSpeaking with love is the key here. A lot of people speak their minds without being connected to their hearts. This more often than not invokes more of an ego battle in both people and in a space of agitation and aggravation healing and miracles can’t exist. To speak through the heart means it needs to be open, it needs to be active and it needs to be committed to the higher good for ALL. It means bringing awareness to the blind-spot without attacking but with acceptance, without demeaning but with compassion, without aggression but with peace. This is the gift I have been given on my earthly journey, to say the things that very much need to be said for any hope of positive shifting internally and externally, and to say them with compassion, openness, acceptance and love.

My invitation to you all tonight is simple- willingly choose to speak your truth and speak it through the heart. Speak your truth through love. If you are unsure what that would sound like you are in the perfect place. It is not you who will be doing the speaking, you will not need to think of what to say, your higher self is the energy that will be speaking through your vessel. This happens when we bring our awareness to the present moment and surrender our will to the will of a higher nature, the will of love. Go ahead and ask your higher self for help, that’s what it’s there for. Ask your higher self to speak through you and that all words, intentions and vibrations come only from love. Then be present, allow and watch the miracle unfold.

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There is so much power in saying the things that will be uncomfortable in the moment but will ultimately lead you both towards your highest potentials. Quite a beautiful gift to each other and the world don’t ya think? 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!


5 Essential Steps to Successful Vulnerable (aka REAL) Conversations Day 58: 365 RSL Project

small-love-photography-inspirationsWhen diving into the world of vulnerability and the fragile nature of human emotions it is wise to set out on this expedition from a space of awareness and mindfulness.

There are some fundamental keys to having successful authentic and vulnerable conversations. I was reminded of these during my road trip this morning with my partner.


1. Honour the path of the other person. Just because you may want an answer right now, the other person may not be in the right space to share. The best way to create the environment for this is to ask a simple question before diving into any emotionally vulnerable conversation. “I have a question to ask you about something personal is now a good time”? “Are you open to having a chat about _____”? If the other person says no, request they let you know when they are open to having that question, then drop it. Yes. Drop it completely. Pushing a conversation of this magnitude will never end well. For your peace of mind, their peace of mind and each of your emotional wellbeing allow the conversation to happen when its meant to, not when you think it should.

2. Being vulnerable in every way shape and form is generally a challenging thing for most. Even the most practiced individuals can get charged up, triggered and confronted by such conversations especially when the convo activates a deep seated wound we have not yet healed. If you are wanting to have this type of conversation you will need to embody compassion and express your vulnerability first and foremost. No one likes being put on the spot. So open and create the space for authentic sharing by putting your butt on the line first by sharing something that makes you really feel into the experience of vulnerability.

3.Do not take things personally. When others are speaking their truth they may not say what you want them to say and in the way you want them to say it. Allow them to speak their truth to the best of their capabilities for the time being.

4. If you do get triggered and take things personally pause the conversation until you can come at it from a place of love and neutrality. To do this practice your ability to forgive. Forgive yourself and the other person for whatever transpired and let it go.

5. Always be love. Plain and simple. Before saying anything ask yourself “Is what I’m about to say what love would say right now”? If the answer is yes go ahead and say it and only allow the things aligned with love to come out. This will take a high amount of self control and self awareness. As a Radical Self Love lover I know you can do this 😉



Anytime all five of these steps are practiced, the outcome is an amazing heart opening conversation which leads both parties to a deeper understanding of themselves and each other. Radical Self Love is about generating win/wins and leaving all parties with an experience of loves true essence.

Go be love today and see what opens up 😉

Radical Self Love to the Max!!


Day 6: 365 RSL Project

Harmonious communication and energy exchanges between myself and others has always been an ongoing learning for me. I have learned my biggest lessons in effective communication through contrasting experiences. In other words I learned what to do from doing things that didn’t work so well.

Here are some musings from my heart to yours:

If you relate to someone in a way that only allows them to engage in lower vibrational actions and conversations, that is exactly what you are going to get. In other words, this type of behavioural pattern, creates, with the expectation of experiencing reactions and confrontation.

Alternatively, if you give someone the opportunity to understand they will. This type of engagement requires courage, understanding, compassion, openness and the awareness to consciously choose operating from a higher vibrational vantage point. People will rise to meet our positive expectations if we allow them to.

Relating to others as their greatness starts with being responsible for creating constructive energy, empowering conversational dynamics and respectful actions with one another.

Only Love ❤