Giving ourselves permission to change.
If I had to say there was a dominant theme to this week this would be it.
It has shown up with my clients, it has shown up within the RSL community, the RSL 30 Day Program peeps and it has shown up in me.
Giving ourselves permission to change.
I read an interesting passage this afternoon about health, it stated that approximately 30% of people who are sick actually listen to their doctors advice on how to get better. This got me thinking about how most people go through life addicted to their pain, defined by their problems and completely unwilling to change who they are all the while expecting the world around them to change instead.
Why are so many people who are sick unwilling to do what it takes to heal?
My assumption is that people are willing to stay sick for a few reasons:
1. It ensures they maintain the attention of those around them. Think about it. When you are sick you become the centre of attention. People dote on you, they take care of you, they design their lives around you to make you feel better. The ego loves this and is simply not willing to let go of being the centre of attention.
2. Allows people to avoid responsibility. When we are unable to set boundaries, say no or take responsibility for ourselves and our lives we can attract sickness as a way to say no. It gives us an out and we never really have to tell the truth or approach the discomfort of saying no to someone or something.
3. We never have to get real about what is really at the root of our imbalance. This shows up when we treat the symptoms in order to manage the dis-ease instead of doing the internal work to heal. When this happens it is a clear indication that there is an unwillingness to actually feel good. This is the addiction to pain. It is another avoidance mechanism this time to addressing the cause of the imbalance. As humans we have become so removed from the potential we have to feel incredible that we have settled for a quality of life that isn’t exactly comfortable or enjoyable.
Why is this relevant or important to a self love practice?
The ways in which this applies to self love are simple. When we are on the journey of loving ourselves more we will be faced with all the ways in which we haven’t been loving towards ourselves, the places where we must heal to move forward fearlessly and the habitual patterns of behaviour that really only serve one purpose- to keep us stuck.
We become aware of the ways we “get” attention, our patterns of avoidance and our coping mechanisms for our lives. It allows us to take a look at these behaviours from a place of love and compassion.
We all have the capacity to transform and change- the first step is our willingness.
It doesn’t matter if it’s our health, relationships, money, career, soul path what ever area of life we are focused in on these dominant patterns of the ego are going to show up.
How we do anything is how we do everything.
It is when we are ready, able and willing to shine some light on them that the true space for transformation blooms.
The path of Radical Self Love is our own inner journey to awareness. When we are aware of what we do to get attention we can address the underlying needs not being met and design healthy and effective ways to make sure we are receiving what we need. We get to become our own best friends. It is a truly magical process.
If you are ready to dive in and take your experience of feeling good to a whole new level join us for the 30 Day Radical Self Love Program. Registration details can be found here: www.kelseygrant.com/30dayprogram
Your natural state is bliss, you were designed to feel good. Give yourself permission to change, transform and surrender into the incredible potential you have to feel amazing, live a life that inspires you and most importantly feels incredible from the inside out. It’s your birthright to feel good. Give yourself permission to go there.
Radical Self Love to the MAX!!!