Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love-Day 365: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Holy shitballs I did it!!!

radical self love projectSuccessfully completed writing one self love blog post every day for an entire YEAR!!!! There are so many things I could write about today and I have given careful and thoughtful consideration for them all.

  • I considered writing the highlights of the year.
  • I considered writing the top lessons of the year.
  • I considered not writing much at all- total honesty and transparency 😉
  • I considered writing a simple celebratory post.
  • I considered just writing another self love lesson.
  • I considered sharing the impact of a year of self love on my relationship.

All of these were great however they didn’t feel quite right. Today is a significant day for me. For the past few years I have been levelling up and giving myself these “challenges” in order to grow and expand the person I know myself to be. This 365 Day RSL blog project was no exception.

To show up and create a blog post every day for an entire year took some serious commitment and dedication. It took bravery, honesty, transparency. It required me to face my shadow and deal with my shit. It called me to step into my role as a leader and a teacher and really own my place in the world. This project supported me in getting clear on who I am and what I am truly meant to be doing in the world. And it brought me face to face with my biggest supporter and my biggest nemesis- and coming to the profound realization that both happened to be me.

Today’s post I am going to share the biggest transformation that has taken place over the past year.

Unravelling The Ultimate Ego Sabotage Through Self Love

In one year I’ve done a hell of a lot of healing, forgiving, loving and moving forward.

But there was one thing that has held me back in all areas of my life and in the span of this project I was brought face to face with this disempowering mechanism. This is what I call “the ultimate ego sabotage” and I have had the opportunity to look it in the face with loving and kind eyes and find ways to gently and lovingly put it to rest.

That sabotage was an old familiar story of “not feeling like it”. How many times in my life have I used this line as a way to manipulate, get out of commitments and generally not show up for life? More than I can count.

Giving my word to a project of this magnitude brought me face to face with this disempowering habit every single day. Yes every single day it reared it’s face. Some days more than others but it always did.

radicalselfloveMy new self love habitual patterns were the only saving grace. If I had allowed my ego’s justifications or behaviours to run the show I would have quit. Something would have stopped me along the way. But because of my solid Radical Self Love foundation I was able to maintain my commitment even in the most challenging of times.

In my past my ego didn’t have to work very hard to get me to stop going down the path of transformation. It would pull the “oh I’m tired” excuse or something very similar and that would be enough of a reason to not show up for life.

As I grew and expanded my awareness my ego took to instigating physical pains in attempts to prevent me from showing up somewhere that would inevitably be a cause for my further transformation. The most memorable occurance of this function showed up a few years ago when I was heading out to be a production supervisor for the Advanced Course through Landmark Education. This role at the time called me to step up and lead a team of peeps and also create the space for all the people in the seminar to feel safe to dive into their own transformation- not an easy role by far. The morning of I was leaving my house and literally tripped over my own feet and fell down the steep stairs of my house. In the past this would have been enough for me to not show up- but I had done enough work to get acquainted with my ego that I knew it was just trying to take me out in any way possible to avoid my own immanent growth. Pretty bold stuff.

This year brought me into a whole new level of understanding my tricky ego. The function remains the same it’s just the measures and characteristics that change. Writing a self love blog every day for a year stretched me. Some days the words flowed, inspiration was at an all time high and some days it was fucking hard. I was emotional, my world was crashing around me and some how I managed to pull it together long enough to get real, get transparent and transform. In this year I have come to learn my ego’s new game is to take things incredibly personal.

I honestly at times couldn’t believe just how ridiculous I was being but somehow I couldn’t manage to stop it- that is until I realized this behaviour was a new form of my old ego friend. Once I became aware of this mechanism I was able to notice it’s take over sooner and become less reactive and more responsive to life.

This self love blog was ultimate training in playing bigger, creating something from nothing and standing for something way greater than myself. I knew my key to healing my heart was rooted in finding something I cared more about than the pain I was feeling. That “something” is this community, that “something” is supporting people in having more deliciously juicy relationships to themselves, to their lives and to the people in their lives. That “something” is self love.

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In honour of achieving such a kick ass milestone I want to celebrate with some gifts to you all!

Gift #1:

A FREE copy of my first RSL ebook-  Sabotaged Love: The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want. This baby is launching into the world on July 17th. Everyone on our email list will receive a free copy of the book as a mega thank you for being here and co-creating such a magical community of love and transformation. You can sign up for our email list HERE

Gift #2:

First dibs on attending my free summer webinar: The Self Loving Secrets To Long Lasting Commitment.

For more details drop me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com and I will send ya all the registration details! xo (eta end of July- Official date will be released within the next week).

Gift # 3:

Radical Self Love Coaching. For those of you who have been wanting to work with me to get your self love vibes thriving I’m rocking a summer coaching promo:

My 30 Minute RSL Reset five pack- (normally $444.00) until June 30th: $222.00 from July 1-30th: $333.00

To register for the 5 pack email me at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: RSL Celebration 5 Pack

30 Day RSL Intensive- For those of you looking for a more intensive self love coaching package I am offering 2 months of my 30 Day RSL Intensive for the price of one. You will receive two months of 1-1 coaching with me for $1111.00 and together we will design your sessions to fit and harmonize with your summer schedule and your needs. (Offer expires July 30th).

To register for the 30 Day Intensive send me an email at rsl@kelseygrant.com with subject line: 30 Day RSL Intensive Celebration Gift

I am so proud of what has been achieved in this past year and I am looking forward to this next year of bliss with all you lovers. A heads up, since the intention of this blog is complete I will be shifting over to my website for my regular blogging. Make sure to sign up to the email list to ensure you stay up to date on all things RSL!

I will likely post a couple more blogs here just to phase out and to share my new blogging schedule after I take a well deserved couple days off 😉

So much love to you all!!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming along for this journey! We’re only going up from here! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

This Week’s Theme Song- Day 358: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Music is amazing.

It lifts our spirits.
It communicates the things most challenging to say.
It puts words to our deepest emotions and most blissful experiences.
It connects.
Connects us to ourselves, to our experience and to each other.

Music is the Universal language.

It is also a massive tool for programming messages into our subconscious minds. Our subconscious minds drive the majority of our behaviour (96-98% on average). Knowing this I’ve been really aware of the messages I program into my mind via music.

I tend to be drawn to music that leaves me feeling good and inspired. I also am super keen on being mindful of the lyrics of the tunes I listen to repeatedly. Our access to consciously reprogramming our subconscious is through repitition and consistentcy. So when we hear the same songs over and over, the programming (intentions and lyrics of the tune) becomes registered in our subconscious and ultimately begins to influence our behaviours.

With that being said I still love music that captures the full range of human emotions and I am all for a tear jerking song when the circumstances call for it. However, for the most part I prefer to stick to positive and uplifting tunes cause when I feel good magic begins to manifest in my life. In the spirit of sharing here is a song I have had on repeat a lot lately. It’s called Good Life” by One Republic and its full of delicious high vibes and positive messages!

Enjoy this beauty and feel free to share with us on our FB page your favourite feel good tune! xo

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Meditation and Self Love For the Busy Bodies- Day 356: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Hey lovers!

radical self love kelsey grantI’m so jazzed to be a part of the Stillness Project’s launch and share one of my most favourite meditation teachers with you, Tom Cronin. Tom’s intention with the Stillness Project is to bring together one million people to sit in collective stillness and activate their bliss during a live global meditation event!!! Super rad!

 

I’m a huge fan of meditation and I regularly speak about how vitally important meditation is in maintaining a solid self love practice. However, a lot of peeps in our tribe have mentioned they are first time meditators and don’t have a lot of time to spare.

I totally get that.

When I first started meditating the thought of sitting in silence for an undetermined amount of time freaked me out. Not only was my mind a complete circus, my life was super busy and back then investing 20-30 minutes a day into sitting in stillness seemed absurd and completely unrealistic.

Not having enough time is such a common myth when it comes to meditating that my dear friend Tom Cronin created this awesome video to explain his  72/20 Method.  In this free video Tom gets right into the specifics of his technique to support all of you lovers who want to meditate but can’t find the time.

radical self love kelsey grantI know I’m always looking for ways to become more effective with my time, be more productive and just feel great during my day and this meditation technique facilitates all those yummy benefits into my life. Even if you think you can’t meditate this video will help you move through any inner blocks of resistence and guide you to the land of inner bliss. Self love is the journey of cultivating more of these blissful moments by removing our blocks to love. Meditation is a beautiful bridge to allow more love and greatness in.

Tom’s free video explains everything click the link below to access the vid:
CLICK HERE to Discover the 72/20 Method now

I wish I had known Tom back in the day when I was struggling to understand and begin my meditation practice, luckily for all you lovers you can take full advantage of his super effective and powerful techniques for meditation beginners and ease into the world of bliss and inner calm.

His technique is so powerful that when practiced it actually creates an abundance of time and space in your day nearly instantly, something I believe we could all benefit from.

If you are interested in joining our global community and participating in a pretty kick ass event, your invitation to join the Stillness Project awaits ya at the end of the video 🙂 I’m so excited about the possibility of one million peeps meditating in stillness at once. One million people connected to their truth, allowing love in and radiating that bliss out into the world has the potential to activate some pretty serious global healing, and that dear friends is a pretty epic thing!

Click here to watch this NEW video now

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

3 Day Juice Cleanse, 2 Songs and A Whole Lotta Love- Day 350: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Today wraps up my time in Victoria.

The past three days have been jammed full of creative expression, full on creation, cleansing and so much love.

I chose to do a gentle juice cleanse while I was recording for a few reasons.

  1. When I’m juicing I feel so much lighter and brighter. This is optimal when going into a state of creation. To feel bright and clear makes the entire process that much more enjoyable.
  2. Additionally it fills me up with raw life force energy, which is the pure energy of love. When I’m juicing I find it quite easy to dip into deep states of meditation and I am much jollier. Gratitude radiates out of me and I go with the flow so much more.
  3. I also have a stable levels of energy which is really required when doing work of this nature because it is so energetically consuming.

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In this state of super high vibes I am in very clear alignment with my creativity. Which makes recording music a lot easier and enjoyable.

In all my years of writing and recording music this by far was the most incredible and enjoyable process. I just got to be in my flow and the results speak for themselves. Without the pressures of “perfection” I could relax, get into alignment and allow the musical magic to flow through.

I spent about 5 hours in total recording both songs. I recorded the guitar, main vocals and background vocals for both and to do so in such a short amount of time seriously impressed me. We spent today in post production land mixing and putting the finishing touches on both of the tunes- and I am so pumped with how they turned out.

I headed out to a meeting just as the songs were being finished and when I came back to listen to the final product I was blown away. So freaking pumped and honestly really proud of myself and the amazing job I did. Listening to the guitar I was really impressed with how good it sounds and gave myself some serious credit for how far I’ve come in my playing in the past 6 years.

All in all this trip was exactly what my soul needed. I cleansed out the body, opened up to massive amounts of creative energy and allowed love in in a major way. The time I was so blessed to spend with my family, warmed my heart and spiked my energy even higher.

As I return home today I am tired but feel so damn alive and in alignment. So very excited for the next chapter of this crazy awesome adventure called my life 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Family Fun Date- Day 349: 365 Radical Self Love Project

After a very successful day 2 of recording we celebrated by doing a family dinner with our Vic crew.

The evening kicked off with a trip to the Sidney Market where we got to soak up all the local goodness.

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We ran into some old friends and opted for some hugs and giggles.
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image 3Then we gathered a bunch of local produce and headed to the LJC Art/Print Studio for some great evening vibes.

The crew made a fabulous dinner. I had the honour of having some soul to soul chats with my brothers, celebrating in each other’s successes, listening to some new musical creations and meeting new friends.

It was so good for my soul to have this much needed family reconnection time, share some big hearty laughs and be reminded of how incredible our family tribe truly is.

Feeling good, feeling full on life, feeling so deeply grateful!

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Major Successful Day In The Music Studio- Day 348: 365 Radical Self Love Project

This morning I made my way over to Victoria to spend the next few days recording my original tunes for the documentary.

How you know you are doing exactly what you are meant to:

It’s easy, it flows, and while the creation effort is intentional, the expression of the effort occurs as effortless. This was my experience in the studio today. In the past recording music has been a long and somewhat tedious process filled with high amounts of self criticism, doubt, anxiety, lots of takes, long hours, depleted energy- today was completely different

Today’s Music Studio Success

Instead today I chose to utilize the power of positive intention. Before I recorded I meditated. I made a super food smoothy. I relaxed. I laughed. I enjoyed and savoured the moments leading up to the recording session.

RecordingMicrophoneThe first take I completely messed up the song and I knew I had to find further alignment. Instead of putting pressure on myself to record a perfect take on the guitar I elevated my perspective. I tuned into the positive impact this music would have on all the people who would ever come into contact with the tune and from this place of higher, expanded awareness I went back to recording.

In this new head and heat space the music flowed through me. The takes got better and better and each one was honestly usable- which was a first in my experience of recording.

Anytime I sensed the old pattern of worry or self criticism trying to creep its way in I would draw my focus and intention back to the positive impact this song would have and the reason WHY I was doing it. The big WHY is to support the heart opening and healing of every person who listens to the song.

I chose to infuse massive amounts of intention into my work today and it paid off big time.

I recorded the guitar, vocals and background vocals in just under 3 hours- that is a miracle in and of itself an entire song completely recorded in 3 hours!

I am beyond excited to go into production with this song in the coming weeks and I am super pumped to do this all over again tomorrow and get song number 2 complete and filled with loving intention 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

2 Days Until I Hit The Music Studio and Get Recording!! Day 345: 365 Radical Self Love Project

A few weeks ago I was asked if I would release my music to be used on a documentary film.

radical self love kelsey grantCompletely ecstatic at the request and manifestation to have my original music be used in a professional film there was one thing missing.

I’ve never officially recorded any of my recent (in the last 5 years) original tunes in a professional studio.

Prior to moving to Van I was in a band and did quite a bit of recording on the regular. I had a home studio with my former partner and I was able to hop in the studio any time I wanted.

Since moving to Van I re-directed my focus and began building my business and my new life. Music has always be a strong aspect in my journey but since moving five years ago it was no longer the dominant focus of my attention. I took the pressure off myself to “force” something to happen. I allowed myself to relax and trust that if music was meant to be a part of my journey going forward it would find a way.

And so it did.

In 2012 I embarked on a year long music challenge for myself. I decided that for an entire year I would learn one new chord on guitar every month and with that new chord write an original song and post it on Youtube. Out of that experience I deeply strengthened my skills as a guitar player and as a songwriter, AND…

It is those songs which were scouted for the documentary.

So now it is time to get back into the music studio and record a couple of them for use on the film- and I am stoked. I absolutely love being in the studio and recording music is one of my favourite aspects of being a musician.

My intention is within the next year to have recorded a series of my lovey/relationshipy/self lovey tunes to create the official RSL soundtrack for emotional healing and relationship manifestation.

Until then these are the songs I have selected to be used in the film. Have a listen and let me know which one is your favourite and the one you would like to see in the documentary!!!

#1. Free To Live Again

#2. Right Now

#3. Rain

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Why Inspiration Is Key In Maintaining A Consistent Positive Flow-Day 342: 365 Radical Self Love Project

Inspiration is all around, all we have to do is tune into it.

When we conscious direct our attention to seek out inspiration we set ourselves on the path to feeling good. When we feel good we are more effective, more productive and certainly more pleasurable to get along with. This is why daily inspiration is a must in a Radical Self Love practice.

Taking even 5 minutes out of a busy day to watch something that brings you joy, to read an uplifting story, to look at pictures or images that make your heart flutter can cause a massive surge in your personal happiness and also your capacity to create substantial results in your life.

It is a daily practice of mine to invest at minimum 15-30 minutes during my day into inspiration investigation. During this time I give myself full permission to seek out anything that will bring me joy, cause my spirit to rustle with excitment and to get those high vibes flowing.

Inspiration and Consistent Positive Flow

When I get inspired I’m immediately in a super high vibe. When I am in a high vibe I enter a state of flow. Flow is where all the magic of life happens- increased synchronicity, manifestation and all around good things happen in a state of flow. Doors open, opportunities show up, life gets easier and inspiration helps us get into this state of flow and maintain our energy there for as long as possible.

In the spirit of sharing inspiration check out this kick ass dance video I watched to jump start my high vibin inspiration flow today. Watching dance brings me such joy. I am always facinated by the human capacity for movement, creativity and expression and dance brings all these aspects right to life.

Invest the next 6 minutes to charging up your inspiration tank and enjoy the massive talent about to appear before your eyes!

And if you have a little extra time for inspiration this vid is pretty kick ass too!

 

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

Starting The Day By Nourishing The Soul- The Importance Of A Daily Self Love Routine-Day 334: 365 Radical Self Love Project

“How things go depends on how they start”- these are lyrics from one of my original songs and one of my mottos in life.

(If you want to listen you can do that HERE)

I have found this rings true in relationships- the relationships starting off on the grounds of truth, honesty and love always go in that same direction, like wise the relationships I’ve had that started off as secrets, with lots of lies or lack of integrity ended up going further in those directions.

I have also found in my day to day this motto is also true. When I invest into myself and my wellbeing first thing in the morning it sets the tone for the remainder of the day. Days when I rock my soul-nourishing morning routine I am happier, I am more effective with my time, I am way more productive and I am way easier to get along with.

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As I keep stepping into my power and truth it becomes more and more clear that the foundation of my success is deeply rooted in my willingness to nourish my soul, take actions which bring me into vibrational alignment and setting intentions around the direction of my day.

When I first stepped into the world of spirituality and personal development I learned exactly what those specific actionables were that would have me be at my best. After years of testing, trial and assessment I lasered in on the top “actions” that would lead me feeling nourished and in the highest vibrational alignment.

Why is this nourishment and alignment so important?

In the words of Abraham Hicks: “That which is like unto itself is drawn” meaning energies which are in alignment are magnetized and pulled towards each other.

When I take the time every morning to get my vibes as high as possible (my best/highest vibrational alignment varies from day to day) I ensure that I put myself on the best possible path for the day. Meaning when my vibes are optimal I attract amazing people, circumstances and opportunities. I also get to experience the blissful power of flow- where I can trust the Universe has my back and relax into allowing things to unfold naturally.

Soul-Nourishment

When I don’t do my soul nourishment in the morning I am higher strung, way more stressed out, combative, irritable, impatient and I attract people, situations and circumstances that I don’t want to be experiencing.

The only reason I experiencing anything I do, is because I am a vibrational match.

The only way to change what I am attracting or experiencing is to change my vibes. How do I change my vibes? I take actions that are in alignment with nourishing my heart, my soul, my body and my mind.

This is what my soul nourishing/Radical Self Love routine looks like:

  •  Leisurely awake
  •  Spend 5-15 minutes doing some positive self reflection and positive life reflection (just thinking of positive aspects)
  • Gratitude journal minimum one page
  • 6 Minutes of Ego Harmonizing (breath work/meditation)
  • RSL Mantra Meditation/ Inner Guide chit chat
  • Drink 500ml-1litre water
  • I usually add in exercise but some days I do my exercise later in the day and I do take a day or two off a week to rest my body.

These are the things I know I must do each morning to keep myself in tip top shape mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. All of these actionables are vibe aligners which always bring me to the most exciting, fulfilling and incredible places, spaces and circumstances life has to offer.

In our 30 Day Radical Self Love Program we meticulously designed a 30 Day Journey that is accessible and attainable for even the busiest of busy people. In my opinion when we glorify being busy it is often a way to avoid doing the things we need to do most but maybe don’t want to do because they are uncomfortable, take energy and time. Investing into yourself in these ways will make you way more productive and happy in the long run and really thats what we are up to here at RSL- setting people up for success in life and love. It all starts within and it all starts with you ❤

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

The Day Of Universal YES’s- Day 333: 365 Radical Self Love Project

As some of you may know, I am a lover of numbers-

It is one of the ways I make sense of the messages the Universe is always sending our way.

There are many different ‘omens’ or modes of messages the Universe sends our way. Depending on our unique make up, passions, areas of strength and interest we will notice certain forms more than others.

Numbers, colours, oracle cards and animal symbology are my strong suits to interpret and today is a massively significant day for my numerology lovin’ mind and heart.

333 represents a Universal YES.

Anytime we see this number it is a confirmation that what ever we were doing, saying or thinking when we saw the number is fully supported by the Universe and we are getting a massive YES to keep along that path. (If you want a little more insight you can check out this VIDEO of me decoding the number sequence 333, when I worked as a numerologist and host for the numerologist.com)

It is fitting that today I awoke with the intention to say YES to life and above all else ensure that my top priority is keeping my vibes in alignment. When my energy is in alignment I flow, creativity pours out of me, life is effortless and it is a giddy adventure.

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I had the pleasure of gently starting my day with some snuggles and smooches from my man. Then he got up and I got to my leisurely wake up routine.

I laid in my bed for about 10 minutes just appreciating things about my life as it was in that moment. Then I grabbed my gratitude journal and did my daily gratitude writing. Following those feel good vibes I hopped into meditation. I rocked my 6 minutes of ego harmonizing then straight into 108 cycles of my RSL mantra- I am Divine Love”.

Following the completion of my mantra I had a nice conversation with my inner being. I asked to be guided to people, situations, circumstances for my highest good and highest potential, to use my body, mind and expression as a vessel for Divine love expression and to bless each and every being I crossed paths with today. Upon finishing my meditation I drank a bottle of water and was ready to start my day.

radical self love kelsey grantFollowing the completion of my morning routine I received an email from a potential new place that both my partner and I love confirming we have an appointment to see it this week. This house is everything we are looking for and it was just a sweet confirmation from the Universe that we are on the right path in taking this next step to go look at the space.

Next up I had a wonderful call with my accountability partner where we shared some wonderful insights with each other about honouring our pace, how to manage and transform any feelings of resentment that often show up after making a long term commitment with work (I’ll be writing about this one later this week) and a awesome perspective share on only doing the shit you like to do. Only doing the things that bring you joy allows other people the space and invitation to do what they love which is likely all the shit you don’t- humans are magical that way.

Then I hopped onto my daily writers training and uncovered some serious gems about my process, and so so so much confirmation that I am totally on purpose and taking the appropriate steps towards the completion of the ebook and the future publishing of the full length book! Feeling pretty buzzed and stoked on life!

With that being said I’m going to bravely share some of the Universal Yes projects we have in the works:

1. Launch of the first free RSL ebook “Sabotaged Love- The 12 Archetypes Keeping You From The Love You Want”
2. Upon completion of this 365 blogging project we will be transforming all the blog posts into an interactive multimedia Apple iBook and a couple other products and ebooks.
3. Our free monthly RSL mastermind call
4. Our membership RSL Relationship Mastermind
5. Release of the second RSL ebook “From Breakup to Breakthrough- 15 Steps To Heal Your Heart and Move Forward Fearlessly”
6. My first 12 week relationship and heart healing virtual program “From Breakup to Breakthrough”
7. And finally one of the projects I’ve been super pumped (and confronted) to launch: the RSL video series called “Ask The Oracle- sage advice to support your relationships and radical self love journey”. Eventually my vision is to turn this baby into a live coaching show where each week I bring on a guest who is comfortable sharing their coaching journey with our beautiful community, I will coach them through an area of challenge and upset and bring them to a resolution in 30 minutes! SO EXCITED!!!!

Let me know in the comments below which of these you are most looking forward to and I can prioritize them based on what you love faces are really wanting to receive from me 🙂

As I continue go through this beautiful day just saying a big fat YES to life I invite you to do the same and watch the miracles unfold! You are magical and amazing saying yes to your brilliance and yes to life is one of the best ways to remember who you truly are 😉

Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels