As humans we are so privileged to have language to express our life experience.
As a conscious creator and a Radical Self Lover we must use this gift to it’s fullest potential. Which means coming to an awareness that sometimes the shit we tell ourselves is really not the most optimal or beneficial to our growth and expansion.
There are plenty of words I would recommend be removed from you vocabulary but to start off lets get right to the juiciest one:
This word is really damaging to our self confidence, our ability to own our choices and be clear on who we are and what we stand for.
Should is rooted in some belief in obligation.
I should do this because…
I should be there because…
I should invited them because…
Shoulding is also rooted in expectations and usually imposed expectations.
These never feel good.
You should have known…
You should do this…
He/she should just know this about me…
This list could go on forever. When we opt into shoulding we are about to fully embark on the lower vibe train. The point of our human experience is to feel good. Shoulding and feeling good are just incompatible. Shoulding restricts. It reinforces the false perception that where we are isn’t where we are meant to be. It puts us into resistance to what is so- what is reality- what is occurring in the now. To feel good we must learn how to make peace with the now.
We can’t should on ourselves and feel good. Period.
Next time you go to should on yourself or someone else stop yourself. Tune in and reconnect with love. When we do this we can clearly see other alternatives that allow our communication to be received in such a way where everyone involved is left expansive and feeling good. Which is the point 😉
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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!