Searching for Security and the Quest For Freedom: The Dance of Relationship Polarities (PART1)- Day 314: 365 Radical Self Love Project

It is a well known fact that in love men and women approach things differently.

For the most part the feminine searches for security and the masculine quests for freedom.

This poses quite the dilemma when it comes to creating harmonious relationship dynamics as what the feminine is searching for pushes the masculine away and what the masculine is searching for pushes the feminine away. Seems like a challenging place to be and if we see it from this level it can seem like both genders are from different planets destined to be at odds forever. This is not the case, to see things differently and elevate our understanding of WHY this dynamic exists, we must elevate our awareness and come into greater alignment with our spiritual essence.

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So how can we come into alignment, have our conscious and unconscious desires fulfilled and experience harmony in our relationships?

We have to consciously choose to come into alignment with ourselves.

In this two part series I will dive into the juicy world of why women crave security and what we can learn from our masculine counterparts on creating internal alignment. In part two which I will release tomorrow, I will dive into the fascinating domain of why the masculine quests for freedom and what the feminine example can teach the masculine about achieving this search for freedom and create alignment internally.

Ladies listen up:

shiva3What the feminine unconsciously seeks in partnership is security. The feminine wants to feel safe and secure knowing that if the heart is openly given this act of love will be reciprocated and remain consistent and forever. This is a first level understanding of security. It is completely dependant on someone else and if the other person leaves or changes their mind our experience of security is crushed to bits. Not so fun. The next level understanding of security is this:

Knowing that the only true security is the security we cultivate within. This security is rooted in a strong and loving relationship to ourselves and our potential. When we learn to trust ourselves our experience of security flourishes.

One of the most powerful places to learn this massive soul lesson is in the domain of romantic relationships. Until we wake up spiritually, we will always seek out another to fill us up when we have no clue how to do that ourselves. In this circumstance we look to our romantic partner to provide us with an experience of “security”.

When it comes to embracing a conscious partnership we understand that our partners role is not to fill us up- we have to do that ourselves. Our partners role is to lead us into a greater understanding of how we can fill up our cup, leading by spiritual example and illuminate the areas in our lives where we are called to grow and expand.

How the Sacred Masculine leads the Divine Feminine to an expanded experience of wholeness and completeness.

If our collective soul growth as the divine feminine is to understand security and there isn’t a better example than to look to the sacred masculine. This is really good news lady loves as the masculine is a fabulous example of directing our awareness towards increased security, stability and grounding in truth- spiritually speaking.

The masculine energetically represents structure and the pillars of foundation. In real life this plays out generally like this:

Guys are usually pretty clear who they are, where they are going, what works for them, what doesn’t work for them and are for the most part are really solid in standing in this awareness and taking action in alignment with this knowingness. As women when we are tapped into these energies within ourselves, we are nourishing the sacred masculine within. It is in this discovery of self and knowingness of who we are that we begin to unearth and cultivate the feeling of security.

When we are constantly changing our minds, who we are and what we stand for (which is the energetic nature of the feminine) this unconsciously develops an untrue idea that the outside world can’t be trusted. A deep unconscious belief of this nature ultimately leads to activating and playing out a fear that we are unsafe. If we feel unsafe you better bet we are not feeling secure.

How do we heal this?

radical self love kelsey grantThis is one of the most magical aspects of the masculine feminine dynamic. The answers to the underlying lesson the feminine is called to learn is accessed through the example of the masculine and the answers to lessons the masculine is called to learn comes through the example of the feminine.

 

 

To spiritually evolve and come into greater alignment the feminine will draw inspiration from our masculine counterparts. We utilize the ways in which they come into knowing their truth, how they know what they stand for and the ways in which they maintain structure, stability and being anchored into who they are.

Then, we ask for help. We ask our spiritual brothers to lead the way to teach us how to become more internally stable. Our nature as the divine feminine is naturally free, changeable and all over the place and so if we want to thrive we must put any ego-ic guards down to sleep, embrace our humility and understand there is everything sacred about allowing the Sacred Masculine to lead us in the direction of becoming more balanced and really understanding our wholeness.

This is and always will be an inside job. The feminine’s ability to cultivate security resides in her willingness to honour and claim both polarities within her. It requires her to honour the masculine energies within and allow those structures for stability provide her with the security she is so deeply seeking. Our search for security is only a search for our wholeness- the merging of our masculine and feminine aspects within.

If any of these ideas about surrendering spiritually activates feelings of resistance, my invitation to you is to examine that resistance very closely. To examine this you will have to elevate your perspective and energy. When your vibration increases the stories around the resistance dissolve naturally and in this space of calmness we become open and receptive to really hear what is being said.

The longer the masculine and feminine are at war energetically with each other the longer peace, serenity and spiritual wholeness will elude us.

radical self love kelsey grantBoth the masculine and the feminine have EQUAL parts to play in each others evolution. As much as the masculine will lead and teach the feminine, the feminine will lead and teach the masculine. Men and women who put down the battle gear and surrender into this wisdom will be gifted with an awareness of their wholeness. With this awareness comes true peace of mind, happiness and you guessed it, Love.

Spiritual surrender is a cornerstone of any conscious partnership.

For those of you who have a desire to have a relationship where you are totally seen, understood, fulfilled, bursting at the seams with happiness, cherished, appreciated and loved in all the fantastical juicy ways you deserve- the path of conscious love is awaiting you to show up.

Show up for yourself, fill your cup and ladies its time to look to our spiritual brothers through the lens of compassion, curiosity and an openness to learn how to come into greater alignment with our inner masculine. If we ask the right questions, keep our senses acutely attuned and open our hearts to learning HOW to cultivate security and stability through the example of the Sacred Masculine- which is the dominant energy in EVERY man on this planet- we will embark on a powerful journey of self awareness, self empowerment, wholeness and the cultivation of divine love.

In tomorrows post I will be diving into the wonderful gifts the feminine has to teach to the masculine about his quest for freedom through her juicy example, so sit tight for those wisdom nuggets babes.

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Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!

Kels

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