5 Simple Ways To Start Loving Where You Are- Day 363: 365 Radical Self Love Project

radical self love kelsey grantIf there is one thing I have noticed in all my years as a coach and facilitator is that a large portion of peeps have challenge being ok with they are in the present moment- never mind actually loving where they are. The path of Radical Self Love supports us in learning what our own experience of peace of mind is and in the process we end up realizing we actually really love who we are and the life we lead- wherever we might be.

5 Self Loving Steps to Loving Where You Are

1. Drop the lack and limitation.

Nothing much changes when we’re in an incompatible vibe to that which we seek. Meaning we must be in a state of harmony and peace before the manifestation ball really gets going. If we are fully consumed with labouring and convincing ourselves and the people around us how much lack we are experiencing the Universe responds to your state of repeated focus by sending you more of what you are so dominantly focused on. When you make a conscious effort to drop the lack talk and instead focus on all you do have you bring yourself immediately into a place of love and appreciation for the present.

2. Make joy a priority.

Each day choose one positive simple actionable. The sole focus of this action is to usher in massive joy. There are a lot of things you do or have done in your life that just make you freaking happy. These are often the simplest things- going for a walk in the woods, cracking jokes with friends, snuggling a animal, playing with crystals or oracle cards (one of my personal fav’s)- it will be different for everyone and there is a high probability the actionable will be different for you every day depending what’s up and how you are feeling. Doing things you love and that bring out the happiness within, support you immediately in feeling lit up about the now.

3. Take inventory on your accomplishments.

Humans have developed this habit of diminishing their accomplishments and not giving themselves credit for the awesomeness they have achieved. Of course we feel like shit and resist where we are at when we do this- it never feels good to feel like we are under performing or failing. When you are clear of how much you have actually achieved over your lifetime and even the course of a few short months your heart will settle into a place of great elation and calm down an over active mind. If it’s challenging at first to find evidence I would highly recommend you take this practice, make it a regular part of your self love routine and write those wins down as they happen.

When I was in a really rough place a few years ago I kept an evidence and accomplishment journal. Every day before bed I would write down all the actions I took that contributed to the expansion of my business and my dreams. I also recorded ALL the manifestations, attractions, accomplishments and wins of that day alone. It became very clear very quickly I achieve a lot more than I give myself credit for and I experience so many wins that my ego tries with all it’s might to diminish and bury. If this is where you are at- start here and watch those vibes soar.

4. Get still.

Seriously, start meditating. When the mind is an untamed circus you will inevitably feel out of control, overwhelmed and unhappy in the now. When we take our power back, get still and confront what is actually going on in our minds we can consciously direct a different result. Facing and embracing the monkey mind is the first step to causing a new and expanded result. A regular practice of stillness helps us to more easily distinguish between the racket of the ego and the truth of our hearts. If you have never meditated before sitting silent alone with your thoughts is likely uncomfortable and deters you. So set yourself up for success, find an avenue that works for now and work towards sitting in silence one day. Start with short guided meditations. Start small and create a vibration of success by achieving an abundance of little milestones. Find ways that work for you and forget the rest.

5. Celebrate someone else.

When the ego has gone into mega overdrive (aka when we think we should be anywhere other than where we are) we’ve gone into full self absorption and separation land. When you celebrate another person, praise their wins or just find something you are grateful for about them, you fast track your way out of the pit of self absorption despair and enter the beautiful vibe of being a positive contribution to someone else. When we are kind and extend acts of kindness towards others our hearts crack wide open. An open heart is a present heart. A present heart is a content and happy heart. A happy heart isn’t trying to “get” somewhere other than where it is. It understands there is an ever present and ever evolving progression to our experience and it is inevitable in a Universe that is friendly and for you, that more goodness is on it’s way and that goodness will arrive in perfect divine timing.

If you are ready to take your self love practice to the next level check out our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program. This beauty has been intentionally designed to set you up for success, dial in the self love practices that really work for YOU and give you a solid foundation to take your life and relationships to a place of harmony, bliss, abundance and beautiful juicy magnificent love.

You deserve to be happy right now.

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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What To Do When Tempted To Act Out Old Patterns- Day 336: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is no secret that the path of Radical Self Love calls us to examine ourselves, our beliefs and our patterns.

radical self love kelsey grantFor the majority of us we have a collection of patterns and beliefs drummed up by our ego’s that have been repeated on automatic default settings in our brains for a large majority of our lives.

Often there is a defining moment in our lives when we are awoken from this unconsciousness and begin to question ourselves, our motivations, our patterns of behaviour and ultimately question who we are and why we are here.

As we begin to dive into the world of self reflection and discovery we begin to see how the functions of our ego have lead us into some less than desirable situations. The ego is rooted in fear and fear never leads us to the path of fulfillment and bliss.

If we truly desire to remember who we are and return to our natural state which is bliss we must consciously examine the behaviours and thoughts of an ego or fear based mind. Once examined we must begin to consciously question these behaviours and thoughts to honestly determine if they are truly serving our highest good. The final stage is choosing better high quality love based thoughts and establishing more empowering behaviours.

When tempted to act out old patterns of the ego here are three questions to bring yourself back to the vibe of possibility, potential and love:

1. What would love do right now?

2. Would love do what I’m about to do?

3. Would love say what I’m about to say?

Then the key is to LISTEN honestly to the answer your inner guidance will give you and act in accordance to this guidance.

Often old patterns are triggered anytime we feel vulnerable, open and our hearts are exposed. The work of RSL is designed to crack open the shells around your heart to open you up to the fullness of love and authentic connection. It is inevitable along this path that when we feel open and exposed the ego will do anything it can to shut down this opening and build the familiar fear walls right back up.

The only one who has the power to dissolve the walls around your heart is you. Dissolving these walls is essential to the manifestation of heart to heart connections with other human beings, to the manifestation of your dreams and potential and to the manifestation of your own self awareness which is the biggest gift of all.

The reason people avoid doing the work is because you can’t un-know something. When we learn these aspects about ourselves and our default ego settings, from that point forward each time the egoic patterns surface and we act on them it becomes a conscious choice. Most people don’t want to be honest and own that they are choosing to act out fears plan instead of their highest potential which is always rooted in love. The only way we can shift these patterns, thoughts and behaviours is through our conscious choice to change and choose love.

It is all up to you, are you open, willing and ready to choose love?

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kelsey

If you would like support in learning to choose love and say YES to your great potential join in on our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program!!

Starting The Day By Nourishing The Soul- The Importance Of A Daily Self Love Routine-Day 334: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“How things go depends on how they start”- these are lyrics from one of my original songs and one of my mottos in life.

(If you want to listen you can do that HERE)

I have found this rings true in relationships- the relationships starting off on the grounds of truth, honesty and love always go in that same direction, like wise the relationships I’ve had that started off as secrets, with lots of lies or lack of integrity ended up going further in those directions.

I have also found in my day to day this motto is also true. When I invest into myself and my wellbeing first thing in the morning it sets the tone for the remainder of the day. Days when I rock my soul-nourishing morning routine I am happier, I am more effective with my time, I am way more productive and I am way easier to get along with.

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As I keep stepping into my power and truth it becomes more and more clear that the foundation of my success is deeply rooted in my willingness to nourish my soul, take actions which bring me into vibrational alignment and setting intentions around the direction of my day.

When I first stepped into the world of spirituality and personal development I learned exactly what those specific actionables were that would have me be at my best. After years of testing, trial and assessment I lasered in on the top “actions” that would lead me feeling nourished and in the highest vibrational alignment.

Why is this nourishment and alignment so important?

In the words of Abraham Hicks: “That which is like unto itself is drawn” meaning energies which are in alignment are magnetized and pulled towards each other.

When I take the time every morning to get my vibes as high as possible (my best/highest vibrational alignment varies from day to day) I ensure that I put myself on the best possible path for the day. Meaning when my vibes are optimal I attract amazing people, circumstances and opportunities. I also get to experience the blissful power of flow- where I can trust the Universe has my back and relax into allowing things to unfold naturally.

Soul-Nourishment

When I don’t do my soul nourishment in the morning I am higher strung, way more stressed out, combative, irritable, impatient and I attract people, situations and circumstances that I don’t want to be experiencing.

The only reason I experiencing anything I do, is because I am a vibrational match.

The only way to change what I am attracting or experiencing is to change my vibes. How do I change my vibes? I take actions that are in alignment with nourishing my heart, my soul, my body and my mind.

This is what my soul nourishing/Radical Self Love routine looks like:

  •  Leisurely awake
  •  Spend 5-15 minutes doing some positive self reflection and positive life reflection (just thinking of positive aspects)
  • Gratitude journal minimum one page
  • 6 Minutes of Ego Harmonizing (breath work/meditation)
  • RSL Mantra Meditation/ Inner Guide chit chat
  • Drink 500ml-1litre water
  • I usually add in exercise but some days I do my exercise later in the day and I do take a day or two off a week to rest my body.

These are the things I know I must do each morning to keep myself in tip top shape mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. All of these actionables are vibe aligners which always bring me to the most exciting, fulfilling and incredible places, spaces and circumstances life has to offer.

In our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program we meticulously designed a 30 Day Journey that is accessible and attainable for even the busiest of busy people. In my opinion when we glorify being busy it is often a way to avoid doing the things we need to do most but maybe don’t want to do because they are uncomfortable, take energy and time. Investing into yourself in these ways will make you way more productive and happy in the long run and really thats what we are up to here at RSL- setting people up for success in life and love. It all starts within and it all starts with you ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

It’s All Part of The Healing- I’m Doing My 30 Day Program With You Lovers! Day 220: 365 Radical Self Love Project

spiritual-healingDuring the path of Radical Self Love we go through highs and lows. We face challenges and we overcome them. We crack ourselves open and expose our raw, authentic hearts to the world and because of it we are better and the world becomes a better more beautiful place to be.

That doesn’t mean this shit is easy 😉

Yesterday I had my “coming out” of sorts with a massively huge and authentic blog post hitting the internets on a amazing site called My Tiny Secrets. Read it HERE if you missed it.

The Healing

tumblr_lspdne80nn1qdfdb7o1_500This share was one of those cracking open moments in time for me and my unique journey. It is something that I knew I had to do for my greatest growth and freedom and at the same time I was still incredibly confronted by it.

My humanness was exposed and I am now in the process of adjusting to this new vulnerability, this new rawness and this new space. Today has been an incredibly emotional day and I know it is all for my greatest good, the greatest good of this community and for the greatest good for the state of this world.

The more people who have the courage to step up, tell the truth on themselves and allow their raw, real and incredibly beautiful vulnerability to be shown to the world the more loving this planet becomes. Maybe not right away, we aren’t in a quick fix mode. This type of move is for those who are really interested and committed to seeing long term sustainable transformation of this planet.

We transform our planet through the transformation of our own consciousness. We transform the world by having the courage to do our own healing which means digging into those challenging spaces, wading in the discomfort and accessing our inner power to elevate through it to a higher state of awareness and consciousness.

We must be willing to let go of all that holds us back and move forward fearlessly.

Part of my process will be doing the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program alongside all the beauties who are currently playing full out! This program is so nurturing and is exactly the practice to set us up for success when we are going through those “raw” phases of our journeys.

Tonight I will be posting my Day 1 up on our community page!!

shutterstock_83223145My personal program intention is to amp up my meditation practice to 20 minutes each day with my prosperity mantra, to complete the content for the 9 Week Relationship Course, finish editing both RSL ebooks and complete two of the books I am currently reading 😉

Whew this is going to be a juicy 30 Day journey!!! Looking forward to sharing all of this goodness with you love faces!

I am so grateful for all of you and the incredible support, love and kindness you extend towards me each day here at RSL and towards each other. You are all greatly inspiring and I am so blessed to have you all in my life. Thank you for the energy you bring and the intentions you hold to make this world a better place through your self love! xo

Anyone who is interested in joining you can register here: www.kelseygrant.com/30dayprogram

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

My Most Vulnerable Share Of All Time- Day 219: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Well lovers I have something really big to share with you today.

sacral-chakra-swadhisthana-dirk-czarnotaMy intimate journey of Radical Self Love has been a long process. Filled with many ups and just as many downs. It is these times of great challenge when we are called to change.

In this piece I share one of the greatest life changing moments. A moment when I was faced with the choice to live a life filled with fear and pain or choose the path of love, healing and transformation.

I never really knew, until this point, what it meant when people said it’s only when you get sick that life quickly gets put into perspective and change is no longer a choice but a necessary path to ensure survival. 

So here it is for you loves, my guest contribution article for My Tiny Secrets.

**Disclaimer**

This article is an incredibly intimate account of sexuality, dis-ease and healing.

I am honoured to share this with you all in the hopes that my share may set others free from the prison of fear and open just a few more hearts and minds to the path of love.

Check out the article HERE

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Join the self love movement. Sign Up For Your 30 Day Radical Self Love Journey here: www.kelseygrant.com/30dayprogram

“It Is An Act Of LOVE For Me To Say No”- How To Powerfully and Respectfully Stand In Your Truth- Day 218: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is an act of love for me to say no.

radical self loveThis is one of my all time favourite Radical Self Love mantras I have.

We have grown up in a culture which has conditioned us on many levels to fear saying and claiming what we want.

Part of being clear about what we want and desire also includes being clear what we don’t want. There comes a time in all of our lives when we are faced with saying no and staying true to ourselves.

How to deal with the guilt that comes up when we speak our truth.

Phase One

img-thingIf you are feeling like you have to explain why you are saying no, it is an indication that you have been saying no to yourself for a long time and saying yes to the world at the expense of your own true happiness. The impact of compromising in this way breaks our personal integrity. When we do things we don’t want to do we compromise our souls. We give up a piece of who we are. Doing this enough times leads to an experience of energetic fragmentation.

Energetic fragmentation is simply the scattering of our soul energy. When we give up ourselves for others energetically we give up a piece of who we are and unconsciously give the other person control over our soul energy.

Inevitably there comes a time when we become so sick of ourselves acting outside of our heart’s guidance that we WAKE UP. In this phase of awakening we become acutely aware of all the ways in which we have given ourselves up.

Phase Two

Once we are aware of the places in which we have given up ourselves we can begin the reclaiming process. We must command our spirit back. This means doing the exploration to identify the places, people and circumstances in which we have given away our power. Then we do a lil self lovin forgiveness work.

Self Loving Forgiveness

The commanding of our spirit back will require you to get radically real about where you gave yourself up and approach it from a space of empowerment. Meaning don’t fall into the ego’s trap of making yourself wrong for doing it. You did the best you could with the consciousness you had. When you know better you do better. Next one by one you are going to pull the circumstance, person or place in which we gave up our power and bless it with love.

” I am aware I unconsciously gave up my power to you. I forgive myself love myself. I forgive you and I love you. Thank you for teaching me this precious lesson. I now release you from playing this role for me and willingly command my spirit back.”

Your-past-mistakes-are-meant-to-guide-youOnce you repeat the forgiveness mantra sit in stillness. In this stillness you will begin to feel the experience of your soul piece returning. Some pieces come back quicker than others.

This is a fabulous practice to include into your daily RSL Routine.

We are all human and we all give up pieces of who we are along the way so we can learn to reclaim our power and become incredibly present to our divinity.

When we feel like we have to constantly justify ourselves what’s up with that?

It is a sign you have ignored your intuition for too long and your confidence has suffered a bit of a blow. Your perception of their lack of acceptance reflects your own inner insecurity with yourself and your choice. This is totally natural lovers especially for those of us, who for a very long time, didn’t speak up or share our truth.

You are building a new muscle and for the first little while you are going to feel uncomfortable. The length of time you feel uncomfortable is total under your control.

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Minimizing the Discomfort

Every time you feel like you have to justify or explain your choices, remind yourself your need to speak your truth will not always include everyone’s acceptance of your truth. Some people just won’t get it. Especially if it means you are now standing up for yourself inside a relationship where you previously allowed yourself to be walked over.

Ego’s don’t like transformation and they certainly do not like self love actions.

1743729_10152232664608707_2009396956_nWhen you are feeling like you are being challenged by someone on your belief system, remind yourself that your discomfort is a function of your ego not wanting to let go of a past, disempowering way of being. Any time we go into defence mode or justification mode we have activated our own ego’s.

Not everyone is going to like what you have to say when you start speaking your truth and darlings that is totally ok. One of two magical things will happen the more consistent and confident you become at speaking your truth:

1. People will really not be ok with your new confident and self lovin ways and it will become incredibly obvious through they’re behaviour that they are no longer be in vibrational harmony with you. Meaning you will start to attract people who are more on your wavelength who understand and respect where you are coming from.

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2. The more self assured you become the more your community will naturally acclimatize to your authenticity. They may need a little time to get used to it, but they will indeed get used to it and then come to know you as someone who now unapologetically speaks their truth – which is a pretty rad thing.

Basically the process of you sticking with it, even when it’s tough in the beginning, will reveal to you your honest and true friends, family and soul tribe.

How to increase the confidence when it comes to speaking your truth

Feeling confident about ourselves goes hand in hand with speaking our truth. So to enhance our success and our feeling of acceptance both internally and externally we must also develop our confidence and give ourselves mega acknowledgment.

The 30 Day Radical Self Love Program is designed for this exact transformation and inner development work. And if you haven’t scooped up your program yet try these on in the mean time:

1. Do more of what you are naturally good at.

When we put ourselves into situations where we will naturally shine our confidence gets a massive boosting. We all have a couple things we know we are just rockstars at, give yourself permission to do more of those things and make it a regular daily occurrence.

2. Walk through life with an engaged core.

Yup I’m talking about flexing those tummy muscles. When we activate our core we hold ourselves higher AND on an energetic level we activate our solar plexus which is our storage unit for confidence, self assuredness and self love. Practice tightening your core any time you are walking or sitting. If you really wanna take it up a couple notches add a plank exercise into your daily routine. Holding plank pose is a fabulous way to develop those muscles, activate the core, tone everything up and activate the yummy self confidence waiting to be set free in your solar plexus.

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3. Give yourself some credit.

We are often so focused on where we are lacking that we deplete our self confidence and self love tank without even noticing what we are doing. Giving gratitude and acknowledgement to yourself for all the greatness you are up to helps strengthen our confidence in a massive way. When we are thriving in positivity land we can HEAR the voice of our intuition clearly. When we can hear our intuition it is much easier to act on it’s guidance. To act on the intuition’s guidance is to act in our own integrity.

4. Remember this is a process.

We can be so hard on ourselves when we don’t see immediate results when it comes to shifts in our personal development. Remember this is much like training at the gym. You won’t see results right away after a workout, but with consistency and repetition you will one day look in the mirror and be blown away with the epic results you have achieved. The same goes for our self love and inner journeys. It will take time. Be patient and loving and enjoy flowing with the journey of your own awakening.

The more you begin to get comfortable with saying no to things that are really a no and yes to things that are really a yes your quality of life quickly begins to skyrocket. You have every right to thrive, be happy and live a life that honours your internal knowing.

No two people will have the same life experience so it is up to you to claim what works for you and what doesn’t coming from a place of respect, kindness, love and peace.

People will do what they do and say what they say and in the end none of it has anything to do with you. 

Keep rockin your truth lovers! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

For all those ready to ROCK your 30 Day Radical Self Love Journey sign up here to get started: www.kelseygrant.com/30dayprogram

Back In The Flow of RSL Workshops and Community Goodness- Day 216: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Ahhhhhhh how I love facilitating live events and community workshops!

Tonight we got right back to it and did the first RSL workshop of 2014.

While I am honestly very tired, and my tank is empty- my heart is full and bursting with happiness. The beautiful tribe of women who showed up tonight were in complete harmony with each other and with the vibe of Radical Self Lovin.

We rocked an incredible workshop and shared some truly precious heart connecting moments. I am so blessed to have met three new beautiful Goddess women and I am so incredibly grateful to have these women in my life and in my tribe.

Tonights conversations really got me present to the fact that we are all dealing with such similar life experiences and if we just open up to each other we can truly learn so much. The power of the Goddess and Goddess tribe is so nourishing and delicious and I am so blessed to have a tribe of these calibre of women in my life and in this RSL community!

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If you really wanted to be part of the conversation tonight and couldn’t make it or live in another part of the world send me an email and I’ll hook you up with a virtual option ($11). Email me @ rsl@kelseygrant.com

I absolutely LOVE that this is my life and I get to have these conversations, hold sacred space with a tribe of Goddesses, interact with this INCREDIBLE Radical Self Love community and honestly live my dreams each day.

Thank you all for being such a beautiful part of my journey and of this life experience! You are loved and cherished more than you may know! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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A Poetry Slam Embodying Radical Self Love to the MAX!!! Day 215: 365 Radical Self Love Project

WOW

This is aboslutely incredible. I am so grateful to the beautiful women in our RSL tribe who shared this powerful expression with me last night.

This is Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Start looking for your treasure. It’s in you to find.

Join the movement here: 30 Day Radical Self Love Journey

xo

Kels

From Breakup to Breakthrough- How One Year of Self Love Changed Everything- Day 206: 365 Radical Self Love Program

Well we did it!!!!! The 30 Day Radical Self Love Program is complete and out in the world! Right now I am feeling pretty darn excited, proud and in all honesty a little overwhelmed, in the best possible way. This program came … Continue reading

Setting Up for Success: Dissolving Outdated Habits and Choosing Greatness- Day 205: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Here we are the night before our big launch of the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program and I am completely calm and freaking excited!!! The way it used to be. I was a crammer. I would procrastinate and avoid … Continue reading