3 Self Loving Steps To Gracefully Navigate Emotional Storms- Day 361: 365 Radical Self Love Project

There is a general vibe floating through the air these days in the RSL community.

Stories of breakups, heartache and intense emotional upheaval seem to be subtly crossing my path lately. I sure have been through my fare share of all of these this past year and a half I wanted to shed some inspired light on navigating this tender territory from a place of self love.

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3 Self Loving Steps To Gracefully Navigate Emotional Storms

1. Give yourself permission to be feeling what you are feeling.

It’s actually ok to be experiencing whatever you are. Happy, sad, upset, angry- whatever has made it’s presence known in your experience, is there for a reason. If we avoid, deny or try to stuff down this “stuff” it just builds more momentum and comes bursting out uncontrollably at a later date. Giving ourselves permission to be is one of the most freeing things we can ever do for our healing, growth and spiritual evolution.

A wonderful RSL mantra: “I give myself permission to be human and experience all emotions knowing each serves a divine and perfect purpose.”

2. Come into full acceptance of your emotions when they arise.

A really magical thing happens when we come into acceptance- diffusion. When we give ourselves permission (step 1) then accept the emotional experience we are having as its happening- the duration of the upset is significantly reduced. Now all emotional upheavals and storms will be unique and some may last longer than others and that’s totally ok. The point is to remind yourself it is perfectly ok to be experiencing what you are.

A really great RSL mantra I use when emotions arise is this: “At this present moment I am having an experience of (I then identify the experience as best I can- anger, jealousy, sadness, loneliness- whatever it is give it a name), it is ok that I am having this experience as having it means I am growing and expanding who I am, I accept this experience and trust I will receive the value of what it is here to teach me.” Then…

3. Allow, allow, allow.

Your emotions need an avenue to clear themselves, period. It is at this stage where you also encounter the divine assignment of practicing personal responsibility. Just because you’re having an emotional storm doesn’t mean everyone around you needs to be pulled into the emotional hurricane too. Find responsible and respectful (to yourself and others) outlets to allow the emotion to pass. Like all storms it will and the more you resist it the longer and more intense it will get.

If I am in a situation where the clearing will negatively impact another I make a promise and pact with myself to allow the emotion passage to happen at a specific time and place in the very near future- then keep my word to myself. If I am in a space where no one will be negatively impacted I just allow the clearing to happen in the moment. To consciously make this distinction will require self awareness and self loving discipline, which in all honesty just takes a bit of practice to polish.

Some of the things I do to allow the clearing:
  • Crying (I’m a Cancer and this is the most effective method for me)
  • High intensity exercise
  • Screaming into a pillow
  • Punching a pillow or punching bag
  • Lions breath
  • Real talk journalling
  • Verbal clearing (done only in a professional context with a coach)
  • And my ultimate fav, because it inevitably cracks me up is: stomping around and over dramatizing- think 2 year old temper tantrum 😉

All of these prove to be quite effective and in my allowing of the emotion to pass through, without additional internal judgement (“Oh I shouldn’t do this, I shouldn’t be feeling this”) I am able to return to a state of clarity and calmness relatively quickly- in the grand scheme of things.

Part of the Radical Self Love journey is learning how to be ok with all  aspects of your human experience. Learning how to bless these types of “negative” experiences and extract the gold always lying deep within, has certainly been one of the most fulfilling aspects of my Radical Self Love journey to date.

Give yourself permission, own the experience, allow the storm to fill you up and then allow it to pass on through. What you will begin to notice, with regular practice is, the duration and intensity of each emotional upheaval lightens as you become stronger in your application of these three graceful steps.

When we spend less time, energy and emotion in the stormy storms we free ourselves up to play and radiate in the blissful moments and experiences our lives are meant to bring.

Where ever you are is perfect, what ever you’re feeling is perfect, you are perfect just as you are. Remember that.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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Encouragement From The Universe: Reading The Signs- Day 322: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Some days we need a little encouragement.

I have found on the days when I’ve been questioning myself, my abilities and all the things I am up to the Universe beautifully responds with nudges of encouragement.

A piece of feedback from a client.

A kind word from a friend.

Being told directly the positive impact I’ve had on someone else’s life.

I’ve begun to notice more and more of these gentle nudges the more I embrace the path of self love. I am chalking it up to one thing- my willingness to be open and receive.

Before my self love journey began I was way off balance. I was well versed in the giving to others department and the “don’t worry I got this/I can do everything on my own”– game.

We live in a progressive and friendly Universe

These ways of being literally and energetically blocked my ability to receive. When our ability to receive is blocked we are unable to see and really embrace all the goodness that is constantly trying to make its way into our lives. When I understood that my success and ability to thrive was deeply rooted in my willingness to receive the way I looked at the world around me shifted.

I began seeing things differently.

I began hearing things differently.

I began responding to life differently.

And I opened my arms and gave a big warm and welcoming YES to life.

As I began saying yes to life and trusting I was truly supported every step of my path these gentle reminders began making regular appearances in my life. Now- like clockwork- if I ever begin to doubt myself in any way shape or form, the Universe has my back and sends to me confirmation that I am enough, I am worthy, I am deserving and  that I am exactly where I need to be. All I have to do is watch and listen.

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The Universe has all of our backs. We just need to ask ourselves if we are truly open and willing to receive the beautiful guidance and reinforcement that is constantly there for us?

To really see it we have to start seeing ourselves.

Seeing ourselves through the lens of positivity, empowerment, excitement, grace, compassion and of course love.

What is one thing you can do this weekend to beam some more love into your experience of being alive?

Where in your life can you open to receive the goodness of life a little bit more?

The Universe wants you to win- you just have to step up onto the team.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Making Some Music: Lovin On Life- Day 230: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Over the past couple days I’ve really been feeling the music creative vibes.

190400_194687870565419_7931144_nThese past few months in all honesty have been directed to other creative energies and my music has really taken a back seat. Now that I have completed on some major milestones and accomplished some kick ass completions my creative music vibes seem to have come back full tilt.

Every day this week I have picked up my guitar and jammed. I learned a few new songs this week and out of my new learning sparked some original music beginning to form.

What I’ve really learned over the past few months is how everything is in a state of divine flow. Sometimes we will really be vibin on one area of our lives and then as the energies of life shift and change so do our areas of focus and interest.

I really could have been hard on myself and gone into a disempowered state of comparing my musical creativity of the past few months to how it has been in the past few years (over the past few years I have been consistantly writing new music and performing live regularily). However, I have done enough Radical Self Lovin to know entertaining that train of thought does not serve me in any way shape or form.

What does serve me is acceptance and awareness.

Awareness that my creativity is still at an all time high it has just been redirected into a different area for the time being and acceptance that my creative energies going into these other areas of creation are the perfect places for them to be.

When I give myself permission to be exactly where I am at I immediately experience a flush of inner peace. If I have a belief that I always have to be making music that is a self generated thought creation. I can just as easily alter my thoughts to embrace the ebb and flow of life. This allows me the freedom to be and the freedom to express my creative energies in the ways in which I feel most called to moment to moment.

I have to say there is something truly fulfilling and magical for me about making music. I’m stoked to be working on this new tune and I’m even more excited to share it all with you beauties soon!

Remember this tonight lovers, where ever you are right now is perfect. You are perfect, whole and complete just as you are. If you are happy keep doing what you are doing, if you feel that something is missing, start making some empowered and conscious changes. Your happiness is in your hands, it always has been and it always will be.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

From Passion to Paycheck: Fundamental Lessons In Bringing Your Passion to the World- Day 204: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today was yet another productive and creative filled day. I shot the info video for our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program which launches on Monday!!!! One of the things I love most about making videos is the process. I … Continue reading